WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023

cityjaneLondon

Apparently, the crane the architect hired to get the new skylight over my son's house was too small and couldn't manage it. It weighs a ton and their house is tall. You would think they would have thought of that before designing it! The window is now in the front garden. It was the biggest crane allowed without a hell of a lot of permissions and road closure. So, they will attempt to get it through the house somehow.

Poor chap. He is exhausted.

He enjoyed the soda bread with some cheese.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

dlfk202000

1948CWB wrote: »

Barbara ~ You are to be commended for trying to spend time with Joe. It is difficult when you both have different taste in food, tv, hobbies, social events, etc. At this time in our life, my DH and I have very little to talk about other than every day things that need to be attended to. We do watch a conservative news program every evening but after that we each have little of the same inerest. Before Covid and new health problems, we went to lots of estate sales and garage sales together and enjoyed finding treasures to resell on eBay and his monthly Antique Show.

Carol in GA

I know the feeling- we don't even watch one show together anymore. He comes in and goes directly to his room(can't call it an office as he doesn't do "work" stuff in there. He watches tv or works on a hobby or two(3D printed stuff or other electronic stuff) and I am in the living room. We don't even eat together.
We go shopping together on Thursdays, starting at his store to pick up his check. We do NOT need to go shopping but that is the only thing he likes to do.
Once in a while on Saturdays we go to garage sales but rarely sell any of it-

pipcd34

Anniesquats100 wrote: »

Pip you are an inspiration to us all!

I'm taking another break day. I caught my dad listening to some kid try to sell him a pesticide service. He forgot that he already has one for the house. Plus another for the yard. And he just was confused when I told him. He doubts me. It's time for him to turn over his credit cards and let me do the banking and services, but he isn't ready. He thinks he is doing okay, but he isn't. He can't get into his email again. So this is likely to get worse.

And I was already upset because Teddy's biopsy results came back malignant. They removed his eyelid tumor, but it may recur. However this kind is not likely to spread outside of his eyelid. He is thirteen. He gets his stitches out, and probably loses the cone collar on Friday. So that will be an improvement, as now I have to carry him up and down the stairs.

Hmm. No idea how to control Dad's money when he doesn't want me to. I'm actually reluctant to take on the responsibility. What a mess.

Annie in Delaware

Awwww thx

barbiecat

LisaInArkansas

dlfk202000

I made the Swiss steak, mushroom gravy, red potatoes and cucumber salad yesterday. I was the only one that ate any of it. Offered it to dh tonight. He said he wan't hungry. Less than 5 min later, I went in his room and he is eating cherry Poptarts!! Seriously- just shake my head at that man.

grandmallie

Debbie-my first husband was luke that,i could only take it for 13 yrs and then I got divorced, then went straight from the frying pan into the fire dating Tom but that at least lasted 20 and at least for awhile it went well.until It didn't.
Im just happy I don't have to answer to anyone but myself now.
Had a great time at the concert..

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Lisa - Rodger is doing well with this, he is a big proponent of education. I think his biggest concern is the same as mine, the financial aspect while I’m in school.
I hope that you continue to feel better. It must be so nice after the last few years.

Annie - we have to have our camera on. The biggest thing I’m struggling with is my computer is very slow and when we switch from one app to the other it has a long delay. The student loan has money budgeted for a computer, but that money isn’t in yet. I tried on my phone a bit this morning but that isn’t the best for eye strain.

Machka - that is a long day in one room. Isn’t there a theory that people only retain in short bursts.

Lanette - we do get to see the instructor. We have to have our cameras on but our mics muted, so it isn’t a lot of interaction. I find it odd not being able to interact with other students and hope that when I get into the main part we can meet up.

Barbara - Communication is so important in a relationship. My assumptions are usually the cause of most arguments. Instead of me asking what Rodger is feeling or thinking, I assume I know and act accordingly. Usually I’m wrong and end up having a disagreement.
I’m sure you are hurt by Joe’s silence. I admire how you can sit with him while he does it.

Rebecca - I do understand them wanting some time to adjust but that should include her mother as well. I was always very careful about including my in laws and my parents. My daughter’s in laws don’t have a lot to do with them, it’s on them though not anything the kids are doing wrong.

Heather - I hope your son gets to relax after the house is finished for a bit. They sure do keep busy.

Debbie - I’m sorry you are treated this way repeatedly.

Annie - I hope your Dad sees reason soon. Does he have POA documents completed?

