WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2023

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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,961 Member
    Michele, dear, all we can do is the best we can, and like all of us, your choices with your family and relationships are affected by a past that I was never part of. Only you know what you can handle, and we all do care what happens because we care about you. I just hated to watch you grieving about not seeing your new grandson. I hope you've taken all of our input as coming from a place of regard for you.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,278 Member
    exermom wrote: »


    To me, continuing to hurt someone is in a sense selfish. "You hurt me so I'm going to hurt you".



    Michele NC

    That describes dh so much. If someone does something or he even THINKS someone has done something against him, he holds grudges and doesn't let things go. That is a huge issue and why I feel the way I do towards him. He feels I did something(used him), which I didn't, so he still holds it against me. Things his aunt did towards his parents when he was a kid, he was still holding a grudge against her until after she passed away.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,079 Member
    <3
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,801 Member
    I was up in the night looking at videos for my thigh. There's a massage one, which I will try, and I've already got the PT exercises. I'm paying attention to a walking one (for older people), because my walking is terrible and may be a cause of my problem. My left leg is really out of alignment with a knock knee, where the patella is out of alignment, and ligament damage from a sprained ankle. My knee has flared up intermittently since I was 15. My walking is awful. I find running easier and less painful, probably because I distribute my weight better. I've been doing knee and back exercises every day for 12 years, and have got the knee much better. I used to be crippled by it.
    I'm going to work on my gait, and try the massage, and keep doing the exercises. The thigh does not hurt until I've been walking for more than a mile and a half, but when it goes, it's a real problem. After a good rest, the pain is gone.
    I'm a little nervous about my trip to London tomorrow and hope my leg holds out. :# I shouldn't have to walk too far, but there will be some. Ditto our trip to France in October.

    Hair trim today. I sold a ring to pay for it. It was a sort of engagement ring from my first marriage, but only a replacement one, and not my style now. It was inexpensive and not traditional. I have the cash in my purse.
    Thinking about defrosting the garage freezer as it's less full than usual. A good opportunity.
    However, must write first this morning. I'm writing a chapter about phrases and sayings that have inspired me. Will also put a load of laundry on.
    Plus, book my ticket for the train tomorrow!

    We will have to get Edie's present to her and a card. Her 10th birthday is on Saturday. We've bought her a faux fur leopard long jacket. I hope it fits!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,623 Member
    Today’s gratitude:T telling me about chair yoga class at the library.
    Karen :love: to see you popping in. Would love to hear more from you.
    Likewise Flea, whooshing energy your way.
    Debbie sounds like you had a pleasant anniversary meal at least.
    Sorry, so sleepy that everyone else’s posts have gone out of my mind. Time to sleep in prep for tomorrow’s DDS. Sure hope he can save the bridge.
    09/19: Move: 2 sets PT w/x&a, chair yoga class, Jeopardy walking. Steps:8063
    Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=2 CI<CO net=745
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, casserole-a-thon. Wt:130.7
    Later, lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
    2023: Be of good cheer.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    edited September 2023
    exermom wrote: »
    M – I guess I just expected Denise to make something more than just noodles and chicken breast. Probably because Jess makes more. See, I personally would have at least let my child TRY saving up for a house before I’d give them the money. Yes, my in-laws helped us buy our first home, but not for a few years. And they didn’t pick it out for us. I’m only guessing that Pete’s mother helped them, I don’t know this for a fact. I really think Denise’s reluctance to visit stems from the fact that she has a very hard time dealing with any change. And coming here is a change to her routine. I’m so sorry you’ve never seen your grandsons. It’s very hard. Just passing on that message of love is all you can do right now. Maybe one day things will change for the better. Let’s keep positive thoughts that it will

    Michele NC

    From the sounds of things, you've got lots to be proud of with Denise and her family ... jobs, ongoing marriage, healthy child, on the property ladder.

    Denise is doing Denise. You can't expect her to live her life like you would or you did or you are. I'm assuming 20-30 years have passed since you were her age. Times have changed and she's a different person from you. She will do things differently from you. And that's OK. :)

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    Even though she didn't fall, I guess we have to react as though she did. It's a sudden drastic change in mobility. She can't come home until she is strong enough to use a walker or something.

    Well thanks for listening.

