The Kickin' Christmas Crew! [Closed]
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Let me tell you something about men and I sure hate telling you this right now Jonie, but they say a lot of things and some things they mean and some things they dont. An example: I am really not interested in a relationship right now. I am really not wanting to be committed right now. I really just want to have fun right now, nothing to serious.
Some of those statements are true and we as women try to look for something else (oh, he meant to say this or he meant to say that)... well no, men usually say exactly what they mean...we (women) are the ones that talk in codes, phrases, metaphors...hey I do it too, expecting the guy to decode what I am saying (he better)! LOL. Most of the time when men say those above statements...they mean... I want to either see you (have sex with you with no strings attached), while I date other people and since I am not committed to you, you can't get mad when you see me with the next woman (OR) they just dont want to see you anymore truthfully and saw something else that caught their eye and either they are going to do the same thing they did to the other woman that they did to you or they may just find what they think they are looking for in that other woman. Unfortunately, it all sounds like a big game. I've been learning a lot from male family, friends and reading books by mean who tell the truth about how men think...very enlightening ladies!
However, I am with Celine...us ladies can fly down to Canada and give him a swift kick in the BUTTOCKS!0 -
Thank you girls for your lovely support. You're the reason I'm back on here, you're the reason that even if I fall off the wagon, I always get back on.
My relationship with Matt lasted about 18 months, at some stage we both thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together and I truely believe he meant it, then one day he changed. Apparently he was never one for long term relationships, he's had some trauma in his childhood which is stopping him from wanting a life with someone forever. It certainly was tough but I was able to get through the pain and on with my life because I believed it was not my fault, it wasn't anything I'd done that stopped the relationship, it was him not wanting one. And two months later he's back in a relationship - that's what is hurting me right now. I feel lied to, I feel betrayed. I am ok now with us not being together anymore, I'm moving on, I'm making new friends, trying to date, and I honestly want him to be happy too so it's fine that he's seeing other people too. But I just feel that he lied to me, and that now I'm back to not knowing why we broke up.
Anyway, I did run all the way back home. A whole 12km (7.5 miles) and I am so damn proud of myself right now.
Celine - you're a massive inspiration to me - the way you've pulled yourself together is absolutely amazing.
Alicia - thanks for your wisdom!
Kendra - you too are a massive inspiration for me, the way you go out there every day running and doing the DVDs, you're friggin awesome girl! I bet you've lost body fat, I bet you've lost inches, I bet your clothes are fitting better, who cares if the scale doesn't move?
Kim - even if the scale isn't moving as quickly as you'd like, you're back here every single week telling us about it. And that's your biggest achievement, it's the fact that you're just not giving up, so big pat on the back!
Mandie - congrats on breaking the plateau! Still waiting for the big news :-)
I love you so much girls, let's keep kicking butt!
Joni :flowerforyou:0 -
Some big losses this week - great job girls! :flowerforyou:
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Joni, I know it's hard, but I don't think Matt lied to you...he's lying to himself. Ivan has had some serious trauma in his childhood to. His Monther abused him and his sisters mentaly and abused him sexualy (his sister told me 'cause Ivan does not want to talk about it). He also had a very bad Father figure and what he learned growing up was to not show emotions and to not be stable with any one. Ivan and I broke up a few time before the wedding because he got scared of the commitment and if I did not fight hard for him to come back, he would still be doing the same thing over and over again...3 months here, 10 months there, but nothing serious. I was fighting realy hard for him to come back and for him to stay at times. This last fight was the worst we've ever had and I'm, learning so much more about him (we've been together for 8 years and I still don't know him) and the only reason he is not gone for good, is because we are married, otherwise he would be so far away. I am trying to help him because no one can live like his is and no one should live with the horrible past as a burden. But I chose to live like thins and help Ivan, 'cause I love him to much and I know that deep down inside him is a great guy just waiting to be saved.
