Fit For Future Families - May 2011

minni2906

Thanks for all the welcomes!!

I'm just getting back into the groove of things since getting married. My aunt told me to really work on strengthening my ab muscles for that day when hopefully we can conceive. I just recently got off of the depo shot, mainly because it was effecting my bone density, which is pretty scary considering I'm only 22! Hubby and I are debating TTC in August or Sept... :]

Soo. How's everything work here? Goals? Check ins? :]

JessicaBuff

Is it possible to become less fertile after gaining weight? I have 3 kids now, and they all happened easily..But i have been ttc a year now and the only thing i can figure is my weight...My doc was totally rude when i went in about my period bein irregular and not being able to concieve..He said that i was obviously fertile cause i have 3 kids..And my period didnt have anything to do with it....WHAT????!!!! That makes no sense to me! Anyway im just venting...Bout to leave and get the kids from school..TTYL

jalara

mimmi - we weigh in on Mondays and each of us set our own goals for the week.

Jessica - yes, weight can affect fertility. Were your cycles normal before you had your 3 other children? I would be either a) asserting myself with my doc and letting him know that you know your body, your cycles, and that you've been trying for a year and aren't pregnant (meaning that something is up), or b) finding another doctor

Recently I had to assert myself with my doc, and I did it nicely but firmly. I told her I felt like she was being dismissive and that I know what I'm talking about and would like her to give me her full attention and hear what I'm saying so that TOGETHER we can figure things out. She was really embarrassed and changed her tune pretty quickly!

carina73

Recently I had to assert myself with my doc, and I did it nicely but firmly. I told her I felt like she was being dismissive and that I know what I'm talking about and would like her to give me her full attention and hear what I'm saying so that TOGETHER we can figure things out. She was really embarrassed and changed her tune pretty quickly!

WTG! great choice of words! I'm glad she had the decency to be embarrassed, and become the Dr you need her to be. Most Dr's have a superiority complex.

jalara

Thanks Carina!

Goal Check:
8 cups of water a day (I've been slacking) 4/4days
Workout 4 days 2/4days
Get a calorie burn above 400 for each workout 2/4days
Log food every day 4/4days
Stay under calories 4 times 2/4days

fitterpam

Change of plans on the aquafit for tonight. I think I would be pretty upset if someone showed up in my condition so I'm not going tonight. My nose feels like someone turned on a faucet and my left sinus' are pretty swollen; I feel like I got hit with a bat. Gosh, I hope this clears up soon. I am going on a business trip in 2 weeks and I really don't want to be caught in a situation of having to go to an ER while out of the country (I'm covered, but still!!!) Doing everything I can to make this clear up quickly. All I want to do right now is take a steamy bath and go to bed....We even got take out for dinner....all I wanted was soup and a sandwich....I hate this crap!!! I don`t even remember what my goals are right now and I`m pretty sure I posted them on the fridge door (so every time I have to grab something I make sure it will help me achieve my goals)....blah!!!!!!!!

Minni - I was talking to an old boss of mine that had one of those mothers that worked right up until she delivered and then went back to the fields. His point was that the work they were doing in the fields (squats and bends and lifts and twists) kept their muscles in such great shape that labour was manageable and recovery time was next to nothing. I can see how that would help - your Aunt is probably on to something there. I know I`m doing my squats, lunges, twists and pushes every day!!!)

AlisaToth

Pam - - Sorry your feel gross! I have been battling an allergy cough in my chest....NEVER fun having breathing issues!

Kah - i can't believe how particular these clinics are for specific cycle days! I would have had a COW!

Jessica - I had to change Dr.'s bc the one I started seeing first told me that going 50+ days between periods was normal...On What Planet??? Unfortunately too many bad apples ruin the bunch and i'm sure most of these Dr. don't deal with a lot of women who actually know and understands the in's and out's of fertility so they treat everyone like they're idiots...

