WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2023
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Annie: I hope your Mom is okay and leaves the hospital soon.
Allie: Congrats on taking a walk!
PIPCD: You really did try with Amanda. Maybe you planted a seed for the future.
Carol: My husband never wanted to spend money either. I really struggled to know what we could afford and what we couldn't. He also didn't like to give things away.
Rebecca: I love the picture of the boys in their uniforms. Your early Thanksgiving dinner reminds me I want to put the Christmas tree up early. I am craving looking at the lights.
Michele: My relationship with my mother improved when I had my son. I guess we had more in common then and i really appreciated pictures she took of my son. I am keeping my fingers crossed that Bryan will at least send you a picture of the baby over the next couple of years. I agree that you should try and send a baby gift.
Sandy: Welcome, Congrats on having 5 grands, I do some gardening...just a little...and am part of a book group. I did explore pottery one summer. Right now I am learning to knit. Zoey is pretty and looks older than age 12.
Lisa: Great on getting some writing done1
Machka: So good of you to adopt a kitty with some anxiety. I am still a little nervous about touching the cats at the cat rescue. However one was very smart and managed to get out the first door 2x and I was able to pick him up and get him back inside. He is the first cat that has been so smart about getting out the door!
Chellie: Congrats on the weight loss and the roller skating!
Tracey: Beautiful arrangement. I went to an Eagles Concert years ago in Boston...it was outside and is a very nice memory.
Terri: I hope you enjoy creative writing. It is on my bucket list to take a creative writing course!
Ginny: Good luck cutting the material to hem the pants!
Heather: Every couple of years I have to go the doctors and have wax removed from my ears. I try and keep up on my own but sooner or later it requires a nurse to really put a syringe of water into my ears.
My father had the same thing.
Well my trip to the beach got changed to November because my son and DIL want to go and I found a place that will allow 3 dogs. I find this amazing. It is a modest place but has good reviews. I will put sheets on the couches. So this next week end I am going to a Garden that is 2 hours a way. They are having a pumpkin fest and a sunflower garden. I am ready to leave town and am looking forward to this.
I am enjoying the cooler weather. I imagine it will get hot again but for now it is a welcome relief. I sit outside and just appreciate my yard. I am hopeful that as the weather cools, I will be more active and lose weight. I have a wedding to go to near Boston next September 2024. I have a year to lose some weight for the wedding!
Best,
Rosemarie from GA
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got home about noon from mom's .
Had a wonderful weekend- exhausted but worth it.
Sister didn't show up which was great. Helped at the food program Saturday morning with mom-3 hrs sleep before doing that-were at the church right at 5AM(up before 4am)
Baked zucchini carrot bread and took some to my aunt who I visited for 2 1/2 hrs- great time with her. Dad's last sibling of the 10 kids.
Picked veggies for mom and for me to bring home yesterday afternoon.
Made sure I fixed meals the whole weekend so mom ate better than usual.
No rush driving back. Stopped and did a merchandising job(did have a little mix up-putting the info in on the wrong shop but they fixed it. Will go do the second one tomorrow instead of being able to do both today)
Quick question- So, tomorrow is dh's and my 31st anniversary. He wanted to see if our son and his girlfriend wanted to go too. He does this every year. For a long time our son did go with us but now that he has a girlfriend he didn't the last two years but dh asked him to go with us.
Here is my question- anniversary dinner- is it for just you and your spouse or do you invite the kids to go too?
We are actually going for lunch and not dinner this year and son will be at work(my idea).
Anniversaries don't mean a lot, like they should. I need to work on that.
Well, I have 9 pages to catch up on and leave for class in less than an hour and a half.
Debbie
Napa Valley, CA
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KJ I manage the FB page for Friends of Bottomless Lakes. I take most of the pics on there and sometimes a fellow member sends me pics to post. Here are some other pictures of the Pecos Sunflowers blooming right now.
I remember our first trip down to Southern CA when I was in high school. Those sunflowers were blooming all over. Dad had mom stop a few times on the side of the freeway to get some so he could save the seeds. He wanted to grow them for the birds.2 -
Add me to the group of ladies who don't work well with their husbands.
Mine gets irritated pretty quickly.
I did notice last week when we worked on adding an extra door to the catio(to make it easier to clean out the play house litter box-a door instead of leaning through the playhouse window to clean it), that he left almost all of the hard work for me to do, like cutting the chicken wire out of the catio and cutting more of the chicken wire to go on the door then used the staple gun to put the wire on the frame. He was cleaning or something(dusting off part of the catio- NOT happy when he did that- it was hot that day too.
He doesn't explain things he wants very well and gets upset if I don't do what he wants2 -
Didn't make it my 72-hour fast, in the end - 22 hours later, I caved to a cheeseburger. Well, half a cheeseburger, and a few fingerling sweet potatoes. No excuses, I was hungry. It's the first night in a long time without rapid-fire gas, though, so maybe the key is less full fasting and more intermittent fasting. It's a thought.
