WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023
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Stopped at the store after ceramics. The soup was a bit over $5 for one serving and I would need at least 6, probably 8. For $40, I don’t think so. I got some from Amazon for $22 and I had a gift card so basically it didn’t cost anything. Certainly better than $40!
When I went for my routine physical, the MD talked about the RSV vaccine, but he didn’t feel that I needed it. Why are others getting it? Remember, I only see PJ for a few days out of the year
Rosemarie – HUG. You son might very well welcome a change. As Lisa said – ask him. He’ll feel good that you value his opinion and feelings
Put the plastic on my car window. Now I just hope the wind doesn’t mess it up. Guess I’ll go out in the morning to see how it is. How I wish Hyundai would do SOMETHING.
The gal who runs the bowling league wasn’t there today so I brought her gift home. Now I’m doubly glad that the decal on her dish isn’t christmas related (it says “Baked with Love”)
We got a Christmas card from the lady that Vince helped sell her brother’s trains, so I guess I’ll send one to her. It was nice of her to think of Vince, tho.
Well, off to a shower then bed. Nite all.
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Hi Gals,
Michele – RSV has a close friend of mine in the hospital, she is a bit older than you I think (68) and she caught it from some where in the community – just from doing life…. I got my vaccine as part of the drug trials which I was a part of. I got the Pfizer one. I got into the drug trials, not because I was that keen of drugs or shots…. But because of what I have read about RSV and awful it can be for us older folks and especially for folks with weakened immune systems/heart/lung conditions – it is easily spread kinda like a cold. I would think that working at the soup kitchen you might be exposed and would want to get it.
Pip – so impressed that Yogi is a calendar model!
Rosemary – spent the day in your car? Oh I wish I was closer !!! You can clean out and pack up stuff you want to change but are not ready to get rid of. I am sure all the declutter folks would say keep/trash/donate – and that is the most efficient but in your situation stored for a few months seems like a great option. And some things can re-purposed. I have a truly ugly but favorite mug of my dads as a pen holder in my office. I love that I still have it, but tucked into a corner. Maybe your son can help you decide what he might want and you can pack it up and find a place in the garage (or wherever) and just have the space back.
Rita – how nice that the Rangers recognized you and hubby for your commitment to the park.
Allie – miles on a shelf - too darn cute
Lisa – I have always wanted to do a bookshelf quilt I can’t wait to see what you came up with.
Well I finished my final job promised for Christmas delivery…. Now to get my gifts done, cards and decorate the tree.
Love ya all,
Kim in N. California
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Lisa, I didn't realize you had pain in the mornings. Is this something new? Did I miss something or forget something?
Carol: Is this your brother in law in hospice. I hope he is comfortable. Peace for your husband and your family.
Machka: I would be so restless in all those meetings. Even I would be wanting to code. Even as my husband was nearing retirement and not able to walk he was trying to learn Julia. I was trying to keep both our spirits up so I was trying to learn with him! Of course I don't know how to code so it was basically to keep him company!
The best part of this day has been signing on to this blog. I should have read the blog earlier in the day. The weather was glorious today, I will say that. I did take a walk outside by a pond but that is all I accomplished. I got my Covid shot and the RSV shot. The rest of the day I sat in the car. I did not want to be in my house.
I am over whelmed with the clutter and very tired of my decorations. The decluttering group I joined has a goal of throwing 2,024 items out in 2024. I will accomplish this just in paper.
I feel very lonely decluttering by myself. Also I am hesitant to change the house because I want it to feel like a home to my son...age 28 and married. I also don't seem to have much energy. My son and daughter in law are coming the 23rd to the 28th. Truthfully I wish they were coming to help me with the house. Instead it is their vacation from work and I want them to relax and rest and enjoy their visit.
But approaching 10 months a widow, I think it is reasonable to want to make some changes to the decor of the house. After all it is not a museum.
Sorry to be so gloomy! I love reading about all the cooking and art and Christmas decorations!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
Of course it is reasonable to want to make changes to the decor!
The house was yours and your husband's for many years.
Now the house is yours and you can feel free to change it to exactly what you want. You could even sell it and move elsewhere if you wanted!
