WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2023

cityjaneLondon

Big P&O cruise ship is mooring in our spot , so we have to moor offshore and go in by tender.
It's a gloomy, rainy, cloudy day, but we aren't going on our trip until the afternoon, so we are crossing fingers.
We've done our gym and I had a fruity breakfast with yoghurt because we have to eat an early lunch for the trip.
DH had terrible indigestion in the night and woke me up at 5 am because I was snoring. Of course, I didn't get back to sleep 😒 🙄.
So, here's hoping for a break in the weather.
Last night was four Irish men singing. Enjoyable, if not world shattering. I didn't feel they were ambitious enough vocally. Nice to look at though. We always sit in the front row.

So, a quiet morning.
Love Heather xxxxxxxx

cityjaneLondon

Decided to abandon our trip. 100% chance of rain. It involved a "scenic" lake and a walk through botanical gardens.
Going linedancing instead and a live lecture by a celebrity doc on 'Rude Health'.
Yes, the trip was a lot of money, but it's a sunk cost, and I know it would have been great in the sunshine!!! Don't fancy traipsing about in the pouring rain, just because we've paid for it weeks ago.
Tomorrow in Bergen looks to be good weather. 👍
Love Heather xxxxxxxx

PS - I spent some of this morning ordering a Waitrose delivery for the day we get home. We should be home by lunchtime and I've ordered it for 4-5 pm.

kymarai

Good Monday! Shop is closed today and tomorrow! Yeah me! Instead going to get bloodwork done and have a bank appointment this morning. Plain coffee (without honey) is 😝 gross. I will take a good cup with me for after bloodwork. Thank you for the healing thoughts. DH is also healing. Of course the day won't be work free, but from home trying to catch up. It is pouring right now! Hoping to clean up a couple of flower beds in next two days.

Kim My friend is going through same thing with her mom. She is having trouble coming to terms with selling her childhood home. I realized talking with her that there are very few "things" that I have an emotional connection with. The things I do happen to be a few books. A few I read in my childhood. There are those I read to my girls and the grandchildren. Then the elementary primer from an uncle who died when my mom was a baby and both my mom and grandma's Bibles. Oh, a few pieces of depression glass from my paternal grandparents who passed before I was born. The only other things I can think of are a mouse miniature given to me by a childhood friend when I was 7 and my brown bear stuffy from my BFF. Maybe because I have moved so much in my life, things aren't that important. I do have things I love or need, but they are replaceable. I figure memories are the best thing. Speaking of which, I am going to take a page from many of you and start writing. It won't be as eloquent as many of you talented ladies, but maybe will help me remembering past yet being more in the now as well. The girls can read it after I die. I have to realize that it doesn't have to be perfect or sequential, just want the stories written down. May help with word art too. Sometimes I feel "broken" with lack of attachment to items. Then again the things I love will still fit in my car if I needed to leave. Hmm, maybe that is the hidden thought...

Wow, didn't mean to get deep! Worth exploring.

Make your Monday all it can be!

❤️
Kylia in Ohio

drkatiebug

Rosemarie2972 wrote: »

I went to my first WW meeting today. It was pretty good. One lady who has lost weight says she gets up every hour and does 500 steps. That is only about 5 minutes I think. I think I can make sure I do 500 steps an hour.

I ventured out to a town about 25 miles away this evening and sat in a field and listened to live music and watched the children play. It was the first time in 7 years...maybe longer that I have been able to celebrate July 4th by going to a concert. Very bittersweet. I am proud that I did this. The temptation is to just sit in the recliner.

Congratulations on getting out and doing something. I’m proud of you.

My Fitbit has a feature you can set to remind you to move every hour. If you haven’t done 250 steps by 10 minutes before the new hour. It will buzz to remind you. I have it turned on between 8 and 6. That alone will get me 2500 steps if I do it every time. My goal is to get at least 8 of the 10. Unless I’m in a meeting or something that has me still, I can usually get all 10. I will do things like bring my laundry from the laundry room to the bedroom one article of clothing at a time, make a round of the house putting things away and tidying surfaces, sweeping the floor, etc, just to get the movement in. If I do this along with one dedicated 3 mile walk, I usually get 10,000 steps.

myvt9v4crh

Happy 3rd of July, I’m looking forward to the fourth of July tomorrow. I was awake early this morning and spotted a hummingbird at my feeder at 6:30 am. I love those little birds, they make me happy. 😊 💖 😊

Katla in Illinois

margaretturk

This is one of my favorite pots this year. Just gets better and better. They are a type of phlox.

<img src="https://scontent-msp1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t39.30808-6/357425706_2045787449094389_8591913822297078768_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_p843x403&_nc_cat=109&cb=99be929b-59f725be&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=730e14&_nc_ohc=-r7mCXBV8_YAX_1iw2W&_nc_ht=scontent-msp1-1.xx&oh=00_AfD6fkWnOnajRxVuW8k72tuxnZ3-0UpEaSOnM3_o7VQK3g&oe=64A7A099&quot; alt="May be an image of Lewisia and scorpion grass"/>


I was going to pull these out because a bit on the messy side in a garden. Then I smelled them. They smell like lilacs and make wonderful bouquets. You can see I changed my mind and kept them.
<img src="https://scontent-msp1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t39.30808-6/357451282_2045784899094644_6687421392860397165_n.jpg?_nc_cat=106&cb=99be929b-59f725be&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=730e14&_nc_ohc=VWISS_luKtUAX9AMOVD&_nc_ht=scontent-msp1-1.xx&oh=00_AfAL00d0EhYjldMD1OKN-AbGA49YNWrupuh-mZRxAH1spg&oe=64A74A32&quot; alt="May be an image of Lewisia"/>

Here they are in a bouquet...



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I tried to post these yesterday. I think I forgot to hit post.

Been having minor accidents again...spilling water, broke the glass to a picture frame, not completing sharing posts. Things like that. Heat smoke and talking to friend about emotional issues brought this on. I need to slow down breathe and focus on one thing at a time

Machka9

Snowflake1968 wrote: »

Lanette - I forwarded the letter to my HR yesterday. She is off until Wednesday so I don’t expect to hear anything until then. I think they shorted my pay as my previous letter had expired. I may need to contact a lawyer again to see if that’s legal, if they don’t pay it. It’s such a game they are playing, I know it’s how they operate as I have been privy to how others were treated. I just want to get paid what I am owed and not have to worry if it’s going to be done properly or not. I have sick days to cover me until end of August and my doctor has put me off until mid September.
I will never be returning there, I would be more harassed and bullied than I was before.

Tracey in Edmonton

I have an idea of what you've been going through.

Waiting and waiting and waiting for a letter, email, phone call, any sort of communication ...
Waiting and waiting and waiting for a response, an update ...
Waiting and waiting and waiting for the doctor to complete a medical form that has to be into the insurer by a certain date ... and getting it just in the nick of time, with minutes to spare ...
Having the insurer stop payments for this reason and that reason and another reason, and having to argue with them ...
Being harassed and bullied all the way ...

It's been going on with us for years now.


"I just want to get paid what I am owed and not have to worry if it’s going to be done properly or not."

Yep.




M in Oz

Machka9

kymarai wrote: »

Good Sunday!

After a good Wednesday, my Thursday ended badly. DH was ready to call a friend to take me to the ER. About an hour after eating dinner, my belly just exploded. I barely made it in the door and to the first bathroom. Cramping was worse than my labor pains, nausea, and of course the diarrhea. I was breathing super fast just to try to tame the pain and not pass out. DH was so worried! I finally made it to the bed. My BP was 93/52. Way too low even for me. Managed to fall asleep with immodium, heated bear, and cold rag on neck (again). Went to doctor on Friday morning. She believes I just got my gut bacteria out of wack. Got put back on liquid/cracker diet for a day, followed by simple soup yesterday, start adding foods today that are easy and mild. She did prescribe stronger imodium med if needed and also Flagyl to take only if not better in a couple more days. No sore spots in intestines nor inflammation in lymph nodes, so that is good. I am not allowed any lactose or pork. The two really bad episodes have been after eating pork. Two things I just learned....allergies to cats and pork generally go together. Also gelatin is made of pork. The second explains why jello upsets my stomach. It is amazing how many things have milk in them. Belly didn't like Ramen noodles yesterday, not sure what is in them that upset it, but won't be eating more. So far the oatmeal this morning is doing okay. Needless to say, my trip to MD got cancelled. I am sorely disappointed, but couldn't risk a repeat of Thursday night while driving. Then yesterday, my DH got stung twice in the face by yellow jackets. Took him to the ER as his face and throat were so swollen. One shot of steroid, more benadryl, and prednisone started today and he is better. Life changes so quickly!