We try hard to spend time together each night. Sometimes it’s only for 1/2 an hour, before Rodger goes to the bedroom to watch his shows and I stay in the living room and putter or watch tv. We do connect lots throughout the evening though.
He shocked me this morning and had the Keurig already for a coffee. I just had to choose a cup and press the button. I can’t tell you how long it’s been that he has done anything like that. It just made my day.
After my class today we went to look at the camper we are using in 2 weeks. We are both looking forward to it.
We have never had an RV to use before, just the pop up camper.

I told Rodger today about how much my “Over 50 Ladies” have been supporting me and cheering me on.
He said, “you’ve got a good support system there dear”.
I then read from my post from last night the part about me thanking you all and feeling blessed.
I also told him that I thought he was being quite supportive as well.

Kaitlyn goes for her ultrasound that determines her due date tomorrow. I am still praying that nothing goes wrong even though she has felt fine since last Saturday except for morning sickness that lasts all day. I think that’s a good sign.

I need to go to bed. My student loan hasn’t come in yet and our old laptop is really struggling with all the things I need for class it took me an hour and 15 minutes to get it going this morning. Anyhow, I need to wake up earlier to go to class in a room in my house than I did to drive to work.
It’s frustrating!

Tracey in Edmonton

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LisaInArkansas

Good morning, afternoon or evening, my chickens, as the case may be...

Annie - I'm sorry the news on Teddie's eyelid tumor was malignant, but glad it won't spread. Sounds like getting him out of the cone will be a relief to both of you! I wish I had advice for the issues with caring for your parents, but I hope you find a way through that satisfies all of you.

Allie - Sounds like you're having fun and making plans for more cruising... Glad you have a friend who's interested in going, too!

Heather - Hope the skylight is successfully installed, hauling a ton of skylight up stairs sounds very nailbiting.

Debbie - That was one of the most beautiful taco platters I've ever seen! I am always pleased when you talk about your son with such care for his welfare, as well as love and joy, because we all need that bright light in our lives. From my perspective, with your relationship with your DH, it appears that Rita's post had some very good points to consider, but only you can know that for sure:

RVRita in Roswell, NM: The best predictor of the future or future behavior is the past. Are you satisfied? Have you repeatedly been met with dead ends? Is there still potential for a positive outcome if you continue investing your resources and energy? What are the benefits of walking away and opening a new door? These are the factors that should influence your decision rather than any previously sunk costs.

Barbara AHMOD - It sounds like Joe cooked something for you that he knows you love before he hid behind his laptop screen. 🥰That's a pretty big thing for a guy that you're not sure even listens to you! One of the things I realized about Corey was that cooking for me is a huge part of how he says he loves me... he remembers everything I've ever told him about my preferences, I swear. I'm not sure I actually remember all my preferences! What else does Joe know about what you love? Might be worth asking...

Tracey - Hope you're able to get that budgeted laptop soon! So frustrating when key electronics can't hold up to the pressures.

More in a bit...
Love y'all!
Lisa in AR

LisaInArkansas

Ack! Taking a break so I can stop dripping with sweat. The bedroom in use for storage is not air conditioned, so I thought I'd try to get as much sorted out as I could this morning--afternoons are uncomfortable back there... but apparently, so are mornings! So I'm sitting in the a/c in the living room, rattling to y'all for a bit while I cool down.

Had to clear out enough things to have access to the closet in the storage room, because I wanted to create a securable space for the firearms that my DD/DSIL asked us to store for them while they're stationed in Hawaii. I'll get a hasp and lock at some point, but for me, there was just something unnerving about having three ammo cans and a half-dozen rifles in my side of my bedroom closet...

But, I think I'm done all the heavy lifting now, and hopefully can spend much of the day simply getting things sorted in the workroom. I want to sort the contents of four massive bins of art supplies, paintings, fabric and such into smaller, easy to access, well-labeled file boxes, and that's the biggest job of all. But, it can be done sitting down, which is a good thing. Feeling pretty achy between the incoming rain and lifting and shifting stuff. It always passes, though...

And, in between, three loads of laundry to be folded and put away.

Hope we can all find what peace there may be in this Wednesday. The first of the far-off thunder boomers has finally arrived here, and the rain is beginning.