AFM - FF changed and says that I didn't ovulate last week...however, all the NASTY PMS symptoms are here....HUGE craving for Chocolate, MAD crazy moodswings...I feel bad for the people around me...I think i've randomly freaked out on my son (that was not justifiably brought upon himself) more than I'd like to admit.
Worked out with my trainer today....holy moly she kicked my *kitten*! She did tell me that I needed to scale back on my carbs for until my husband gets home....So I can really do some uber-fat burning over the next 16 weeks. I can still have carb-y vegetables but no bread or pasta....:sad: :sad:

I also wanted to thank all of you guys for your suggestions for me and the hubs! It really means a lot to me. I had to write him an email last night to express what I need from him emotionally while he's gone...Kind of had a little emotional break down...I was having a hard time "opening up" to him...I told him that i could go as long as he needed me to w/o "BD"ing however 6+ months of no intimacy is just cruel. So he said he was writing me a love letter...I thought that was a sweet gesture. I'm also going to mail him a book called the "Love Languages" I thought it would be interesting to see what kind of lovers we are...I told him it would be helpful for when he comes home to know how the other one needs to be "loved"

andreamichelle82

I'm also going to mail him a book called the "Love Languages" I thought it would be interesting to see what kind of lovers we are...I told him it would be helpful for when he comes home to know how the other one needs to be "loved"

GREAT book! Glad you are reading it

andreamichelle82

Feel better, Pam! :flowerforyou:

fitterpam

Thanks guys - I drowned myself in decongestant last night and it seems to have helped. I took a hot bath and thankfully I must not have enough mucous in my lungs yet to cause issues so I think that really helped. I woke up this morning and things are definitely loosening up so thats a good thing. My head still feels like a bubble though and I feel guilty for missing aquafit yesterday (but I would have had to have my rescue inhaler on me in the pool and even then my nose was dripping and that would just have been gross for everyone else that was in the water). I might be able to try the aquaZumba tomorrow morning...that's my goal if I can get this cleared up....

Alisa - my last cycle was similar - do you see any pattern that the tool doesn't at this point? I found that I was able to manually override and it was accurate. It removes it, I think, when you hit that 18dpo and there's no sign that you're possible pg because 18dpo is typically considered pg. That book sounds fabulous!!! What a great idea!!!

kah78

Hi all! Well, the sun is shining again today--literally and figuratively--I'll take both. I'm still disappointed about having to wait another month, but I'm back to me again, which is nice. I'm not weighing in today--I figure it will be artificially low, so I'll wait a week to let my body adjust, rather than have a great week this week and then gain next week and be all sad.

Jalara--I just had to say--the whole wooden nativity breakdown--that just sounds like classic Clom-ID crappiness messing with you. That used to happen to me when I was on Clomid--I never knew what would set me off, and then you add the stress of TTC and the normal PMS stuff on top and it is a perfect storm. And now that I am off of it, and remember what it was like, it is even clearer to me than when I was going through it. Be gentle with yourself and your expectations of yourself when you are on it, ok? It may be a necessary evil, but never doubt the evil part! Hugs! (That's my silver lining I guess--I get to put off the Clomid for another month. Not a great silver lining, but I'm just trying to find the positives.)

Alisa-- I love the love letter! Well, just written letters in general. The immediacy of email and skype and everything is great in some ways, but the process of sitting down and writing a letter, and then getting it on the other end....there is just nothing like it. I still have every letter that my (now) husband wrote to me while we were friends/dating from a long distance. I hope that works well for you.

Pam--feel better!

I haven't caught up on everything everyone has written during my "wretch" of a time earlier this week. Hope everyone else is doing well....I love the Harry Potter houses. Too lazy to get into one myself though....sigh. Haha.

minni2906

Jalara - Thanks. I guess I'll wait til Monday to start since this week is pretty much done.

Pam - So sorry to hear you're feeling horrible. I dealt with that while I was on my honeymoon, and even for a week after we got back. It's horrible. I don't think I would wish sickness on my worst enemy!! In other news, that is exactly what my aunt said. I'm really hoping she's right because I can't even watch 16 and pregnant without feeling their pain, how am I going to go through it myself!!!!! And, on top of that, twins run in my family. There is a chance I might be next to have them... Haha. Scary thought, though I'd probably love it. :]

jalara

Minni - congrats on your recent wedding! I was just married in August Hope your day was wonderful.

Pam - feel better soon!

