girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • kylesmommy89
    kylesmommy89 Posts: 356 Member
    I wouldn't mind if any of my exes went to strip clubs when I was with them, but with my husband it's different. I love him so much that the thought of him ogling over some skank stripper makes me want to vomit in my mouth!! Screwwww that. He's MINE! :P

    Luckily, he has never even mentioned going to a strip club...I know he used to go to them once in a while with his buddies when he was single, but now he doesn't seem to have any interest in them. I'm sure he checks out other women because he IS a man after all, but he hides it very well and makes me feel like the sexiest woman in the world. And I like it like that =D
  • slynn28
    slynn28 Posts: 93
    Yes I would mind...I be damn he go and give some random stripper cash lol. I can be his stripper bc I used to enter dance contest etc and won most of them! (not to brag) and just because I don't want to picture him with another female in a private room.. Call me jealous but thats just me. We can go together but I think he would feel weird. . Lol.
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 811 Member
    With all due respect, why do you have your body exposed in your profile pic for people to lust at then?

    I don't know if you're talking to me or not. But I'm okay with strip clubs? If my boyfriend wanted to go, he can go. (though, I admit, he's not real big on them in the first place).

    Also, still not sure if you're talking to me....but as for me showing my bod off in my profile pic, my profile pic isn't there for people to "lust" at. It's there to show off my accomplishments and make ME feel good about how far I've come.
  • mandamama
    mandamama Posts: 250
    Hell to the no I wouldn't be okay with it. If my husband has to go else where for stimulation.. there is a problem!
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    Don't knock it til you try it.

    Uhm, ok, have you had meth too? This type of argument is extremely flawed.
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    Don't knock it til you try it.

    Uhm, ok, have you had meth too? This type of argument is extremely flawed.

    Well, the downsides of meth can be quantified where as much of the perceived negatives of visiting a strip club are more societal, moral and emotional, which is tougher to quantify.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I heard meth is good for wieght loss.
  • slynn28
    slynn28 Posts: 93
    I heard meth is good for wieght loss.

    lmfao! F THAT! HAHA
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    Please don't tell me that you believe that strippers are 'essential'. LOL

    I think that there should be many better options for any young girl who needs a job. It's not so much a matter of right as much as it is a matter of giving a woman a better opportunity.

    And I don't see how making prostitution legal has helped any woman make a better life for herself (and her family).

    Clearly there's a demand or there wouldn't be any strip clubs. While it may not be essential that doesn't mean it should be outlawed. The vast majority of people work jobs that are not essential for survival in the strictest sense.

    I think there should be too. I'd always prefer to give a woman the chance to pursue any career she wanted. I don't see how limiting one possible option does anything to help that.

    You don't see it because it's not something you would ever see. That doesn't mean it's not a reality. It means you have a limited world view. If a woman becomes a sex worker to help put food on the table and pay the bills she has helped herself and her family. And she did without caring about whatever judgement you wanted to put on her for it.

    I do agree women should be able to choose to do whatever they want.

    The issue here is stripping or selling her body is the most convenient, highest paying thing there is to do in times of desperation. THAT in itself is wrong, on so many levels. It is truly sad that these women, often runaways, sexual abuse victims, drug addicts...not typically 'empowered women who feel sexually liberated' (although sometimes) sell their bodies because they are desperate to stay off the streets or provide for their families. I do believe their are exceptions to every rule, but having done extensive research including speaking with many strippers, every single one I spoke too agreed if there was something else where they could make that kind of living they absolutely would. Many expressed fear of the men they performed for, many said they have seen other girls fall into prostitution because they started stripping, and almost all of them had some sort of horrific childhood where abuse or neglect by a man occurred. The fact that there is no alternative for women to make enough to survive and the fact that the sex industry they can make more than enough is a huge issue.
  • tsherm3850
    tsherm3850 Posts: 353 Member
    I'm one to have always gone with him. Thankfully, I got all the dances. :drinker:
  • elimendoza31
    elimendoza31 Posts: 359 Member
    I used to love going with my Ex.. I don't mind at all!!! :devil: :tongue:
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    I am fairly certain my husband has put several girls through college. :laugh:
  • cobes24
    cobes24 Posts: 132 Member
    For me personally, I've never been to strippers, male or female. I don't "get" being excited about naked people. I've been taking care of people since I was 15 (nurse's aide, then nurse, now nurse practitioner), I see naked people all the time. Old wrinkly ones and young hot ones. Honestly, we're all naked under our clothes; why would I pay good money to see something I get paid (quite well) to see all day long? A boob is a pecker is an arm is a face--body parts are body parts. It's just not all that interesting to me.
  • atsteele
    atsteele Posts: 1,358 Member
    Clearly there's a demand or there wouldn't be any strip clubs. While it may not be essential that doesn't mean it should be outlawed. The vast majority of people work jobs that are not essential for survival in the strictest sense.

