snobbish on MFP?

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  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    What many see as bullying I see as the smart people calling out the dumb people. To avoid being bullied, don't be an idiot.

    Thats just ignorant to be honest......the statement made is ignorant for clarity's sake--not you because I would never give cause to call anyone that so if you take offense, I am REALLY sorry :flowerforyou: , but I just feel that the statement made is ignorant.

    Too many people call others "dumb" or "idiot" or even "moron".......people who ask questions for the sake of their own curiosity should not be bullied. There is no such thing as a dumb question.........if you don't know, you ask. That is all she was curious about. She didn't understand--and on the flip side, granted, she hadn't really had the time to see how these message boards flowed--therefore, she asked. Plain and simple.

    We all need to be a bit more accepting of this line of questioning because no one who posts threads like this is actually calling anyone on here "snobs" or the like. They just have not seen how this message board works is all and some people just don't wait until they get a feel for it.......thats just who they are as a person and thats not a crime.
    And some people take the internet far too seriously. Keep your patronizing flower to yourself, thanks.

    Woooow, and what flew up your *kitten*? I was not being patronizing at all........I truly meant it when I said I was sorry and I thought that smilie would have helped to show that I really did mean it. Sorry that I totally missed my mark.........go calm yourself and have a lovely day........
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    Gee, MFP is a lot like ....what's the name of that place again?

    Oh yeah! The real world!

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't see how the "real world" is the internet. There are your bad ones, your snobbish ones, the ones that kill with kindness, ect ect ect.......but in a place like this, if you want something "real" in this world, its not going to happen. This is, or is supposed to be, a filtered sort of "real" where there is no judgement, extra amounts of support and happiness. Some people, I fear, get lost in that sense because of their own struggles toward weight loss. And a lot of the time when they are frustrated or mad that they aren't losing enough THAT quickly, they take it on innocents who just want to know why this message board is like it is sometimes. And sometimes, when they've only been on here a few times and haven't really gotten to know how it flows, they make posts like this one and only see the "snobbish" side or just all around negativity.

    What we all have to realize is that we are all going to have opinions.......some clash.......some dont.......but all in all, we really do need to support each other even if we don't see eye to eye. For instance, some people may think its funny to joke around and call each other names.........I for one, don't like it.......but that doesn't mean I should pass judgement on someone.

    I said MFP is a lot "like" the real world.
    You think you're "bursting bubbles" by going on to tell me a global statement about the internet, which I did not once mention, and that MFP is, indeed like the real world and is not living up to what it's "supposed" to be like in your opinion. A lot of wasted text just to agree with my sarcastic comment about MFP.
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    But back on topic, since my attempt to lighten the mood went over like a fart in church...

    Any time you go into a new social situation, it's going to seem overwhelming. People who have known each other for months and months are going to be seen as a clique, and those who are new are going to feel like outsiders. Everyone starts off here on equal footing... as a noob. It takes time for everyone to find their niche within the group.

    This is by FAR the most friendly, open group of people I've ever encountered online. Some are uptight, some are snarky, some are overly emotional... sure. Some I have no interest in befriending. Some have no interest in befriending me. And that's perfectly fine.

    Ha ha!! Fart in church......love it........youre alright! And I totally have to agree with this statement.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    Looks like the OP is just trying to start something.. I'm going to be snobbish and not agree with her.
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    Gee, MFP is a lot like ....what's the name of that place again?

    Oh yeah! The real world!

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't see how the "real world" is the internet. There are your bad ones, your snobbish ones, the ones that kill with kindness, ect ect ect.......but in a place like this, if you want something "real" in this world, its not going to happen. This is, or is supposed to be, a filtered sort of "real" where there is no judgement, extra amounts of support and happiness. Some people, I fear, get lost in that sense because of their own struggles toward weight loss. And a lot of the time when they are frustrated or mad that they aren't losing enough THAT quickly, they take it on innocents who just want to know why this message board is like it is sometimes. And sometimes, when they've only been on here a few times and haven't really gotten to know how it flows, they make posts like this one and only see the "snobbish" side or just all around negativity.

