Can a Fit, Sexy Girl Like a Fat Guy?

YouAreTheShit

Okay ladies... I thought it would be interesting to hear what the MFP ladies have to say on the matter.

Can a fit and sexy girl like a fat guy?

Why or why not? (be totally honest)

catshark209

Well, my ex husband is pretty overweight and he has no problem getting girls. He's just very self confident without being cocky and women always find that attractive, well at least I do.

jnhu72

I say yes. Love is not suppose to be about looks right?

turningstar

Okay, Ill bite. I would hope that people wouldn't be so shallow that they wouldn't be with someone great just because of their weight. If the guy has no interest in his health however, that would be a.definite put off.
If a fit, athletic guy (my hubby) can fall for a fat girl (me), why not the other way around?

sirabe

I would say yes.

All my life I have never really liked skinny guys. In fact if they could fit in my jeans it was a deal breaker. I would say that I liked "fat" guys. But I like a little pudge on them. And this is when i was like 90 lbs at most.

Now my husband has pudge too.

So, it is Really about a person'a preference.

I have always looked at it like, if I planned ot be with this person for the rest of my life, I'd sure as heck better like him. Looks go away, but personalities hang around.

I hope my husband feels the same, lol. Well, I guess he does since he is still around after I gained nearly 100 lbs since we met.

((I dont plan on being 90 lbs again in my life. I did not like it then and I dont want to go back to it now)

Meghan0116

I hope I don't come across as shallow and mean but I would have no problem dating a guy who is overweight. Who am I to judge? But I would have an issue with morbidly obese not because of any reason other than basic attraction.

annabellj

I dont know if I am either of the above but I am pretty close to goal weight and my husband is heavy. Its not always about that but how confident you are, your ability to make us laugh(huge for me), caring, responsible, usually puts me first, hard working, and most of the time not a butthead! oh and I forgot rocking my world in the bedroom!

catshark209

I forgot to add that I am not attracted to the male version of me. It would be all sorts of bones poking here and there lol. My bf is lean but not skinny. My ex was always heavy. With the exception of this partner now, I've always dated "heavier" men. Not obese, but with some meat on their bones.

YouAreTheShit

I dont know if I am either of the above but I am pretty close to goal weight and my husband is heavy. Its not always about that but how confident you are, your ability to make us laugh(huge for me), caring, responsible, usually puts me first, hard working, and most of the time not a butthead! oh and I forgot rocking my world in the bedroom!

Annie, you have such a way with words...

I know most women want manly men and manly men usually have at least a little girth to them...

Girls like to drool over ripped men and maybe even (ahem) "run a few errands with them now and again." But it seems to me that they don't usually want a relationship with them. Am I right about that...?

annabellj

I dont know if I am either of the above but I am pretty close to goal weight and my husband is heavy. Its not always about that but how confident you are, your ability to make us laugh(huge for me), caring, responsible, usually puts me first, hard working, and most of the time not a butthead! oh and I forgot rocking my world in the bedroom!

Annie, you have such a way with words...

I know most women want manly men and manly men usually have at least a little girth to them...

Girls like to drool over ripped men and maybe even (ahem) "run a few errands with them now and again." But it seems to me that they don't usually want a relationship with them. Am I right about that...?

usually, I dont need all those muscles and they usually are shallow anyway. Not always but sometimes. Some of my guy friends on here are really ripped and it is great to look at and good for them and their wives(lol) but we dont need that if that is what you are thinking. If a woman is looking just for that you probably dont want to be with her anyway. But it depends on what you want, sex or happiness? Me I will take both! I can always dream of someone else while we are in the bedroom! ha!

AmberLiscous

Personality is key!!!! If a guy has confidence......that says alot!!!!

My husband is thin.....I would love to see him put on some healthy weight!!!

Purpleflipflops

I think so. Granted, I am not a fit, skinny girl, but I have never been a fan of 'fit' boys...


I think it has to do with confidence, and it seems a lot of heavier men lack it....

JennaM222

Yup!

My type is chubby buff!!! it is more about the personality for women. we cannot look past a bad one, and will fall head over heels for a great one. Most of the time, looks are secondary. If you make me laugh, I am all in.

Marley112586

I like bigger guys. Even when I was skinny. I'm really tall so I like them to be bigger than me

hottottie11

It's about preference. At the risk of sounding shallow, I'm generally not attracted to skinny guys or big guys. I like medium to athletic build (don't have to be ripped tho)...but that is just me.

Confidence is very important as well.

Melis25Fit

I think confidence is a big thing, if a guy is a little heavier, but is an amazing person - thats something I wouldn't mind.

If we are talking 600 lbs, and continuing spiraling downward face first into McDonalds each and every day... maybe not then because my lifestyle is drastically different from that.

If he is kind, loving, supportive of my lifestyle and like I said, has the personality, then yeah..... besides, Pure Boney-ness or ALL muscle isn't the best for snuggling up with. True Story.

Bubdog1

HELLO!! Take a look at Meatloaf. (And I don't mean the food.) He was VERY heavy and still had sexy girls clamoring to be with him!

LeanMeanFitnessMachine

Its a proven fact that physique and appearance is what FIRST attracts you to a certain person (we learned this in psychology). THEN, comes personality, emotional attachment, intamacy, etc. So I think it would be very hard for a fit woman to be attracted to a man who is overweight, in my opinion.

Not only for the attraction fact, but also because a woman wants someone who she can RELATE to - if the man is overweight, doesn't watch what he eats, and doesn't workout, how will they find some common ground to begin a conversation with? What about the first date when they go out to EAT at a resturaunt? To me, its a total turn off if a man doesn't care about his body or his appearance.

scarlettd12

I have definitely always been more attracted to a guy with more meat on his bones. I guess I would prefer a "fat" man over a super skinny, scrawny one. However, I like someone who is healthy-minded. Now that I am trying to get on the right track, it almost is a turn off to see a guy stuffing his face with fast food. I like someone who cares about themselves.