Matt is hurting and he saw commitment with you and it scared him. This new girlfriend of his is not forever and he will do the same thing over and over again and he will never be truly happy with his life. To be happy for him right now is good, but be more happy with yourself. Think of all that you have accomplished in the past and be proud of that. walk straight and your head held high and one day soon, you'll find thins perfect man. The one that God wants you to have.
Be happy with you first...that's what I've learn in this past month. Then everything else will just fall into place, where they are suppose to fall. It hurst and I know it does and you have every right in this world to be hurting, but don't hurt to long. Get back up and go kick some serious butt, smile and love yourself!
we'll get threw this together!
Love
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This is the best group ever! I am seriously not even joking. I have been a part of so many groups...on here and on FB and this group is so far the absolute best. I mean to the point where I would love to personally meet each one of you and have a girls pow-wow. You all are awesome and supportive and encouraging and inspiring and motivating...Love to love yall! Lets bust through all our setbacks and discouragements and lets be encouraged by one anothers testimonies...We are doing great things...losing weight is a journey and we all are embracing that journey every step of the way and we will be better people from it! Lets make this week count everyone...we may be at the end of the week, but we can make mad strides!
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Joni, I know it's hard, but I don't think Matt lied to you...he's lying to himself. Ivan has had some serious trauma in his childhood to. His Monther abused him and his sisters mentaly and abused him sexualy (his sister told me 'cause Ivan does not want to talk about it). He also had a very bad Father figure and what he learned growing up was to not show emotions and to not be stable with any one. Ivan and I broke up a few time before the wedding because he got scared of the commitment and if I did not fight hard for him to come back, he would still be doing the same thing over and over again...3 months here, 10 months there, but nothing serious. I was fighting realy hard for him to come back and for him to stay at times. This last fight was the worst we've ever had and I'm, learning so much more about him (we've been together for 8 years and I still don't know him) and the only reason he is not gone for good, is because we are married, otherwise he would be so far away. I am trying to help him because no one can live like his is and no one should live with the horrible past as a burden. But I chose to live like thins and help Ivan, 'cause I love him to much and I know that deep down inside him is a great guy just waiting to be saved.
Matt is hurting and he saw commitment with you and it scared him. This new girlfriend of his is not forever and he will do the same thing over and over again and he will never be truly happy with his life. To be happy for him right now is good, but be more happy with yourself. Think of all that you have accomplished in the past and be proud of that. walk straight and your head held high and one day soon, you'll find thins perfect man. The one that God wants you to have.
Be happy with you first...that's what I've learn in this past month. Then everything else will just fall into place, where they are suppose to fall. It hurst and I know it does and you have every right in this world to be hurting, but don't hurt to long. Get back up and go kick some serious butt, smile and love yourself!
we'll get threw this together!
Love
Celine
Very well said Celine, I agree with everything that you said.
Joni - I am sorry Matt is being an idiot, but in his defense at least he was outright telling you instead of letting you run into them at a bar or something. I know you are hurting but things will get better - I promise :happy: And if you need me to hop on a plan to help come and kick his *kitten* with the other girls just say the word and I will be there :bigsmile: Ok I may be getting a little too excited about kicking his butt
I am always here for you no matter what, anytime - remember that. :flowerforyou: 0 -
Celine, such wise words and I totally agree. Thanks hun! Kendra, yep you're totally right, even though doing it via e-mail wasn't great at least he was upfront so I could hear it from him and not via friends (as we still have a few friends in common).
Now that the initial shock is over I'm actually really fine with it. And no need to go and kick his butt, I've got no more time to waste on that man - on the bright side it has kicked MY butt back into gear!!
God I love this tread. Anyone else got a boy trouble to share?