Much love,
Kylia in Ohio

Lactose does that to me.

I can have milk on cereal one day, I'm playing with fire if I have it a second day, but on a third day, I'll have an explosion.

Or if I go out for dinner, I have to be really careful.

One of my favourite meals is garlic bread, then pasta with a creamy sauce, then something with ice cream or a cheesecake for dessert.

Some places put margarine on the garlic bread and use a packaged sauce and the ice cream might be ice milk. If that's the case, I won't have much of a reaction.

But other places use butter on the garlic bread, real cream in the pasta sauce, and serve iced cream or cheesecake with cream cheese and cream. In those cases, I gain no weight at all by eating the meal. In fact, I won't make it out of the restaurant before the explosion.


M in Oz

Machka9

cityjaneLondon

The sun peeped out in the distance for a moment.
There were three of us at line dancing. Bit embarrassing as it's a lounge area, with people watching, but we ploughed on. Nice chat afterwards with the others. DH went on the treadmill in the gym.

Love Heather xxxxxxxx

LisaInArkansas

Kylia - That's exactly how I left my first husband - only with the things I could fit in my car. It helps that I'd moved around from place to place all those years... things do begin to mean less and less. I probably packed and moved two thousand books to the last place we lived together--but took none with me when I fled.

I'm glad you're thinking about writing. When I sat down to write my autobiography, it helped a lot to have the framework of my own identities to hang them on, much like the word clouds. I just ignored the chronology, or trying to write it in order of time or place, and wrote down the stories of life as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend. I still add to it on occasion, but will probably never publish it. I just don't have a need to anymore.

Rosemarie - I'm glad to see you're finding ways to step outside your safety zone. Every step is a triumph, dear heart.

Another sunny, dry week ahead of us, but at least the highs are supposed to be in the 90s, not the 100s. Punishing, but not searingly hot.

Planting and caring for plants and stuffs:

I have to remember to get out and give my new little tree some water every day to give it a chance to make it through the summer, so it can get an established root system before the winter. The little dwarf magnolias couldn't make it through last summer, even though they were more than a year old. The land here is so fertile, but weather will always be an issue.

Corey canned the last of the pickles he believed he needs for a year. He takes pickles every day in his lunch (and small carrots, cherry tomatoes, and an apple) along with his sandwich. He ripped out all but one of the cucumber plants - they will bear far more than he can use fresh in salads, etc., and take over the entire garden if allowed to continue growing.

Tomatoes and peppers are next--he will be canning salsa soon, as the tomatoes are near ripening, and the peppers are bearing already. He uses the wild onions and garlic that grow here to add to it. He's debating now what to put in the place of the cucumbers for end of summer harvesting... and the carrots and sweet potatoes are growing well. All these things are why we no longer live in the desert. He planted what he could, but the desert always won, in the end. He is a maker, and a grower, and for him, it's both a need and a joy. I never knew how much I would enjoy watching him do this--but it fills something in my heart to see him so happy about these things.

Time to get my meds set up for the week, but first, it's time for me to start closing the windows to keep the heat out, go water my tree and then come back in and do the meds. Need to send a message to the gastro nurse today to tell her the results of the two-week course of antibiotics, but I might have to wait another day or so, as it's not clear what has changed.

Cheers, y'all,
Love from
Lisa in Arkansas

kymarai

Joy1580vb

Good morning, ladies. Another rainy day today and cool. Turned the furnace from A/C to heat this morning as it was 17 degrees C in the house. Feels nice now as I finish my 2nd cut of coffee.