Later, y'all,
Lisa in AR7 -
sspell1958 wrote: »New here and love seeing the support and friendship you all have developed. I hope I’m not intruding - just looking for same. 65 years old and needing to lose and get healthier. At least that’s the plan 😉. Breast cancer survivor since 2013 and recently Melanoma found early. That one surprised me, but all is good. I’m also married and “Nana” to 5 grandchildren.
Welcome-
myself and another lady in this group both had melanoma removed last Dec.
Thankfully yours and ours were all caught relatively early. Have it removed and start healing
Debbie
Napa Valley, CA
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Worked, then walked around the neighborhool, I realized that I left the ice cubes I was going to bring home at BK so went back. Senior bowling, my neighbor did come and she’s going to be on our team “the gutter Gussies”. Went to see about the topsoil. Now Vince has to figure out how much we need. Worked some on the jigsaw puzzle, then had dinner, took another walk around the neighborhood, will probably work some on the jigsaw puzzle then go to bed.
Anne – I’m so sorry about your mother. You are a terrific daughter to care so much
I have pictures of old family members (Vince’s grandparents, my parents, etc) on one wall. On the other walls are things people have given to me or pictures someone made
Tracey – believe me, I’ve tried everything to repair the relationship with Bryan. But I’ve just accepted the fact that nothing will happen until he wants it to. I know that Denise would love if we moved to DE, but we have no desire whatsoever to move north. There is no way we could afford the kind of home we have. Oh, they maybe make them, but you’ll pay thru the nose for a home on 1-1/2 acres with an inground pool with hot tub and waterfall. So I guess in a sense it’s my own fault that I miss so much of PJ’s life. But I don’t want to live in the north. If it were my way and money were no object, I’d probably live 6 months in FL and the other 6 in NC. But that’s not going to happen
Denise has a hard time dealing with any change. And coming down here is a change. She’d have to plan things like taking time off from work, packing, etc. It’s just easier for her if we go up there. This past time for the Tues, Wed. and Thurs, it cost us $500. If they would come here, the only cost they’d incur would be the cost of the gas. But I don’t think that’s going to happen
Oh, I do hope Dollar Tree lower their prices back to $1. Their cards are still $1, but just about everything else is $1.25.
M – as much as Bryan says he isn’t interested in materialistic things, he has chosen to remain in contact with the most materialistic person in our family. Go figure! Vince has said that he feels like he’s walking on egg shells talking (writing) with Bryan. Oh, trust me, I’ve tried so much to keep in touch with him to absolutely no avail. So why keep getting hurt? I’ve been hurt deeply enough for years, I don’t need to inflict more on myself
Heather – my understanding from Bryan was that he married her so that he didn’t have to deal with the visa issue. A few months ago he told us that he’d divorced her. We did already know since he’d told Denise who told us, but we didn’t say anything. He married her in Spain, we went to Switzerland to see my high school friend. Thanks for remembering So sorry about Johnny. Hope he feels better fast
Sandy – lovely pictures. I can’t draw a straight line with a ruler
Speaking of milk – Vince just told me that he needs some for Wednesday. Unfortunately, I don’t think BK sells milk so looks like after work a quick run to WalMart is called for
I’ve always thought of signing up for a stained glass class, but I haven’t found one that isn’t cost prohibitive
Beth – sad to say, I don’t know where to send a baby gift to. I doubt Denise even knows their address. I do hope the surprise goes well for your mom
Kim – I understand what you are saying about Bryan and Denise. Let me explain something. At Denise’s wedding shower Pete’s mother made a comment of “when they buy a house near me”. Then she had them live with her “so that they can save up for a house”. My guess is that 4 adults, 2 dogs, a cat and then a baby was too much for the father so the mother helped them buy a townhome. Pete told me that she picked it out. Jess looked online and the townhome sold for $290. yet Pete told us that they paid $187. So my guess is that the mother put up the difference. Personally, I would have let them continue to live in the apartment they had in PA and if they needed help THEN provide it. But first let them try. But she didn’t
Katie – I think for me it is too painful to even try. Maybe some time in the future...we will see. I do hope I at least get pictures. That will most likely ease the pain
Vicki – since I don’t know how to get in touch with the mom of Bryan’s child, I did ask Denise to text her that I loved them all with all my heart and do hope to keep in touch with pictures. I guess we shall see where it goes. Yes, the last time I saw Bryan was at his wedding. Congrats on the new great gs
Rosemarie – have fun at the Garden
Debbie – happy anniversary
Lisa – next time you’ll do more with the fasting. Proud of you for trying.
Michele NC4 -
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Whidislander wrote: »cityjaneLondon wrote: »Tracey - I think your Cri-Cut work is very impressive and professional. It is really hard to monetise these things, as you know. Have you thought about giving some small classes in your home? Just an idea. It would require advertising locally of course, and asking around. Or, now you have a teaching qualification, you could see if a local college wants to run classes. Just musing......