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Great job ladies on weigh-in this week! Joni, I'm so glad that, despite everything that has happened, you are able to see the good that has come out of your break-up. If you ever need help kicking butt, I'll be there! (Also a great excuse to use my recently acquired passport =D) No boy stories on my end, sorry =P0
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Yeah sorry no boy stories here either, been in this relationship for 12 years so unless something happens tomorrow I got nothing to share :happy:0
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I have a couple of boy stories, but not wanting to share because I can write a book on it and an entire mini-series about the both of them (my ex-husband 1st daughter's father and my ex-boyfriend 2nd daughter's father). Also it would reflect on how stupid I was for far TOO long! So hmmm....I'll pass. Maybe I will share if we all every get together one day... :-D0
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Hello my lovelies! Weighed in at 167.6 today. Still nowhere near I want to be but I'm feeling pretty damn good about myself at the moment :-) You may have noticed I haven't been logging anything for the past week, this is because I was starting to obsess too much about carbs, protein, fat, how much left, how much to go, so I'm trying to listen to my body for a little bit which is working out ok so far.0
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I went on the scale this morning....I had a bad weekend, so I did not lose (or gain) anything this week. Oh well, what do you want...can't have big loses every week...0
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My eyes deceived me this morning... I got on the scale 4 times and 3 times out of the 4 it said 207.5 and the last time it said 208, so guess what number I am going with 207.5 :-D (that would mean I lost 2 pounds, yay!) Still dont know how many inches from 30DS, but I havent done it since Thursday and I was on Level 2 and suppose to start Level 3 today...guess what I am still starting Level 3 and hopefully get Zumba in too...ONDERLAND here I come!0
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182.6...seem to be averaging about .5 lb a week. maybe next week the bloat will be gone and it'll be more =D0
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Tiny chart this week but no red so congratulations girls! :flowerforyou:0 -
You guys are all doing so awesome and I can't wait to join you again, maybe by the end of Oct but I am thinking more towards the end of Nov - Keep up the great work you are all so fabulous :flowerforyou:0
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Congrats to all!
I'm feeling kind of good yall. I slipped into some jeans I haven't been able to fit in years. Hmmm...I am thinking I am going to go into my buried treasure of a tucked away clothes bin and have a trying on party. My closet is so empty yall from losing all my weight and I think I may have only bought one or two pieces. I promised myself I wouldn't buy much until I got to my goal. But finding old pants that fit and look knew is like shopping for free. Wish me luck tonight! Either I will find a small new casual wardrobe in my closet or within a few more weeks I'll be fitting into them...30DS is helping losing 7 inches so far...by next week, maybe a whole 10...we shall see.0 -
Good Job everyone! I hate how we have to go searching for threads
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You can click on "My Topics" at the top of the forum, that should keep track of all the topics you've posted in and makes it easier to find threads agains.Good Job everyone! I hate how we have to go searching for threads0 -
well, it's Friday morning and I only have 3 more weeks to work at my job...Starting November 16th, I will be job-less...They are replacing my position with a third party (outsourcing)...
