True Love ...Does it exist??
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I totally agree with this! I've been married to my best friend for 21 years now.....I love him more every day!Yes, but I think it is hard work. It isn't like a fairytale...it isn't magical. Love and relationships are hard work. There will be hard times, you will hurt one another, but you must work together to get through it. Be supportive, trusting, and have communication with one another.
I personally feel that if you find someone that is your bestfriend and will be there for you through thick and thin, then that is true love. It goes past the physical attraction and the $exual part of the relationship...it is so much more.0 -
It does exist. My wife and I met on March 23rd, at a party held by a mutual friend. We are pretty sure we got set up!. After a whirlwind romance, we married that same year on August 9th. I can truly say that she is the absolute best thing in my life, and I love her more than I could ever think possible.
Last year we celebrated our 20th anniversary - we married in 1991! Coming home at night is the best part of my day, because she's waiting for me. We still hold hands when we walk, we get excited about going out for dinner together, and we just enjoy being with each other.
Find that person that treats you like gold, makes you smile when you think about them, and that you can't wait to see every day.0 -
true love exists in so many,many,many ways and in so many,many,many ways that aren't even obvious.0
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No. Instead of looking for love, I just found a woman I hated and bought her a house.
I've been told I'm very hateable. We should talk.
Seriously, I think it depends on how much 'true love' is the product of human imagination rather than societal and chemical factors. And if it is heavily based in our imagination, then it depends on how imaginative the couple is.0 -
no such thing,we are primal beings, we use instinct and cant overcome the laws off attraction, no such thing as unconditional love, everything comes with conditions i.e. i ll love you as long as you dont cheat on me, abuse me blah blah blah, those are all conditions of your love-TyTy0
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It does exist. What it boils down to is this: true love means a lot of upheaval and change. It's never an easy road. "It's a very difficult path filled with pain, guilt, joy and love." It could go either way but "it could be the best thing ever."
"Love is NOT finding someone you can live with, BUT rather Someone you can not live without."0 -
For sure! I've been in it for 25 years come this May! I love being with my husband...he's my best friend! He loves and gives and does so much for me and I for him! It definitely takes team work, respect and humility! But when you both have each other's best interest at heart, it makes life so much better! Don't give up! Just be the kind of person you that you would want to be with and you'll spot that in someone and they in you! BELIEVE!
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I truly believe that at some of our age's there is going to be a big change for one or the other. Most people have homes, Children and other comfort zone reswponibilites and possesions and just cannot make the changes needed to adapt to a possible True Love. Just Say'n...0
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yup0
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True love, like in fairy tails does not exist. You are not going to find a prince charming to come and carry you away on a white stallion. True love is earned. It requires A LOT of hard work.
I have been married twice. The first was a total disaster, the second, well we are going to celebrate our 27th this year. He is my "best friend" and he is my rock. He keeps me grounded and balanced. It has been earned. I trust him to always be there for me... he does not always tell me what I want to hear but he is willing to tell me what I NEED to hear. It has not always been easy but it has never been dull and I would not change a minute of it! (well maybe that one in 1985)
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I have divorced with a child and I told the world or what ever is out there what I was looking for in a person. Made a list said it out load and found my soul mate just a year later.
Its amazing..
Yes it does exist.0 -
Yep. Sure does.
I hope you find it. It's unlike anything you've felt before and it is worth wading through all the **** for.0 -
no such thing,we are primal beings, we use instinct and cant overcome the laws off attraction, no such thing as unconditional love, everything comes with conditions i.e. i ll love you as long as you dont cheat on me, abuse me blah blah blah, those are all conditions of your love-TyTy
agreed on the unconditional love, no such thing0 -
Naw, it doesn't exist. People like the idea, because let's face it, who doesn't love a good dream come true? Or the idea that there is one, special someone who is designed just for you, and will complete you in magical ways that no one else can understand.
It's such a sparklingly spiffy idea.
What I think that it comes down to are two people who are willing to work together, be honest with one another, and live within the boundaries and conditions set by the other person. They are two people who find happiness within those boundaries and compromises, and that builds with time.
Sure, that's love, but it's not some goofy, romanticized version that says that there is a soul mate out there with your name on them. It's just the realistic idea that in order to survive, you pick the best partner for yourself, and make it work to ensure that you both are given the chance to live life.0 -
True Love DOES exist. Even though I will join the ranks of the divorced in 5 weeks I can honestly say we were both head over heals in love for at least 15 years but then grew apart over the next 10. If I could go back in time 25 years, I'd do it all over again and I'm pretty sure she would agree!!0
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I truly believe that at some of our age's there is going to be a big change for one or the other. Most people have homes, Children and other comfort zone reswponibilites and possesions and just cannot make the changes needed to adapt to a possible True Love. Just Say'n...
You make it sound like the only place to look for true love is under an overpass with a drug addict. Bad idea. I'm pretty sure there are some people out there capable of looking for love in ways that won't take everything they've worked for away from them.