    Annie in Delaware

    Do you have the option of residential care (aka nursing homes) or a home care package?
    Like these: https://dhss.delaware.gov/DSAAPD/home_communitybased_services.html
    https://dhss.delaware.gov/dhss/dsaapd/residential_care.html

    Do you have a carer support organisation in your area?
    Like this? This is Australia's Carer support organisation: https://www.carergateway.gov.au/

    Oh here ... check out these links:
    https://dhss.delaware.gov/dsaapd/caregive.html
    https://dhss.delaware.gov/dsaapd/caregivesg.html

    Have a good read over these options.
    Make an appointment to talk to someone.
    There is often help available.

    Machka in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Well, the first disease ship ... or um, cruise ship :tongue: ... of the season came in today and 3003 people clogged up the city at lunchtime today. My errands took twice as long as I'd hoped.

    One of the first places they all go is the Chemist Warehouse right near where I work. You can't even get into the place there are so many people.

    I wasn't expecting them so early in the season, but maybe they had to dock because of the wind. Doesn't look like there's another one to come in for the next 3 weeks at least.

    Ah well, tis the season to go on long walks into areas not frequented by tourists. :) This is one of my motivations to go on brisk 5-6 km walks during the spring, summer and autumn. :)

    Machka in Oz
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,162 Member
    edited September 2023
    Weekly shopping done and put away. Just relaxing with my coffee.


    Heather: The gale passed over us during the night. It’s quite pleasant this morning, although we may get some showers. I am taking advantage of the wind to dry a load of laundry, but keeping an eye out for the showers 😂 Your painting looks well on the wall. Later: I managed to get the laundry in before a shower hit.

    Lanette: I love the autumn colours, but not what they herald. The cold wet winter is not my favourite season.

    Machka: It’s amazing to think that we are all in different time zones and climate areas. You’re going into spring as we are beginning to feel the chill creeping in. I think you having window on the world at work is wonderful, especially with the tree you describe.

    Anniversaries: Because our anniversary is in July, we were often away with family on holiday, and would celebrate with them. These days, we have a celebration meal at home, and open a bottle of our favourite Prosecco. We agreed several years ago not to buy expensive gifts just because. It seems a bit senseless when we are trying to declutter our home to bring new stuff in.

    It’s lunch time so I’ll pop back later to see who else has posted.

    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏 for the rest of your Wednesday.

    ☘️ Terri
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    <3
    Betsy in NW WA
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,739 Member
    Hi!
    Carol My DH is the same way! He questions everything I get rid of. So annoying! This is why I love when he is gone from house for extended times. I clear my stuff out.

    Kylia
    Back to the craziness of home
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,370 Member
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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,912 Member
    Its so cool in the house, it woke up our propane fireplace.💖
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    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,801 Member
    edited September 2023
    Hair trimmed and a nice chat with the hairdresser. She was just back from the Canary Islands.

    Picked up a bit of shopping. This morning I was astonished, shocked even, to find we had run out of teabags!!!
    I buy them in bulk from Amazon, and had no idea we were down to the last teabag. I had to make two cups out of one. So I picked up a small packet and I've ordered a delivery for tomorrow. Michael Moseley was on the radio this morning, extolling the virtues of tea. Camelia Sinensis. Very, very good for you.

    We are having the halloumi curry tonight, but I'm going to use broccoli instead of spinach because I have some I want to use up.

    I've booked my train tickets for tomorrow. I'm going from Brighton, because it takes me directly to London Bridge, where the restaurant and theatre are, so less walking. I used the massage ball and roller this morning, and so far it has helped a lot. My main fear is of train cancellation because of the weather. It is raining now, and will get worse overnight. Sometimes there is flooding, or leaves and branches on the line with strong winds.

    I didn't defrost the garage freezer, :| but I did phone Saga to put my name down for the 'Early Bird ' booking for 2025. There are only four cabins of the type we like, and they get booked up very quickly. We had to pay a deposit, but it is transferable and refundable, so nothing lost.

    I'm a little nervous about tomorrow, but I will give myself plenty of time and cross my fingers that the transport isn't disrupted.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,158 Member
    Morning ladies
    Annie- great advice from all the ladies..if Delaware has something like we have here in Ct. Its called Community care for the eldery..and it worked fabulous for my FIL
    Like they said..work with the social worker from the hospital, they are a wealth of knowledge.
    Think i finally have gotten the right formula for the gummies .
    Slept well last night.
    Going to hop in the shower in a bit.
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,961 Member
    Heather - Hope tomorrow goes very well... I really hate running out of anything I use a lot, especially coffee or tea!