Plus to make matters worst, my husband just kicked my out of the car again this morning... He can't even hold a converstion with me about what we are going to do. I told him that I hate the fact that he doesn't touch me no more, he can't even tell me he loves me, yet he says that he is pissed off at me because I don't trust him and always think that he's with someone else. What would you think if your husband would not touch you, not tell you he loves you anymore, comes home late every night, always look lost when he's home and he is not able to talk to you... First thing that came to my mind is "there's someone else". This is making me feel sick and I can't tell him to get out, because I do love him... I'm a wreck.0 -
You can click on "My Topics" at the top of the forum, that should keep track of all the topics you've posted in and makes it easier to find threads agains.Good Job everyone! I hate how we have to go searching for threads
Now i feel like a true blonde! lol THank you!!! that will make it a lot easier!0 -
Well, my husband never came home last night after work....it's 8:40 am and he is still not back...I don't know what to do....I am in such pain, I can't eat, I can't breathe....0
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OMG CJ i'm so sorry I hope everything is ok 0
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He came back Saturday night after the hockey game (around 10 pm)...Since I can't let go of things so easily, I went hunting for him...I just needed to see where he was. After my parents came to get my daughter, I jumped in my car and drove to his friend house...not there, so I went to his Dad's house and his car was there, so I left it at that...I don't need another fight right now. so I went to the job fair we had at the hospital here, went back home on my computer and applied online (since the sector I want to apply had to many people, they got everyone to apply online), then went to my parents house for dinner. after dinner, I went back home with my daughter (I also had asked a neighbour to call me if ever Ivan came back...I was affraid he would empty the house). So I got home and nothing was tough, so i knew he had not come back for anything. sent him a text, no response, so i called his Dad's and was able to speak to him... when he did come home, I told him that I DID NOT WANT TO TALK TO HIM, that he needed to talk and tell me where the heck I stand and what the heck is going on... He keep saying that I piss him off when I accuse him of cheating and that I am not what I was 8 years ago... No one is like they were 8 years ago when you've had 3 miscaridge, has a wedding called off 5 months before hand because your fiance just left, among other things... He is not like he was either...but I don't put him down for that, ever. so I've decided to let it go, I'm tired of fighting and I'm doing my own little thing with my life and my daughter and I don't include him no more...untill he changes his attitude.
On the bright side of things...I lost 6.5 lbs this week0 -
Commenting on your brighter side CJ that is like WOWZERS 6.5 pounds in a week..that is some biggest loser isht girl! I am not weighing in this week. With TOM is town and the way I've been eating NO WAY am I weighing (even though I still been exercising a lot) TOM should be leaving town on Wednesday. I'm gonna get it together! And oh by the way CJ keep your head up girl, it will all work out in the end. The hard part about opening our hearts to love is that pain is sometimes (well quite oftentimes) a part of it. Praying for you girl!0
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Sorry I haven't been checking in...we got stranded in Georgia for 3 days on our way back to Minnesota because of car trouble and then went camping for 4 days and TOMORROW we are leaving to go up north to see Andrew's parents for the 1st time in over 7 months. I will definitely be checking in next Monday and then writing my blog to share my story with ya'll!0
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Hello my lovelies!
I had a super nice weekend! Ran my second 10K race on Saturday morning and finished it in 58 minutes, a whole 10 minutes quicker than the one I ran in July! I am so damn proud of myself
Then went back to Belgium until yesterday as we had a big family lunch on Sunday for the 90th (!) birthday of my gran. It was really nice to catch up with the whole family and I finally got to meet my niece who is now 3 months old and very, very cute.
As I was away yesterday, I weighed in on Saturday morning at 165.8 which I'm also really pleased with. Had quite a cool NSV at the weekend too: my mum hugged me when I arrived and wrapped her arms around me and said "where has my daughter gone? She's disappearing!" My mum is my worse critic and almost every time I go home I'd dread her "You've put on weight" or "You look puffy" so to get a compliment this time was really, really cool.
Celine, I hate to see you go through all of this but you're right, you've got to focus on you, girl! Don't wait for him to sort himself out! - it's all about YOU YOU YOU (and your little one of course). And super well done on the massive loss this week!!
Mandie!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my god, I cannot wait to read the blog, hope you're happy! :flowerforyou:
Joni :flowerforyou:0 -
Congrats everyone on your losses!! So I weighed in this morning and got two different numbers: 181.6 and 182.4, so I'm going to go with 182.4, down .2 from last week. I have also decided to cut out more processed foods. I was looking at my food diary and I realized there is a whole lot more processed food than usual in the last two weeks, so hopefully this will help. I hope everyone is doing well, and I can't wait to hear Mandie's story either!0
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Congrats to all of you wonderful ladies for your efforts this week :flowerforyou:
We're less than two months away from Christmas, girls!! I've modified my goal to something more achievable, let me know if any of you would like to revise your Christmas goals.
Happy hump day!0 -
Can I change mine to 170? I think at this point it's wayyyy more realistic 0
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