I've sent you the Instagram post I used for the tiny squares painting. It's something you could easily do with your granddaughter.
I also think they would make great home decorating pictures, in a set of colours toning with the furnishings. Or seasonal colours theme. It was quick and fun to do.
Of course, a lot depends on the framing of these things. A good frame can totally change a picture. Some bargain shops have decent cheap frames.
Strangely, I don't put many pictures on my walls. I like blank spaces, I have a couple of things in the dining room and in the downstairs toilet, and one in the hall. We have the batik in the living room. A Matisse cut out propped up in our bedroom, and a couple of my very old efforts in my bathroom. So we now have a huge pile of our paintings!!! Nothing framed or on the wall. One I gave away I painted for my son, which is going in his living room, and the beach hut one for my brother, which I will give him at the wedding. Only six months late!
Keep thinking we should have an informal exhibition and sell some, if anyone wants to buy them. Going cheap!!!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
I have many blank spaces as well. Our bedroom is just the bed, dresser and chair. It gives me peace as does what my vision of a bedroom should do. I have clusters of pictures here and there, in the living room and library. I am not much for arranging them in a mathematical sense. Here's a couple clusters.🙃
Yes that is a green putting hole to practice our putting.😂
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
no blank spots on any wall around here- if there was, dh would fill it with something.
Ok, time to go to class- still have 4 more pages to read to catch up- 6 by the time I get I am guessing
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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Stopped to see Miles this afternoon, he is a wild child..
And talking a blue streak..5 -
SophieRosieMom wrote: »Tracey - our local college sponsors "Community Education" classes and darned if someone doesn't teach a Cricut class now and then. The ladies in this group have great suggestions. Nice looking pickles and what a nice picture of you and your daughter.
Barbie - how interesting about Jake's knee. Glad they figured out the problem. Sounds like he's able to get around OK and take care of personal things, which is a blessing. I'm sure he's frustrated he can't get around as quickly and do things he easily did a few weeks ago. Opportunity for patience, indeed.
Lisa - Beth and other ladies - My husband was also exposed to my normally dormant spectacular cussing vocabulary when helping him with projects. He'd become irritated and impatient at my inability to read his mind and do things just right/quickly enough while helping him do something I had no clue about. I finally rebelled and matched his cursing and amped it up. We temporarily solved the issue by me walking off the job and screaming "Do it yourself, I'm done being your bleeping assistant FOREVER!!"
Well, it wasn't forever, but in subsequent projects, I helped only on the condition he'd first tell me what the end goal was, what tools he'd likely need, the steps he planned to use. It worked great.
So when I was Chicken Roger's helper as he was putting together the chicken coop for me this spring, he was amazed at how I was able to anticipate what tools and pieces he needed. We were like a surgical team.
Interestingly, my DH was also allergic to reading directions on how to assemble this or that. And would become angry and irritated when it wasn't going well. I'd stay out of the house until he got the job done. So after he passed away, when I ordered something that needed to be put together, I first read thru the directions, then laid out and identified the pieces and made sure I had the drill or screwdriver or whatever. These things aren't intuitive for me but most of the time, the directions (and YouTube) make assembly easy. Amazing, isn't it?
Dairy Intolerance - My heart goes out to you ladies who have digestive problems with dairy. I have no digestive issues whatsoever, my symptoms are all in my head, lol. Stuffed up nose and plugged ears, and that's the extent of it. And having those symptoms at night caused headaches so the nightly zyrtec habit developed, which caused dry mouth and burning nose which irritated everything further.
Since I have so many environmental allergies, that also trigger similar symptoms, I'm wondering if dairy at times just piles on. Funny that Dr. Matt said if I could get some of my environmental allergies under control, the food intolerance/sensitivities would likely go away.
By the way, since I've cut back on dairy, my protein intake has also gone down quite a bit since I'm not a big meat eater and use it more as a condiment. Still eating plenty of eggs though.
Did grocery shopping this morning. I like Ezekial bread, found in the freezer section at Walmart. Last week it was $6.18 per loaf. This week $7.53. That's quite a jump! My girlfriend goes to Trader Joe's quite a lot. In the past they've been least expensive and the bread is fresh, not frozen. I'll ask her to add a couple loaves to her grocery list next time she swings by there.
Rebecca - your house is so nice and neat and calming. Middle son did a great job on the soup, that looks like what I put together a lot. This morning I went through the pantry and found several cans of Great Northern and Navy beans, "best by" dates in June of this year. So will be making a white bean soup for supper.
sspell1958 - great looking grandchildren! So glad you are around your granddaughter and can spend time with her. Yes, we are a crafty bunch, and there are gardeners here too. And chicken ladies. Do you have a name we can refer to you by? Even if it's made up, lol. Or middle name or whatever. My brain always looks for a name and location at the bottom of each post. I've had a talk with it about being less anal and it refuses to change its ways.