    Stats, cardio day:
    • Yoga - 8 positions, 8 minutes
    • Rowing - 18 min, .71 miles, 457 strokes
    • Elliptical - 30 minutes, .5 miles, 1144 steps.
    • Total 470 calories burned (per MFP)



  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,399 Member
    2023 Self-Care September 2023

    Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate family, even when it’s hard to deal with them. They are still blood.
    Meditation: daily. 14/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%)

    Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 15/23
    Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
    Flexible (yoga, stretching) 0/8 a week 10 min
    Balance 5 days 10 min 1/20

    Rita
    Stop B12
    Switch DHEA to every other day on sept 6
    Kev
    Add folic acid, once a day
    Add magnesium to 3x a day
    Up Berberine to 3x a day

    Foods to avoid:

    Barley
    Bell peppers
    Chicken
    Clam
    Egg white
    Eggplant
    Ginger
    Rye
    Wheat
    Winter squash

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5784, 9858, 8414,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(800%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 205/208—(733%) should be 172 by October 1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)72/94 (800%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4 (500%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 15/23 a z(681%,100%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 35
    /12 (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 8/12—(900%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (900%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,(500%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met 81%
    August met—met 99%
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Find time for self-care. It’s not selfish. It’s essential. Making time!
    2. Notice the things you do well, however small. I will. Talking to campers, meeting dogs, electronics.
    3. Let go of self-criticism and speak to yourself kindly. I will try!
    4. Plan a fun or relaxing activity and make time for it. Did this already! Went for a long walk this morning.
    5. Forgive yourself when things go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. This will be hard because I tend to blame myself for everything.
    6. Focus on the basics: eat well, exercise, and go to bed on time. Will Do!
    7. Give yourself permission to say ‘no’.. I’m doing this more often now.
    8. Be willing to share how you feel and and ask for help when needed. I will try to remember to ask for help when I need it rather than struggle and get frustrated.
    9. Aim to be good enough, rather than perfect. This needs to be a mind change for me. Whenever I do something, I get upset if it is not perfect. I need to make it a point to accept what the result is while doing my best.
    10. When you find things hard, remember it’s ok to not be ok. This is apt for today.
    11. Make time to do something you really enjoy. I hope to go ‘window shopping’ today. Did this and colored.
    12. Get active outside and give your mind and body a natural boost. Went for a 20 minute walk then the rain started.
    13. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a loved one.
    14. If you’re busy, allow yourself to pause and take a break.
    15. Find a caring calming phrase to use when you feel low. “Breathing in,I am relaxing. Breathing out, I am relaxed.”
    16. Leave positive messages for yourself to see regularly. Sticky notes, here I come!
    17. No plans day. Make time to slow down and be kind to yourself.
    18. Ask a trusted friends to tell you what strengths they see in you. Forgot to do this.
    19. Notice what you are feeling without any judgement. Doing that this morning.
    20. Enjoy photos from a time with happy memories. This sounds like fun! I do have my pictures rotating on my TV as a screensaver but need to go through those.
    21. Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside.
    22. Take your time. Make space to just breathe and be still.
    23. Let go of other people’s expectations of you.
    24. Accept yourself and remember that your are worthy of love.
    25. Avoid saying ‘I should’ and make time to do nothing.
    26. Find a new way to use one of your strengths or talents.
    27. Free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans.
    28. Choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn.
    29. Write down 3 things you appreciate about yourself.
    30. Remind yourself you are enough, just as you are.

    RVRita in Roswell, NM
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,399 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Annie - We cross-posted, so I'm glad I came back and saw the update on your mom! Hope you and your dad are doing well, glad they're getting your mom's potassium up. I struggle with it, and it's hard on your heart if your potassium's too low.

    Came back to put this link up for all you U.S. hummingbird aficionados - tells you which ones are migrating around the U.S. right now. Ours are still here for now, don't know when they'll migrate or even if they will. The weather's staying pretty warm here. https://a-z-animals.com/blog/discover-when-hummingbirds-migrate-in-the-us/

    Also - for anyone who's interested in exploring mindfulness, especially as it pertains to depression and anxiety, I'm enjoying this course. I'm neither anxious nor depressed, but am very interested in the mindfulness aspects, and it's a teaching course. Also free, although they do ask for your email address: https://caring-mindfulness.thinkific.com/courses/mindfulness That's the page for the course, and the lady's voice is extremely relaxing. Because I'm not yet mindful enough, I only stuck with it for ten minutes, but do plan to go back to it.