    What we all have to realize is that we are all going to have opinions.......some clash.......some dont.......but all in all, we really do need to support each other even if we don't see eye to eye. For instance, some people may think its funny to joke around and call each other names.........I for one, don't like it.......but that doesn't mean I should pass judgement on someone.

    I said MFP is a lot "like" the real world.
    You think you're "bursting bubbles" by going on to tell me a global statement about the internet, which I did not once mention, and that MFP is, indeed like the real world and is not living up to what it's "supposed" to be like in your opinion. A lot of wasted text just to agree with my sarcastic comment about MFP.

    And you replied to me again, because? :huh:
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    Woooow, and what flew up your *kitten*? I was not being patronizing at all........I truly meant it when I said I was sorry and I thought that smilie would have helped to show that I really did mean it. Sorry that I totally missed my mark.........go calm yourself and have a lovely day........
    Oh, come on. I was just joking and you posted a three paragraph response. Nothing flew up me *kitten*. I don't need to calm down. This is just an example of what can happen on the internet. You don't know me therefore you don't get my sarcasm and then you turn around and accuse me of ignorance and having an object lodged in my bum. I think it's funny. You think I need to go take my medication. :drinker:
  • ❤B☩❤
    ❤B☩❤ Posts: 634
    Seems a strange "intro" for your third post to be insulting people.

    Seems a bit snobbish to me. :drinker:

    This poster has been here for a year already and undoubtedly has seen enough to make this observation. I really think that, just because she hasn't posted much, her opinions and observations are very valid. I would not take this as insulting, unless of course I was one of those people. Life is FAAAAR too short to be one of those. I like to B+ Be positive.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    Gee, MFP is a lot like ....what's the name of that place again?

    Oh yeah! The real world!

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't see how the "real world" is the internet. There are your bad ones, your snobbish ones, the ones that kill with kindness, ect ect ect.......but in a place like this, if you want something "real" in this world, its not going to happen. This is, or is supposed to be, a filtered sort of "real" where there is no judgement, extra amounts of support and happiness. Some people, I fear, get lost in that sense because of their own struggles toward weight loss. And a lot of the time when they are frustrated or mad that they aren't losing enough THAT quickly, they take it on innocents who just want to know why this message board is like it is sometimes. And sometimes, when they've only been on here a few times and haven't really gotten to know how it flows, they make posts like this one and only see the "snobbish" side or just all around negativity.

    What we all have to realize is that we are all going to have opinions.......some clash.......some dont.......but all in all, we really do need to support each other even if we don't see eye to eye. For instance, some people may think its funny to joke around and call each other names.........I for one, don't like it.......but that doesn't mean I should pass judgement on someone.

    I said MFP is a lot "like" the real world.
    You think you're "bursting bubbles" by going on to tell me a global statement about the internet, which I did not once mention, and that MFP is, indeed like the real world and is not living up to what it's "supposed" to be like in your opinion. A lot of wasted text just to agree with my sarcastic comment about MFP.

    And you replied to me again, because? :huh:

    You're right. Sorry to highlight your obvious blunder. Right now you're being painfully ironic.
  • kathott
    kathott Posts: 72 Member
    That's very unfortunate that you have had an experience that has left you feeling the way you do. I have been on MFP for over a year and have only had support & friendship.
    Obviously, people are different, but we always have to take into account that some people dont know how to write properly or are unable to express themselves in words. I think that is why the world is the way it is. Email/computer has taken over the need for proper composition and/or proper conversations.
    I am hoping that is the issue here.
    I hope your experience on MFP gets better....the site is wonderful.
    Good luck on your life adventure!!
    Kathleen
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    Gee, MFP is a lot like ....what's the name of that place again?

    Oh yeah! The real world!