Kah - thank you!

AFM - I broke down again last night. My poor husband must think I'm losing my mind. Today I laid in bed for a VERY long time just trying to mope so I could get up and feel a bit better. I'm not sure if it worked, but we'll see. I also start round 4 of Clomid today. Oh joy Oh bliss. To tell you the truth, I don't really want to. I was supposed to see me doc before starting round 4 but my appointment got bumped to next week so...:grumble:

I talked to our social worker today and we've finished everything we can for now (Child Abuse Registry check, Criminal Records Check, application, intake questions, etc), and now we wait. So now what? Do I just call every few months to let them know we're still here and still interested?

For the move at the end of the month I hired cleaners today, and we're hiring someone to do our carpets, and now I'm waiting to hear back from movers on quotes to help (being a weekday that we have to move makes it more difficult). It's nice to not have to do everything ourselves, but poor DH! I'll be in my clinical at one of the hospitals on moving day and he'll be here doing it with just him, a girlfriend of mine (who is unemployed) and whoever we can hire to help us move on a Tuesday.

I'm picking DH up and we're heading to the gym together tonight - I plan to go for 40 - 45 minutes to give me my target 400 burn.

TGIF!

andreamichelle82

Hi ladies! Happy Friday!

Jalara and Minni – A few newlyweds  I just married in September! Congrats on your nuptials, ladies!

Jalara, From what I’ve seen on this board for Clomid, a few breakdowns are expected, don’t feel bad! I wish I advice on the adoption follow through, but I don’t. Checking in every few months sounds right to me.

Karen, Glad the sun is back out for you! It is out here and gorgeous, finally! Glad you are feeling better as well. You are stronger than I – I would have weighed in!!!

Pam, Do you guys have Mucinex in Canada? That helps me get rid of stuff like that quickly. Glad you were able to relax a little!

AFM, I went to my gyno yesterday, and found out I have a cervical infection (ew) that he said wasn’t a big deal, but could keep me from getting pregnant. While upsetting to hear, it’s just a treatment for 5 days and I should be good. I brought in my temp charts from January til now, and he said that they look good and that it looks like I’m ovulating fine. Since I usually O on day 16 or 17, to abstain days 14 and 15 then BD 16, 17, and 18. He is also having DH give some sperms, so he is doing that Tuesday. DH is someone who likes to find problems, so he was willing to go do the deed. Luckily, he can make the deposit at home, then drive it in. I’m on CD 25, 7 DPO now, but pretty sure I have no hope this month bc of the infection. Oh well!

AlisaToth

Pam - Unfortunately bc since i've been tracking temps since November which is when my cycles started FREAKING out on me, i don't really have a pattern aside from the fact that I haven't been Oing until ATLEAST CD35+. My temps spiked for 2 days then dropped back down. I am going to get a new thermometer tonight though bc i think the battery is low in the one i'm using right now...

Jalara - I have random break downs like that and i'm not even on anything...Lord help my husband if we have to go that route....

Kah - Glad to see you're feeling better! I would be curious to know what i weighed after a bout' of the flu....always makes me feel skinny and that i know at somepoint i can get to that weight!

AFM - The doc called and he hasn't gotten my CD21 progesterone level results in yet, but he did say that my "antogens were a little elevated" I have NO CLUE what that means....he said we'd discuss it more at my appointment on Tuesday. He said it's not an alarming level, but higher than normal non-the less....for the love of mike I wish I had a clue what the heck that meant!!

So...for those of you low carb-ers....how long until the carb cravings stop...I think it's mostly my brain/rebelious nature but all i want to do is sit on my couch and eat a big loaf of french bread....

fitterpam

Thanks guys - I stayed home today. There was just too much pressure in my head to think clearly. Just got up and had a steamy bath and that has released the pressure, but I hear the crackling now in my chest. I called my doctor yesterday and she cannot see me until Wed (even then I'm seeing a different doctor).....that's ridiculous!!! Taking all my inhalers in a final effort to stave off a full blown brochial infection....this sucks.