    I think there should be too. I'd always prefer to give a woman the chance to pursue any career she wanted. I don't see how limiting one possible option does anything to help that.

    You don't see it because it's not something you would ever see. That doesn't mean it's not a reality. It means you have a limited world view. If a woman becomes a sex worker to help put food on the table and pay the bills she has helped herself and her family. And she did without caring about whatever judgement you wanted to put on her for it.

    Just because there is a demand doesn't mean that there should be a supply. A good example would be illegal drugs. Just as drugs cause problems in society, so does the exploitation of women via pornography, strip clubs, etc. How many people do you think would like a strip club built in their neighborhood?

    And although stripping is a paying job and legal option for a woman, it doesn't make it a good option. It's just an option. And a poor one at that. There is so many things that a woman could do and can do without putting herself in a position to be exploited. Would you want your wife or daughter stripping?

    And I'm not judging any woman who choses stripping as a job to put food on the table either. Unfortunately many of these women feel that they have no choice but to put themselves out there like a piece of meat. It's sad. The reality is that there is a demand for it and unfortunately many women feel that they don't have the skill set to do something else. Stripping does pay well; but at what cost?
  • DieVixen
    DieVixen Posts: 790 Member
    Clearly there's a demand or there wouldn't be any strip clubs. While it may not be essential that doesn't mean it should be outlawed. The vast majority of people work jobs that are not essential for survival in the strictest sense.

    I think there should be too. I'd always prefer to give a woman the chance to pursue any career she wanted. I don't see how limiting one possible option does anything to help that.

    You don't see it because it's not something you would ever see. That doesn't mean it's not a reality. It means you have a limited world view. If a woman becomes a sex worker to help put food on the table and pay the bills she has helped herself and her family. And she did without caring about whatever judgement you wanted to put on her for it.

    Just because there is a demand doesn't mean that there should be a supply. A good example would be illegal drugs. Just as drugs cause problems in society, so does the exploitation of women via pornography, strip clubs, etc. How many people do you think would like a strip club built in their neighborhood?

    And although stripping is a paying job and legal option for a woman, it doesn't make it a good option. It's just an option. And a poor one at that. There is so many things that a woman could do and can do without putting herself in a position to be exploited. Would you want your wife or daughter stripping?

    And I'm not judging any woman who choses stripping as a job to put food on the table either. Unfortunately many of these women feel that they have no choice but to put themselves out there like a piece of meat. It's sad. The reality is that there is a demand for it and unfortunately many women feel that they don't have the skill set to do something else. Stripping does pay well; but at what cost?

    As someone who was in adult entertainment,I didnt feel there was any cost,I feel no shame,no regret,
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member
    I went once when I was 18, fun but not my kind of atmosphere. They've since made it illegal for girls to actually get naked in my state, thongs and pasties aren't going to do anything for me, no reason to go.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    Yeah, I do sort of mind. But I'll watch porn with him all day if the men are good looking enough. I figure it's a fair compromise, and much cheaper.
  • dumb_blondes_rock
    dumb_blondes_rock Posts: 1,568 Member
    I have never been to one before, but would be down to go with my man. If he REALLY wants to see a stripper, id just biuy a pole for "weight loss reasons" and do a little dance for him, instead of some girl named Candy doing it
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Just because there is a demand doesn't mean that there should be a supply. A good example would be illegal drugs. Just as drugs cause problems in society, so does the exploitation of women via pornography, strip clubs, etc. How many people do you think would like a strip club built in their neighborhood?

    And although stripping is a paying job and legal option for a woman, it doesn't make it a good option. It's just an option. And a poor one at that. There is so many things that a woman could do and can do without putting herself in a position to be exploited. Would you want your wife or daughter stripping?

    And I'm not judging any woman who choses stripping as a job to put food on the table either. Unfortunately many of these women feel that they have no choice but to put themselves out there like a piece of meat. It's sad. The reality is that there is a demand for it and unfortunately many women feel that they don't have the skill set to do something else. Stripping does pay well; but at what cost?

    I feel it isn't my place to tell others what they "should" be doing with their lives.

    You say you're not judging them. But then you say that their chosen career is a bad option. That they've made poor choices. That they've chosen to exploit themselves. That they put themselves out there like pieces of meat.