Me, I looked everywhere and lost everything and never found it. I don't even think I want it anymore, but if I ever do decide to look again, I can assure you I won't be looking through a selection of bums. I dated enough of those in my misspent youth, and I can smell them coming from a mile away even if they have bathed recently.
All in all though I'd say the whole thing isn't worth the trouble.0 -
at least you got the bike i nthe divorce, nice job-TyTrue Love DOES exist. Even though I will join the ranks of the divorced in 5 weeks I can honestly say we were both head over heals in love for at least 15 years but then grew apart over the next 10. If I could go back in time 25 years, I'd do it all over again and I'm pretty sure she would agree!!0 -
can't speak for others, but for me it does. 0
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i'd like to think so... just haven't found it yet0
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I truly believe that at some of our age's there is going to be a big change for one or the other. Most people have homes, Children and other comfort zone reswponibilites and possesions and just cannot make the changes needed to adapt to a possible True Love. Just Say'n...
You make it sound like the only place to look for true love is under an overpass with a drug addict. Bad idea. I'm pretty sure there are some people out there capable of looking for love in ways that won't take everything they've worked for away from them.
Me, I looked everywhere and lost everything and never found it. I don't even think I want it anymore, but if I ever do decide to look again, I can assure you I won't be looking through a selection of bums. I dated enough of those in my misspent youth, and I can smell them coming from a mile away even if they have bathed recently.
All in all though I'd say the whole thing isn't worth the trouble.
How did you derive that from what I said. My experiences have come down to these factors and some aren't able to make the commitment to change for the best of both people involved. that's all. Nothing about bums under a bridge! geesh!0 -
It exsists0
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I truly believe that at some of our age's there is going to be a big change for one or the other. Most people have homes, Children and other comfort zone reswponibilites and possesions and just cannot make the changes needed to adapt to a possible True Love. Just Say'n...
You make it sound like the only place to look for true love is under an overpass with a drug addict. Bad idea. I'm pretty sure there are some people out there capable of looking for love in ways that won't take everything they've worked for away from them.
Me, I looked everywhere and lost everything and never found it. I don't even think I want it anymore, but if I ever do decide to look again, I can assure you I won't be looking through a selection of bums. I dated enough of those in my misspent youth, and I can smell them coming from a mile away even if they have bathed recently.
All in all though I'd say the whole thing isn't worth the trouble.
How did you derive that from what I said. My experiences have come down to these factors and some aren't able to make the commitment to change for the best of both people involved. that's all. Nothing about bums under a bridge! geesh!
:laugh: I guess I have an overly simplistic view of the situation. Either you have those things and continue to have them when you start seeing someone, or you have them and then he pawns them, cleans out your bank account, and drops your kids off on a side road in Omaha!
(Kidding! but I really don't understand how two people in similar situations can't get along and make more out of what they have and not less, except of course if their families are psycho or if one is a neat freak and the other is a slob.)0 -
I don't even know what "true love" is. I'm not sure what people are expecting. My husband and I are happy now. Are things perfect? No, but they're good. If they stop being good, then we work things out, or we move on. People talk about things like "true love" or finding "the one" and I am honestly completely baffled. I found someone I am reasonably compatible with, who I care about and respect (and vice versa). Is he the only person on the planet who would have fit this criteria? I doubt it, he just happens to be "the one" I found. Maybe I'm just too practical and not romantic enough.0
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I think it comes down to Greed and selfishness. And by the time each realizes that they won't give up or share, the TRUE LOVE of their life is gone that fast!0
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I am cynical....but a romantic at heart and would love to think it does exist. But I don't know if it does for me which makes me sad. I feel envious of my married friends and happy for my parents (they just celebrated 45 years).....but I wonder if he's out there for me! I'd hate to be destined to be alone forever....that makes me very sad!0
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I think it comes down to Greed and selfishness. And by the time each realizes that they won't give up or share, the TRUE LOVE of their life is gone that fast!
Ah well, unfortunately I never had that problem, but I'm working on it! A little greed and selfishness are damn good survival traits.0 -
it only exists in a suitable environment.
like in my pants or where mutual respect exist.0 -
Sure it exists.....
After 23 years I can still say I'm married to my True Love and the only woman I've dated which I could say I'd give my life for her without regret. We've been through some rocky points in our marriage that would have broken up most couples but just like exercise it has made us stronger and appreciative of what we have.0 -
yes, there is. God is love and He loves us unconditionally. that doesn't mean that there are not expectations, it means that no matter what we do He loves us. Since we are created in HIS image we are capable of unconditional love if we want to. Love is a choice not an emotion.0
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Yes, but I think it is hard work. It isn't like a fairytale...it isn't magical. Love and relationships are hard work. There will be hard times, you will hurt one another, but you must work together to get through it. Be supportive, trusting, and have communication with one another.
I personally feel that if you find someone that is your bestfriend and will be there for you through thick and thin, then that is true love. It goes past the physical attraction and the $exual part of the relationship...it is so much more.
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