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't see how the "real world" is the internet. There are your bad ones, your snobbish ones, the ones that kill with kindness, ect ect ect.......but in a place like this, if you want something "real" in this world, its not going to happen. This is, or is supposed to be, a filtered sort of "real" where there is no judgement, extra amounts of support and happiness. Some people, I fear, get lost in that sense because of their own struggles toward weight loss. And a lot of the time when they are frustrated or mad that they aren't losing enough THAT quickly, they take it on innocents who just want to know why this message board is like it is sometimes. And sometimes, when they've only been on here a few times and haven't really gotten to know how it flows, they make posts like this one and only see the "snobbish" side or just all around negativity.

    What we all have to realize is that we are all going to have opinions.......some clash.......some dont.......but all in all, we really do need to support each other even if we don't see eye to eye. For instance, some people may think its funny to joke around and call each other names.........I for one, don't like it.......but that doesn't mean I should pass judgement on someone.

    I said MFP is a lot "like" the real world.
    You think you're "bursting bubbles" by going on to tell me a global statement about the internet, which I did not once mention, and that MFP is, indeed like the real world and is not living up to what it's "supposed" to be like in your opinion. A lot of wasted text just to agree with my sarcastic comment about MFP.

    And you replied to me again, because? :huh:

    You're right. Sorry to highlight your obvious blunder. Right now you're being painfully ironic.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • WhiteCoc0
    WhiteCoc0 Posts: 160 Member
    really???? I havent encounter that!!! Everyone seems amazing and inspirational. All my Friends rock and I love all the various opinions on forums....guess I see the good in everyone!
  • ❤B☩❤
    ❤B☩❤ Posts: 634
    I honestly have to say that I am lucky to have found friends here that I would KILL to meet in person. I have times when I fail, times when I succeed, and times that I just plain ol' wanna quit. But I have such a great support system, that I know quitting and failure are not an option.

    I hope that my friends can say the same thing about me. I find it hard to comment on every person's accomplishments, and for that reason (and that alone), I do not accept many new friend requests. If I did not work so many hours in a day, I would LOVE to be the MFPeep who comments on every single accomplishment!

    That said.....like other posters have said, take the ones that work for/with you, and un-friend the ones who don't. It is your journey for you, just like this is my journey for me. Make it work for you! Good luck and stay positive!
  • ❤B☩❤
    ❤B☩❤ Posts: 634


    But seriously, 90% of the people I've met on here have been awesome, supportive, and overall fun to talk to. This is a great site. Just ignore the haters :)

    THIS!
  • TeresaC79
    TeresaC79 Posts: 316 Member
    i actually don't see that at all.

    but maybe I would if my first post was so judgmental. maybe I too would have felt attacked and bullied had I come out of the gates the way you did.

    that said....the forums here have nothing to do with the success or lack there of. good luck in your weight loss journey whether you choose to "hang out" on the forums or not.
    I made an observation. You took it very personal for some reason and choose to defend it and say its not so. I've since seen more hateful post in other threads. Why are you so bent on not admitting that some people on here are mean? Why are you so uncomfortable with my opinion/observation? If you don't agree then that's cool, but that doesn't mean I dont have a right to speak up. I understand that this site is a reflection of the "world" but this isn't a dictatorship. I HAVE seen others being bullied on here by other members.

    Didn't take it personal at all. See, your imposing your judgements of my posts on to me.

    I am simply asserting an alternate observation to yours. You aren't right just because you think it so. I'm not right because I think it so. The thousands of people on here who post that there way is right, aren't always right.

    But trying to start drama is just...silly. Regardless.

