In love with flatmate, what to do?

jackpotclown · January 2012

I can understand your reservation. Honestly, If I lived with someone and was going that far out of my way to do things for you, I think you'd already know by now how interested I was...there shouldn't be any confusion. Best wishes \m/

amayzingamanda · January 2012

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mylovelyhumps · January 2012

Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol

Same here. Keep in mind I am married. I agree with the ” making him dinner” be honest but subtle. Try not to sound desperate.

galvestongal · January 2012

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lolaburga · January 2012

Life is too short go for it...but make sure you prepare yourself if he doesn't feel the same. But I'm sure he does...just make sure that is what you truly want!!! Good Luck!!!!

WifeNMama · January 2012

If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

Then again, in his mind, the packing lunches and stuff could be what he considered the first move. You could just ask him, "So, I'm not great at reading signals from guys, and I was wondering if all this great stuff you do for me is your way of saying you want to be involved romantically, or if you're just being a good friend. Because I've had feelings for you for a while now, but if you don't have feelings for me, I don't want to read too much into it."

UponThisRock · January 2012

I've never given a woman chocolate that I didn't want to see naked, just sayin.

mrsrice86 · January 2012

Just go for it and ask him. Never knowing is worse than him saying "no"!

Good luck

3ur3ka · January 2012

I'd just tell him, honey.

Before anything ever happened between me and my now fiance, he used to do all sorts of stuff like that. Rides back and forth to work, while refusing gas money. He constantly took me out to eat after work. He'd come over and sit through movies that he hates. Lots of cutesy crap. I tried just blowing it off at first, but eventually I just told him that I was dumb over him. We've been together ever since.

bluestarlight19 · January 2012

I would go with the drunken kiss thing, but that is me

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littletiger97 · January 2012

Bump following also! Good luck with whatever you decide!

ninerbuff · January 2012

I'm so afraid that he might reject me :ohwell:

Rejection is part of life. If you can't learn to deal with it now, you will have a very difficult life ahead because it doesn't just happen one time.

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kwehkweh · January 2012

What if you sent him a text message that just said "I'm happy with how we are now but I was wondering if you ever thought about being more than friends?" That way he doesn't feel pressured to react right then.

havingitall · January 2012

If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

I don't necessarily agree with this. When I first started dating my husband, I initiated quite a bit of it. He was just shy and had some bad experiences with women.

u2fergus · January 2012

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Good luck! I think it sounds promising, but definitely don't come on too strong or it could get awkward. I wouldn't introduce the word "love" in this conversation, but you definitely should let him know you appreciate him and that you have feelings for him. (No need to say quite how strong those feelings are...)