How about guys going for "fat" girls? I feel like it is completely opposite in this situation. I have always been the "chubby girl with the cute face". I get attention from guys, but have a hard time finding a relationship. I'm the cute, funny fat friend haha I shouldn't laugh, because sometimes I wonder if I was skinny if I would have a boyfriend :-/

SLaw4215

I am not a fit, sexy girl YET so I don't know if my responding meets your intentions however, i met my last boyfriend on MFP when he was well over 300 pounds. We've recently broken up after nearly a year due our being "geographically undesirable" to each other -- his job requires him to travel and has made it impossible for us to date. Anyway -- I feel fortunate to have had the opportunity to get to know him. I did not come on MFP looking for romance. I'm not into the dating web sites at all. It happened by accident and because, I think, we were on this site and discussing similar weight loss goals and strategies and we just appreciate each other "as is" and as "works in progress". We aren't going to have a happy ending this time but it's okay... so I think in my round about way of answering... my answer is YES

edorice

Personality ranks high with me. I've dated men with 7% and 9% bodyfat in the past, but their personal lives were a mess. Although my husband isn't fat, he's not rocking a six pack either. I'm OK with that, he is so much more than that.

Larius

Well, my ex husband is pretty overweight and he has no problem getting girls. He's just very self confident without being cocky

IMO, being in shape almost always comes off as "cocky" to some people.

The definition of cocky is too confident. Who gets to decide what is the right amount of confidence to have? Maybe it is just anyone more confident than yourself?

Marig0ld

I love myself a big teddy bear :-) Not obese would is ideal. Luckily, this is what I have!

I do find it interesting that I don't see a lot of in-shape "GQ" guys with overweight women though, but you see a lot of it the other way around. It seems like almost every sitcom has a sexy, hot wife with an overweight bumbling idiot (King of Queen, According to Jim, etc...I think Modern Family is the exception).

MercenaryNoetic26

Girls like to drool over ripped men and maybe even (ahem) "run a few errands with them now and again." But it seems to me that they don't usually want a relationship with them. Am I right about that...?

I had a mad crush on Arnold as "Conan the Barbarian". I saw it the other day on netflix. Seems my preference for lean, muscular men was stamped on me as a tween. I managed to acquire myself a nice peace of man meat.

I had dated fat guys, and it was always because they made me laugh. The attraction was really never there for me though.

mfiggs

I don't understand it, but yes! My best friend growing up was very overweight and he was such a ladies man! He was attractive, charming, and confident and that is why he got dates! I on the other hand being an overweight girl I had a hard time getting dates! Go figure?!

heidiberr

My hubby to be is a little bit of a fluffy guy--though we both are benefiting from my healthy lifestyle (he's lost 40 pounds + went from a 42 waist to a 36! I'm a proud fiance!!)

However--it more comes down to--are you going to be healthy enough for our children? Are you going to respect my eating habits? You can do what you like, within reason, but I need you to support me too.

I was always overweight before I joined MFP--so I actually naturally went towards guys who were bigger because I knew they were bigger than me. *shrug*

jnance82

My current bf is the heaviest man I've ever been with. I've always turned down heavy-set men and opted for the basketball player build. At first I was put off by his big belly, but he treats me like no other man has. He makes me happy, he keeps me smiling, and I love him so much! His belly now is such a nonfactor. I would like him to get in shape just for health reasons, but as long as he stays the same as the person I fell in love with I could absolutely care less how much he weighs!



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Marig0ld

How about guys going for "fat" girls? I feel like it is completely opposite in this situation. I have always been the "chubby girl with the cute face". I get attention from guys, but have a hard time finding a relationship. I'm the cute, funny fat friend haha I shouldn't laugh, because sometimes I wonder if I was skinny if I would have a boyfriend :-/

Haha we posted about this at the same time. :laugh: You're right on the money....I hit it off with many guys but never made it past a lot of first dates or hanging out. I think a lot of men, deep down, do not want to be seen with an overweight woman. It hurts....I went out with a guy a few times who said that I had such a pretty face, but more guys would want to date me if I lost weight. At least he was honest...

tracielinn

My bf is heavy, but he treats me like a queen. Its up to him if he wants to lose weight, even though I do worry about it. I think it depends on how someone treats you, not what their physique is.

lorainekc

I say heck yes... and if that's the only thing stopping a girl, she's probably a shallow B. I know a few girls like that and I want to shake them. The guys they date are shallow jerks though, so I guess that's karma. (Not saying if your guy is a jerk that you deserved it though!) My personal preference is for a little bit of slightly heavier or solid, stocky guys. (The strong but not ripped kind, if that makes sense.) Always has been. I like the feeling when we're cuddling and I like that I can eat like a normal person (or PMS eat, ahem) without fear of judgement, haha. But I will be totally honest that I like them to be able to keep up with me and do outdoorsy stuff. That doesn't take a skinny guy or even a ripped one, and I've dated both of those too. The skinny ones actually couldn't hang, usually.

Personality is what gets me though. Above all.

queenmedusa

At the end of the day a man who has a great personality and is able to love and take care of a woman is a fantastic man no matter what his size. My boyfriend is a cuddly guy and I love him and that's what counts. He knows I'd like him to lose some weight but that's because I want us to have a long, healthy life together and not because I want him to change what he looks like. I've known lots of fit guys over the years but most of them have been full of themselves and more into their looks than how to treat the women they date.