girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?
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I'm detecting a lot of "Hey! I'm the cool bi-chick!" in this thread...
It's great to be confident in your relationship - I certainly am, my man would move the world for me. While I can't say one way or the other how I would feel about it considering neither of us have ever given it a second thought, I would have to wonder WHY. My man is quite satisfied at home, we enjoy each other immensely. If I dated a guy who would rather be at a strip club than home in the bedroom with me, I would find that peculiar.0 -
It's not about your man not being satisfied at home or whatever some of the posters here think. Also, where has anyone said that their husband goes there all the time? The last time I was at a strip club with my husband was in February for a party. The time before that was probably early in the summer or last year when we were in Colorado. It's not something we do "all the time". When he was in sales he'd take his clients to a topless joint. He goes to a strip club with his buddies very infrequently and when he does go I really couldn't care less.
He has everything he could possibly want right here at home. A strip club just adds a little spice and entertainment. I'm not jealous. He's not taking the girls home and he's not having sex with them. He doesn't particularly like lap dances because they really don't do anything for him however he likes ME to get lap dances and we have had the couples dance once or twice.
I think some of you people need to open your mind up a little bit. Oh, and for those of you who say he doesn't go or you put your foot down and there's no way in hell you'd let him go guess what? He's going. He's just hiding it from you.
Oh, and when you go to the strip club with your man and you're both all horned up it makes for an incredibly fun ride home. Just sayin'.0 -
I'm detecting a lot of "Hey! I'm the cool bi-chick!" in this thread...
Why does a woman have to be bi in order to appreciate a beautiful naked woman?0 -
Don't try to figure men out. We love watching big sweaty guys run or pass up and down the field with an oblong ball and get seriously excited about it (no homo). Many females don't get that either. Like I stated earlier, if men were truly dissatisfied with their girls, they would probably move on. Going to a strip club or watching porn isn't an indication that we're being unfaithful or are unsatisfied. We're just "visually" entertained. Testosterone has an effect on us sexually which is why the average male thinks of sex every time they think about food (which is about 19 times a day). That's usually double of what females think of it.I'm detecting a lot of "Hey! I'm the cool bi-chick!" in this thread...
It's great to be confident in your relationship - I certainly am, my man would move the world for me. While I can't say one way or the other how I would feel about it considering neither of us have ever given it a second thought, I would have to wonder WHY. My man is quite satisfied at home, we enjoy each other immensely. If I dated a guy who would rather be at a strip club than home in the bedroom with me, I would find that peculiar.
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i personally don't mind at all. One rule though - he doesn't get to come home and get ~me~. "Bubbles" doesn't get to be in his mind while he's with me (not that my awesome body wouldn't override that fact...)
but really - srip clubs, lap dances bother me not in the least. Unless, of course, he was blowing his paycheck everweek, then there would be a problem.
You? How do you feel about it?
LMAO! My wife wouldn't care either, but I wouldn't go for a couple of reasons. One, I can see all that at home AND I can touch. Also, I would hate to spend the money, what a complete waste. Just saying.0 -
^^This. It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.I would say yes it bothers me. Because I know how easily addicted people can get to strip clubs, porn, etc. And it can ruin people. I would rather be single for the rest of my life, then have my boyfriend/husband go to a strip club or watch porn. Those images that the men will get in thier head after going to the strip club, it is hard to get those images out of thier heads. Porn too. I was a prostitute at one time in my life, trying to pay the bills after my divorce. And alot of my clients were married men. Thier wives had no idea. The other thing is, do you think the strippers like what they are doing? No, but they do it for the money, the drugs, etc. They don't really know any better. I have some stripper friends, they are not strippers anymore thank God. But all of them were sexually abused as children, as teenagers got into drugs and then became strippers. Drugs are very easy to get when your a stripper. Do you really want your men spending thier hard earned money on these strippers? Dont forget thier are vip sections where they can get extra's. And some men once they have been drinking awhile. They will forget about thier wife, and they will think, hey a handjob or blow job isnt cheating, because we aren't having intercourse. Have any of you researched the sex trafficking industry? They make millions on stealing girls and women and pimping them out. Alot of these women don't want to be prostitutes but are forced into it. Keep letting your husbands induldge in strip clubs, etc. I won't be surprised when he ends up cheating on you, or giving you an std. Strip clubs are not harmless fun. They are disgusting. Open your eyes. I dare you women to go to the strip clubs by yourself. Talk to the strippers, hear thier stories, and see all the married men with rings on thier fingers, sitting thier acting like horny teenage boys. There is an epidemic, and more and more people are becoming sex addicts, because of the easy affordable sex there is out there. Porn, prostitutes, strippers, Adult personals. Yall might be normal people that don't know about this stuff. But I have lived it, and seen the devestation it causes.