Loving those pictures ladies!
Welcome new gals and keep posting so we get to know you better. As Barbie says, we were all new once.
A reminder that if you want your info included in the "Weekly Check-in" post tomorrow, please shoot me a message thru MFP today or tomorrow morning.
Lanette
SW WA State
Awe thanks for the kind words regarding my home. I appreciate them. My husband couldn't really care one way or another how the house is fixed up, but I do like the mind set of getting rid of things so that the things I do have shine! Today I got rid of a wooden magazine holder that has sat empty for awhile, a box of cleaning wipes for the swifter I don't use. I put it on my local free site and a lady came by at 5pm to get all the items.
I will tell son that I shared his photo on here and it prompted someone to make soup.💖
Today I video chatted with youngest sailor son for a good two hours. During that time we added Athena into the video chat mix, and she had a puzzled who is that face. I introduced them and she made funny faces and Athena's dad came into the chat. It was a bit awkward seeing my middle son and youngest son kind of struggle on what to chat about. I mean its been 5 years without contact so I know it will be weird until its not. Youngest sailor son will request leave in Feb, the same as eldest son,b so having both here will be awesome! We will travel down and visit middle son. Maybe rent a car for that.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Walked to and from the store for the sports bra event that they had. One of the bras that I bought they said was too big, the other was okay. So you can add 36 more minutes to my stats and 207more calories to make 1330 calories burned today. I also noticed I did 33991 steps today.6
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Whidislander wrote: »
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
I need a room like that for exercise!! I'd put my home gym in there!!
At the very least, I'd have my Pilates reformer, weights, rowing machine and a yoga mat set up in there. Not sure if there's room for my treadmill and bicycles.
M in Oz
Heehee that's what my son's empty living room is for. But we do have a nice gym on base that we can use.
Also his room upstairs is completely empty. Our home is too big for us, I admit it, but husband loves his man cave/ computer room, and I love not having neighbors on the other side of our walls.🙃
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Rebecca--Eli is so cute. We got to meet our newest great grandson last evening. He is cute and looks a lot like his daddy when he was a baby.
Barbie--Great news Jake is home and doing so much better.
Tracey--Happy for you, that the doctor wrote that you can not go back to that job. Is there someone who you trust to pack up your personal stuff and bring to you, so you do not have to face that employee that is so mean?
Heather--Love the art work. What a great thing to share with the grandchildren.
Pip--Happy 27th !!
Michele--Sounds like you had a good visit with PJ and so happy he remembered you. I guess I am confused. I thought the last time you went to see Bryan was at his wedding. I would tell the mom of the baby that you would like to have a relentionship and share pictures of the baby. congrates on the new grandson.
Allie--A 10 minutes walk is a great start.
Annie--Prayers for your mom, dad and you.
Ginny--Sorry about the covid coming back.
We got to go meet our new great grandson yesterday. Just wish his parents could work things out, I keep praying and keep my opinion to myself.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NERebecca--Eli is so cute. We got to meet our newest great grandson last evening. He is cute and looks a lot like his daddy when he was a baby.
Barbie--Great news Jake is home and doing so much better.
Tracey--Happy for you, that the doctor wrote that you can not go back to that job. Is there someone who you trust to pack up your personal stuff and bring to you, so you do not have to face that employee that is so mean?
Heather--Love the art work. What a great thing to share with the grandchildren.
Pip--Happy 27th !!
Michele--Sounds like you had a good visit with PJ and so happy he remembered you. I guess I am confused. I thought the last time you went to see Bryan was at his wedding. I would tell the mom of the baby that you would like to have a relentionship and share pictures of the baby. congrates on the new grandson.
Allie--A 10 minutes walk is a great start.
Annie--Prayers for your mom, dad and you.
Ginny--Sorry about the covid coming back.
We got to go meet our new great grandson yesterday. Just wish his parents could work things out, I keep praying and keep my opinion to myself.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE
Awe, so nice! Athena seems very protective of Eli which is great to see. Here's him in a Halloween pants set.💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Annie: I hope your Mom is okay and leaves the hospital soon.
Allie: Congrats on taking a walk!
PIPCD: You really did try with Amanda. Maybe you planted a seed for the future.
Carol: My husband never wanted to spend money either. I really struggled to know what we could afford and what we couldn't. He also didn't like to give things away.
Rebecca: I love the picture of the boys in their uniforms. Your early Thanksgiving dinner reminds me I want to put the Christmas tree up early. I am craving looking at the lights.
Michele: My relationship with my mother improved when I had my son. I guess we had more in common then and i really appreciated pictures she took of my son. I am keeping my fingers crossed that Bryan will at least send you a picture of the baby over the next couple of years. I agree that you should try and send a baby gift.
