WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2023

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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,866 Member
    Tracey - I keep forgetting to say how sorry I am about your cousin's son and family's accident. Sounds like there's a lot of healing time ahead of him, glad the rest are OK. As far as the vertigo - have you tried the Home Epley Maneuver? It's very safe, and won't hurt you if it isn't effective. It's been handy for me to get rid of most of my vertigo. Not all - I still have an issue when I lay down on my right side at night. I need to try it a couple more times before I talk to my doc about it in November.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,030 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,566 Member
    edited October 2023
    CarolGaGal wrote: »
    Feeling sorry for myself. What do you do when your husband wants to sleep most of the day and then is up most of the night? I am beginning to feel like a widow. Can't plan to do anything together after lunch because he has to have his nap and it usually last 3 to 6 hrs.
    Carol in GA

    My husband and I have very different preferred sleep schedules.

    He's an early bird who likes to nap in the afternoon.
    I'm a night owl who likes to sleep my morning away given any opportunity to do that.

    During the week, we wake up about the same time and I go off to work. He naps in the afternoon so that he can stay up till about 10 pm. Then he goes to bed. I go to bed about midnight.

    On weekends and holidays, he gets up between 8:30 and 9:30 am. I get up about noon. Then he sleeps from about 2:30 - 4:30 or so while I enjoy the peace and quiet!! I tidy, garden, or work on projects on my computer. Then we exercise and have dinner. He goes to bed somewhere between 10 and 11 pm, and I go to bed between 1 and 2 am.

    If I were left to my own devices, I'd always go to bed between 1 and 2 am, and get up about noon. Unfortunately, I can only do that on the weekends and on holidays.

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,566 Member
    Cleaning/laundry schedule --

    When I have enough for a load, I do a load of MY wash. My husband does his own.
    If the weekend is nice enough I can dry things outside, I'll do towels and/or sheets.

    My husband does some of the cleaning, but ...

    Every weekend, shortly after noon, I clean the bathroom. Takes about 5 minutes. Saturday ... I wake up about noon, do my "morning" ablutions, and then spray things down and wipe. I might repeat on Sunday.

    Every couple months, I'll vacuum. Usually on a rainy day.

    What am I missing? What other cleaning is there? That's usually all I do.


    Like I say, my husband does some of the cleaning in between.


    M in Oz

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,566 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Kim - so pleased that it was merely that "thorn in your side..." and not cancer. I think it's become such a kneejerk reaction on the part of the doctors, it's a little scary. I have not had a doctor actually touch me in years, other than them clutching their stethoscope outside my shirt and pressing it to my chest, then telling me to take a deep breath. Techs, sure... mammograms, cardiograms, echocardiograms... but the docs just look at the test results and talk to me.

    Sue - how are your sarcoidosis symptoms doing? Better, I hope. I think of you often. I'm so pleased that you're making sure to give your old mare the best chance to make it through the winter.

    Heather - Many happy birthday wishes for Johnnie, and hope your birthday lunch out is absolutely wonderful. The delicacies for picnics in your room sound lovely and wonderful. Glad the holiday row is completed already... such a relief to have that over with! :smiley:

    Rebecca - Such an amazing change in Lee, just absolutely wonderful. You had to be so scared all the time at that point. So pleased the transplant was so successful.

    Lanette - I'm so pleased I've inspired you to make homemade pizza. The best thing I've learned here with all these lovely women is that I do best if I eat whatever I choose and control my serving sizes. It's simply much more effective for me than leaving out any type of food, like fats or carbs or whatever the latest style is... I do try to leave my early meal as late as I can handle it, but eating smaller amounts and less often has been the most effective thing for me for weight maintenance and control.

    Time to go pull the focaccia out of the oven, the house smells wonderful.

    Hope it's a lovely start to the week for everyone.

    Love,
    Lisa in AR


    It was a rough time back then. Really no different than living with an alcoholic. Each day presented itself differently and there was no security in how he was doing. I think the hardest thing was he would be fine one day, driving, watching tv, then the next day he would be in an ammonia coma not able to comprehend anything. It kept me on edge the entire time. So now I appreciate each and every day with the man.💖👍🏼
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Living with a person with a severe brain injury is very much one day at a time too. One day, he can be fairly energetic and on top of things ... and the next day, it's just the opposite. Or maybe he'll start energetic, etc. and suddenly everything crashes. But I never know what tomorrow will bring.

    So I'll plan ... but I've usually got a Plan B and C up my sleeve too.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,566 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Worked then went to get my flu shot. Went to bowling and tonight will go to ceramics. The MD said that Vince has a bacterial infection. Something inside of me says that it’s the flu.