I do so love rain...
Later, y'all,
Lisa in AR

nescalera2710

Good morning ladies. Joined this platform hoping to get community support on finding good practices to lose weight. I’m 71 and would like to lose weight (25 lbs) for health reasons. Looking forward to hearing what has worked for us post-menopausal women. Thanks Nini

cityjaneLondon

Lisa - Love your energy!! We must sort out one small cupboard, because it still has toddler stuff in it, ( ) and we need it for expanding art supplies.

DH had some of the gf soda bread for lunch, so I had my miso and shirataki soup. I've ordered more of both from Amazon.

Beautiful day here!

Son is going to work at the gym. He took some of my bread with him. He will swim and shower there and do his business stuff. Four important phone calls today.
He is very much hoping the electricity will go on today. Plumbing is sorted.
He has been invited out to dinner, gf pizza. DH and I are having salmon with curried bean sprouts. Sauteed potatoes for DH.
I've done my editing today and will pop out this afternoon to buy some low carb bits for me. Plus something easy for tomorrow night as I am out with G for lunch.

Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

grandmallie

Morning ladies
Im awake ,but still feel tired..
Watching the Today show and will do my pills for the week.

This morning playing with his farm..
Tylenol last night.. I stopped yesterday and he was good for a bit,but very clingy and fussy and wanted mom..
I don't know if its a faze or he just isn't feeling well..

barbiecat

nescalera2710 wrote: »

Good morning ladies. Joined this platform hoping to get community support on finding good practices to lose weight. I’m 71 and would like to lose weight (25 lbs) for health reasons. Looking forward to hearing what has worked for us post-menopausal women. Thanks Nini

Welcome, Nini, I found this thread at age 62 after a lifetime of less than successful attempts to lose weight and maintain the loss. I started out with baby steps that included reading this thread every morning to learn new things. Among the things I learned was to read books about healthy habits. Habits are the bedrock on which I run my life now. There are so many healthy things I do now that are automatic. I found what meals work for me and rotate them. It solves the problem of decision fatigue and of obsessing about food all day. I have a pattern for drinking water so I can easily remember to drink the water my body needs each day. I walk every morning no matter what the weather. And I found out that what works for me may not work for someone else and vice versa. Hope you'll keep coming back.

Barbie in NW WA

1948CWB

Annie ~ That is why we had to gain control of my brother-in-laws bills and accounts. He got to the point where he could not get into his email or bank account. It has been a big pain in the @#$$ as he has been very private and independent since his wife passed in the 70’s. Now, it is my DH’s responsibility to get him to all his dr appts and see that he is taken care of in the assisted iving facility. The nurse there said he is becoming combative and ornery lately so he may have to be moved to a part of the facility for dementia.

Debbie ~ That was a lot of food but it looked delicious.

Tracey ~ Could you use a Library computer to do your work until your loan goes through. Computers are so aggravating.

Lisa ~ You have found a blessing in Cory. And, I’m sure he feels the same way about you. Sorting out your storage room sounds like our upstairs room that gets no air.

nescalera2710 ~ Welcome! I will be turning 75 soon! Many of the posters are a lot younger but there are a few of us old ladies too!

I need to go to the Xfinity store today because my wifi on my new phone is locked and says my password is wrong even though know the one I am putting in is correct. Can't connect to my hearing aid app because of that.

Friday I am visiting my ortho dr. to have both of my knees looked at (the replaced one and the one that needs replacing) and hopefully x-rayed. Just hoping he can do something besides more surgery.

Carol in GA

margaretturk

Rita I agree!

The discussion about the sunk cost into a project or way of life reminds me of the book I read that discussed how important it is to have the ability to walk away when something is not working. I am trying to remember the name of the book. The author discussed how it can mean the difference between success and failure. Sometimes between life and death.

I may have already told you about his story about climbing Mount Everest. Experienced climbers learned that if you did not make a certain spot by a set time despite all the time, money, and hardship you needed to turn back even though you could see the top. If you did not your chances of dying were high. He went on to tell of some climbers who were faced with this problem. Because some inexperienced climbers ahead of them delayed their group they did not reach the spot on time. Some of the climbers turned around at that point. Two decided to go on because one of them could not let go how much they already invested in making it to the top. The other climber did not feel they could abandon the other climber. They did not make it.

He also talked about how businesses failed because they could not let go of an old model of doing things because they were so invested in how they already ran their business.

I am learning that to hold onto too much just because I spend too much time or money affects the quality of my life. So yes there is a sunk cost to some of the decisions of how to go forward. Again I ask myself where I am now and what is important to me now? Time to make peace with letting go .