Sandy: Welcome, Congrats on having 5 grands, I do some gardening...just a little...and am part of a book group. I did explore pottery one summer. Right now I am learning to knit. Zoey is pretty and looks older than age 12.
Lisa: Great on getting some writing done1
Machka: So good of you to adopt a kitty with some anxiety. I am still a little nervous about touching the cats at the cat rescue. However one was very smart and managed to get out the first door 2x and I was able to pick him up and get him back inside. He is the first cat that has been so smart about getting out the door!
Chellie: Congrats on the weight loss and the roller skating!
Tracey: Beautiful arrangement. I went to an Eagles Concert years ago in Boston...it was outside and is a very nice memory.
Terri: I hope you enjoy creative writing. It is on my bucket list to take a creative writing course!
Ginny: Good luck cutting the material to hem the pants!
Heather: Every couple of years I have to go the doctors and have wax removed from my ears. I try and keep up on my own but sooner or later it requires a nurse to really put a syringe of water into my ears.
My father had the same thing.
Well my trip to the beach got changed to November because my son and DIL want to go and I found a place that will allow 3 dogs. I find this amazing. It is a modest place but has good reviews. I will put sheets on the couches. So this next week end I am going to a Garden that is 2 hours a way. They are having a pumpkin fest and a sunflower garden. I am ready to leave town and am looking forward to this.
I am enjoying the cooler weather. I imagine it will get hot again but for now it is a welcome relief. I sit outside and just appreciate my yard. I am hopeful that as the weather cools, I will be more active and lose weight. I have a wedding to go to near Boston next September 2024. I have a year to lose some weight for the wedding!
Best,
Rosemarie from GA
I don't think we'll have a tree up this year. I put up my jewelry tree and its lit, so that is nice.
My eldest and my youngest sailor sons won't be getting leave until after the holidays are over, so it will just be us at Christmas time. The weather is always so horrendous in Dec, especially past Seattle, so traveling down to middle sons isn't quite what we wish to do. But we're seeing them during Halloween which Athena is excited about!💖🎃🍁
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Didn't make it my 72-hour fast, in the end - 22 hours later, I caved to a cheeseburger. Well, half a cheeseburger, and a few fingerling sweet potatoes. No excuses, I was hungry. It's the first night in a long time without rapid-fire gas, though, so maybe the key is less full fasting and more intermittent fasting. It's a thought.
Later, y'all,
Lisa in AR
I find when I stop eating by 4/5 pm, by the time its bedtime at 9 pm I have processed a lot. That cuts down my gurgle times. There is a method to the madness of "refeeding" or restarting your digestion after a fast. The trick is to start with a small plate of appetite starting foods. For me its a slice of cheddar, some walnuts. I eat those while I fix what I want to break my fast with. If you eat a big meal before letting your body "kick start itself" you can experience some "dumping" to call it bluntly. When I didn't nibble first and just ate, 20 minutes later I was in the loo. So there's that.
FASTING HOURS ARE HEALING HOURS
EVERY TIME YOU EAT OR DRINK, YOU ARE EITHER FEEDING DISEASE OR FIGHTING IT.
(Not telling there, just being poetic🙃😁)
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Heather - thanks for that. My concern was that it could take over. I don’t want that at all.
Sorry Johnny is feeling under the weather, I hope he gets better fast.
My DH and I tend to leave each other alone when we aren’t feeling well. We do check to see if the other needs anything but that’s about it.
My friend took me out for supper tonight for my birthday. We went to Brit’s Fish n Chips. I thought of you. They had mushy peas on the menu but I declined. I have eaten there years ago and enjoyed it, not so much tonight.
Barbara - you’re probably right. I feel that I’ve been under stress for a long time. Before I even got the job I was stressed because I didn’t have one.
Machka - your Winter sounds like my summer. So much I wanted to get done that I didn’t.
Ginny - I hope you feel better fast, it seems you just had it. How long has it been?
Sandy - I love the church and horse paintings. I am an ok painter, but am terrible at animals and humans.
Carol - I hope you were able to donate the things you wanted.
One of my biggest things when we were married was that I would have control of my own finances. I watched my Dad dictate what my Mom could have for years and I hated it.
Lisa - apparently our prime minister had a meeting with the leading grocers here and has mandated that they lower prices by Thanksgiving. We’ll see if that happens, but something sure need to be done.
When I stopped scrapbooking a few years ago, I kept some of the things in the event I would want to start again. Turns out I’m glad I did. I am having fun starting to play with paper again.
Beth - how wonderful for your Mom. My girls call my BF Aunt, I understand.
Lanette - I really need to get serious and send the weekly stat to you. I haven’t gotten very lazy again. 😕
Vicki - I trust a couple of people to do it, but we’ll see what they come back with. My friend offered to return the keys for me and pick up a box of my stuff.
There isn’t a lot, but a couple pictures and a bowl my Dad made for me.
