girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?
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It's definitely all about trust, respect, and friendship. If there was a mutual trust, respect, and friendship as far as I was concerned-well then I wouldn't have any need to worry.0
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My current husband would never go, but my ex did once in a blue moon. With my brother! So the ex behaved because he knew my brother would clobber him otherwise.0
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Our first date was at a strip club. :drinker:
We should be buddies, seriously. That's an awesome date!0 -
I encourage him to go. He gets all riled up and i reap the benefits. I don't care if he's thinking about Bubbles, his business is in me, not her.
true true.. got to love the benifit's0 -
I'm probably the minority in this thread, it bothers me.0
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Not at all! I used to go woth 'the guys' all the time. I was the only wife that was allowed out on 'guys night'. They liked having me there, because YES women get away with SOOOOO much in there. One time, I was invited to join one of the dancers in her 'cage' above the stage!! ;)P I TOTALLY would have... except that was one time that MY hubs didn't go with us, he was working!! I had to decline. Well, then there was the tme I got kicked out of one... the dancers felt threatened and like the men weren't paying attention to them!! (It was a cold night and I was wearing a turtleneck sweater and baggy jeans- not sure how THAT is threatening!)
true stories.
But I like it, watching the lines of the sexy bodies moving the way they do... yeah, we BOTH get worked up! Can't say that a little 'exercise' of our own in the bathroom or the parkinglot hasn't happened afterwards. ;)P Who's with me?!0 -
I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner
Awesome answer!
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It wouldn't bother me because I trust him entirely. Also he's the sort of person who would be extremely uncomfortable in that sort of situation so it's not anything I have to think about anyway. xD
Edit: Nope, I'm wrong. If he started going "just because" I would be uncomfortable. Stag nights, birthdays, whatever- but not because he's bored.
Like going there for lunch....what's up with that?!?!!? I don't want that near my food!
my portion-controlled food
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I do not agree with my husband/boyfriend going to a strip club. He's with me because he's interested in ME, not some dirty hoochie. And if he wants a lap dance that is something that I can provide for him!
Don't you realize though that he may be tired of looking at the same thing. This is NOT DIRECTED AT YOU by the way, but just the sentence in general.0 -
Nope.0
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meh, i wouldnt care.0
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My big problem is I don't understand why a man (or a woman if it was the other way around I guess) would need to go to a strip club to watch other attractive women take their clothes off and shake it around if I'm waiting at home? I'd feel that I wasn't enough.
Men look at women wherever they go. It's almost subconscious. Women do it to men, too. Another woman's looks, however amazing, should influence your self-worth. :flowerforyou:0 -
Can't say that a little 'exercise' of our own in the bathroom or the parkinglot hasn't happened afterwards. ;)P Who's with me?!
:ohwell: Errrmmmm...0 -
As long as it's not overly frequent, I don't mind. I don't control my partners. They can look all they want, just come home to me. :flowerforyou:0
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This made me think of Chris Rock saying, "Your wife will take care of u, but she ain't gonna entertain u."0
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I've never been in a relationship where this is an issue. Strip clubs are not a part of the lifestyle of anyone I've dated. I don't need to be with a dude whose lifestyle regularly incorporates this. Once in a blue moon, I don't think I'd mind. It's not about him looking at other naked women. It's about some other *kitten* I don't feel like discussing with strangers.0
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I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.
I agree with you 100% I wouldn't like my husband going to them things. I been on drugs has a teenager but never was a prostitute or any thing but you are right about every thing you just said.0 -
The ones around where I live are absolutely disgusting, and almost no men (besides your garden-variety pervy old men) visit them. If it were a swanky one, it might be a different story.0
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omg majority doesn't mind? id fkn kill him!
that's EXACTLY what I was thinkin. His *kitten* would come home with new locks on the doors and a divorce decree on the front door!
lmao. i totally agree. total bullsh**. I would NEVER be with a guy who goes to a strip club with his 'buddies' and forks over money to see some random girls tits. It's like desperate and disgusting. I would only be okay if WE went as a JOKE and it was FREE.