Just a suggestion, however, at this point I would be inclined to have one room as your husband's room with all his stuff you aren't ready to deal with yet.
Makeover the rest of the house and put anything of his you feel uncertain about into one room.
Then when you feel ready to deal with that room, you can.
Meanwhile the rest of the house would be to your taste ... and I am sure would feel homey to your children.
Can you afford a decorator?
M in Oz
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Lisa: Thank you! I hope the acupuncture helps! and that once you are on Medicare you find a great doctor!
I am feeling better now. I decided to start by removing items from the mantle. I think maybe a framed picture of my husband there might be nice and a couple of brand new decorations, not expensive might be nice. We'll see how my son reacts. I moved my 4 foot white Christmas tree out of the room and into a different room. The room really does look better. We took from savings and put down engineered hardwood in the room because using the hoyer lyft on thick carpet was hurting my back. This was a life saver for a couple of years. But maybe an inexpensive area rug would be nice now!
One of the items I took down was this huge orange mug that he gave his father for Father's Day that said, "Your a Big Deal"
I can't remember from how long ago. It was in the middle of the mantle. I can't throw it out. I will find a place for it.
An older friend from the church called this morning and asked if for her and another friend I would be able to be on call for any health care needs they had. They were of course willing to compensate me. I appreciate that they thought about me as a helpful person. I referred them to someone who might be interested. I am a little amazed that they thought I would want to get into a caregiver type role again...especially so soon.
Thank you again,
Rosemarie from Georgia
Ask your son if he would like the mug to remember his father.
And I am not surprised people asked to be a caregiver.
In my first year as a caregiver when I was up to my eyeballs in everything and deep in depression, I had all sorts of people wanting my help. "Friends" were sending me messages on FB introducing me to their friends who were going through problems and wanted me to help their friends ... to give their friends advice, to partner with their friends to help them through something, to mentor their friends.
I tried to get involved in a couple carer support groups and within seconds I was being asked to help other carers with the people they care for. In one instance I was asked (by the support organisation) to organise an event at my work to raise awareness for the support organisation. I kinda lost my cool when I was sent several emails one after the other pestering me to organise the event.
I think we radiate "I am a carer" out to the world or something.
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Rosemarie - Big hugs! You are going through exactly the same thing as my friend L. Today is two years since her partner died suddenly. Her overwhelming grief is only now beginning to be copable with and she still hasn't done much decluttering at all. Her partner's stuff is everywhere. I know she wants to, but she is paralysed.
The course that DrKatie recommends should be a good one. It works on the idea of 'body doubling', in that you are effectively doing it with mentors and other people, which helps enormously. Jan 13th. I watch their normal videos all the time and have gained great insight and support from them. I have Dana's book, 'Decluttering at the Speed of Life', which is excellent.
My friend G has used a hired 'body double', who is just a student she found on local FB. He doesn't make decisions, but is there with her, and can carry heavier objects. She can't do it on her own, but finds another person just being there very helpful. He is a student, so very cheap.
I'm glad you have the Facebook group. Lean on anything and anyone you can. The friendly faces of Cas, Dana, and Minimal Mom, have got me through many a difficult moment, just for company in a dark night. Remi Clog is also very likeable.
Wish I could be your body double! I have done it a bit on WhatsApp with L, by just getting her to send before and after photos of her kitchen drawers, and being a cheerleader when she sold a wok on Facebook. It is very slow going though.
Join the Take Your House Back group before the offer expires. You are worth it!
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Good morning ladies!
Well, the hospice nurse says mom is down to a few days left. So the task is to keep her sedated and comfortable. I am sleeping on the chair again and dosing her every three hours.
Dad is more and more divorced from reality. He asked about chemotherapy for her last night. We decided together not to do that a few weeks back. The minister is coming today. Dad said he didn't want to do a final blessing yet, because he wasn't ready to " give up". But we gave up on healing weeks ago when we decided on hospice. Dad's dementia has erased the uncomfortable discussions. Now he has to accept her death all over again.
My sister goes home on Thursday, unless things change. So I would like a sitter for an hour in the morning, for my medical appointment, and for an hour and a half in the afternoon for horseback riding, if I can swing that. Maybe dad can do it, maybe not. My sister was getting mom and dad to sit together, and now Dad keeps saying Mom wants to sit up. She can't, she is dead weight. And he can't manage her alone. I'm afraid he will try and she will end up on the floor again.