Pip - I need some good bras, even “cheap” ones here are $70.
Rosemarie - Sorry your trip has been postponed.
Debbie - glad you had a good weekend with your Mom. Did she ever get rid of the roommate?
My DH and I have never done anything for our anniversary with our girls. In truth we don’t do a lot for each other either. This year he surprised me with flowers, and we go out for dinner if we can afford to. Mostly we don’t do a lot though.
I understand your reluctance to have son with you, you want a relationship with your husband and he doesn’t ever give you the opportunity to have it.
Michele - I hope things resolve with you and your family.
Rebecca - I love your jewelry tree. I want to make one but Everytime I start it doesn’t seem right to me, so I put it away.
It’s late and I’m going to head to bed. I’ll chat tomorrow.
Tracey in Edmonton5 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »
Debbie - glad you had a good weekend with your Mom. Did she ever get rid of the roommate?
My DH and I have never done anything for our anniversary with our girls. In truth we don’t do a lot for each other either. This year he surprised me with flowers, and we go out for dinner if we can afford to. Mostly we don’t do a lot though.
I understand your reluctance to have son with you, you want a relationship with your husband and he doesn’t ever give you the opportunity to have it.
It’s late and I’m going to head to bed. I’ll chat tomorrow.
Tracey in Edmonton
no, the room mate is still there. Again, I told mom that I will be up there a lot more when the room mate is gone. I told her when she was thanking me for being up there and about how it gets lonely there.
Dh doesn't seem to even think about spending time with just me, other than going shopping. On vacations, he checks with his friend first to see if the dates/place work for him. Anniversary dinners he even thought about agreeing one year to having his mom take us out to dinner. Told him NO real quick.
Last year, I think we went out to lunch or dinner another day- I went to zumba class on my 30th anniversary night.
Dh thinks buying lots of things is the most important thing- like his mom. I would rather not do gifts but want some time-pay attention to ME for a change- I have told him this so much but nothing changes
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dlfk202000 wrote: »Quick question- So, tomorrow is dh's and my 31st anniversary. He wanted to see if our son and his girlfriend wanted to go too. He does this every year. For a long time our son did go with us but now that he has a girlfriend he didn't the last two years but dh asked him to go with us.
Here is my question- anniversary dinner- is it for just you and your spouse or do you invite the kids to go too?
We are actually going for lunch and not dinner this year and son will be at work(my idea).
Anniversaries don't mean a lot, like they should. I need to work on that.
Debbie
Napa Valley, CA
We don't have kids at home.
This past anniversary was our 15th. We went to a Brain Injury Association celebration at Government House, then out for dinner at the nicest place in the city.
But most anniversaries, we'll usually have dinner out at a casual place somewhere at some point near our anniversary date. I think we have gone out with other people on occasion.
Over the years, we've been more inclined to do a longish bicycle ride together somewhere at some point near our anniversary date and call that our anniversary celebration.
M in Oz
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Ginny oh no, not again! :sick:
Sandy like your paintings. “Didn’t turn out exactly how I wanted but I learned from it.” Sounds like a metaphor for life
Carol what you said about time and prayer healing. Amen, sister. ((hugs)) for what you and your sister went through, and for what you're going through with your DH.
Lisa siding repair didn’t happen. Guy responded to my morning text asking for an eta with “this afternoon”, then didn’t respond to a gentle text at 3:30. Joe was afraid the guy would tear off the front of our house then disappear, so I texted him “Let’s forget it” He texted with “Sorry I have been out of service, I am here” at 4:30. Joe went out to talk to the guy who said he’d been working on a roof that took longer than expected because his helper didn’t show up. Joe said well, let’s just take the pressure off all of us and not do it. Joe’s confident his patchwork will last through the winter and found another contractor for us to call. Money will go back into savings, might need it for DDS or Joe’s new to him car. These things have a way of working out for the best [sigh]. Sorry the cures are being so hard on your system. “Paying attention is the key... but then, it always has been.” Truth this! Hope you enjoy the people and pottery.
Lanette had to smile at the link to Alexandre family farms. They are exactly what I thought of when you mentioned the A2/A2. They are about 20 miles south of us in the Fort Dick area and their pastures are beautiful. They even have a few Highland cows, separate from their dairy herds. Their kids sell pasture raised eggs at their farm store.
Kim and Kay thanks for sharing your perspective. ((hugs))
Beth what a delightful surprise for your mother.
Vicki will add my prayers, Hope that whatever happens between them, your grandson’s parents keep you in his life.
Rosemarie safe travels. Well done on finding a place that will welcome the 3 “granddogs” in November.
Debbie ((hugs)) Hope you can find something to celebrate in your anniversary.
Michele ((hugs)) Yes to setting boundaries and yes to what others have said about counseling and perspective. Last Sunday’s sermon talked about how repentance must be a precursor to forgiveness, but sometimes the repentance and forgiveness must be mutual to be healthy.
