True Love ...Does it exist??

A_New_Horizon

Just looking for opinions here (I am not looking for an argument or anything), but do you think "true love" exists or just a fairytale?? I will be totally honest...I get very jealous when I see happy couples walking around because I am in the middle of a divorce. A divorce that needs to be done not just for the safety of myself but my babies, but it is still heart-breaking nevertheless because "dreams" have gone down the tubes. You won't understand unless you have experienced a divorce. So what is your opinion....

Bethie_B

I, too, am a divorcee. It's a really hard thing to go through, but please trust that being with the wrong person is so much worse than being with no one at all.

It's been 6 years since my divorce. I am happier now than I ever been, and YES, I completely believe in true love. I've found it. I thought I had been in love before, but it was nothing compared to what I've got now. You will absolutely know it when you've found it. You will be better, happier, and feel so much hope about your future. Losing dreams to a bad relationship is painful and awful, but the happiness you can achieve is worth the heartache.

I wish you luck, and feel free to friend me if you need some support.

briteyes1002

I have slim hope... lol

SongbirdLandy

If you are with the person God made for you, then yes, for sure true love exists.

kimber0607

I think it's rare, but it does exist
Over the past couple of years I have been slapped in the face with some harsh reality..that most people dont care.....even if they know you!
There is little respect out there...sad

BUT I still think there are some good eggs out there....what you put out, you should get in return

kim

vcorbin01

My fiance went thru a brutal divorce so I can speak from his experience...for one she cheated on him numerious times and then would keep running back to him...he thought that when she would come back it meant that what she thought she was going for wasn't good enough so coming back to him made him feel good...however they have two girls (now 9 and 10) and those girls were born around the same time she was sleeping around..makes you think...however, when he met me and got to know me here at work.....the light in his eyes changed completely...he found a "new" him that he never had experienced. Just because you go thru a tough time doesn't me hopes and dreams are gone forever. Although I'm not a victim to a divorce, I'm living with someone who has, but he couldn't be any more proud to show me off in public, hold my hand, kiss me where ever, whenever...it just goes to show that it does exist it just may not be with the person you've chosen. He thought he had it all too at one time, but now, he couldn't be more happier with the choices that's happened to him in his life. It opened a new chapter and it's been one of the best for both of us. I was in a bad relationship for 5 years and I thought I was in a trapped love relationship...little did I know once I went to work for a new company...my life would change forever Hugs to you sweetie!! You will find happiness and I can guarantee you it will be better than it ever has been! xoxo

coliema

It does exist......TRUST ME I've been lucky enough to find mine.

KristinCrochets

It absolutely does. I have been with my husband for 15 years, and every day gets better and better.

Ge0rgiana

I firmly believe I have it.

❤lindsay❤dawn❤

If you are with the person God made for you, then yes, for sure true love exists.

This... ^^^^ Being divorced and now in an amazing relationship has proven this to Me...

: ))

oneIT

You have to love yourself first.

Pookylou

True love as in one person/soulmate type deal? Then no, I don't think it does. But in a more generic love that lasts way, yeah I hope so!

ZombieChaser

Woah... today of all days for this question...

AmberJslimsAWAY

When I got divorced I had a freaking party... seriously... and got some strange.

Anyways, yes, I do think true love exists, but I think it's very very rare. I think when you find that person that is always on your mind, in your dreams, ect. and when they kiss you it feels like you're going to melt is true love.

donna_glasgow

yes is does, Ive been with my hubby for 17 years this June and hes my best friend .... every day we get closer and closer

HauteP1nk

Yes, but I think it is hard work. It isn't like a fairytale...it isn't magical. Love and relationships are hard work. There will be hard times, you will hurt one another, but you must work together to get through it. Be supportive, trusting, and have communication with one another.

I personally feel that if you find someone that is your bestfriend and will be there for you through thick and thin, then that is true love. It goes past the physical attraction and the $exual part of the relationship...it is so much more.

Julzanne72

I split from my ex in Jan 2010-divorced last year, and I am a firm believer in true love. I have since met that most amazing man. He is respectful, loving, and he it "the one" I have been looking for my whole life. It's out there, and when it is meant to happen it will:) Have faith!

UponThisRock

No. Instead of looking for love, I just found a woman I hated and bought her a house.

fiestyitalian

I have never commented on any of the threads before, but I felt I had to on this one

I too, felt like you do when I went thru my divorce. That was 12 years ago. And now I can honestly say that I am truly in love with my fiance. We are getting married in 2 weeks. He and I get along in every aspect of life. Yes, we do have our disagreements but we talk it out, get over it and move on. I believe 100% now in true love. I love this man more and more every day. My life is full of happiness, I can't wait to see him after work every day. As I tell many of my friends, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince." Keep the faith...it's tough for you now but in the long run you will probably say what most of us do and that is you are truly a happier person. Because I know I am! Good Luck

charkendrick

I've been divorced for 6 years and now engaged to a man I love like crazy. Is it true love? The only true love I'm sure about is between myself and my child and myself and God.

Slhuth

YES...It does!! I too have found it....I am also a divorcee and remarried and will celebrate our 5th in OCT...we truly are best friends!!

fittiephd

I think so

MaryPhillips90

Just looking for opinions here (I am not looking for an argument or anything), but do you think "true love" exists or just a fairytale?? I will be totally honest...I get very jealous when I see happy couples walking around because I am in the middle of a divorce. A divorce that needs to be done not just for the safety of myself but my babies, but it is still heart-breaking nevertheless because "dreams" have gone down the tubes. You won't understand unless you have experienced a divorce. So what is your opinion....

How can you ask this question? On your wedding day, if someone asked you if you believed in true love, you would have looked like a fool for saying no.
True love exists. It may not last but it was there and you'll find it again.

lisapr123

Yep, it exists. I found an incredible love at a very young age and never let it go. And any doubts about true love disappeared when I watched my father die of cancer with my mother holding his hand. I'll tell ya, it takes the real thing to love somebody so much that you would rather bear the pain of watching your husband slip away, than live with the fact that he died alone.

Although I don't buy into the soul mates thing. And I do believe that love takes a lot of work. But it's worth it.

And please remember, that even though you see couples holding hands, you're not in their relationship and you don't know what it's really like.

saragato

Child of a divorced couple. Every last one of my friends growing up had parents that were either divorced, separated, or a parent wasn't in the picture, except one. Her parents, even after almost 20 years of marriage (and going somewhere near 30 now even though I'm no longer friends with their daughter), dealing with a daughter that had the mentality and food buds of a child and a son who was so mentally handicapped he couldn't talk or walk, they loved each other. They were good people.

As for true love, who knows because really everyone has a different definition of it. True love to one person may seem boring or a nightmare to someone else. Now, is real love out there? Yes. There will always be the chance you will find someone who will love you unconditionally even if you're the world's biggest *kitten* up. There will always be the chance you find the person who makes you feel complete, safe, and alright to be yourself whether it's generally attractive or not. We may get some of that with those we end up leaving, but when the whole package arrives and there's no parts to put together or fix before use then you know you've got it.

pinuplove

True love as in one person/soulmate type deal? Then no, I don't think it does. But in a more generic love that lasts way, yeah I hope so!

I agree! I think I could have had a lifelong, loving relationship with a number of different people. What makes it 'true love' is the willingness of both parties to work hard on the relationship to keep it happy and healthy.

DO NOT feel like a failure for getting divorce for the health and safety of yourself and your children. One person trying does not make a relationship.

vjrose

IF you mean the stars and flowers kind, then no, if you mean love that sustains through ups and downs, bad and good, ill and healthy, that becomes a best friends and lovers relationship, then yes. Been married almost 39 years in one of those kinds of love.

saragato

Yep, it exists. I found an incredible love at a very young age and never let it go. And any doubts about true love disappeared when I watched my father die of cancer with my mother holding his hand. I'll tell ya, it takes the real thing to love somebody so much that you would rather bear the pain of watching your husband slip away, than live with the fact that he died alone.

Although I don't buy into the soul mates thing. And I do believe that love takes a lot of work. But it's worth it.

And please remember, that even though you see couples holding hands, you're not in their relationship and you don't know what it's really like.

My grandparents are going through the same thing. They married just out of high school and they're now in their late eighties. Beginning of the year my grandmother had a stroke and lost a lot of her memory and the ability to speak and even though my grandfather hurt his hip around the same time, he's been at her bed side and everyone firmly believes that, if and when she goes, he'll go shortly after because he loves her that much.

lynette111

If "true love" means that two people will never have any disagreements or upsets in their relationship then no it does not exist. I believe true love does exist but by a different definition. People can have and be in true love when they prefer the other person above their own self. It is a selfless love. As humans, we are hard pressed to have this but it is possible. There will still be waves of ups and downs in this relationship as well but both people involved strive each and every day to please each other above all else and never consider giving up on each other, etc...

MinnieInMaine

Yes, but I think it is hard work. It isn't like a fairytale...it isn't magical. Love and relationships are hard work. There will be hard times, you will hurt one another, but you must work together to get through it. Be supportive, trusting, and have communication with one another.

I personally feel that if you find someone that is your bestfriend and will be there for you through thick and thin, then that is true love. It goes past the physical attraction and the $exual part of the relationship...it is so much more.

Perfect answer!!!

Im_NotPerfect

In my mind...yes it does exist. I haven't gone through a divorce and do not forsee myself going through one, but I truly believe that my husband is my true love. I have never been so in sync with someone before. He loves me for who I am and has seen me at my worst. I love him for who he is. We always talk about how if we hadn't met when we did (at work....I almost took a different job!), we both truly believe we would have met some where, some time.

I consider myself to be the luckiest of women to have found my soul mate and have a family with him.