My approach is to let her sleep. Just hold her hand once in awhile. I think I have already been through goodbye.
I'm afraid Dad will become unmanageable. But first we get through this. The hospice nurse is coming back today, and the minister, and a friend is dropping off soup. I need to go get groceries early. I guess my goal today is to manage dad, and keep mom comfortable. I was sort of relying on the minister to counsel dad, but it's too easy for him to withdraw. And my other goal is to put some pants on mom and maybe a clean top before the minister arrives.
I wrote another book, sorry. Thank you all for your patience and compassion.
Have a great day!
Annie in Delaware
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Rosemarie: Lots of good advice given already. Grief is very personal. I’m sure your son would want you to be comfortable in your own home. Ask him for help.
I’m planning a day of general decluttering, and putting items away. DH has his Badminton lunch today, so I will be uninterrupted 😝
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »Good morning ladies!
Well, the hospice nurse says mom is down to a few days left. So the task is to keep her sedated and comfortable. I am sleeping on the chair again and dosing her every three hours.
Dad is more and more divorced from reality. He asked about chemotherapy for her last night. We decided together not to do that a few weeks back. The minister is coming today. Dad said he didn't want to do a final blessing yet, because he wasn't ready to " give up". But we gave up on healing weeks ago when we decided on hospice. Dad's dementia has erased the uncomfortable discussions. Now he has to accept her death all over again.
My sister goes home on Thursday, unless things change. So I would like a sitter for an hour in the morning, for my medical appointment, and for an hour and a half in the afternoon for horseback riding, if I can swing that. Maybe dad can do it, maybe not. My sister was getting mom and dad to sit together, and now Dad keeps saying Mom wants to sit up. She can't, she is dead weight. And he can't manage her alone. I'm afraid he will try and she will end up on the floor again.
My approach is to let her sleep. Just hold her hand once in awhile. I think I have already been through goodbye.
I'm afraid Dad will become unmanageable. But first we get through this. The hospice nurse is coming back today, and the minister, and a friend is dropping off soup. I need to go get groceries early. I guess my goal today is to manage dad, and keep mom comfortable. I was sort of relying on the minister to counsel dad, but it's too easy for him to withdraw. And my other goal is to put some pants on mom and maybe a clean top before the minister arrives.
I wrote another book, sorry. Thank you all for your patience and compassion.
Have a great day!
Annie in Delaware
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Gratitudes:
Monday 12/11: GodDaughter M and her kids in my life… just a little
Rita when Joe and I married, I got my first washer/dryer set, and swore like Scarlett that as God was my witness I’d never go to the laundromat again!
Barbie wish I’d done that 8AM Saturday contact with Mama. Yours about the schedule and investing our time/selves in what is really important.
Michele “Yippee!!!! We made the pierogi today AND ONE BROKE!!!!” :laugh: Bet I know what happened to it. “5000 sq ft” house? WOW. :noway: When we went from 3600 to 1400 thought I’d died and gone to heaven.
Kelly TV interview and starting a book? WOW! You do not sound like a crazy person who lets kids play with trash, you sound like an intelligent woman inspiring the kids in her care in imaginative ways. Bravissima!
Heather, Terri thanks for the wastage/weight bearing reminder. Thankful that my strengthening PT doesn’t trigger my shin pain. Seems like the flexing/stretching exercises could be the culprit as it returned (mildly) this week.
Lanette I’m sure your right about the walking workouts and balance, as well as farmer grandmothers. Wherever did you find your Christmas tree? :laugh: “I didn't carry weights when I was "street walking".” ROTFLMAOWMP!
Kay your Christmas outfit. Insightful seven core areas.
Belated welcome @maureenbarry750 ! Those are two powerful motivations.
Pip your back patio decorations and plant shelves.
Belated best birthday wishes Ginny!
Allie, Lisa, Michele: Katla is in a safe place with her daughter and grands nearby, but misses her mfp friends and Oregon. Don’t know how her husband is doing.