Rebecca two hours video chatting with youngest? Whoopee!!
Tracey yours to Debbie. Insightful.
Tomorrow is casserole-a-thon in the morning an first chair yoga class in the afternoon. Time to snooze!
Today’s gratitude: Joe’s dermatologist wishes he had Joe’s skin. Was able to listen to Joe’s advice. Joe’s willingness to talk to contractors. Aspirin.09/18: Move: 2 sets PT w/D, line dance class. Steps:8956
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=32 CI<CO net=308
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT. ptS, library, Post Office, Freddie’s, one load laundry. Wt: 133.2
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
2023: Be of good cheer.3 -
Couldn’t exercise on Wednesday since we needed to be at Denise’s at 6 so that she could go to work. Surprise, surprise, surprise she actually made dinner and was serving for us too. Admitted, it was just the Knorr pasta & sides with some chicken breast. But at least she did SOMETHING. Maybe Vince saying something last time she just took the pizza upstairs and had it made an impression. Left early Thurs, but I was able to do some HIIT.
Michele NC
Oooo ... that's a bit harsh.
That's more or less what we eat and is the sort of thing we would serve if you came to visit.Hi Gals,
Michele - I hear how broken your heart is missing your children and your grands. Since we can only change ourselves, I wonder if some counseling for you looking into ways to approach the situations differently would help? I understand that you are often venting here and your approach to them is different than to us here, but I wonder how much has seeped through and the children understand that you are disappointed and hurt.
Maybe I am resonating differently than I should because I see myself in your kids, I can never level up to what my mom wants me to be – and while she will tell you that she is a fair, loving mom – she can not see the hurt she has caused. I am also one of three, and in our own ways each has distance from Mom, and I know it hurts her. But I also know she will not even listen and accept that we are not who she wanted us to be. So I wonder if your children are feeling differently than you understand – and are doing distance because they don’t know how to approach you in a way that both you and they could repair the situation. Sorry!!! A lot of unrequested arm chair psychobabble - but just because I care and hate to see you hurt.
Love ya all,
Kim in N. CaliforniaKim – I understand what you are saying about Bryan and Denise. Let me explain something. At Denise’s wedding shower Pete’s mother made a comment of “when they buy a house near me”. Then she had them live with her “so that they can save up for a house”. My guess is that 4 adults, 2 dogs, a cat and then a baby was too much for the father so the mother helped them buy a townhome. Pete told me that she picked it out. Jess looked online and the townhome sold for $290. yet Pete told us that they paid $187. So my guess is that the mother put up the difference. Personally, I would have let them continue to live in the apartment they had in PA and if they needed help THEN provide it. But first let them try. But she didn’t
Michele NC
Nothing wrong with that. Lots of parents help out their kids that way.
I wonder if your disapproval of Denise shows through when you visit her and wonder if that might make her reluctant to visit you or have you visit her. Just a thought.
We all do things differently from each other. We here in this group do things differently. We do things differently from other family members. We do things differently from our friends and work colleagues. And it's OK. In fact, it's a good thing ... the world would be pretty boring if we were all the same.
My parents and I do things differently. Even though I lived with them and near them for a good portion of my life, I've gone my own way with many things. It's what kids do. I've had to adapt when I've visited them, and they would have to do the same if they happened to visit me. That's life.
BTW - my husband's daughter doesn't want to have anything to do with us. She and her husband have 2 boys, our grandsons, but we've never met them.
However, we pass on the message that we love them every time we get together with my husband's son. It's all we can do for now. And fortunately, we do get to see our granddaughter relatively frequently. We usually go there on their schedule because we know how busy they are.
M in Oz3 -
I had Covid in February of this year. I know several people who have gotten cases around 6 months apart. Spent much of yesterday sleeping on couch. Surprised I slept at all last night. Started Paxlovid, take 2nd dose here in a bit (12 hours a part). Today so far just some nausea. Going to try to deal with a couple of emails with work this morning. Hope I feel up to short walk later this morning just to get some sunshine.
Ginny9 -
Blowing a gale here!
The light grey part shows the gust. Yes, one gust hit 104 km/h at 4:40 pm. I went for a walk at lunch and almost had to empty a bottle of detangler into my hair when I got back.
Machka in Oz
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Almost midday, so taking a few minutes to weigh in with my good buddies.
Lisa: 👍🏻 pottery. Ceramics was one of my favourites at college. I still have some of the sculptural pieces I did.
Kylia: Loved all the holiday pics. It’s always all to short.
Michele: (((hugs))) It’s so difficult to to reconnect. I keep in touch with my brother, but it’s hard when I get very little back. At least the nephews keep in touch. As others have said, you have to do what is right for you.
Allie: keep moving. gentle exercise can’t do any harm.
Annie: Sorry to hear about Mom. I hope she is able to come home soon.