    I swear!
    Later, y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa

    LisaI signed up for the mindfulness course and have listed/watched the introduction so far. Sounds interesting and like you, will get back to it. I will also forward the link to my therapist as this looks like something she would like and possible use with some of her patients. She is great about reading and answering emails!

    Rita in Roswell, NM
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    edited September 2023
    Did a body pump DVD then took a walk around my neighborhood then went to Aldi. Didn’t need much at Aldi so I was in and out in no time

    Flea – I know when Bryan first moved to LaReunion he was teaching English. Is he still? That I don’t know (heck, I don’t even know if he’s still on LaReunion)

    Debbie – I’m so sorry to hear your dh is that way. It’s a shame he hasn’t come to the realization how he held a grudge against his aunt and it wasn’t until she passed that he let it go. Does he regret that he held the grudge?

    I need to get my hair trimmed. I usually go to the cosmetology class at the local college (Lisa – talk about being frugal!), but I’ll wait until my bangs are a bit longer

    We’re thinking about opening a trust fund for PJ. Really, we don’t know what he’s interested in and he has more toys than he knows what to do with. Not like they have a lot of room for toys, anyway. I’ll probably send him a box of snacks (gummies, Cheetos, that sort of thing) and maybe a yearly ornament (if Amazon sells one that isn’t ceramic or glass) It’s not going to be a complex trust fund, so it shouldn’t take that long to set it up

    Barbara – good luck at the dentist’s

    Annie – can the people at the hosp. Point you in the direction of what your mother will need when she comes home (bed in living room vs. stair chair). Personally, I would think that a chair that takes her up the stairs might make her feel better because she can sleep in her own bed. I’m sure the doctors realize that her confusion is causing “I’m fine”. They know that she isn’t. You are a wonderful daughter. Good advice from Ginny

    M – oh, yes, Jess and Denise do things much differently than I do. A small example is that I will clean up as I go along cooking, they don’t. But as I look at it “it’s not my house, I don’t have to worry about cleaning”

    Lanette – I figure when Leo is about 6 months, I’ll send Bryan an email saying “how is Leo”. Really, I’m not expecting a “he’s fine” but if I get it – wonderful. Then on his first birthday I’ll send Bryan another email. I guess I’d rather have low expectations (not getting any response) and be pleasantly happy if I do. This way I won’t be disappointed if I don’t get a response. Love hearing about the antics of your babies

    Terri – Vince and I have given each other gifts for our anniversary. One of them was central a/c for our second home. Another one was a microwave. Romantic, huh? Now we have a/c and a microwave, so we just say “happy anniversary” to each other and go about our day

    The new grill was just delivered. We had three mats under the old one, we’ll probably only need one under this one. Personally, I never thought we needed something that big but Vince wanted a big one. I cleaned part of the mat with this OxiCean stuff and part with this KrudKutter stuff. Then I scrubbed part of it, rinsed it, now we’ll see which one did better. It looks to me like the OxiClean part is cleaner, but we shall see. We were told that we were on the schedule to have the old one picked up tomorrow. However, we don’t have anything in writing that says they will. Vince trusted that they would, but I’m still skeptical. Guess we’ll find out tomorrow what will happen.

    Maragaret – did you make a comment about something you used to lower your blood sugar? Or am I just imagining it?

    barbie - Oh, I hope you don't have to return Bodhi. What a wonderful life he'd have with you!

    Michele NC
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,399 Member
    kymarai wrote: »
    Hi!
    Carol My DH is the same way! He questions everything I get rid of. So annoying! This is why I love when he is gone from house for extended times. I clear my stuff out.

    Kylia
    Back to the craziness of home

    Sounds like mine too! I do the same, when he is out, I clear my stuff out and toss into the dumpster so he can’t retrieve anything from the trash can!!

    Silly men!

    RVRita
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,278 Member
    edited September 2023
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Accidentally started organising the home office this evening. Definitely not the plan but when I started digging through stuff to try to find something, and triggered a noisy avalanche, I figured a more systematic approach to my digging would be better. I found what I was looking for and did some organising at the same time!

    I also disturbed a lot of dust and the allergies flared up a bit.

    Hopefully I will sleep them off now.

    M in Oz

    that is how it happens often, especially on my desk. That is how the spice rack idea came about too- trying to find what I wanted and couldn't.

    side note- Did you go in for your six month(now 9 month) check up? Waiting to hear you get the all clear again. Hard to believe in 3 months it will be a year since we both had our surgeries.

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