Your broad generalizations are ignorant. I have had strippers for friends, I have known drug addicts, I'm totally aware of the sex trafficking industry, and yet I still somehow live with myself every day while enjoying strip clubs. Everybody's gotta get paid somehow, and if strippin' keeps the lights on, I think that's great.
Her information isnt ignorant. Not all woman in that situation are there against their will or being abused or on drugs, but there are ALOT that are. You just never know which one is and isnt. How can you enjoy the "show" knowing that the sex indistry is made up of mostly women that are not there by choice. BUT I guess if you would be ok with your wife or daughter up there with men lusting over them (some innocent and some not so much) then enjoy. But its not a healthy lifestyle for anyone involved.0 -
Doesn't bother me if they go. Most guys I've been serious with don't really have an interest to go alone and would rather go with me (as I REALLY like to go to stripclubs.)0
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Personally, yes it would bother me if it was frequent.
Now if it's a special occasion, I don't mind one bit.
But, to me, it would make me feel insecure with myself.
Like... I can't turn you on like them?
Just me.0 -
It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.0 -
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
Some one with a closed mind who judges others.
Seriously. I kind of have to laugh at where this thread has gone.0 -
I've been a couple of times with my husband and it's not a big deal. But i feel the same way, if you come home covered n glitter and shame don't even think about nakey time with me! Shower or not.
LOL! Covered in glitter and shame, I love it!0 -
It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.0 -
WOW! Judge much?!
I am married. Have been for 24 years. It doesn't bother me, or him. It's not about "HAVING" to do this to get horny. It's keeping the spark alive by being adventerous. Whatever that may be. As for secret oathes, good for you for not keeping secrets from your wife. My husband doesn't either. You happen to be the minority.
Hey JoyceJoanne, as Spade117 said..."We all judge whether we say so or not." I am only stating my point of view. Just as we all are. And yes, apparently, based on my friends choices, I am in the minority when it comes to keeping secrets.0 -
I get a little bothered by it. I mean only because I know he's staring hard at another woman in that manner. I've always been self conscious even when I was really tiny and had a great body. There's always someone out there better looking than you. I've let him go though with his friends and cousins, I'm still yet to go.0
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Lol, you sound like a conservative republican.It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
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It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
Well, it's not really an analogy if you're saying that going to strip clubs IS sex. And I think it's great that you've decided was is and isn't good for everybody; that just saves me the trouble of having to use my own brain.
Now if you'll please excuse me, I've got a strip club to get to.0 -
It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
I'm curious as to where this magical strip club is where all this banging is going on? Are you sure you're not confusing it with a Swingers Club?0 -
It's just not good for anybody. It's exactly the same as eating junk food and, as long as you stay under calories, it's OK. It's not. You need the nutrition of good, clean food. Same with sex - and this IS sex.
I love how authoritative people can be. Apparently you have not only your own life figured out but everyone else's as well. You are the arbiter of what is good and what isn't. Silly that the rest of us have thought we could make up our minds for ourselves.
And saying that going to strip clubs = sex is just flat out ridiculous. I can't think of anyone who'd agree with such a statement.
I didn't say you couldn't go. Not my business. Mr. Clinton would probably agree with you about it not being sex;) I stand behind my analogy.
Well, it's not really an analogy if you're saying that going to strip clubs IS sex. And I think it's great that you've decided was is and isn't good for everybody; that just saves me the trouble of having to use my own brain.
Now if you'll please excuse me, I've got a strip club to get to.
If you are asking for directions, I'm sorry I can't help you.0 -
Um yes I do mind. Why does he need to hit up the strip clubs when he has me at home Plus I use to work in one years back as a waitress and sorry, but they are disgusting!!! I seen what goes on in there on stage, in vip rooms, or in the locker rooms. No way I would give my man permission to go... that is unless I am with him But he knows better than to ask ha 0
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Yes. Totally not okay. Deal-breaker.
