I'm not attracted to my boyfriend but I can't leave him :-(
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The fair thing to do is to let him move on and find someone who does find him attractive as well as love his personality. Life is to short to settle for only half of the equation. That goes for the both of you!
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Nice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
No. It's not the truth.
"Nice guys" is a cop out because you lack assertiveness.
You won't get anywhere making excuses.
OP the only possible solution I see for you is to marry your boyfriend.0 -
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2259582/Tumblr-exposes-Nice-Guys-OkCupid-looking-love.htmlNice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
nice guys don't call themselves nice
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Nice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
Just because you're 'nice' doesn't mean every girl you like should automatically like you back because you're 'nice'. You can't help who you're attracted to.0 -
Nice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
Just because you're 'nice' doesn't mean every girl you like should automatically like you back because you're 'nice'. You can't help who you're attracted to.
But . . . wait?
I thought if I'm nice to you . . . you will take me home and, you know, have sex with me.
Otherwise what's the point of being nice??0 -
Nice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
Just because you're 'nice' doesn't mean every girl you like should automatically like you back because you're 'nice'. You can't help who you're attracted to.
But . . . wait?
I thought if I'm nice to you . . . you will take me home and, you know, have sex with me.
Otherwise what's the point of being nice??
Oh.... you were just being nice to get into my pants? That's so 'nice'.0 -
Love is frustrating and complex. My first serious BF i wasnt physically attracted to but loved his personality. We were so similar and like the same things that I grew to love him physically as much as I loved his personailty. However he cheated and it all ended.
My BF that im with now, im very physically attracted to him but personailty wise and his demonstraion of love to me is a bit different to mine. I think this is a working progress.
Think about how long you have been feeling this way and when did this happen? What made you think differently of him? Did something happen?
Try to think back and identify where these triggers sparked these feelings.
Best of luck
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Nice guys finish last, and everybody wonders, "where are all the good men gone." Your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Good Luck.
Ain't that the truth.
Just because you're 'nice' doesn't mean every girl you like should automatically like you back because you're 'nice'. You can't help who you're attracted to.
Yup!!0 -
f you are not attracted ,, leave him, why are you there in the first place???????0
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First: he deserves to be with a girl who loves him.
Next: you deserve a boyfriend who doesn't make you feel guilty, and doesn't use your feelings of guilt to manipulate you into a relationship. If he will become a bitter and cynical person who hates women if you leave him, imagine what will happen when he realises what he has missed out on by staying with a woman who doesn't like having sex with him!
Consider this: The main complaint of men who cheat on their wives is that their wives don't like having sex with them. Do you want to be that wife? Do you want him to be married to that wife?0 -
Its not fair to him or you to string him along. You need to leave him. Stop wasting each others time if you know that you don't plan to have a future with him.0
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This thread is a year old. Im sure she got her answer by now.0
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He is perfect on paper and you want to be attracted to him because he thinks the world of you and would do anything for you, but you are not doing him or yourself any favours. He tells you what he would be like if you broke up with him because, deep down, he already knows how you feel and is hoping guilt will make you stay.
You will only end up resenting him if you stay and end up hurting him more in the long run. Yes, you will probably be jealous if you see him with someone else and you will think that maybe you made a mistake and should have stuck it out to see if it worked. But these are just what ifs. You have never really fancied him from day one only liked him and sometimes people can carry on like that but would it make you or him truly happy?
I think you know it is time to end it and move on. Good luck with whatever you end up doing and hopefully both of you go on to find the perfect one for you :flowerforyou:0 -
This thread is a year old. Im sure she got her answer by now.
Lol true..
Haha I never thought to check for a time
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This thread is a year old. Im sure she got her answer by now.
Lol, I didn't even look at the date. That was a wasted reply I'm sure it won't have taken her that long to decide 0 -
Just break up.0
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This thread is a year old. Im sure she got her answer by now.
Lol true..
Haha I never thought to check for a time
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Paha - whoops!0 -
The fair thing to do is to let him move on and find someone who does find him attractive as well as love his personality. Life is to short to settle for only half of the equation. That goes for the both of you!
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It is incredibly unfair for you to stay if you absolutely know you are not in love with him in every sense of the word.
You deserve to be in a passionate relationship and he deserves someone who is passionate about him.
Sure he has said things that are making you not want to move your feet but you have to...it is highly unlikely that these feelings you have will change and yes it will suck for a while..but you both will be better off.0 -
I think you're stuck on yourself. You need to give him a break and let him go. He deserves someone who cares for him, as he does for you.0
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So did you guys break up or what?0
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Oh dear.
You said a lot of things in here that were just answers pointing towards you needing to leave him. You CANNOT lead this poor guy on. You say that he is the empitome of the "perfect boyfriend" but, you are thinking about other guys, annoyed when he tries to touch or kiss you and all of those other words of honesty.
One thing is, you said that he "reminded" you that he would be heartless and cold after you break up with him. Have the two of you talked about it? Does he know how you are feeling?
I honestly feel horrible for your boyfriend but, I also know how exhausted you must feel living this lie. Do not do this to yourself or to him anymore, you need to leave. This has gone on for too long now. Allow someone to find him who wants to have all of the special treatment done for them and allow yourself to find someone who you can put up with on a daily basis.0 -
No no no no. Do not just put up with it and hope it will phase out. In the end you will be bitter that you stayed with him. You can't just put up with him because he's a nice a guy. You have to let him go. It's not your responsibility to worry about him becoming bitter or heart broken if you guys break up. Eventually he'll move on, but it's not healthy to pretend with him, you're doing more harm that way. Do him and yourself a favor and let the relationship go. You were his first love? Well in life sometimes we have more than one "love our lives" and we get out heart broken more than once before finding the right one. It's called life! Sweety, don't force yourself because you will become bitter and unhappy, then he will notice you're unhappy and he will probably try harder, which will then make you even more unhappy! Then he will then be unhappy at the fact that he's trying so hard and you're still unhappy and you two will just be the unhappy couple :sad: :sad: :sad: It will be a never-ending circle.
There's another girl out there for him that he will love and she will love him back because he deserves that. As there is another guy out there for you, that you also deserve to have that will love you like crazy and you will love him too and might I add that of course you will be crazy attracted too!! I know looks ain't everything and there are so many other factors that play into being in a relationship with someone, but you have to be attracted to the person! How do you have sex if you're not attracted??? :huh: :huh:
Good luck!0 -
I would back up with him.0
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what's his email? I will forward him this thread!0
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