Kim good to see you posting. Our firehouse kept its landline for the same reason, but recently the carrier switched from copper to fiber/voip so if the power fails due to disaster so will the landline. Time to make friends with the local ham radio club ;}
Carol so sorry about the Walmart delivery. Hope you used a credit card and can dispute the charge since the product was never received.
Rosemarie sorry to hear you are so very tired. You might not feel “depressed” but you’ve been through a great loss and this may be your body’s way of coping. After Papa passed, Mama slept the entire summer. ((hugs))
Luanne in Shenandoah Valley “Well, I'm logging my meals. That's a start, right? Awareness?” YES! Awareness is the crucial first step. Well done!
Machka thanks for the dehydration/cartilage/inflammation info.
Heather, Ginny and Betsy, yours to Rosemarie. Well said.
Through pg 29, time to snooze.12/10: Move: ZERO sets PT, , Jeopardy walking. Steps:7259Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=6 CI<CO net=205 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AF, ptT, ptS, H, church and council, shopped Gold Beach craft fair. Wt:129.0
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
December: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings, meditate 3 minutes/day. Open heart and mind before mouth.
2023: Be of good cheer.
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Annie: Good Morning. I hope you were able to get some sleep. I hope you take time to eat. breakfast and all the meals today. You are a great care giver and doing a fine job. Peace for your family and especially for your Dad.
Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions! The course can be done by paying 30 something dollars a month so I will sign up today!
Just clearing the mantle has helped. The tv is on an old kitchen table and this blocks the fire place. I see for 100 dollars I can get a minimalist tv stand. I am looking into this.
Thank you
Rosemarie from Georgia5 -
Max is here. He arrived in a downpour and his anorak was soaking wet. Luckily the inside stayed dry. It's on the radiator now. I will order an Uber to get to the restaurant. Not the day for braving the weather. Wind and rain.
I can hear him and John chatting away downstairs.
Annie - My thoughts are with you.
Love to everyone, Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Good Tuesday,
Rosemarie I just wanted to jump into your car with you and hold you when i read your post! (((HUGS)))I am late to give suggestions and it seems a lot of us are of like minds. Even one thing at a time like the mantle is great. You have to eat the elephant one bite at a time. I love Cas and Dana! Cas with Clutterbug helped me realize I am not lazy or disorganized (most of the time) , I just have a different organizing style than my DH. When I needed to organize "my" room years ago, I put everything out in the hall, then figured out what and how things went back in. I can't do this when DH is home. He keeps everything, usually in twos or threes! While your son may be "on vacation" I agree with asking him for some help. He may surprise you. Maybe ask him to help in the area you spend the most time in outside of the bedroom. I love Machka's (?)suggestion of putting things in a different room that you are unsure of just to clear a space for you. We are all offering hugs and support. Pop in often if only to say you need a hug.
Barbara[b/]- Thank you for Katla update. I know she misses Oregon, but am happy she is in a safe place.
[bIAnnie Continued hugs for you also (((HUGS))) You are between a rock and a hard spot. I think finding someone to sit with your dad, even after mom passes, is a great idea. Maybe the minister could come in once or twice a week to visit for an hour or so to give you some time. You are doing an amazing job caring for them both. Remember to care for you too! You are important to us.
I am feeling better. Need to figure out cause for yeasts. So frustrating.
I use few chemicals in my house...dishwasher detergent and toilet bowl cleaner. I use mainly Norwex products. Any suggestions for a natural cleaner for cabinets and flat surfaces? I am looking forward to a deep clean when Christmas comes down. I realized to other day that my hallway wall still has the dirt on it from where my German Shepard use to lay against the wall. I can keep things picked up, but dusting or deep cleaning are low on my list which isn't good since DH is allergic to dust mites. So suggestions would be great! Thank you!
I need to set up bloodwork appointment. Ugh. Procrastination rearing it's head again. Need to get moving for today.
Lots of love and respect for all of you ladies!
Kylia in Ohio where winter has arrived for the second day
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Rosemarie- Yay! One small step at a time!2
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Annie: Good Morning. I hope you were able to get some sleep. I hope you take time to eat. breakfast and all the meals today. You are a great care giver and doing a fine job. Peace for your family and especially for your Dad.
Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions! The course can be done by paying 30 something dollars a month so I will sign up today!
Just clearing the mantle has helped. The tv is on an old kitchen table and this blocks the fire place. I see for 100 dollars I can get a minimalist tv stand. I am looking into this.
Thank you
Rosemarie from Georgia
We have "tip shops" and "op shops" here. Tip shops are at each rubbish dump. Instead of bringing stuff to be put into the rubbish dump, they take it to the tip shop (recovery and recycling) place next to the rubbish dump where it is sold for a greatly reduced price. We can get all sorts of stuff at a tip shop and I have picked up a couple antique tables ... and lots of other things like CDs, DVDs, my laptop table, etc.
Op shops are thrift shops which usually have a lot if clothing and books but also furniture sometimes.
If you have anything like that in your area, check them out. You might be able to find a nice TV stand for half that price.
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Good Tuesday,
Rosemarie I just wanted to jump into your car with you and hold you when i read your post! (((HUGS)))I am late to give suggestions and it seems a lot of us are of like minds. Even one thing at a time like the mantle is great. You have to eat the elephant one bite at a time. I love Cas and Dana! Cas with Clutterbug helped me realize I am not lazy or disorganized (most of the time) , I just have a different organizing style than my DH. When I needed to organize "my" room years ago, I put everything out in the hall, then figured out what and how things went back in. I can't do this when DH is home. He keeps everything, usually in twos or threes! While your son may be "on vacation" I agree with asking him for some help. He may surprise you. Maybe ask him to help in the area you spend the most time in outside of the bedroom. I love Machka's (?)suggestion of putting things in a different room that you are unsure of just to clear a space for you. We are all offering hugs and support. Pop in often if only to say you need a hug.
Barbara[b/]- Thank you for Katla update. I know she misses Oregon, but am happy she is in a safe place.
[bIAnnie Continued hugs for you also (((HUGS))) You are between a rock and a hard spot. I think finding someone to sit with your dad, even after mom passes, is a great idea. Maybe the minister could come in once or twice a week to visit for an hour or so to give you some time. You are doing an amazing job caring for them both. Remember to care for you too! You are important to us.
I am feeling better. Need to figure out cause for yeasts. So frustrating.
I use few chemicals in my house...dishwasher detergent and toilet bowl cleaner. I use mainly Norwex products. Any suggestions for a natural cleaner for cabinets and flat surfaces? I am looking forward to a deep clean when Christmas comes down. I realized to other day that my hallway wall still has the dirt on it from where my German Shepard use to lay against the wall. I can keep things picked up, but dusting or deep cleaning are low on my list which isn't good since DH is allergic to dust mites. So suggestions would be great! Thank you!
I need to set up bloodwork appointment. Ugh. Procrastination rearing it's head again. Need to get moving for today.
Lots of love and respect for all of you ladies!
Kylia in Ohio where winter has arrived for the second day
Natural cleaners? Vinegar and baking soda.
M in Oz4 -
Had a great day at work coding with SQL. I was able to do some things I have not done before. I feel like I leveled up in the SQL game!
At home, we've started watching Christmas movies.
Plus I worked on laundry, tidied the area around my chair, did a bit with my cycling club, coloured and read.
I walked a little over 30 km and climbed 20 flights of stairs.
M in Oz4 -
Kylia - I use a spray bottle of dish soap, vinegar, rubbing alcohol and water. Good for everything except windows and mirrors.
It smells like window cleaner.
Bicarb and vinegar should not be used together, despite YouTube videos, as one is acid and one alkaline, so they cancel each other out! Both good at separate tasks.
I will see if I can find the exact recipe..
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Good morning, Collette is coming today so I'm getting things picked up and counters cleaned off.
Rosemarie - isn't this a neat group of gals? Sounds like you have settled on getting some assistance in decluttering.
Also, I am surprised that others think you are up to helping with caregiving at this time. I would have been irked like Machka was. Already busy with her husband and sorting out her own life. Some people are natural born caregivers and would love to be in a position to help, but I don't think I can ever go that route again, although I enjoyed being a hospice volunteer.