    Update on Vince: Well, I went to ceramics and when I got home he was laying in bed. Then he rushed to the bathroom and threw up. He thinks it’s either the medicine or (as usual) dinner. I really don’t think it’s anything with the dinner. He’s had everything before without a reaction. The medicine is new. Also, some of the side effects are nausea, vomiting. I firmly believe in the body’s ability to heal itself. He believes in having a pill for every ache and pain. I’m a bit tired so I’ll go to bed and be there for him during the night.

    Michele NC

    Why do you doubt the doctor?

    Chances are he's experiencing side effects of the bacterial infection.

    Nausea and vomiting are symptoms of bacterial infections.


    M in Oz

  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,607 Member
    Gratitudes:
    10/16-the warm, dry, shelter of our little blue doublewide in the woods above the sea. It is really pouring down rain. There are so many living in vehicles, if they’re lucky, and on the street or in the forest if they’re not.
    10/15-oatmeal, many bean salad, 90 billion probiotics.
    10/14-waking up… in my own bed.
    10/13-The cocoa I spilled all over my chest and lap wasn’t hot. Made it through US199 before it closed at 1pm.
    10/12-dermatologist’s practice has two MOHS surgeons, just in case. Delicious meal at One Fifteen in Grants pass, exactly the prime rib, baked potato I wanted and Oh, that house gorgonzola vinaigrette. Yum!
    Dermatologist zapped one spot, scraped another. Not sure when results will come in.
    Missed a big opportunity to keep my mouth shut Sunday. When our church musician retired, her backup stepped up. Alas, no one has stepped up to be his backup, and he’s already been gone once. Acapella hymns were kinda ok, but acapella chants felt like Good Friday. When it came up at church council, pastor’s wife volunteered to accompany simple hymns on her ukuklele, and I offered to “give pastor the note” on the piano for the chants. Musician cautioned me I’d also have to give the congregation the melody line. Swell. Now I really have to keep the clutter off the keyboard so I can practice...
    Here it is halfway through the month and I’ve joined the “pack on weight for winter” tribe. Time to shift those habits that have gotten sloppy. Substitute AF beer for two glasses of wine. Downsize from 3 pcs of chocolate to two or better one. More veggies. Less bread. You all know the drill.
    Katla (@myvt9v4crh, @Katla49) teeniest little grey hummingbird was sipping from our feeder when a big DRIP from the gutter above startled her away. Thinking of you.
    Welcome @Shuleran Anita in SC and congrats on the first month! Whooshing good thoughts for your surgery and quick, complete recovery.
    Welcome @RoseBred43 Rose in Taz, well begun!
    Read everyone’s post through page 36 but failed to take notes. Enjoyed the travel and kid pics, ((hugs)) and :love: to all. Now need to sleep so can get up early for casserole-a-thon. ;)
    10/16: Move: 2 sets PT w/D, line dance class, dogs to powerline. Steps:8908
    Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=42 CI<CO net=555 vits=1
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT, ptS, library, bottle return, Grocery Outet, recycling, filing. Wt:131.8
    10/15: Move: 2 sets PT w/d,x&a, dogs to powerline. Steps:4736
    Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=-2 CI<CO net=228 vits=1
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT, ptS, council minutes, groom Tumble. Wt:132.1
    10/14: Move: 2 sets PT w/d,x&a, dog group, Jeopardy walking. Steps:7892
    Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=6 CI<CO net=58 vits=0.5
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, AF, ptT, ptS, M Wt:132.9
    10/13: Move: ZERO sets PT. Steps:5311
    Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=36 CI<CO net=1030 vits=1
    Live: Joe, partial readings, Trader Joe’s, BP, marathon unpack organize find a place for all I bought. Wt:133.4
    10/12: Move: ZERO sets PT, shop-a-thon. Steps:7912
    Fuel: b] sugar in vs mfp=-3[/b] , CI<CO net=128 vits=1
    Live: Joe, partial readings, BP, dermatologist, Wal~Mart, Winco, Wt:134.0!

    Later, lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    October: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
    Fuel better: less sugar, dailyish vitamins.
    Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings. Open heart and mind before mouth.
    2023: Be of good cheer.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,970 Member
    edited October 2023
    Just chilling today after my hectic Monday. (Creative Writing and Monday Painters) DH is off to play badminton this morning so I am indulging myself with a lie-in and reading your posts. It’s the first really cold day, so snuggling under the duvet for an extra hour is heaven.

    Machka: Glad to know that your rash has eased.
    Heather: 🥰 your French travelogue.
    Rebecca: I had a a different picture in my mind of Lee in suspenders 😝 We call those braces in UK. Suspenders are for holding up socks/stockings.
    😂😂😂

    🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 to those who need/want them.

