Not accepting new friends. Need to... vent? Im not angry.
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Perhaps those people who aren't accepting friends take the people in their friends list very seriously and want to support them with more than just "wtg" and more than not at all. And they are at their limit. Or just overwhelmed with life. It's their choice right? I would want you to have the same choice to be friends with me or not.
But I agree it still sucks when someone rejects you or isn't open to new friends. There are lots of people looking for friends on here, I hope you find a group of friends on here who are as caring as mine are. Having said all that feel free to add me as a friend.0 -
I have been here for over a year so I am at my goal weight but have added a lot of fitness goals. I have had some of my friends since day 1. In order to "Great job!" "you killed it!" and remember what they are all working for (low carb, gaining muscle, South Beach, vegan) AND not get fired from my job, I have to be really judicious with the number of people on my friends list.
I'm sorry that you feel left out, but please don't take it personally or that any one is just too cool for school. The reason people enjoy so much success here is often due to the genuine friendships that develop. Genuine > half-assed.
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Who puts that on their profile? And how rude and egotistical is that? Go ahead and add me
I do0 -
I have that note on my profile, but I answer messages if people who aren't on my friends list have specific questions or need a particular piece of advice or encouragement.
I can't speak for everyone, but at least that's what I do.0 -
I totally agree with you there are always the cliques no matter what age you are or what you join
Feel free for any of you to add me as a friend for the more the merrier0 -
Hmmm.... The problem with accepting all the friend requests is that it takes time to be a good friend. Someone with 100+ friends probably doesn't have time to pay attention to your daily activities, along with everyone else's.
I have only about 40, and honestly, some days I don't even have time to be supportive for all of them. And, (this is kind of selfish), I'd rather not be friends with someone with more friends than they can keep up with, because chances are, there's not going to be much support coming from their way.
So, are you looking for a good friend or just a model? If you want a friend, you actually might be better off to choose someone with not so many friends who will actually have time to be a friend. And, of course, don't forget to be a friend back!0 -
I still accept everyone that invites me, IF they leave a message... I appreciate support on my posts, ect, but some of them just friend me so they can be all creeperish and read all my threads but not post.
I'm OK with it. What can I say, stalkers love me. I'm an attention *kitten*, so it doesn't bother me.0 -
what? you're mad people won't add you as a friend?
.....i don't understand... if they don't wanna add you who cares? there's like a billion people on here, move on to the next person0 -
I can always use more support and new friends. Anyone please feel free to add me.0
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Whoever wants to add me, can. At one point, I was like that, but then I remembered all of the new members who join on a day to day basis, so feel free to add me if you'd like
EDIT: For anyone who is interested, I have been at this since September 2011. I'm a Vegetarian, trying to incorporate a VEGAN diet into my lifestyle as of two days ago, and I have 20 lbs left til goal weight.
My stats: 5'3 & CW is 150 lbs0 -
I agree, I tried to join a group the other day and was told I couldn't, they had too many in there group and weren't accepting new people... even though the title of the group made it sound welcoming. When I read through the group one of their members suggested changing the title so it didn't sound inviting to newbies... but the person I guess was the moderator or something stated that they want to have the longest running group and changing the name makes it start all over... *rolls my eyes*
Don't get me wrong, I'm finding a lot of support here... but that need to keep track of the longest running seemed odd to me. And a little like we are here for different reasons. I'm here to get healthy, get support, and be supportive to others and that keeping track of how many, etc... Plus I'm doing well and finding friends here; but I think if that had been my first experience with MFP, I would have just left.0 -
Who puts that on their profile? And how rude and egotistical is that? Go ahead and add me
Exactly what i was thinking....oh i cant have new friends as i just have to many as im miss effin popular. I guess they have their reasons which is understandable but it annoys me also!0 -
I have been here for over a year so I am at my goal weight but have added a lot of fitness goals. I have had some of my friends since day 1. In order to "Great job!" "you killed it!" and remember what they are all working for (low carb, gaining muscle, South Beach, vegan) AND not get fired from my job, I have to be really judicious with the number of people on my friends list.
I'm sorry that you feel left out, but please don't take it personally or that any one is just too cool for school. The reason people enjoy so much success here is often due to the genuine friendships that develop. Genuine > half-assed.
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Completely agree....I prefer to be able to actually know who my friends are here and be able to take the time to read their updates. I just couldnt do it with a large friend list.0 -
Not sure if you are looking for a particular type of person but I always accept new friend requests. Add if you would like.0
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That sucks, feel free to add me, I love having new friends, the more the merrier and the more the harder I push myself. xx0
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I was just saying this the other day.
MFP snobs.
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I have that note on my profile, but I answer messages if people who aren't on my friends list have specific questions or need a particular piece of advice or encouragement.
I can't speak for everyone, but at least that's what I do.
CoryIda actually didn't accept my friend request a few days ago. So.....?
(she posted on this thread on page 2 so i'm using her as an example)
Maybe i don't understand, is this a vent about being upset because someone wouldn't accept their friend request? Am I understanding this correctly?0 -
I honestly don't think people are trying to be 'cliquish', I think people just want to be able to focus on and have time for the friends they have on MFP. This site is not just a casual site like facebook where people blog about everything and anything. For the most part, the people here are really trying and some really struggle with weight loss. It's nice to be able to actually keep up with your list of friends and be encouraging. I trim my friend list quite a bit, because I just feel like i can't keep up. If I see people who are not active, I have to cut them. I want to be a supportive friend, but I have a life outside of MFP, so I can't have super long lists of friends to chat with or i'll be on here too much.
I agree 100% with this. I like to get to know the people on my friends list and support each one. If there are 100+ people I don't feel like I can adequately support them or know much about them.0 -
what? you're mad people won't add you as a friend?
.....i don't understand... if they don't wanna add you who cares? there's like a billion people on here, move on to the next person
ditto. sorry, but this is a fact of life.0 -
I say, if they don't want us, screw 'em. I'd be more than happy to have you as an MFP buddy.0
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