Annie - thank you for the update on your mom, I am so happy to hear people are gathering around you in your mom's final days. (((HUGS)))) I would love to sit with your mom and be a companion for your dad during this time. During the final days of my mom's life, my dad was a basket case and he didn't have diagnosed dementia, but his thinking was certainly all messed up. Looking back, I wish I could have done a better job in being a support for him, but I know he appreciated just having me fly back to Indiana and being close.
Before I forget - regarding decluttering - I discovered the "Free Box" outside the dog groomer's, where I'd been dropping off some of my husband's clothing and even food bags, is being constantly raided by a gal who lives across the road from the box. As soon as people drop things off, she scoots over and hauls the nice stuff to her place, sorts through it, sells some things on Ebay and who knows what happens to the rest. . And here I thought poor people were stopping by to grab a jacket or pair of slippers for themselves. Those of us who thought the same thing aren't too happy about it, and her reasoning is "well, it's free, so why not?" This discussion took place in the community section on Facebook.
But, I know several other places in town that do have a free monitored clothing bank and I'll just rearrange my schedule and drop items off there since they generally don't open until later in the morning. And I'll still drop off items at the thrift stores that support the senior centers and charities.
Machka - I love the idea of your "ops shop" and "tip shop".
Michele - regarding that shot. My doc says that being around other people and being exposed to their germs actually strengthens our immune system. Maybe that's your doctor's reasoning. I would imagine you, being around a lot of people, have probably been exposed to every germ known to man by now and have generously shared them with Vince.
Better get crackin'. Make it a great day, ladies!
Lanette
SW WA State
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My sink has never been so shiny!!! Cleans most things. For windows and mirrors, leave out the dish soap.
I bought spray bottles from Amazon.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx2 -
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Hugs to Annie and Rosemary, especially. Such difficult times. Annie, your dad's reaction is heartbreaking. I feel so bad for him and his limited understanding of what is happening. I'm thankful your mom is comfortable. You are doing a lovely service caring for her and your dad during this time. Take care of yourself, too, as you are able.
My mom died a year ago on December 17. The days leading up to that were rough, as I reflected on those final days with her, but I am feeling better now.
Take care everyone.
Flea
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Annie - Glad you have some help, for however small a space of time... Take every bit of time away that you can, and bank your own mental and emotional strength for the days to come.. So many hugs for you and your sister and your dad.
Kylia -My biggest tip for cleaning in the sense you're talking about is to do it in small doses. I have always been reluctant to clean walls, etc., because once I start, it's very hard to stop. It's one of the few true gifts the pain gave me. Now I try to clean a particular space (like one hallway wall, not an entire room) and then I make myself stop. In the past, because I wanted to do a "deep clean," I knew it would take hours. However, I can deep clean one wall and baseboard in five minutes! Hardest lesson I've had to learn, in all actuality. It accomplishes much more, in the end, because I don't end up exhausted and in pain and ignoring it for the next six months, because I want to clean the entire space. When I notice it, I clean it, and then maybe clean another wall tomorrow, or the next day. I can vacuum one room, I don't have to vacuum the whole house! Not saying this is easy--and, because I'm also the queen of procrastination, it's much easier to wait until after Christmas...
Barbara AHMOD - Thank you for the Katla update. I think of her often.
Rosemarie - Well done on the mantelpiece, and on signing up for the decluttering! Every single step is a step forward, and every step forward is a step toward being happy again. I have a feeling you are a very happy person. If you have an iPhone, an Apple watch is a good fit to work on your fitness levels... and if you have a Droid phone, a Fitbit watch is a great fit--I've got mine set to remind me to get up and walk every hour, as well. It does help.
Allie - Perspective is a good thing, but there's no need to apologize for talking about your troubles here. "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..." is a favorite quote. By talking about it here, your pain is lessened, and by listening and responding to others, their pain is also helped. It's also the place to come to share Miles' smiles... and they are such a balm to the heart! It's a great balance, in the end...
Rebecca - Keep forgetting to say that I just loved the pictures of the Christmas lights and you and your friend enjoying yourselves. I love the fact that you've got someone there to enjoy eating out with and spending time driving around to see the lights!
More in a bit...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR5 -
(((Carol)))
(((Vickie)))
So hard to have loved ones suffering!