Beth: I hope that all your plans for the visit work out.
Barbie: continued good thoughts to you and Jake. Hope that everything is headed in the right direction.
Ginny: Rats to that Covid. I’m praying that it’s a mild dose.
I’m at home today. Hoping to block out my current crochet project. I finished all the pieces last week. Also planning to sort through winter wardrobe for donations before I swap for my summer stuff. It’s suddenly we’re autumnal here.
Gotta go as DH is just back from badminton, so going to have lunch.
☘️ Terri3 -
Despite the strong wind today, it was warm and sunny outside.
My new office (the one I moved into in March) is sort of open plan. I'm not overly keen on that design but one thing I do like about it is that I can see outside through the big windows on one side of the building.
When I sit down, the main thing I can see is a massive tree. That tree has been amazing! In autumn, when I started in that office, it turned all sorts of bright oranges, yellows, and reds. In winter, it lost its leaves (not common among trees around here), and I could see further. In the past few weeks, the spring leaves have come out and it's a bright and fluffy green.
It's one of many things making me feel happier lately.
I've been thinking a lot about new beginnings recently.
(see also my post on p38)
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Debbie - Sounds like you had a great time at your mom's, bet she loved having you there. And so neat you were able to spend some time with your aunt. Like Tracey, I was wondering if your mom's roommate was still there. Interesting relationship that. From what I recall, when we were younger, DH and I would sometimes go to a fancy restaurant by ourselves, then we'd invite another couple along who we both enjoyed and just hit a local diner. The main thing was doing something a little different I guess. Eventually it got down to a card and a hug, and that was fine.
Michele - My DH didn't like his mother and cut off contact for years, I couldn't get the story out of him other than his folks were divorced and he sided with his dad. DH finally sort of resumed communication with her; she lived on the east coast so there would be phone calls from time to time. I was happy that his heart eventually softened and the animosity went away. Mostly. It took a long time.
Annie - how's your mom doing? You've been on my mind a lot.
Terri - I think autumn is suddenly here as well. I'm stalled on outdoor projects until the huge maple tree next to the house dumps leaves then that fun (and exercise) will being. I need to put an additional tarp over the chicken run this week, or maybe just grab a larger one and get it done before the November/December chilly monsoons arrive.
Machka - hearing about your windstorm has me thinking about pulling out heavier waterproof walking gear. Hope you have a nice gardening season.
Barbara - interesting to hear about your contractor not showing up. That happens so often - they don't call and you wonder what's going on, especially since you've been waiting for hours! Don't blame you for telling him don't bother, I'd have done the same thing. Neat that Alexandre Farms are your "neighbors".
Lisa - glad to hear your fast helped your digestive system, even if it didn't go 72 hours. Hope you get some lasting results.
Heather - you mentioned recently that you listen to Tim Spector podcasts on Spotify. Are you referring to the Zoe podcasts or does he have one of his own? He's always neat to listen to, I have learned so much from him too. I have a jar of Tika Masala simmer sauce on the counter - going to make the quick and easy version today. Will try my hand at "mushy peas" and have thawed out a chicken breast to go with it.
Rosemarie - nice you were able to find a place to stay that takes doggies, and I'm glad you've decided to take a little trip soon. Have fun - we'll want to hear all about it!
Ginny - hope this crud passes quickly for you. I bet being out in the sun will help you a lot. I need to make another batch of fermented honey/garlic and elderberry syrup and make the rounds to you ladies in the teleporter for sure! I'm still surprised when I had the crud a year ago, Dr. Lisa said "take elderberry and Vit. C". I thought it was cool she was getting into the home remedies. Luckily I had elderberry lozenges on hand at the time and had been taking Vit. C.
I was up at 1:30 this morning to go to the bathroom and remembered the old cat didn't show up to be let into the shop last night. The thermometer said 46. So pulled on my clothes and sure enough, she was waiting by the door. Let her into the shop, crawled back into bed for an hour and actually did get another hour of sleep.
I decided to take my time buying a treadmill, I'll stay on the lookout for a used one. In the meantime, when I head to town during the week to do morning shopping, I'll just leave earlier and swing by the gym and use theirs. It's fun to watch people. Shouldn't be too crowded at 7:30 as folks who are going to work are hitting the showers about then and we seniors take over the place.
Almost time to get my sunrise walk in. Have a great day, ladies!
Lanette
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Lanette - I often hear Tim Spector on other people's podcasts, or just catch an odd video.
Today I woke up early and was worrying about some nonsense, so I watched a decluttering video, mum and daughter. This encouraged me to clean a whole lot of stuff out of my wardrobe, mainly trousers (pants) I kept a couple of slightly too small ones that i like, but if I don't lose weight I will get rid of them. I've got a small pile to take to the charity shop.
I thought my wardrobe was pretty minimal already, but there is always more to cull.
Will probably get a taxi to the school as it blowing a gale and raining.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
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