Not accepting new friends. Need to... vent? Im not angry.

piezoeyjune

I understand. I really do. You have too many already. You really want to be able to support those you have. Whatever.

I get it but it still sucks.

Im having a real hard time right now (I know... wah, wah, wah) and I was reading through the blogs out there to see if anyone can relate. So, I find your words to be inspiring and think that maybe you would be a great support for me.
(totally selfish I know, but I do try to support my friends also. So dont lecture...)

When I click through to your page to send a request Im met with a...

**PLEASE READ***
I am not accepting new friends at this time, [insert reason here]...

ok, that sucks but I move on. Back to the blog. Maybe I can just "subscribe" to it. Maybe just having your words in my inbox will be just as inspiring. So I click subscribe...

Nope, you dont want that either.

So, essentially you have your group and thats it. I get it. I really do.

It still sucks.

I was on that beachbody site and, honestly, its worse there. Everyone's so fit and perfect that they have no need for... newbies? fatties? someone not like them...

Unfortunately, MFP sometimes feels like that.

Sorry, its just a bit disappointing sometimes. Feeling like the outsider...

binkxo3

Agreed. There are always going to be cliques. Especially on the internet. Keep your head up. Anyone who doesnt want to take the time to meet and help new people isnt ready to help themselves! Good Luck! & Feel free to add me.


PS. Watch what you say on here... the evil clique trolls will eat this post right up (:

SafireBleu

I'll be your friend!

piezoeyjune

Agreed. There are always going to be cliques. Especially on the internet. Keep your head up. Anyone who doesnt want to take the time to meet and help new people isnt ready to help themselves! Good Luck! & Feel free to add me.


PS. Watch what you say on here... the evil clique trolls will eat this post right up (:

Oh I know... Im waiting and bracing myself.

Thanks for the kind words!

PinkEarthMama

I'm always on the lookout for new friends. I regularly delete those who are not being healthy, not logging in, etc.

newbeetler

F*** the trolls.

If they don't want to be your friend you don't need them.

On wards and up wards there's lots of nice ones out there.

My friends list is open to you if you want to add me )

And anyone else. You can never have too many friends and too much support.

marquesajen

That stinks! I didn't know people even did that!

PompousClock

When I click through to your page to send a request Im met with a...

**PLEASE READ***
I am not accepting new friends at this time, [insert reason here]...

ok, that sucks but I move on. Back to the blog. Maybe I can just "subscribe" to it. Maybe just having your words in my inbox will be just as inspiring. So I click subscribe...

Nope, you dont want that either.

When someone posts something I find interesting, I'll click through to their profile to see whether we have compatible goals and whether I should send a friend request. I find it funny that your profile reads:

Piezoeyjune has chosen to keep her profile private.

ishallnotwant

I honestly don't think people are trying to be 'cliquish', I think people just want to be able to focus on and have time for the friends they have on MFP. This site is not just a casual site like facebook where people blog about everything and anything. For the most part, the people here are really trying and some really struggle with weight loss. It's nice to be able to actually keep up with your list of friends and be encouraging. I trim my friend list quite a bit, because I just feel like i can't keep up. If I see people who are not active, I have to cut them. I want to be a supportive friend, but I have a life outside of MFP, so I can't have super long lists of friends to chat with or i'll be on here too much.

synthetiquecindy

Feels like high school again, doesn't it? .

Keep your chin up and look for inspiration in other types of people.

I take great inspiration in people of all different levels of physical fitness. There are so many different traits that you can find in an inspiring weightloss-friend: Willpower, dedication and self-restraint and a real desire to see others fulfilling their goals no matter how far along they've come.

NatalieBrooke88

I didn't realize that people were so overwhelmed, not to mention so important, that they feel the need to declare they are not accepting friends.

Really... seriously??? This is a fitness website.. get over yourself.

And, OF COURSE, I will be your friend.

mg720

aw just keep your head up!

piezoeyjune

When I click through to your page to send a request Im met with a...

**PLEASE READ***
I am not accepting new friends at this time, [insert reason here]...

ok, that sucks but I move on. Back to the blog. Maybe I can just "subscribe" to it. Maybe just having your words in my inbox will be just as inspiring. So I click subscribe...

Nope, you dont want that either.

When someone posts something I find interesting, I'll click through to their profile to see whether we have compatible goals and whether I should send a friend request. I find it funny that your profile reads:

Piezoeyjune has chosen to keep her profile private.

I know. Im fixing that right now. I did that is a fit of "i suck... why bother... no one cares... blah blah blah. trying to get back up and brush off the dust.

Gotta go and change the settings...

piezoeyjune

I honestly don't think people are trying to be 'cliquish', I think people just want to be able to focus on and have time for the friends they have on MFP. This site is not just a casual site like facebook where people blog about everything and anything. For the most part, the people here are really trying and some really struggle with weight loss. It's nice to be able to actually keep up with your list of friends and be encouraging. I trim my friend list quite a bit, because I just feel like i can't keep up. If I see people who are not active, I have to cut them. I want to be a supportive friend, but I have a life outside of MFP, so I can't have super long lists of friends to chat with or i'll be on here too much.

I agree and understand. I just had to... i dont know. I guess I was feeling really alone and needed to... get it out, i guess.

binkxo3

meh. controlling my mean-ness.

LJCannon

One can never have too many Friends, and I would NEVER post a statement that I am Not Accepting New Friends.
:ohwell: On the other hand, I do worry that with Hundreds of Friends I cannot encourage and support each of them the way they deserve, and expect.
:laugh: And I feel GUILTY if I "Delete" a Friend, even if they have been Inactive for months and have not responded to Messages that I send.

newfieborn

I am not into that silly stuff. I am here to lose weight and I like to meet as many people as possible. I don't chat a lot but I like to see other people's progress (and to show mine). Sent a friend request if you like.

pamelad77

Anyone can add me, I don't mind, more the merrier :happy:

piezoeyjune

One can never have too many Friends, and I would NEVER post a statement that I am Not Accepting New Friends.
:ohwell: On the other hand, I do worry that with Hundreds of Friends I cannot encourage and support each of them the way they deserve, and expect.
:laugh: And I feel GUILTY if I "Delete" a Friend, even if they have been Inactive for months and have not responded to Messages that I send.

170 POUNDS LOST?!

Holy Crap, thats awesome! (For some reason "Bill and Ted" are popping into my head right now. :laugh: )

AprilG412

I am always looking for supportive friends, because I believe in being one. I am a mother of 3 and in my late 30's. I still need alot of weight to go, but I know I will get there. If you think we could be friends by all means add me and if not well I understand I may not be a good fit for you.

hausofnichele

I'm always up for new friends and sharing support! I understand your frustration... you're not alone.

hottottie11

I do that. Shoot me. I was getting 3-7 requests a day. I don't want to reject, but I found it harder to keep up. Esp with the people who were supportive in the beginning.

I started to reach 400 pals and had to make some changes.

mistresseeyore

I'm always on the lookout for new friends. I regularly delete those who are not being healthy, not logging in, etc.

Same here.

MamaWannaRun

I am always looking for supportive friends too and like my friend above, because I believe in being one. I am a mother of 5 and in my 40's. and like my friend above, If you think we could be friends by all means add me and if not well I understand I may not be a good fit for you.

madameduffay

I'm more of the "more the merrier' type as well. But, maybe this person finds it too hard to respond to everyone but feels they should?

I don't know, just trying to be devil's advocate.

Although when I'm venting, I hate when people are devil's advocate with me.

Forget what I said above. That jerk!

Feel free to add me as a friend : )

bigjeffyc105_deleted

You can never have enough friends,, so hit me friend me .. I don't bite,,,well most of the time anyways.. :smokin:

janalayn

MFP is just like life ... lots of different kinds of people with different personalities good, bad and other .... I hope you find some supportive friends who can be what you need to keep you going.. feel free to add me if you would like.

piezoeyjune

Wow... you guys are awesome!

Thanks for all the support everyone!

Gabriall

I understand... feel free to add me, I mostly just read make irreverant comments and babble innanely about stuff

rammsteinsoldier

There are a lot of really great and supportive people on here. Just ignore those who don't want to be friends. Just think, they are missing out on getting to know someone as special as you.

MaximalLife

I enjoy new friends, because it keep green in my mind what it was like to begin this painful, long, hard journey.
I never want to forget.
Further, it's great to be able to help and support others.

It's a mutually beneficial relationship.
I WELCOME ALL!

Come on in - the water's just fine.