Can a Fit, Sexy Girl Like a Fat Guy?

CreepyOne

wow after reading this post I'm reconsidering loosing more weight or not ROFLOL

smittenmikish

Absolutely. In fact I'd say that I'd prefer a bigger guy over a skinny guy. For me it is all about CONFIDENCE and EFFORT.

hiyoli

Funny you should post this. I've recently started dating a friend of mine, and he is "big and tall." He's 6'1" 300 lbs to my 5'6' 135 lbs (and my utlimate goal is 125 lbs) and I LOVE it. When I was bigger I liked thin guys, but now I can't imagine why I ever did. I love when my boy picks me up while we kiss, how perfectly his arms wrap around me, and how he's like a big teddy bear when I lay on top of him and nap. It's just this totally awesome safe feeling, and we're exactly alike (our birthday's are a day apart) and everything just works! Maybe it's the opposites attracting thing, physically.

nursenikki829

YES!
Here is a true story to back it up.... When I met my husband, I was skinny and fit (I went to the gym twice a day and hardly ate). He was very overweight, but I noticed his amazing eyes and awesome outgoing personality before I noticed his weight. We dated for two years and got married and his weight never bothered me as much as it bothered him. I never even knew his weight until he decided to get gastric bypass surgery while I was pregnant with our second baby. He was 415 lbs, and I loved him no matter what. He is now 6'3" 255 lbs and it wouldn't matter to me what his weight is. I am just happy that he is happier and more healthy. We are now doing the couch to 5K together and plan on running a marathon this spring. The point of this story is, unless someone is vain, they will look at you and not see your weight!

YouAreTheShit

WOW! This is soooo revealing...

It sounds like confidence is key above everything else.

This is a great thread. Thanks to all you posters!

bringit30

My husband is very muscular, but has some meat on his bones too. He is a manly man. I wouldn't have it any other way. I am more of the Vin Diesel kind of girl. I also like the construction worker look over the business professional look!

Scoobies100

Never say never. Personally I wouldn't be attracted to a large guy, call it shallow if you like but I find it very important to be physically attracted to someone. I have a lot of male friends who have big personalities and side splitting humour but as much as I love them I just don't feel the attraction.

I think if you are with someone and as you grow older you gain weight that is different because you love them and you can see past that. But in the initial first stages of dating I believe a lot of it is physical.

I'm probably going to get slated for this but it's my opinion and an honest one.

KattKitty

I'd like to "weigh-in" on this one, if I may. You can be physically attracted to whatever body-type floats your boat, but I hope you are considering more than outward appearances-- such as how this man treats you and others, his relationship with his family, does he fight fair, his priorities vs. yours, money management, religious and childrearing opinions, etc.

Two other issues that could "weigh" heavily on a relationship-
#1- how his lifestyle habits affect his health-- past, present, future
#2- can you maintain your lifestyle or would his be too much temptation for you and change you into someone/something you
don't want to be

Best wishes either way

PS- Don't enter any relationship thinking you can/will change him

YouAreTheShit

By the way... I need some friends on here.

Friend me if you liked this topic...

Hambone23

You don't have to be fit and sexy to fall in love with a fat guy. Overweight girls can also fall in love with skinny guys or fat guys. And I've seen skinny girls with skinny guys and fat guys. Myself? I was married to a skinny guy. Now I'm with a chubby boyfriend. Size isn't the only factor when it comes to love. But some people will never get past that outer shell. And they might miss something amazing because of it.

GretchenReine

Love is love! Huby weighed all of about 170 when I met him and I was over 300 pounds. He had never dated anything other than Barbie doll look alikes. He loves me just as I am but is very supportive of my weight loss goals.

That being said...2 children and a few years without cigarettes...he is no longer 170 (closer to 200) and I think he looks perfect either way. Honestly...he's more comfy to lay on now when we're snuggling on the couch. Of course, I'm not a fit, sexy woman...so maybe that's why I have the opinion I do.

Scoobies100

By the way I would just like to add that I do not go for bulging biceps and washboard abs as I have found most of these types of men to be Knobheads. I wouldn't complain if I met one that contradicted this, however I usually go for someone somewhere in the middle. I am not that unrealistic! :P

felice03

If he carries himself well and knows how to treat a women that absolutely. I am not a "super fit" girl but I like me a man that is a teddy bear.

