In love with flatmate, what to do?

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  • sruffin9834
    sruffin9834 Posts: 80
    I"m possibly the world's biggest romantic! I love this guys style. If he does like you, just imagine the things that he is going to do when he finds out that you like him back! I'm so excited.

    Mental note: Make lunches and surprise her with chocolates in addition to random flowers being delivered, they like this ALOT!:)
  • therealangd
    therealangd Posts: 1,861 Member
    What a great story. I'm wishing you all the best. I agree you have to tell him.
  • runrogrun
    runrogrun Posts: 36 Member
    bump to follow

    Good luck!
  • surgesilk
    surgesilk Posts: 92
    Just crawl into bed one night with him. I'm pretty sure you'll have an answer by the morning.
  • amfaery
    amfaery Posts: 267 Member
    :love: Kiss him
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    - Men don't friend-zone girls - that's something you evil womenfolk do.

    Best quote ever!!! This is so very true!!! READ THIS LADIES!!! :tongue:
  • 0PhAtDaDdY
    0PhAtDaDdY Posts: 569 Member
    I live with one of the most amazing guys ever!! He cooks and even packs me lunch every morning and on special occasions I even get a chocolate for college. I find myself constantly dreaming about him and can't wait for him to come home very evening so we get to spend some time together.

    I'm also getting jealous when he spends more time with other girls and I'm really afraid that I might lose him. What is the best way to tell him and will this jeopardize our living arrangements?

    Hmmm he could look at you as his younger sister and looks after you. You could say if you keep being so darn nice to be I'm going to fall in love with you, Will you be able to handle that? You are safe with this....
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    - Men don't friend-zone girls - that's something you evil womenfolk do.

    Best quote ever!!! This is so very true!!! READ THIS LADIES!!! :tongue:

    I agree I posted it on facebook as my Quote of the day
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    I live with one of the most amazing guys ever!! He cooks and even packs me lunch every morning and on special occasions I even get a chocolate for college. I find myself constantly dreaming about him and can't wait for him to come home very evening so we get to spend some time together.

    I'm also getting jealous when he spends more time with other girls and I'm really afraid that I might lose him. What is the best way to tell him and will this jeopardize our living arrangements?

    Hmmm he could look at you as his younger sister and looks after you. You could say if you keep being so darn nice to be I'm going to fall in love with you, Will you be able to handle that? You are safe with this....

    Oooh very nice
  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    Dang, I thought you meant flat meat. A slang term for cold cuts, or sliced deli meats.
  • eellis2000
    eellis2000 Posts: 465 Member
    Bump so i can read it later.
  • bluebutterflyzz
    bluebutterflyzz Posts: 41 Member
    I think you should tell him you have feelings for him beyond friendship but the word love might freak him out. I think you should be subtle about it and tell him that regardless of his feelings for you you'd still like to remain friends and flatmates. I agree with the previous male posters, though, that the little things he does for you could very much mean that he has feelings for you too...or he just wants to get in your pants (sorry, just being honest).

    I hope it goes well for you! Try not to take it too hard if he doesn't reciprocate.
  • brph26
    brph26 Posts: 207 Member
    I've never given a woman chocolate that I didn't want to see naked, just sayin.

    LMAO


    to OP: Good luck sweetie! I am pulling for you :drinker:
  • kme2011
    kme2011 Posts: 100 Member
    OMG i wanna know the outcome too! lol
  • tscottym
    tscottym Posts: 55 Member
    I am no romeo, but i am a guy. There is no way i would pack a lunch for a friend. Unless he is gay, he is into you. You should come home with a bottle of wine and get a little tipsy. Talk about how your feet or back hurt, if he offers up a massage, you are in. Don't make the first move though, guys like to chase not be chased. At least that is how i feel. Then things SHOULD naturally progress from there. Just remember you guys live together, so be ready for that if things go sour. That is my thoughts.
  • robinaddison
    robinaddison Posts: 232 Member
    Bump to follow
  • cprice05
    cprice05 Posts: 82 Member
    I totally want to know what happened.....
  • goforkissy
    goforkissy Posts: 157 Member
    I'm bumping to find out what happens! Good Luck and keep us posted.
  • vryanz
    vryanz Posts: 49
    Bump! <3
  • lyngoode
    lyngoode Posts: 197 Member
    bump
  • Kayla165
    Kayla165 Posts: 118 Member
    Just tell him if you don't you will regret it.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Bump because I want to know what happens.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I would ask him straight out if he sees you as a friend or more!! If he says a friend then you can save face by saying 'yeah, me too, great isnt it that we get on so well' :bigsmile:

    If he says something like 'why you asking?' you could say something like it seems he cares a lot for you the way he packs your lunch etc so you were just wondering.......

    Or he could just go silent, then you could say you see him as more than a friend but you're ok if he doesnt!!

    I wouldnt just go straight in and say you love him, no way!!

    Beware though. This happened to me recently. And all the guy said was "I dont know"!!! lol He fancies me but wouldnt want to lose me as friend, we live too far away from each other and I'm significantly older than him!!

    You dont have any of those issues, but perhaps the reason why he hasnt actually made a move is because he is afraid to mess up and lose you as a friend. I dont believe that the 'friend - zone' thing applies here, I have plenty of male friends plus he lives with you so has a lot more to lose by being your lover - both your friendship and his home!!

    So, I just reckon you should just casually ask him if he sees you as more than a friend, or not.

    Good luck!! :flowerforyou:
  • Kelico528
    Kelico528 Posts: 39
    I'm bored at work & the suspense is killing me LOL.
  • jlewis2896
    jlewis2896 Posts: 763 Member
    Bump! This is better than a movie!
  • cmgehrke
    cmgehrke Posts: 20 Member
    ask him why he does all this nice stuff for you- make him do the talking.
  • sullivann
    sullivann Posts: 199 Member
    Good luck! :D I say tell him. :))
  • Juliebean_1027
    Juliebean_1027 Posts: 713 Member
    Bump so I can find out what happens!

    My vote is to tell him. Life is too short to have regrets about wasted moments. Good luck! I'm pulling for you!
  • halfsizeheather
    halfsizeheather Posts: 45 Member
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    Hmmm he could look at you as his younger sister and looks after you. You could say if you keep being so darn nice to be I'm going to fall in love with you, Will you be able to handle that? You are safe with this....
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    i agree, this sounds like a good way of broaching the topic
  • groovycol
    groovycol Posts: 7
    I fell in love with my best friend and flatmate 16 years ago. It was very awkward and weird at first to reveal our feelings for each other. I came home one night and she said, "Tonight I want to eat chocolate and drink lots of wine" And that's when I knew we would finally kiss. And we did! And I married her in 2004 <3.

    I'm pulling for you!
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