    Just what would it sound like if you WERE judging them?
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    As someone who was in adult entertainment,I didnt feel there was any cost,I feel no shame,no regret,
    This^^^
  • dumb_blondes_rock
    dumb_blondes_rock Posts: 1,568 Member
    Oh btw.....Some exotic dancers make more in 2 hours then some of you do in a whole week......and they don't have to sleep with the men to get it.
  • kateroot
    kateroot Posts: 435
    It would really bother me. It's not about trust or jealousy or anything like that for me. I don't care when my fiance watches porn or checks out other women as long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life. And I trust him completely, I don't think he would do anything reprehensible at a strip club or anywhere else.. but I would feel utterly disrespected if some other woman's business was all over my guy. I think that's what it's about for me.. respect. If you truly respect the woman you're with, I think there are boundaries you just don't cross. These boundaries vary for every couple, of course.. but that's where mine lie.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    Oh btw.....Some exotic dancers make more in 2 hours then some of you do in a whole week......and they don't have to sleep with the men to get it.
    OH SNAP! btw I like your name
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    I'm one to have always gone with him. Thankfully, I got all the dances. :drinker:

    Will you be my new bff? LOL
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    Oh btw.....Some exotic dancers make more in 2 hours then some of you do in a whole week......and they don't have to sleep with the men to get it.

    I like you too. :)
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    Just because there is a demand doesn't mean that there should be a supply. A good example would be illegal drugs. Just as drugs cause problems in society, so does the exploitation of women via pornography, strip clubs, etc. How many people do you think would like a strip club built in their neighborhood?

    And although stripping is a paying job and legal option for a woman, it doesn't make it a good option. It's just an option. And a poor one at that. There is so many things that a woman could do and can do without putting herself in a position to be exploited. Would you want your wife or daughter stripping?

    And I'm not judging any woman who choses stripping as a job to put food on the table either. Unfortunately many of these women feel that they have no choice but to put themselves out there like a piece of meat. It's sad. The reality is that there is a demand for it and unfortunately many women feel that they don't have the skill set to do something else. Stripping does pay well; but at what cost?

    I feel it isn't my place to tell others what they "should" be doing with their lives.

    You say you're not judging them. But then you say that their chosen career is a bad option. That they've made poor choices. That they've chosen to exploit themselves. That they put themselves out there like pieces of meat.

    Just what would it sound like if you WERE judging them?

    I like you also. This is fun.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Clearly there's a demand or there wouldn't be any strip clubs. While it may not be essential that doesn't mean it should be outlawed. The vast majority of people work jobs that are not essential for survival in the strictest sense.

    I think there should be too. I'd always prefer to give a woman the chance to pursue any career she wanted. I don't see how limiting one possible option does anything to help that.

    You don't see it because it's not something you would ever see. That doesn't mean it's not a reality. It means you have a limited world view. If a woman becomes a sex worker to help put food on the table and pay the bills she has helped herself and her family. And she did without caring about whatever judgement you wanted to put on her for it.

    Just because there is a demand doesn't mean that there should be a supply. A good example would be illegal drugs. Just as drugs cause problems in society, so does the exploitation of women via pornography, strip clubs, etc. How many people do you think would like a strip club built in their neighborhood?

    And although stripping is a paying job and legal option for a woman, it doesn't make it a good option. It's just an option. And a poor one at that. There is so many things that a woman could do and can do without putting herself in a position to be exploited. Would you want your wife or daughter stripping?

    And I'm not judging any woman who choses stripping as a job to put food on the table either. Unfortunately many of these women feel that they have no choice but to put themselves out there like a piece of meat. It's sad. The reality is that there is a demand for it and unfortunately many women feel that they don't have the skill set to do something else. Stripping does pay well; but at what cost?

    There will always be strip clubs, porn shops and porn. It's just how it is. Men are visual creatures and are stimulated by seeing naked women, sex, etc. In all honesty I wouldn't mind if a strip club opened up in my town. Hell I'd be psyched because it would mean we wouldn't have to drive an hour to go to one. The misconception is that these girls "have" to strip and the majority of the time that is not the case. We talk to the girls who dance for us when we go and some of them have other jobs or they really are putting themselves through college and will go on to do something else. Stripping is easy fast and damn good money.

    I would totally strip if I needed extra cash. Hell I have a strippers pole in my living room that my husband bought me for my birthday a few years ago.
  • jencopes
    jencopes Posts: 34 Member
    I love to go with :)

    This!! I don't mind going either
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    And I'm not judging any woman...

    Yes you are.

    Every person judges others regardless if they say they don't or not.

    I judge everyone.
  • SiouxsieQue
    SiouxsieQue Posts: 85 Member
    I wouldn't mind a bit, but,

    I've never dated the kind of men who go to strip clubs.

    I did, however, date a stripper for a little wihle.

    True story.

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    come to think of it, between my boyfriend and I, I am WAY more likely to go to a strip club anytime soon than he is.

    Same here. My man couldn't care less about going to a strip club, even when I suggest it. Turns out, I'm more interested in going than he is.

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