*And I don't read romance novels.0 -
Just because he's on a diet, doesn't mean he can't look at the menu! Naw...I don't care. I've been there and done that, both with him and with the guys at work....whatever...I think you have to be 1) Secure in YOURSELF and 2) secure in your relationship and its no problem!0
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TI love this thread. I have found so many small-minded and unentertaining people to ignore.
This!0 -
I get a little bothered by it. I mean only because I know he's staring hard at another woman in that manner. I've always been self conscious even when I was really tiny and had a great body. There's always someone out there better looking than you. I've let him go though with his friends and cousins, I'm still yet to go.
Go with him once, and it will bother you less. Most of the women at those clubs are not all that attractive. I don't really see the attraction, and nobody I know who does habituate those places has ever been able to explain it to me very well, but they all tell me it isn't about how the women look.
I think it might be about that old saying - men like an angel in the kitchen and a devil in the bedroom. Most of the guys I know who go to strip clubs and the like marry the first, but are afraid to ask for the second.
Not to say you don't have a right to the way you feel; whether you're okay with the whole strip club thing, or not, each poster on this thread has a right to their opinion.0 -
Its honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.
If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.
LOYALTY is paramount.
WOW! I'm speechless!0 -
if he doesn't care that I go somewhere and have guys grabbing and grinding on me all night long, then sure he can go to the strip club.
Agreed.
My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.0 -
I don't care, but he only goes on stag nights (bachelor parties)0
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Agreed.
My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.
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Very good points. In my experience, men who go to those places alone are looking for something they don't get at home for one reason or the other (either their own incompetence, or their partner's hesitation) . I'm not generalizing; I'm just saying that is the case with those people I know who go to them. Many couples who go together are probably just looking for adventure, and hey, whatever lights your fire.
But if you have a satisfying sex life without them, what's the point? I've never seen the point...0 -
Agreed.
My boyfirend hates strip clubs... He wouldnt want men grinding up on me, nor do i like women on him. If your thinking about another woman, dreaming about puttin it in her... Why be with the same woman daily? I am in a relationship because I want only him.
He gets disgusted by women who use thier bodies for money. I have a friend who is a stripper and he disapproves of it.. I love her to death though. We have our fun, lots of it. We dress up, and have crazy nights together, at one point had our own pole... Hes the only man I lust over... I dont get excited over randoms. Personality turns me on. Not bodies.Very good points. In my experience, men who go to those places alone are looking for something they don't get at home for one reason or the other (either their own incompetence, or their partner's hesitation) . I'm not generalizing; I'm just saying that is the case with those people I know who go to them. Many couples who go together are probably just looking for adventure, and hey, whatever lights your fire.
But if you have a satisfying sex life without them, what's the point? I've never seen the point...
I will do everything those strippers will do for him. Im am not embarressed with him, and we have both lost and gained weight. If he wants me to put on some stripper clothes, then so be it
. Sex should be fun and a lot of men dont get that themselves. Sex/pleasure is so much better when you have a bond with someone.
I have fantasized about other men while in relationships, and it came down to the fact that i was bored and moved on. My current relationship I am completely content. I look at a guy at the gym and think "Darn that body must have taken work to get" But not "GAH I wanna him in me"...0 -
I will do everything those strippers will do for him. Im am not embarressed with him, and we have both lost and gained weight. If he wants me to put on some stripper clothes, then so be it . Sex should be fun and a lot of men dont get that themselves. Sex/pleasure is so much better when you have a bond with someone.
I have fantasized about other men while in relationships, and it came down to the fact that i was bored and moved on. My current relationship I am completely content. I look at a guy at the gym and think "Darn that body must have taken work to get" But not "GAH I wanna him in me"...
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I get it. You can see someone attractive and note that they are nice-looking, but you're not thinking, "Man, I want to jump that". I'm the same way. And with an open, honest, and adventurous physical relationship at home, I'm not looking elsewhere for inspiration and adventure.
I went to a couple of strip clubs when I was young and single. Didn't like them, but I'm probably just wired differently.0 -
If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.
LOYALTY is paramount.
Why do I think you're single?0
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