Dh has a dental visit tomorrow. They sent a list of procedures to be done as a pre estimate. They listed a fluoride treatment. I told him to tell them NO! He had thyroid issues and cancer. His poor liver has enough to deal with all the pharma they have him taking.
It is hard for me to keep quiet. The more I learn how toxic cancer treatment is the more I would like DH find other treatment. The best I can do for myself is lighten my own exposure to toxins. I have never had a Fluoride treatment at the dentist. There is more than enough in our water. I do not even use toothpaste. I use coconut oil and occasionally baking soda.
I am under 180 now since I started limiting grains. I have eliminated wheat! In the process it does limit sugar too. Sugar is next on the list! If I can stick to it that is better than a Fluoride treatment for my teeth.
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Carol - so sorry to hear about your BIL. Prayers for you, your husband and the family, they've been through a lot. Hope the lunch with your sis and niece goes well.
Vicki - also sad news about your brother's wife. Hopefully she's under good care and will pull out of it OK.
Rebecca - what a nice picture of you and your friend at lunch. Love your hair, you both looked so happy and relaxed. Nice meals!
Rosemarie - Everyone advised me - don't make any major changes for at least a year after my husband passed. It took me a year and a half to decide I didn't need a lot of this clothing still taking up room in our closet. That was a start and that's enough for now. I sold items taking up space in the shop - his truck, drum collection. They meant nothing to me, had no memories in common. I'm glad I'm able to take my time and take things in stages. It's only in the past couple months that I've felt comfortable saying "my house, my car" instead of "our." Lisa has a great take on your son's and DIL's upcoming visit.
Lisa - hoping the acupuncture kicks in for you.
OK, good visit with Dr. Matt this morning:
He's very supportive of my "House Walking" and said "You're crushing it!" . I knew that would be his reaction. He's in his early to mid 40's and it's neat having healthcare providers that could be my kids, LOL. I love his energy.
He said DON'T LOSE WEIGHT! As some of us have discussed in this thread recently, unless there's a medical reason to lose it, focus instead on being active - whatever that means to each of us - the gym, walking, treadmill, whatever resistance type training we can get in ... and eating plenty of protein. Crash-type diets can result in muscle loss (sarcopenia) and we don't want that for many reasons as we get older. That smartbmicalculator.com is right on the money.
We talked about intermittent fasting and I told him I normally have a 12 hour gap between finishing supper and eating breakfast, maybe longer if I'm not hungry for some reason in the morning. He said OK to throw in a 16 hr every once in a while, but for my age, (72) I'm getting plenty of benefits going 12 to 14 hours, no need to be stricter. I told him I'm usually getting at least 80 gm of protein and he said that's great and breakfast is important for me.
We talked about adding heavier weights as I walked. He said when I felt strong enough, it was OK to pick up 8# bar bells in each hand and walk, but he said to do it "farmer style" - just holding them at my sides. And concentrate on good posture.
I showed him what I was doing right now, holding 3# or 5# weights and doing slow bicep curls or other movements with my arms and wrists to strengthen my wrists and biceps. He grabbed the instrument he had to measure my grip (a gripometer? LOL!) - right hand gripped 61 lbs, left hand 30 lbs. No surprise there since I'm right-handed. He said walking and holding heavy weights like that should really improve my hand strength over time and I should be able to unscrew jar lids. A bonus I hadn't thought of.
He takes good notes and went over problems I was having last time - bloating, foot pain which have gotten better.
I see him again in 4 months.
That's a wrap.
Lanette
SW WA State
You should have seen us after we finished!!. Happy ramen food coma.😁🤗. Then as I paid, I picked up some Japanese treats. The bowl of ramen $20, gyoza $15, drink unknown, treats (not saying), paid the 20% tip because you know I was in that happy food coma!! My receipt said $71 and I don't know what happened.😂. Husband was stunned but heck it only happens every couple of months. I have declared her my ramen buddy and we are required to go periodically for my mental health.💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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2023 December Kindness
Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the Christmas Season.16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you meet today. My goal always!
Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%,100,100,83%
Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap!
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min /23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min /20
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
4 months SOBER!
