girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • Mel1509
    Mel1509 Posts: 166 Member
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    It's the principle that matters to me--if he objectifies women in that way, how can I expect him to respect me? Or what if we had a daughter someday? Those women are someone's daughter/mother/sister/aunt. Somewhere someone loves them. I would be deeply saddened if it were my precious nieces on that stage, with people leering at them, seeing them as objects rather than the special creations they are.

    This!
    Though my fiance only goes for bachelor parties - even then, only sometimes, last month for a friends bachelor party he went to the golfing / bar part and came home when the boys went to the strip club... not his scene anymore, I think as he's gotten older and wants his own children, he has the same view point as I see it, these ladies are someones daughters / sisters / etc..
  • rbn_held
    rbn_held Posts: 682 Member
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    I love the comments on this thread that try to compare seeing a hot guy/girl on the street to going to a strip club to see them. There is no camparison. You will always run into attractive people no matter where you go but when you go to a strip club you are going in search of looking at other women. There is also a big difference between watching porn and going to a strip club. Porn is on TV (no touchie), where as a strip club there is a chance for things to get out of hand. I am not saying I am against strip clubs but I think we also need to respect people with religious beliefs that are brave enough to speak their minds and stand up for what they believe in. I am a christian myself, don't mind going to the strip club with my honey everyonce in awhile. I would not like him to go by himself and I would be alittle concerned if he wanted to go all the time. I would think that he wasen't happy with me and looking to get his jollies elsewhere. We go about once a year if that. I do have a stripper pole at home because it is great exercise.
  • wolfehound22
    wolfehound22 Posts: 887
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    Ive been to a few strip clubs in my life, and i know my wife doesnt care, hell shes gone with me before, but for me i dont really care for them anymore. Sure there fun, but really u spend a ton of cash, and cant really do anything but sit, what fun is that. I can just watch some porn at home for free. That being said, id still go for bachlor parties, and if my wife wanted to go again that would be fun, but really there kind of boring to me now. But if you enjoy them, more power to ya.
  • Jade1964
    Jade1964 Posts: 111 Member
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    :smile:
  • connie_messina
    connie_messina Posts: 495 Member
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    omg majority doesn't mind? id fkn kill him!
  • sfoxy219
    sfoxy219 Posts: 103
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    I personally don't care if he goes to a strip club. I'd prefer it if he didn't spend money on that but that's really my only concern. I'm glad my guy is to in love with making music to waste time and money at a strip club.

    As to all the comments about girls being strippers. It's easy cash, why wouldn't people do it. I haven't had a job in 4 months now (laid off) and I have been looking but with no luck. If i had the body and confidence I would be a stripper. I don't think it should be illegal, also I think prostitution should be legal. It's your body if you want to sell it then that's your choice. I think it should be illegal to be pimped out, no one should have the right to sell or use your body but you.
  • silkandsugar
    silkandsugar Posts: 125
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    As long as I go too... no actually not even that. It would be nice but he could just go with the guys. Doesn't matter =)
  • Sunscreenandsweat
    Sunscreenandsweat Posts: 190 Member
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    I tried to get my ex to go to one with me on my 21st birthday but he didn't want to go. =[
  • kooldill
    kooldill Posts: 21 Member
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  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
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    No, I don't.

    We're currently LD anyways, but I don't mind. I'm pretty secure in my relationship and don't feel threatened by it.

    They have great bodies, and some of them work hard for those bodies. Gives me more motivation :)
  • usernamekelly1
    usernamekelly1 Posts: 1,941 Member
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    I can't believe people wouldn't mind! Fluck that ****.
  • usernamekelly1
    usernamekelly1 Posts: 1,941 Member
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    omg majority doesn't mind? id fkn kill him!

    I'd be sharing a cell with you!
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
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    Here's my thing - I don't equate sex with love... and I don't think objectifying beauty is a bad thing. Sex and sexuality are so vilified in the US (especially), and everyone is raised to believe that bodies are dirty, sex is dirty, and if you like either, you're dirty. IMO, it's the most absolutely natural part of being human. Moreso than love, more than enjoying fine wine, or understanding sarcasm ... it's essential for our survival.

    And really, I'd much rather have a man that can appreciate a woman's body without feeling 'bad' about it than a man that pretends like he only sees me. That's a one-way ticket to resentmentville.
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 814 Member
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    My dude has gone a couple of times for bachelor parties and I don't mind him going at all. It also helps that he's not a huge fan of them in the first place.
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
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    The idea of my boyfriend at a strip club is hilarious. In high school we nicknamed him "the serial monogamist". Despite being liberal, he's very traditional. However, being with me has loosened him up a bit, and I think he would be open to the idea of going with me. I would be surprised and amused if he wanted to go on his own. I think I'd let him.
  • mzs3558
    mzs3558 Posts: 1 Member
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    I'm surprised almost everyone is okay with strip clubs ... I would never be okay with my boyfriend going because I feel like it objectifies and hypersexualizes women. I feel like strip clubs say that women have one purpose and that's to be sexy. They ignore women's other wonderful characteristics, achievements, and personalities. Does anyone else feel this way?? Plus why would I be okay with him getting sexually aroused by anyone but me? I wouldn't want some girl giving my man a lap dance. .... P.S. I don't mean for this comment to be disrespectful to anyone's opinion, I just don't understand why girls are okay with it.
  • ashreynolds09
    ashreynolds09 Posts: 257 Member
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    omg majority doesn't mind? id fkn kill him!

    that's EXACTLY what I was thinkin. His *kitten* would come home with new locks on the doors and a divorce decree on the front door!
  • mickeygirliegirl
    mickeygirliegirl Posts: 302 Member
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    I don't mind. Let's face it, men are stimulated visually. And I have been to strip clubs. It's just girls showing their boobs with dancing. I have to say, I have been impressed a time or two by some of their athleticism as well if they can do some acrobatics as well.

    The girls know they are turning the guys on and for the most part do not do anything more but that. They are there to earn money, not screw every guy ( not saying there aren't ones who do that).

    If its an occasional trip, who cares? If it becomes a regular thing, then there's cause for alarm.
  • lindalee0315
    lindalee0315 Posts: 527 Member
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    My husband is a pastor. Say no more. Say no more.

    My condolences.

    I just snorted my coffee. Thanks for the laugh!
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
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    I guess I'm more okay with it because I myself am attracted to women and despite being a feminist, shamefully can identify with objectifying a woman's awesome body :P

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