    My mama taught me if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Perhaps we could all take a dose of that advice.
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    i actually don't see that at all.

    but maybe I would if my first post was so judgmental. maybe I too would have felt attacked and bullied had I come out of the gates the way you did.

    that said....the forums here have nothing to do with the success or lack there of. good luck in your weight loss journey whether you choose to "hang out" on the forums or not.
    I made an observation. You took it very personal for some reason and choose to defend it and say its not so. I've since seen more hateful post in other threads. Why are you so bent on not admitting that some people on here are mean? Why are you so uncomfortable with my opinion/observation? If you don't agree then that's cool, but that doesn't mean I dont have a right to speak up. I understand that this site is a reflection of the "world" but this isn't a dictatorship. I HAVE seen others being bullied on here by other members.

    Didn't take it personal at all. See, your imposing your judgements of my posts on to me.

    I am simply asserting an alternate observation to yours. You aren't right just because you think it so. I'm not right because I think it so. The thousands of people on here who post that there way is right, aren't always right.

    But trying to start drama is just...silly. Regardless.

    My mama taught me if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Perhaps we could all take a dose of that advice.

    Very true......we all could......and if what I am understanding is what you meant--that you said that she was trying to start drama bc of your line "but trying to start drama is just.....silly"--I don't think she was. I simply feel that it was a simple question out of plain curiosity. BUT if I DID get it wrong and that's not how you meant it.......my sincerest apologies!

    In this case though.......I guess what they say is true.......curiousity killed the cat! HA HA HA!!!
  • eblake111
    eblake111 Posts: 66 Member
    Well alot of people are stuck up anyways so to come to this site I dont see them changing that unfortanately. OH well.....I am here for me and to support others positively ;)
    good luck on your journey and welcome to MFP :)
  • Brightstar4031
    Brightstar4031 Posts: 50 Member
    i actually don't see that at all.

    but maybe I would if my first post was so judgmental. maybe I too would have felt attacked and bullied had I come out of the gates the way you did.

    that said....the forums here have nothing to do with the success or lack there of. good luck in your weight loss journey whether you choose to "hang out" on the forums or not.
    I made an observation. You took it very personal for some reason and choose to defend it and say its not so. I've since seen more hateful post in other threads. Why are you so bent on not admitting that some people on here are mean? Why are you so uncomfortable with my opinion/observation? If you don't agree then that's cool, but that doesn't mean I dont have a right to speak up. I understand that this site is a reflection of the "world" but this isn't a dictatorship. I HAVE seen others being bullied on here by other members.

    Didn't take it personal at all. See, your imposing your judgements of my posts on to me.

    I am simply asserting an alternate observation to yours. You aren't right just because you think it so. I'm not right because I think it so. The thousands of people on here who post that there way is right, aren't always right.

    But trying to start drama is just...silly. Regardless.

    My mama taught me if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Perhaps we could all take a dose of that advice.

    Look I'm done debating with you. Your claiming that by me posting a question asking others experience with snobbish clique like behavior that I'm "staring drama" As if that was my intentions..I think not.
  • chellefatfree
    chellefatfree Posts: 90 Member
    :grumble: I don't usually respond to these postings....but after reading it all....I see a lot of what brightstar was refering to right her in this topic. And I've seen it in a lot of other postings as well. People take things way too personally.....But thankfully I have a great group of friends and have not personally witnessed any of it. Have a great day guys! :wink:
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    :grumble: I don't usually respond to these postings....but after reading it all....I see a lot of what brightstar was refering to right her in this topic. And I've seen it in a lot of other postings as well. People take things way too personally.....But thankfully I have a great group of friends and have not personally witnessed any of it. Have a great day guys! :wink:

    ^^been subjected to it and if I am guilty of anything concerning what Brightstar had said originally, it was not done intentionally, but to only put forth an opinion/to agree with Brightstar. I have to agree with this and what Brightstar had said.....you have a great day too Chellefatfree!! :flowerforyou:
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    Well, I wasn't going to comment, but....
    I've been here a few months now and spend a good part of every morning reading and posting here. I see people who think they know more than everyone, rude people, opinionated people, polite people, people who purposely offend others, and people who can't get their point across because they are afraid of offending someone. I'm not sure I've ever run across a snob though. I think snobs wouldn't lower themselves to use MFP. They probably have a private dietician/chef and a personal trainer.