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5907,5777,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%-84% 5882-)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (10,00%) 50%
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 229/208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change, 100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)99/96 100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2, 173.4, 173.4 (600%) 100%,100%
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 12/23. (681%,100,100,83)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 50/12
(100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 12/12—(100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0,0
500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met——99%
October met —90.7%
November met—75%
December met—
1.Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others. Sharing with my MFP friends.
2. Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are doing. Forgot to do this yesterday. Hope to do it today. I did this on Sunday 12/3.
3. Offer to help someone who is facing difficulties at the moment. Helped my fellow host in learning what to do in 2 separate incidents with campers.
4. Support a campaign, cause, or charity you really care about.
5. Give a gift to someone who is homeless or lonely. Did not do this. No chance to.
6. Leave a positive message for someone else to find. Did this yesterday.
7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. I will try. A bit down today. Not feeling well.
8. Do something helpful for a friend or family member. Will do!
9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead. I will try to remember.
10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them. I need to learn to do this more.
11. But an extra item and donate to a food bank. Did not have a chance to do this today.
12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love or kindness today.
13. See how many be people you can smile at today. I didn’t count, but smiled at ask the hospital employees I meet yesterday while getting eye surgery.
14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one. Will do!
15. Say hello to your neighbor and brighten their day. Sounds like a plan for today!
17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you. Will do this in my journal.
18. Ask for help and let someone else know the how of giving.
19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated.20. Help someone by giving away something you don’t need.
21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you.
22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
24. Bring joy to others. Share something that made you laugh.
25. Treat everyone with kindness including yourself.
26. Get outside, pick up litter or do something kind for nature.
27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat.
28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
29. Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.
30. Let someone know how much you appreciated them and why.
31. Plan some new acts of kindness for 2024.
The results of your personality test are in. Here they are:
Personality type: Logistician (ISTJ-T) Traits: Introverted – 69%, Observant – 58%, Thinking – 75%, Judging – 56%, Turbulent – 54% Role: Sentinel Strategy: Constant Improvement
Joined MFPL 5/26/20102 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Annie - Glad you have some help, for however small a space of time... Take every bit of time away that you can, and bank your own mental and emotional strength for the days to come.. So many hugs for you and your sister and your dad.
Kylia -My biggest tip for cleaning in the sense you're talking about is to do it in small doses. I have always been reluctant to clean walls, etc., because once I start, it's very hard to stop. It's one of the few true gifts the pain gave me. Now I try to clean a particular space (like one hallway wall, not an entire room) and then I make myself stop. In the past, because I wanted to do a "deep clean," I knew it would take hours. However, I can deep clean one wall and baseboard in five minutes! Hardest lesson I've had to learn, in all actuality. It accomplishes much more, in the end, because I don't end up exhausted and in pain and ignoring it for the next six months, because I want to clean the entire space. When I notice it, I clean it, and then maybe clean another wall tomorrow, or the next day. I can vacuum one room, I don't have to vacuum the whole house! Not saying this is easy--and, because I'm also the queen of procrastination, it's much easier to wait until after Christmas...
Barbara AHMOD - Thank you for the Katla update. I think of her often.
Rosemarie - Well done on the mantelpiece, and on signing up for the decluttering! Every single step is a step forward, and every step forward is a step toward being happy again. I have a feeling you are a very happy person. If you have an iPhone, an Apple watch is a good fit to work on your fitness levels... and if you have a Droid phone, a Fitbit watch is a great fit--I've got mine set to remind me to get up and walk every hour, as well. It does help.
Allie - Perspective is a good thing, but there's no need to apologize for talking about your troubles here. "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..." is a favorite quote. By talking about it here, your pain is lessened, and by listening and responding to others, their pain is also helped. It's also the place to come to share Miles' smiles... and they are such a balm to the heart! It's a great balance, in the end...
Rebecca - Keep forgetting to say that I just loved the pictures of the Christmas lights and you and your friend enjoying yourselves. I love the fact that you've got someone there to enjoy eating out with and spending time driving around to see the lights!
More in a bit...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
We both have spouses that would probably slow to 40 mph and say ooh once and be done with it. So yes we got to enjoy them, heck even get out of the car! 😁
Rebecca
Whidbey
Ws6
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