Andrea - we do have Mucinex (I think, but in the past, the doctor doesn't want me taking it, they want the phlegm which has infections in it out of my lungs, so I have to take an expectorant instead.....) I'll see how the Benydryl works and then go from there. Feeling a little better now, but I can already feel the sinus' filling back up. Glad that it's a quick fix for the infection!

Jalara - at least the move gives you something new to focus on....that's exciting (but I absolutely abhor moving!!! LOL I even skipped out on helping my brother last weekend....

Alisa - isn't that the second one??? Is it maybe that the batteries in that brand is just weak maybe? Antigen: A protein, toxin, or other substance that makes the body react by producing antibodies. So you might be fighting something off....As for me, I still crave things like crazy, but I've found subs like spaghetti squash, etc. really help

kah78

Mmmm.....a loaf of french bread. Me and french bread are like Homer Simpson and donuts.

andreamichelle82

Andrea - we do have Mucinex (I think, but in the past, the doctor doesn't want me taking it, they want the phlegm which has infections in it out of my lungs, so I have to take an expectorant instead.....) I'll see how the Benydryl works and then go from there. Feeling a little better now, but I can already feel the sinus' filling back up. Glad that it's a quick fix for the infection!

Hmm, the Mucinex that I use IS an expectorant! Funny!:laugh:

fitterpam

Andrea - Maybe I haven't just looked at it. The commercials make it seem like the kind that dry up the mucous, not make you get rid of it....I might send hubs out for it tonight. He got me Cough and Chest congestion.....the congestion's in my sinus' though....not sure if it's making a difference for me....

Karen - how weird is that. Just as I read that, the Simpsons is on in the background and Homer said, "That's a good-a donut"....LOL

carina73

I usually go to zumba classes on Tuesday and Thursday, every other week, b/c of DH's schedule. I made it to the Tues class. but, b/c the school was having their spring concert, Thurs class was cancelled (and I couldn't go to one at another location, b/c it's my DD's school, so I wanted to see her performance.)

My kids have been BEGGING to go to the family one, where kids 3 and up are allowed, so I decided to finally bring them today.

Warning Debbie Downer post below

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O.M.G.!!! That was a mistake.
They were slow getting ready, we were so late we BARELY made it. It had already started by the time we got there and it's only a 45 min class so it was short to begin with. Once in there, my darling children didn't follow the exercises, they were running into other people, jumping over each other, touching gym equip I didn't know what it was. Then they had to pee. :noway: :mad: :explode:

I had to stop what I was doing a million times, chase them down and get close to them b/c the music was so loud. And I had to yell for them to hear me. My head hurts.
Yeesh! Normally they are exceptionally well behaved. I don't know what was with them today.

It feels like I didn't get a work out. :grumble:
I drowned my sorrow in an Oh Henry bar. :ohwell:

jalara

Hey everyone,

So I made it to the gym again and had a good burn, and tonight (even with chocolate) I'm 286 calories under! That's a big win for me! If I'm ever under it's normally by a small margin, so I'm happy with this.

So, I decided NOT to take Clomid today. The doc can see me and then tell me to do it again. I don't want to take it if it's not working.

So I have a baby shower to go to tomorrow, and I opted to get her a for a cleaning service instead of going to a baby store. No baby stores for me right now, thank you.

AlisaToth

I am currently laying in bed....watching TV.....with a whole bag of Mini-Mar's bars (twix, snickers, milkyway and 3 Muskateers) laying next to me....and I haven't touched them....

I adjusted my food diary to reflect my new "Low carb" diet...I adjusted it so only 15% of my daily intake is carbs....Currently I am AT my carb intake for the day(49grams)...however....I REALLY need this chocolate...Maybe just one or two small pieces.....all in moderation right?

Jalara - I think that is a GREAT idea!! I always like to give the new mom a "mom" gift too! I have a babyshower at the end of the month i might do something similar...

jalara

Alisa - No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Moderation is great after you break the cravings! Be strong!!!! Put it away in the kitchen and then crawl back in bed!

YOU CAN DO THIS!

jalara

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7SM7Hvjqny4 - Breastfeeding promo by The Bump - pretty good one too!

sdavisneill

Thanks Luki & Pam for the welcomes! Glad to be here!

