In love with flatmate, what to do?

H_Factor

if you don't tell him, you're just giving another girl the chance to. WHAT IF you never have the chance to find out his feelings for you because you didn't tell him your feelings? No need to use the love word, but tell him that you have strong feelings for him.

Pookylou

*sits, gets popcorn* oooooo what is going to happen??
Good luck, I think he likes you too :blushing:

purplerain011

bump
Goodluck.

ChaseAlder

If it were me, I'd broach the subject carefully. I wouldn't make a big romantic scene unless I was absolutely sure he liked me. If you make a big romantic dinner and lay it all out there and he doesn't feel the same, candles and wine will only make you feel more awkward and vulnerable.

I would bring it up lightly when you both have a way to get out of there if things don't pan out the way you want... for example, make light plans (movies with friends or something) and then an hour before you leave, tell him. Then if he rejects you, you can be like "Ok, well, I'm meeting friends so I'd better get going." And if he doesn't reject you, you can stay for a while, or even cancel the movies.

That's what I would do.

Slugsasarus

KEEP US UPDATED. I NEED TO KNOW HOW THIS TURNS OUT!

You're very pretty, and from all of his little gestures, it sounds like he likes you. But even if he doesn't, he seems like a really sweet guy, and wouldn't be weird or awkward if he didn't feel the same way. We know one thing, he cares about you, so either way, I think things will turn out just fine!

havingitall

I am mother to a 21 year old male. I can tell you with all honesty that they are absolutely clueless when female likes them, My husband is the same way too.

If you are interested in him, tell him that you are. Don't go overboard with a ton of emotions but put it out there that you are interested in him.

mhotch

A definitive "NO", is easier to live with then years of "woulda, shoulda, coulda". Let him know how you feel. There is great advise in this thread, I cannot add any better.

Keep us posted, I am curious how it works out.

LemonsAndCoffee

OMGosh, I just have to know what happens with this! It's like our own MFP soap opera :bigsmile:

Good luck to the OP!!

quara

I too am bumping so I can see what happens!! I say go for it, girl!

adidrea

It sounds like he already likes you if he does all of those sweet things! If I were you, I would take the chance and tell him (but it sounds like you're already planning a little something special for him :flowerforyou: ). I wouldn't tell him "I love you" because you're right, it could scare him off...you're not dating just yet. Just tell him you have feelings for him that have developed past friendship and that you would like to be more than friends. Be yourself, stay confident, and don't let it ruin your friendship if it doesn't work out (But I'm 99.9% sure that it will work out!!).

Come back and tell us how it went, I'd love to hear the ending!

nymphis

I am curious of the result as well! Good luck! Hope it all works out for you! :flowerforyou:

UsedToBeHusky

he packs you lunch and gives you chocolates as a nice surprise?!!? thats man speak for "please notice me" I am 90% sure of it. You are smart AND pretty and he clearly cares for you - so sit him down and tell him how you feel. If not you are going to regret wasting so much time!

and then come back and tell us all how it went

Do I just tell him that I have strong feelings for him or can I be dead honest and tell him how much I love him? Don't want to scare him off either

I'm pretty sure he is as crazy about you as you are about him. He packs you lunch AND gives you chocolate!! That is soooo a boyfriend kind of thing to do. Stop being so chicken, and just tell him... before its too late!!

TeutonicKnight

Unless you are up front about how you feel, your feelings will be transparent, invisible.

Be true to your heart, and he will be with his own. If he wants to just be friends, respect that.

You never know where the friend path may lead. He will know you care deeply about him and it will change the course he is on forever. If he never knows, you will never be a part of the current course he is on.

peachy782

I used to have someone exactly like this (well not a flatmate but I worked with him...), he used to taxi me around even though he lived in the opposite direction, once when I got totally trashed at a friends party he put me in a taxi, carried me indoors, put me into bed after holding back my hair lol, and then went home again about 20mins away and paid for both taxi's, used to do things for me and buy me little things, and it was only a few years later he told me he really liked me but was intimidated and knew I liked someone else so never said anything!!
You're a stunner go for it, he'd be mad not to like you and you'll always wonder what if!
but do it in a light hearted way, flirt lots, wear a cute dress (unless you know he likes certain looks or has complimented on specific outfits) men generally prefer natural looks so don't make too much of an effort,
Good luck and keep us posted!!

hbrittingham

Bumping so I can see the outcome! This is such a sweet thread. Good luck!

CouleeRunner

I would tell him. Good luck...hope all goes well for you.

Elle408

Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol

loveliisa

Bump to see the outcome!

This is exciting! good luck!! just be yourself, he already seems to like you anyway!

kgillikin

bump just to follow

TurtleRunnerNC

Good luck