girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

butterfli7o

My husband's mentioned it a few times, but he has yet to go. I told him I really don't mind...I do a little bit, but it really has nothing to do with morals, religion, respect, etc. but honestly about the plain idea of him lusting after gorgeous women bouncing their boobs for him right in his face, lol. And I think if I went with him, it would make me feel like ugly poop. :P

But since it's never been an issue, and is certainly not a habit, if he wanted to go I'd let him. As long as it remained a 'once in a while' thing.

Gilbrod

. My wife does a better job than those who have no other asspirations than to shake dat *kitten* for the dirty singles.

LMAO!!!! You caught it!!!

awal2069

I would not be in a relationship with someone who though it was ok to go to a strip club.

To me, sexuality is something wonderful and private between a couple, it isn't something you flaunt and share with total strangers. Yes, we have "needs," no, it doesn't mean you should fulfill them in every way possible. I am in a relationship because I am committed to my man, totally and completely, which includes sexually. If my man didn't feel the same way then obviously we wouldn't have a relationship.

I find it odd that the women on here are so cavalier about them not caring/encouraging their men to go. I wonder if it has something to with a confusion about being confident and secure in your relationship...the defense is "it doesn't mean anything," but sex and everything related to it does mean ALOT because it is so important and awesome :blushing: :happy:.

Let the roasting begin.:indifferent:

I used to have the EXACT same view on strip clubs. I thought they were horrible, nasty places were women were being lusted after for money.
UNTIL I WENT.

I had a great time, felt more comfortable there than any club, and go back with my husband once in a while.
Seriously, being confident and secure in your relationship comment is really a two way street. If you were confident and secure in your relationship... why not try it out? If it is fun for the both of you - its a win win... if not, you cant say you didnt try right? I have been married to my husband for 14 years and our relationship gets better every day. We have grown together, and trying new things never hurt.
Don't knock it til you try it.

Looking back, when I felt strip clubs were a taboo thing, I also know I was insecure in my relationship at the time and with myself. Not anymore.

If you get a nice lady around you, and lots of friends go... it is a blast.

zombie_meg

I have two issues with my husband going to strip clubs.
1. He has betrayed my trust in the past. Nothing to do with a strip club, but of he went it would be in my mind the whole time.
2. A long time ago (5 years) I graduated high school and became a stripper. I worked at a few high end clubs and a few sleazy ones. And no matter what club, there were always the girls that were willing to go a little further for very little more. I witnessed plenty of men with rings on their fingers throw out an extra $50 for some extra fun.

But, I don't think my husband has desire to go to a club because he never went when he was single. And if someone trusts their man and mutually agree that it is ok for him to go, all the power to them!



ETA: not all strippers are skanks. I'm not trying to say that. I actually met a lot of really nice and honest girls. One woman was a preschool teacher by day!

pullipgirl

I don't know how I would feel about it I've never been

USMCConditioning

I have never been to a strip club, no desire to either, just doesn't really appeal to me.

Wreak_Havoc

Here's my thing - I don't equate sex with love... and I don't think objectifying beauty is a bad thing. Sex and sexuality are so vilified in the US (especially), and everyone is raised to believe that bodies are dirty, sex is dirty, and if you like either, you're dirty. IMO, it's the most absolutely natural part of being human. Moreso than love, more than enjoying fine wine, or understanding sarcasm ... it's essential for our survival.

And really, I'd much rather have a man that can appreciate a woman's body without feeling 'bad' about it than a man that pretends like he only sees me. That's a one-way ticket to resentmentville.

:flowerforyou:

margeauxhunt

No. Not at all.

BeeElMarvin

I don't care to go anymore, unless my wife goes with me. Of course, I'll let those with much more marital experience than I tell you how it's suppose to be in their eyes.
I've never been tempted to look at child porn - how the hell do you make the connection between child porn and strip club attendance???
Oh, I've been happily married to the same person for over 27 years....

xosmsox

We go On dates there together, then go home and have sexy fun with each other. (:

kylesmommy89

I wouldn't mind if any of my exes went to strip clubs when I was with them, but with my husband it's different. I love him so much that the thought of him ogling over some skank stripper makes me want to vomit in my mouth!! Screwwww that. He's MINE! :P

Luckily, he has never even mentioned going to a strip club...I know he used to go to them once in a while with his buddies when he was single, but now he doesn't seem to have any interest in them. I'm sure he checks out other women because he IS a man after all, but he hides it very well and makes me feel like the sexiest woman in the world. And I like it like that =D

slynn28

Yes I would mind...I be damn he go and give some random stripper cash lol. I can be his stripper bc I used to enter dance contest etc and won most of them! (not to brag) and just because I don't want to picture him with another female in a private room.. Call me jealous but thats just me. We can go together but I think he would feel weird. . Lol.

nnylee

With all due respect, why do you have your body exposed in your profile pic for people to lust at then?

I don't know if you're talking to me or not. But I'm okay with strip clubs? If my boyfriend wanted to go, he can go. (though, I admit, he's not real big on them in the first place).

Also, still not sure if you're talking to me....but as for me showing my bod off in my profile pic, my profile pic isn't there for people to "lust" at. It's there to show off my accomplishments and make ME feel good about how far I've come.

mandamama

Hell to the no I wouldn't be okay with it. If my husband has to go else where for stimulation.. there is a problem!

jsapninz

Don't knock it til you try it.

Uhm, ok, have you had meth too? This type of argument is extremely flawed.

doorki

Don't knock it til you try it.

Uhm, ok, have you had meth too? This type of argument is extremely flawed.

Well, the downsides of meth can be quantified where as much of the perceived negatives of visiting a strip club are more societal, moral and emotional, which is tougher to quantify.

spade117

I heard meth is good for wieght loss.

slynn28

I heard meth is good for wieght loss.

lmfao! F THAT! HAHA

Kenzietea2

Please don't tell me that you believe that strippers are 'essential'. LOL

I think that there should be many better options for any young girl who needs a job. It's not so much a matter of right as much as it is a matter of giving a woman a better opportunity.

And I don't see how making prostitution legal has helped any woman make a better life for herself (and her family).

Clearly there's a demand or there wouldn't be any strip clubs. While it may not be essential that doesn't mean it should be outlawed. The vast majority of people work jobs that are not essential for survival in the strictest sense.

I think there should be too. I'd always prefer to give a woman the chance to pursue any career she wanted. I don't see how limiting one possible option does anything to help that.

You don't see it because it's not something you would ever see. That doesn't mean it's not a reality. It means you have a limited world view. If a woman becomes a sex worker to help put food on the table and pay the bills she has helped herself and her family. And she did without caring about whatever judgement you wanted to put on her for it.

I do agree women should be able to choose to do whatever they want.

The issue here is stripping or selling her body is the most convenient, highest paying thing there is to do in times of desperation. THAT in itself is wrong, on so many levels. It is truly sad that these women, often runaways, sexual abuse victims, drug addicts...not typically 'empowered women who feel sexually liberated' (although sometimes) sell their bodies because they are desperate to stay off the streets or provide for their families. I do believe their are exceptions to every rule, but having done extensive research including speaking with many strippers, every single one I spoke too agreed if there was something else where they could make that kind of living they absolutely would. Many expressed fear of the men they performed for, many said they have seen other girls fall into prostitution because they started stripping, and almost all of them had some sort of horrific childhood where abuse or neglect by a man occurred. The fact that there is no alternative for women to make enough to survive and the fact that the sex industry they can make more than enough is a huge issue.

tsherm3850

I'm one to have always gone with him. Thankfully, I got all the dances. :drinker: