Not accepting new friends. Need to... vent? Im not angry.

maidentl

This another "debate" that I don't understand. Different people have different goals and purposes for this site. Why must people bad-mouth anyone who does it differently? I am not referring to the OP, she was venting. But rather than tell her not to take it personally, so many people jumped in with their comments about "those" people. They won't succeed, they're snobs, they're cliquish, they act like this is high school, they're douches. For the love of crud, people, grow up!

MaggiePuccini

I'm not friends with everyone I meet in real life. I put up boundaries to appear unapproachable in real life (ex: no eye contact with slutty chicks at the bar). I tell people that their behavior/attitude/outlook/opinion is pissing me off and that I don't want to be around them in real life.

Are we so disconnected from real life once we sit down in front of a computer message board that these same behaviors are somehow shocking or unacceptable?

Wow. NO eye contact with 'slutty chicks' at the bar. How commendable. You sound a gentleman. I take it from your mission statement that you're as frank in real life as you are on line. Wow, good luck with the classy chicks, you're going to need it!

ironanimal

I accept everyone with a profile picture at the least. I do regularly clean up my friends list however, removing people absent more than 3 days (I'm harsh, yes yes) and those undereating or promoting it. Everyone has their own needs here and some don't like to be overwhelmed by a great long list, and others such as myself remove negative influences very swiftly.

ts1122

Feel free to add me I may not get personal messages out every day but if someone is struggling, I try to give some kind words and inspiration

onedayillbamilf

I don't accept very many friend requests because when I was on here before, I ended up friending a psycho and I ended up having to delete the account. This time around I am ONLY friends with the people I know aren't going to attempt to make my MFP life a living hell by talking friends into sending hate mail, and people who I've seen around who's comments and posts I like. That's it, that's all. Period. It's MY choice to decide who I want to be friends with. People don't have to like it.

How many times I gotta say sorry for that lmao

I've already told you, sorry means nothing. You must send gifts!

last time I sent you gift you mailed it back saying "No more creepy blow up dolls" I was trying to respect your wishes but if I can send gifts again mauahahahahaha:devil:

That's because I specifically told you, IN WRTITING (because that makes it official that my demands must be met) that the only acceptable gifts are edible, shiny, or battery operated! That was NONE of those things. :grumble:

Siannah

I'll be your friend :flowerforyou:

Up their butts with coconuts!

gildinha

LMAO!! I think we read the same blog and wanted to be friends with the same person and we both got disappointed ....

robinogue

I'm not so sure it's all about a "clique" don't get me wrong it maybe in some cases. I have friends like that who are not accepting anymore friends, they want to be totally supportive to the friends they already have. I also have friends who only accept women. I'm open, feel free to add me if you like. What I can say is I have lots of MFP friends and only a handfull comment on anything I do or don't do, that's a big disappointment because as busy as I am daily I try to encourage everyone and I'd like the same.

emilynicole02

Honestly, I have a saying similiar to what you said in your original post... buuuuut. mine says I will more than likely add you BUT you need to keep up with commenting my posts as I do the same for all my friends... that is reason I wanted to keep my friends list comfortable but low so that I can comment and support all of my friends and I just ask the same in return

you are more than welcome to add me as a friend

seoid

there are a lot of RUDE *kitten* people on this board. screw them....they don't deserve your friendship.

Shanphichloe

I get a bit disappointed too when I see someone who seems fit and healthy and for I wish too follow them but they don't accept anymore friends. But, I rather have people who are willing to support others including myself. They probably have too many friends, or maybe they are at a point were they feel comfortable with what and who they have. I'm always looking for support and willing to offer support. Feel free to add me!

thor1god1of1awesome

I don't accept very many friend requests because when I was on here before, I ended up friending a psycho and I ended up having to delete the account. This time around I am ONLY friends with the people I know aren't going to attempt to make my MFP life a living hell by talking friends into sending hate mail, and people who I've seen around who's comments and posts I like. That's it, that's all. Period. It's MY choice to decide who I want to be friends with. People don't have to like it.

How many times I gotta say sorry for that lmao

I've already told you, sorry means nothing. You must send gifts!

last time I sent you gift you mailed it back saying "No more creepy blow up dolls" I was trying to respect your wishes but if I can send gifts again mauahahahahaha:devil:

That's because I specifically told you, IN WRTITING (because that makes it official that my demands must be met) that the only acceptable gifts are edible, shiny, or battery operated! That was NONE of those things. :grumble:

Ok next blow up doll I send have a removelible "toy" better?

yuckidah

Better to have no friends than hundreds of the sort who post 'WTG', 'Awesome burn', 'Wow, good going', 'Great job' and all the other token meaningless repetitive comments when you "burned 11 calories doing 5 minutes of "Walking the goldfish"" ;o)

durex

oops, wrong thread

LastMinuteMama

I've come across it a few times on profiles of people who I thought would make a great "friend" ( lots in common or whatever) and felt miff'd over it at first, but now that I've accepted or friended a few other MPFers who never interact with me I don't really see a problem with it. I'd rather know up front that they feel as though they're at capacity instead of friending them and never hearing from them.

Quality over Quantity

Siannah

LMAO!! I think we read the same blog and wanted to be friends with the same person and we both got disappointed ....

Kinda curious now. What if we ALL send friend requests to this person anyway...., just to annoy them! :devil:

Jellyphant

Wellll, myfitnessPAL clearly wants you to have a wide array of people to lean on with your weightloss journey. I honestly don't get what's so bad about people wanting to get to know you if you share similar fitness goals or simply just give good advice! A person comes off to me as stuck up and self righteous if they post that stupid 'disclaimer' in big *kitten* caps on their page. (/_-

jenbk2

Honestly- I don't really feel like some unknown person spewing off cliche quotes gets me motivated. Of course I have always been the rebel. I feel like I need to do this myself. I have also noticed if some burns 99 calories going shopping and people comment "nice burn" are they really paying attention to what you are doing? No they are just posting to post. I have a few friends on here. I will comment if it worth commenting. I guess I am just a toughie.

stacygb

I would love to be your friend! I need all the help I can get!

Christina1007

I saw some profiles here where I wanted to ask for their friendship, but it MUST come with a message. Message about what? About how great looking they are, fit or what am I going to tell them before I even got the chance to see what they are here for? Just looking for support, like everyone else, no big deal. Isn't this why you befriend someone here?

becoming_a_new_me

LMAO!! I think we read the same blog and wanted to be friends with the same person and we both got disappointed ....

Now I want to read the blog!!!

shannieboo

agreed! and I hate when your new friends say "if you dont post or comment to them for 3 days they will delete you" just because I dont say something all the time does not mean i dont support you. thats why on my profile it states I do not have rules for friends.

Massageu2

Feel free to add me! I need all the support I can get and will do what I can to be supportive of others. Anyone else that wants too can feel free to add me too. I may take a day or two to approve you, but take it as I was a little busy, not ignoring you in any way.

Tina

phinners

I'm happy to have new friends - my only disclaimer is that I do not log on every day, I work in a hospital and I am utterly knackered when I get home and cannot be arsed to log on to the internet every day to prove my commitment and woop everyone on. and also I have had weight loss surgery. And not every one likes us cheaters or *add what erver stigma you like here*. Other than that I'm cool

MMarvelous

I'm not friends with everyone I meet in real life. I put up boundaries to appear unapproachable in real life (ex: no eye contact with slutty chicks at the bar).

Well duh... you can't make eye contact when you're staring at their boobs!

More of an *kitten* man.

But yeah, I'm guilty of having my share of conversations with breasts.

LMAO

phinners

Better to have no friends than hundreds of the sort who post 'WTG', 'Awesome burn', 'Wow, good going', 'Great job' and all the other token meaningless repetitive comments when you "burned 11 calories doing 5 minutes of "Walking the goldfish"" ;o)

Lmao!!! Yup!!

onedayillbamilf

I don't accept very many friend requests because when I was on here before, I ended up friending a psycho and I ended up having to delete the account. This time around I am ONLY friends with the people I know aren't going to attempt to make my MFP life a living hell by talking friends into sending hate mail, and people who I've seen around who's comments and posts I like. That's it, that's all. Period. It's MY choice to decide who I want to be friends with. People don't have to like it.

How many times I gotta say sorry for that lmao

I've already told you, sorry means nothing. You must send gifts!

last time I sent you gift you mailed it back saying "No more creepy blow up dolls" I was trying to respect your wishes but if I can send gifts again mauahahahahaha:devil:

That's because I specifically told you, IN WRTITING (because that makes it official that my demands must be met) that the only acceptable gifts are edible, shiny, or battery operated! That was NONE of those things. :grumble:

Ok next blow up doll I send have a removelible "toy" better?

Hmmm....if you send the toy, minus the doll, I MIGHT think about forgiving you. But batteries MUST be included!

mjordanjordan

Agreed. There are always going to be cliques. Especially on the internet. Keep your head up. Anyone who doesnt want to take the time to meet and help new people isnt ready to help themselves! Good Luck! & Feel free to add me.


PS. Watch what you say on here... the evil clique trolls will eat this post right up (:

"Anyone who doesnt want to take the time to meet and help new people isnt ready to help themselves!"

Excuse me? Some people get a lot of friend requests and so they feel they have to limit who they accept. Some people may prefer to have only a few friends on MFP, so they feel closer to them. Whatever the reason, not wanting to accept a strangers "friend" invite has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with a persons interest in their own health.

I agree 100% I dont usually spend much time in any of the forums and am not looking to be someone else's support at this time. For me, MFP is an excellent tool and tracker to help me do what I am trying to do. I have a few 'pals' on here and they are friends in 'real life.' I am very private about my weight loss journey but that doesnt make me any less dedicated. It also doesnt make me a mean, selfish, terrible, pompous, (insert whatever negative adjective you would like) person.

At some point, I may feel that I am in a position to be supportive to people that are looking for that, but I am not there yet. ANd it just isnt really my personality to have lots of virtual friends.

ishallnotwant

I'm not friends with everyone I meet in real life. I put up boundaries to appear unapproachable in real life (ex: no eye contact with slutty chicks at the bar).

Well duh... you can't make eye contact when you're staring at their boobs!

More of an *kitten* man.

But yeah, I'm guilty of having my share of conversations with breasts.

When they start talking back you know you've had too much to drink.

KarateGoddess

That is seriously annoying! I can't believe they wouldn't even want new subscribers. What snobs! Like they're SOOO special! HAHA You're not selfish - they are. MFP is a community. We're all in this together to help each other get through something that can be extremely difficult and people like that are only in it for the attention - all they want from you is your 'Oh you look so fabulous! I wish I looked like that. You're so amazing.' comments to pad their already over inflated egos.

Screw them!!

There are so many much more amazing and real people here that are inspiring and are willing to be your friend and will help and support you. This is a great way to find them.

I'll be your friend. .