Weighed myself this morning and very pleased to see another 1 pound off! Now have 26 more to go to reach my goal weight. Feel it is an achievable goal and will continue to keep doing what I am doing to reach it. Have been able to incorporate a couple of my favorite snack items along with my healthy eating and it seems to be working.

Enjoy your day, ladies.

Joy

GodMomKim

Anniesquats100

I went back and looked - I lost 6.4 pounds in June. Yay! But July is not off to a great start. I think I am on one of the dreaded plateaus. It's quite possible I am building muscle. But it's disheartening. Nothing disastrous though. No police, no hospitals, so not such a bad thing.

I charged up my old laptop so I could work on it today. I think I can reset it, and maybe get back my book data, or at least reformat it and eliminate any personal or banking data. Then it will go live in the electronics dungeon under the bed. Much better than the pile in the middle of the floor.

I sat and listened to Mom this morning. Same old stories. She is doing pretty well, cheerful, no pain, but no exercise either. Her diet is getting worse; more ice cream, fewer veggies. She is 90 now.

Have a great day, my friends!

Annie in Delaware

cityjaneLondon

The celebrity doctor was very good. Nice wife I chatted to. He was talking about aging and mortality. Sensible. I asked what he was doing in his practice to reach the UNconverted. Basically, not a lot, but when they do ask for help after some crisis, they often are the best patients.
He is talking again on Wednesday about below the waist.

Pouring with rain again.
Love Heather xxxxxxxx

cityjaneLondon

My son sent this photo of their house.

H xxxxxx

kevrit

July 2023 Jump Back Up
Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate my iPad.

Meditation: daily. 8/30(82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%, 93%


1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 2/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0%,0%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks /2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%, 100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 118/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83%, 100% should be 137 by August 1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)46/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 1/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%,93%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 24/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 6/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107 (100%,100%,100%)

January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—



1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry. I am working on helping my son through this tough time by being in contact with his case worker and tracking his location.

2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”. I try to never use those words. I follow Yoda’s ‘Do or not, there is no try”
3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it. I will. My back hurts today so will easily ask for help when I need it.

4. Find something to look forward to today.
5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time.
6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground.
7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy.
8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today.
9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture.
10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them.
11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation.
12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”.
13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation.
14. Get outside and move to help clear your head.
15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step.
16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts.
17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today.
18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter.
19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself.
21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life.
22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down.
23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.
24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.
25. Notice when you are being judge mental and be kind instead.
26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath.
27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard).
28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem.
29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.,
30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support.
31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.

RVRita in NM

dlfk202000

margaretturk wrote: »

This is one of my favorite pots this year. Just gets better and better. They are a type of phlox.




I was going to pull these out because a bit on the messy side in a garden. Then I smelled them. They smell like lilacs and make wonderful bouquets. You can see I changed my mind and kept them.
<img src="https://scontent-msp1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t39.30808-6/357451282_2045784899094644_6687421392860397165_n.jpg?_nc_cat=106&cb=99be929b-59f725be&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=730e14&_nc_ohc=VWISS_luKtUAX9AMOVD&_nc_ht=scontent-msp1-1.xx&oh=00_AfAL00d0EhYjldMD1OKN-AbGA49YNWrupuh-mZRxAH1spg&oe=64A74A32&quot; alt="May be an image of Lewisia"/>

Here they are in a bouquet...

What are the white ones called? They are pretty and imagine the smell is amazing.

I am hoping I can bring a few of my carnations in when they start to bloom. They are the old fashioned ones. Small but smell amazing, like cloves.
Before, I couldn't have any plants/flowers in the house because of one of the cats would eat them. He passed away so I will try again. Just another week at most and the carnations will start blooming.
They are my favorite- have been growing them off and on , since I was a kid.

dlfk202000

Update from Destiny's mom: This was posted last night

Sorry I have not updated you guys in awhile . Des is not doing too good she has and mini breathing episodes. Unfortunately, we do not think that she will make it very much longer. I hope that she will pass in her sleep rather then while she is awake and struggling to breath..
We did get her outside for a few min, even though she was in her bed.