    ☘️ Terri
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    <3
    Betsy in NW WA
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,637 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    So my dad tells me we are running out of laundry soap and shows me the dishwasher soap package. Sure enough he has been washing his clothes with Cascade dishwasher soap. He is such a smart man, but he has a huge blind spot on the domestic side. Oh well he is an adult he is responsible for his own laundry. At least he gets his new hearing aids today.

    I waited all day yesterday for the electrician for smoke detectors, finally called and they said the appointment was today. Very annoying.

    Annie in Delaware

    Annie - so did the dishwasher detergent get your dad's clothes clean when used as laundry soap? We talked about using Dawn in the washing machine a week or two ago in this thread. It just occurred to me that adding a bit of dishwashing detergent to the laundry now and then might help to clean my washer. ;) Worth a try I think.

    Hope the electrician arrives on time and gets the job done efficiently.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,288 Member
    2023 Optimistic October

    Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the birds and the bees as they pollinate.
    Meditation: daily. 16/31 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%)

    Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 16/23
    Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
    Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
    Balance 5 days 10 min /20

    Foods to avoid:
    Barley
    Bell peppers
    Chicken
    Clam
    Egg white
    Eggplant
    Ginger
    Rye
    Wheat
    Winter squash

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%). 60 days SOBER!
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 7819, 7203, (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (800%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 215/208—(733%) should be 189 by November 1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)74/94 (800%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2 (600%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 12/23 (681%,100,100)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 42/12
    (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 10/12—(1000%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (1000%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0
    500%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met 81%
    August met—met 99%
    September met——99%
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—

    1.
    Write down three things you can look forward to this month. 1. Another month of sobriety 2. Cooler weather 3. Decorating for Halloween
    2. Find something to be optimistic about (even if it’s a difficult time). I am optimistic about cooler weather.
    3. Take a small step to a goal that really matters to you. I need to call my uncle.
    4. Start the day with the most important thing on your to-do-list. Updating this list and My Fitness Pal.
    5. Be a realistic optimist. See life as it is but focus on what’s good. I usually hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I think this counts!
    6. Remind yourself that things can change for the better. No matter how bad you think it is, it can always get worse. So enjoy life no matter where you are, or what you are doing, or your circumstances.
    7. Look for the good in people around you today. I can do this if I try. This was not difficult to do with visitors. Employees were a different matter!
    8. Make some progress on a project or task you’ve been avoiding. I need to clean the cabinets out. I am planning to start today. Didn’t happen.
    9. Share an important goal with someone you trust. did not do this.
    10. Take time to reflect on what you have accomplished recently. I have accomplished coloring pages, making doctor appointments, calming my nerves by taking some actions I never tried before, and more.
    11. Avoid blaming yourself or others. Find a helpful way forward. This is hard for me.
    12. Look out for positive news and reasons to be cheerful today. With everything going on around me and in me this will be hard, but I will pay attention to good news.
    13. Ask for help to overcome an obstacle you are facing. The obstacles I have cannot be solved by me, but by family members.
    14. Do something constructive to improve a difficult situation. I will have to think on this. I posted pictures of the eclipse that happened here on the Friends Group FB page, and sent some pics to my son and grandson.
    15. Thank yourself for achieving the things you often take for granted. I got up in a thankful mood today so I should be able to do this. The eclipse yesterday couldn’t have gone better.
    16. Put down your to-list and do something fun or uplifting. I will color, walk, and meditate-all things that are fun and uplifting to me.
    17. Take a small step toward a positive change you want to see in society. Teaching adults computer use provides a positive change in my community.
    18. Set hopeful, but realistic goals for the days ahead.
    19. Identify one of your positive qualities that will be helpful in the future.
    20. Find joy in tackling a task you’ve put off for some time.
    21. Let go of the expectations of others and focus on what matters to you.
    22. Share a hopeful quote, picture, or video with a friend or colleague
    23. Recognize that you have a choice of what to prioritize.
    24. Write down three specific things that have gone well recently.
    25. You can’t do everything! What are three priorities right now?
    26. Find a new prospective on a problem you face.
    27. Be kind to yourself today. Remember progress takes time.
    28. Ask yourself ‘will this still matter a year from now?’
    29. Plan a fun or exciting activity to look forward to.
    30. Identify three things that give you hope for the future.
    31. Set a goal that brings a sense of purpose for the coming month.


    RVRita , Roswell, NM

    “There is no need for me to accept blame for another person’s irrational actions. I will deal with my own shortcomings.” ALANON’s One Day at a Time.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,682 Member
    Rita - This is for you. <3
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    This is DH'S birthday weather!
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    Heather UK xxxxxx


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