Angelie28

I think the important question here is being overlooked by everyone...Does this fat guy have money? lmao jk.. it is an effed up world people

Hambone23

To be honest, this sounds awfully like the thread that went around about what guys like in a woman. A lot of them said they like women who have some curves and something to hold onto. Now, I'm not saying that means an obese woman. But it does sound like a lot of women on here prefer the same thing. They want men who are a little cuddly. Again, they may not want an obese man, but I think when it comes to looks, a lot of people think that skinny and bony simply isn't ideal. I find that interesting.

(That's not to say that there isn't a large percentage of people who like the skinny, fit type.)

YouAreTheShit

I think the important question here is being overlooked by everyone...Does this fat guy have money? lmao jk.. it is an effed up world people

There you go... I wondered how many posts it would take before we got to the money shot! LOL

Angelie28

I think the important question here is being overlooked by everyone...Does this fat guy have money? lmao jk.. it is an effed up world people

There you go... I wondered how many posts it would take before we got to the money shot! LOL

Just trying to keep everything in perspective lol I am not one of those said girls but i know PLENTY

Scoobies100

To be honest, this sounds awfully like the thread that went around about what guys like in a woman. A lot of them said they like women who have some curves and something to hold onto. Now, I'm not saying that means an obese woman. But it does sound like a lot of women on here prefer the same thing. They want men who are a little cuddly. Again, they may not want an obese man, but I think when it comes to looks, a lot of people think that skinny and bony simply isn't ideal. I find that interesting.

(That's not to say that there isn't a large percentage of people who like the skinny, fit type.)

I agree. I would rather be with an obese man then a skinny bony man! Who wants to cuddle a bag of bones?

bcattoes

Of course, I see this quite often. For me, fat is not the issue so much as health. If someone is morbidly obese and refuses to make an effort to change, I would have a problem with that. I wouldn't stop liking them, but it likely would become a huge problem as I would not sit quietly by and watch someone I cared about kill themselves with food and laziness. But if they exercise at least semi-regularly and make an effort to eat healthy, I wouldn't care that they had fat on their body.

RaeLB

I had a crush on a really big guy & he didn't give me the time of day ='( haha

My ex's all look very different: tall, short, big, thin

I have high standards when it comes to how I am treated, I have specific personality traits I look for, & I look for someone with the same beliefs & similar interests... there are some things I do not compromise on
When I picture my dream guy though I don't think about what he will look like because it doesn't really matter

YouAreTheShit

When I picture my dream guy though I don't think about what he will look like because it doesn't really matter

Wow, what a girl...

norma67

I have never been interested in the outside looks of someone.
I have one thing I look at and it is sorta funny but that is a man's hands
They tell me a lot about someone.

I look for someone that can be my best friend,

but this is me

RaeLB

btw i pretty much find everyone physically attractive

Browny43

I'd also say yes, my cousin who is fit and active has always dated guys who are over 6 feet and 300lbs

lq022

I havent read anyone elses responses so I may be re-iterating whats already on here ... but its no mystery that men are more visual creatures, whereas women are more emotional. In my personal experience, I've been attracted to overweight guys quite a few times ... it comes down to their confidence. If they're funny, kind and confident without being cocky .. thats sexy -- no matter what the weight is .

Ant_M76

Interesting thread. In my experience the answer is no but suppose a lot depends on the definition of 'fat'. I think a lot also depends on where people live. A sexy girl being with somebody bigger is probably a lot more acceptable in certain parts of the world, than others.

Ralstonk2

Looks are not everything, it's what's inside. I'm not "fit" yet and my BF is overweight but I love him just the way he is. I don't want him to gain any weight and were going to start losing together. BUT. Looks aren't everything. I fell in love with him the way he looks along with everything else. So yes yes yes!

philOHIO

True story! I know SEVERAL couples who have seemed to have rock solid marriages falter. Reason, they were both overweight, went through life and kids together, wife starts losing weight. Guys start paying attention to her, she likes the attention and doesn't wanna be around fat hubby anymore. Sounds very shallow, and I DON'T agree with their decision. But this has happened to at least 7 or 8 of our friends in the last couple of years!

RaeLB

btw i pretty much find everyone physically attractive

^^^ felt like that was important to add b/c i have not dated overweight guys b/c they are funny, nice, etc DESPITE being unattractive... i have found them attractive. i have been told by my friends that i am a freak of nature but i think everyone is good looking lol.

part of it is that i think there is something physically attractive about everyone but also i think attraction is holistic and physical attraction can go up & down based on someone's personality. i have literally seen people get less attractive in front of me when they have opened their mouth lol

MummaAimz

My husband weighs 270 pounds and we are more in love now that I'm getting fit then we ever have been....so I say yes....