I'm totally cool with watch porn, but going to a strip club to PAY to see someones BOOBS-- like what are you really getting out of that?! I don't get it, obviously.0 -
Yep- I'd mind for sure, but he would never consider it- just as I would never consider going to some girl's night thing. Just not into it. Besides- I've got plenty of goodies for him to ogle. 0
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. ^^ this!You know I think strip clubs and all this porn everywhere is a part of the reason women have so many self-esteem problems. Not only do we have to worry about the pretty girl down the street, when we leave the house we have to worry about our husband/boyfriend watching porn and thinking about other women, they can get on and reply to sex ads, go to the strip club down the street or even pay for sex. I'm not a prude at all when it comes to being with someone but I feel like because so many men are into it it's become okay in society. Of course the person your with is going to be attracted to other women or men but I feel it takes it way too far if they go out of their way to pay to see someone strip. I've been in a relationship with someone who was pretty much a porn addict and it ruins your relationship and any self esteem you have left. Left him because of it.
I still have high standards and I don't give a **** what other people think strip clubs are tastless and not classy at all. Porn is bad enough because it's everywhere but when you can actually touch the women and more with paying customers that is too much. I don't think it's cute or acceptable in any relationship. If your single do whatever you want but when your with someone you shouldn't pay to see someone strip. Personally, I think men/women are stupid to pay to see someone strip if you have someone at home. Just be more adventorous in your relationship.0 -
Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.
So....would he freak about you looking at the "V" thread? hmmm =P0 -
As the OP said, she doesn't care if they go, but they aren't releasing their nut on her. Palmela (get it) will have that pleasure for her man that night. Some of you said "I don't care as long as he comes back to me." Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I would feel insulted, if my wife had to go out somewhere else to get horny for me. I like the fact that I, or my wife, don't need outside stimulation to get our jollies on. And all I hear are boyfriends boyfriends and more boyfriends. The wives seem to mind. I'm sure stories will change once conditions of the single ladies change. As for secret oathes, not all men are alike. I cherish my wife's trust and promise to honor her too much for me to keep secrets away from her. All I'm saying is, are you really ok with someone going out to see someone almost or completely naked, get turned on, and release on you?0
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As the OP said, she doesn't care if they go, but they aren't releasing their nut on her. Palmela (get it) will have that pleasure for her man that night. Some of you said "I don't care as long as he comes back to me." Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I would feel insulted, if my wife had to go out somewhere else to get horny for me. I like the fact that I, or my wife, don't need outside stimulation to get our jollies on. And all I hear are boyfriends boyfriends and more boyfriends. The wives seem to mind. I'm sure stories will change once conditions of the single ladies change. As for secret oathes, not all men are alike. I cherish my wife's trust and promise to honor her too much for me to keep secrets away from her. All I'm saying is, are you really ok with someone going out to see someone almost or completely naked, get turned on, and release on you?
WOW! Judge much?!
I am married. Have been for 24 years. It doesn't bother me, or him. It's not about "HAVING" to do this to get horny. It's keeping the spark alive by being adventerous. Whatever that may be. As for secret oathes, good for you for not keeping secrets from your wife. My husband doesn't either. You happen to be the minority.0 -
boy will be boys i guess. however girls will be girls and i would get jealous
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yep, I would mind. Mind so much it would be a deal breaker.0
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Nope not at all, although he only goes for bachelor parties. I know he's coming home to me, no need to be jealous.0
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I love this thread. I have found so many small-minded and unentertaining people to ignore.0
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.
So....would he freak about you looking at the "V" thread? hmmm =P
Absolute winningest comment right here! The same women freaking about men looking at women in strip clubs are looking at half naked men on this site and howling like starving wolves.
I learned a little something a long time ago, you never really know your woman until you've seen her at a male strip club.0 -
I guess many females here aren't familiar with the "Dancing Bear" female strip clubs. Don't look it up if you're a saint.
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