    I also think no matter how politically correct, polite, or courteous you try to be on the internet SOMEONE is going to take a less-than-positive comment PERSONALLY.

    Just remember, when someone makes a comment it's 99.9% probable they are NOT talking to YOU.
  • StrengthIsBeautiful
    StrengthIsBeautiful Posts: 309 Member
    I've been on here regularly now for a week and have read some cool stuff. Also I've noticed that some people seem so stuck up!

    I was inquiring others opinions... Honestly it struck me as snobbish when reading several profiles that had stipulations on friend requests and such and I found it overwhelming... I think it's not black and white. It's ok that I have an opinion just like everyone else right?


    My 'observations' regarding this post:
    1) Chumming for sharks, you'll get some snark.
    2) Pink says, 'na na na na na I want to start a fight!'
    3) People stating 'stipulations' on friend requests are actually being kind, honest, straight-shooters. Why waste anyone's time?
    4) There is no such thing as a level playing field when taso42 is in the house! :glasses:
  • TeresaC79
    TeresaC79 Posts: 316 Member
    i actually don't see that at all.

    but maybe I would if my first post was so judgmental. maybe I too would have felt attacked and bullied had I come out of the gates the way you did.

    that said....the forums here have nothing to do with the success or lack there of. good luck in your weight loss journey whether you choose to "hang out" on the forums or not.
    I made an observation. You took it very personal for some reason and choose to defend it and say its not so. I've since seen more hateful post in other threads. Why are you so bent on not admitting that some people on here are mean? Why are you so uncomfortable with my opinion/observation? If you don't agree then that's cool, but that doesn't mean I dont have a right to speak up. I understand that this site is a reflection of the "world" but this isn't a dictatorship. I HAVE seen others being bullied on here by other members.

    Didn't take it personal at all. See, your imposing your judgements of my posts on to me.

    I am simply asserting an alternate observation to yours. You aren't right just because you think it so. I'm not right because I think it so. The thousands of people on here who post that there way is right, aren't always right.

    But trying to start drama is just...silly. Regardless.

    My mama taught me if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Perhaps we could all take a dose of that advice.

    Look I'm done debating with you. Your claiming that by me posting a question asking others experience with snobbish clique like behavior that I'm "staring drama" As if that was my intentions..I think not.

    I guess you win then. ;)

    No one is debating and no one was taking anything personally. I hope you found your answer.

    Good day. :laugh:
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658


    My mama taught me if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Perhaps we could all take a dose of that advice.

    Geez, the forums would be so BORING if everyone followed this advise! :yawn:

    Edit: dont know why my comment is in the quote.. it's this one
  • HelloDan
    HelloDan Posts: 712 Member
    Those of you who think they know everything are very annoying to those of us who do.

    :smile:
  • minnesota_deere
    minnesota_deere Posts: 232 Member
    I've been on here regularly now for a week and have read some cool stuff. Also I've noticed that some people seem so stuck up!

    i would quit, it seems this does not fit into your personality, maybe there is something else out there that fits you better. maybe there is a sight called "me,me,me"
  • JulieH3art
    JulieH3art Posts: 293 Member
    Personally, I like being "snobbish" - the clothes are prettier :ohwell:
  • nerdyandilikeit
    nerdyandilikeit Posts: 2,185 Member
    Those of you who think they know everything are very annoying to those of us who do.

    :smile:

    Bazinga!
  • AccordingtoTodd
    AccordingtoTodd Posts: 197 Member
    Is there a separate section at the mall for the "snobbish" clothes ?
  • minnesota_deere
    minnesota_deere Posts: 232 Member
    Personally, I like being "snobbish" - the clothes are prettier :ohwell:

    funny, fellow snob!!
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    None of this is real. There is no spoon.
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