In love with flatmate, what to do?

nymphis · January 2012

I am curious of the result as well! Good luck! Hope it all works out for you! :flowerforyou:

UsedToBeHusky · January 2012

he packs you lunch and gives you chocolates as a nice surprise?!!? thats man speak for "please notice me" I am 90% sure of it. You are smart AND pretty and he clearly cares for you - so sit him down and tell him how you feel. If not you are going to regret wasting so much time!

and then come back and tell us all how it went

Do I just tell him that I have strong feelings for him or can I be dead honest and tell him how much I love him? Don't want to scare him off either

I'm pretty sure he is as crazy about you as you are about him. He packs you lunch AND gives you chocolate!! That is soooo a boyfriend kind of thing to do. Stop being so chicken, and just tell him... before its too late!!

TeutonicKnight · January 2012

Unless you are up front about how you feel, your feelings will be transparent, invisible.

Be true to your heart, and he will be with his own. If he wants to just be friends, respect that.

You never know where the friend path may lead. He will know you care deeply about him and it will change the course he is on forever. If he never knows, you will never be a part of the current course he is on.

peachy782 · January 2012

I used to have someone exactly like this (well not a flatmate but I worked with him...), he used to taxi me around even though he lived in the opposite direction, once when I got totally trashed at a friends party he put me in a taxi, carried me indoors, put me into bed after holding back my hair lol, and then went home again about 20mins away and paid for both taxi's, used to do things for me and buy me little things, and it was only a few years later he told me he really liked me but was intimidated and knew I liked someone else so never said anything!!
You're a stunner go for it, he'd be mad not to like you and you'll always wonder what if!
but do it in a light hearted way, flirt lots, wear a cute dress (unless you know he likes certain looks or has complimented on specific outfits) men generally prefer natural looks so don't make too much of an effort,
Good luck and keep us posted!!

hbrittingham · January 2012

Bumping so I can see the outcome! This is such a sweet thread. Good luck!

CouleeRunner · January 2012

I would tell him. Good luck...hope all goes well for you.

Elle408 · January 2012

Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol

loveliisa · January 2012

Bump to see the outcome!

This is exciting! good luck!! just be yourself, he already seems to like you anyway!

kgillikin · January 2012

bump just to follow

TurtleRunnerNC · January 2012

Good luck

jackpotclown · January 2012

I can understand your reservation. Honestly, If I lived with someone and was going that far out of my way to do things for you, I think you'd already know by now how interested I was...there shouldn't be any confusion. Best wishes \m/

amayzingamanda · January 2012

bump to follow

mylovelyhumps · January 2012

Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol

Same here. Keep in mind I am married. I agree with the ” making him dinner” be honest but subtle. Try not to sound desperate.

galvestongal · January 2012

bump to follow

lolaburga · January 2012

Life is too short go for it...but make sure you prepare yourself if he doesn't feel the same. But I'm sure he does...just make sure that is what you truly want!!! Good Luck!!!!

WifeNMama · January 2012

If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

Then again, in his mind, the packing lunches and stuff could be what he considered the first move. You could just ask him, "So, I'm not great at reading signals from guys, and I was wondering if all this great stuff you do for me is your way of saying you want to be involved romantically, or if you're just being a good friend. Because I've had feelings for you for a while now, but if you don't have feelings for me, I don't want to read too much into it."

UponThisRock · January 2012

I've never given a woman chocolate that I didn't want to see naked, just sayin.

mrsrice86 · January 2012

Just go for it and ask him. Never knowing is worse than him saying "no"!

Good luck

3ur3ka · January 2012

I'd just tell him, honey.

Before anything ever happened between me and my now fiance, he used to do all sorts of stuff like that. Rides back and forth to work, while refusing gas money. He constantly took me out to eat after work. He'd come over and sit through movies that he hates. Lots of cutesy crap. I tried just blowing it off at first, but eventually I just told him that I was dumb over him. We've been together ever since.

bluestarlight19 · January 2012

I would go with the drunken kiss thing, but that is me

bump Following...

littletiger97 · January 2012

Bump following also! Good luck with whatever you decide!

ninerbuff · January 2012

I'm so afraid that he might reject me :ohwell:

Rejection is part of life. If you can't learn to deal with it now, you will have a very difficult life ahead because it doesn't just happen one time.

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kwehkweh · January 2012

What if you sent him a text message that just said "I'm happy with how we are now but I was wondering if you ever thought about being more than friends?" That way he doesn't feel pressured to react right then.

havingitall · January 2012

If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

I don't necessarily agree with this. When I first started dating my husband, I initiated quite a bit of it. He was just shy and had some bad experiences with women.

u2fergus · January 2012

Bump to follow the story...

Good luck! I think it sounds promising, but definitely don't come on too strong or it could get awkward. I wouldn't introduce the word "love" in this conversation, but you definitely should let him know you appreciate him and that you have feelings for him. (No need to say quite how strong those feelings are...)