So, odd win for today, even though the story doesn't start out that way. Usually one day in my pd is just down right awful, add to that being upset that I'm starting a cycle all over again and it is often the day of the month that I just want to stay in bed. Well today was that day, but I managed to find things (even stupid things) to occupy me all day at work and the unintended side effect was that I was so distracted that I didn't have the urge to snack or anything! Had all completely sensible meals and even had enough calories left over for a fudge bar tonight! (A couple of Midol and a funny movie might've helped turn the mood too. ) Turns out this day ended up not being so bad!

lukimakamai

Pam- I hope you feel better!

Jalara- YES! Slytherin- I was hoping. Sorry Pam... Yes I would just call occasionally and make sure everything is on track. I'll the the promo and doing as much research as I can on adoption breast feeding and how to improve te chances of success. I'm so excited to get to breast feed my child. Even if it ends up just being bonding and not nutritional, it will be AWESOME! I;m hoping I can pull it off )

sdavis- that is totally a win! Good job!

AFM- Two days of eatting out in a row. I have no patience to enter my meal Thursday night at Chinese so I just put in a lump sum. I am pretty proud of myself though because after Chinese we all went to a frozen yogurt place and I didn't get any...I figured the Chinese was a good treat and I didn't need dessert. Then today I went to my cousins softball game (she kinda more like a niece due to age and her mom is my generation) and then out to dinner. And of course this place doesn't have nutrition information on the web- I found a burger in the data base, but its not what I had...I figured it was close enough- right?

fitterpam

Jalara - I love the idea!!! I always am at a loss for what to get people. I have a friend that didn't have a baby shower so I thought I would just wait and see what she had (cause I had NOOOO idea)....long story short 6 months later and I still haven't gotten her anything Feel terrible. I think at this point I'll just splurge for his 1st birthday....

Alisa - obviously Jalara's much more disciplined than me....LOL I was going to say, yeah, one or two....She's right of course!!!! Get them out of your system totally and then you'll be able to handle one once in a while.

SDavis - It always amazes me how being distracted can help with not wanting to eat. CD 1 is usually the worst for me too!!! I always think I'm sick - feel lousy, can't get out of bed, achy, headache. I think most of my sick days off work turn out to be CD1.....and it's not that I'm taking it off for CD1, I genuinely feel sick and then I find out why and things tend to get better.

Luki - that's exactly what I do. I tend to eat out at places that are mom & pop types and so they don't have the nutritional information or websites so I find something similar and log that.....

AFM - this thing is definitely now bronchitis....blah.....I don't think I'm going to wait for my doctor's appt on Wed. I'm going to see a walk in clinic doctor today and get the antibiotics started (I still have visions of the pneumonia). So that means my steamy baths are going to stop too. On the plus side, it's supposed to be a gorgeous day today so I'll probably get into the garden for a good 30 minutes with weeding and stuff..... Tomorrow I'm going to my parent's house. I got my mom a small box of chocolates (she had them for the first time at the home show and she kept going back. Chocolates are not usually my mom's thing, but these......wow!!! ) They're a small locally made company. Then we're doing a bbq for lunch (steak and salads and stuff) so my sisters will both be there and then probably order something in for dinner so my brother and his gf/fiancee can be there (I write gf/fiancee because I've heard that they are engaged but I don't know for sure....LOL weird family). I was hoping to get a nice family photo done tomorrow, but it sounds like I'm going to have to wait since sister is going to her bf's family for dinner and will probably leave around 2pm and brothers gf doesnt' get off work until 3.....I still have it on my list of to-do things....(it's probably for the best since my sinus' are all swollen up and my eyes are almost shut.....LOL)

lukimakamai

Pam- Hope you start to feel better! :flowerforyou: I hate bronchitis- Just had it for the third time in a year. I almost always go with a zpac from the dr (only 6 pills and get all the meds in 5 days). I allergic to certain lung meds so its a safe choice for me

jalara

So after the baby shower I picked a fight with DH and went to bed for 6 hours.... I just got up and I don't even want to talk to him. But I'm going to the store to get a BBQ chicken so I can have a dinner I don't have to cook.

jalara

No roast chicken

So I had nachos with guacamole and Greek yogourt.