Why do people ignore friend requests?

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  • badgerbadger1
    badgerbadger1 Posts: 954 Member
    Well you've had six pages of explanations, but not responded to any of them.

    It is precisely that lack of interaction that is why so many people like to have a message with friend requests.

    Excuse me but I put this post up last night and some people do like to sleep for work the next day. Dont get your panties in a wad. I will respond after i get off work. Im sorry princess

    I believe you now have the answer as to why people ignore your friend requests. Maturity is a good thing.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    Could I just mention that I think that the forums on here are an excellent way of revealing the character of other members.

    In my experience people tend to attract the friends they deserve. :smile:
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I don't accept everyone because I got tired of people asking me for nekkid picture, people not logging on, me being associated with people who wound up being snotty little kids in forums........ So, yeah. I am picky. I am picky in real life about my friends, why wouldn't I be here, as well?
  • bwmiller1
    bwmiller1 Posts: 98
    I accept all. no friend left behind.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Oy.

    Again? Really?

    And because of this thread, I've updated my profile to request a message. I don't like being collected by someone who just wants a lot of people his or her list.
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    I don't accept everyone because I got tired of people asking me for nekkid picture, people not logging on, me being associated with people who wound up being snotty little kids in forums........ So, yeah. I am picky. I am picky in real life about my friends, why wouldn't I be here, as well?


    I want some nekkid pictures Gale!
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I see a lot of peoples profiles that say, " I won't accept friend request without a message!" or " Let me know what we have in common and I might add you."

    Honestly? this is a support website! Do people really think they are too good to add people? Or think to many people want to be their friend? Whats wrong with that?

    Im sorry but I just don't understand. If someone wants to be my friend and needs me for support or wants some inspiration, I wont deny them. Its not like you have personal information on your profile that people could track you with like Facebook.

    Can someone explain this to me?

    I can.

    Different people have different preferences.

    Huzzah.
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Because it is *my* fitnesspal. I request messages and sometimes I still don't accept. I have my reasons. I'm just some face on the internet. Why does it matter?
  • JulieH3art
    JulieH3art Posts: 293 Member
    How long does it take to type a sentence, though? If you really want to befriend someone, why not say "Hi, I'm X, saw your post in Y and it was pretty cool."

    Honestly, it doesn't take much.

    I've recently stopped accepting friend requests without messages that are completely out of the blue. It's not that I have too many friends. Not at ALL - I'd LOVE more friends! But I try to always leave a message with my request when I add someone. It's just nice to feel like you kind of know the people you're friends with. Isn't it?

    likewise, I don't get upset when people won't accept me. They don't know me, and if my profile doesn't appeal to them or they have too many friends already, why should I take that personally?
  • Shfiftyfive
    Shfiftyfive Posts: 261
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.
  • HotCuppaJo
    HotCuppaJo Posts: 476 Member
    Great topic! :smile: I never turn anyone away, but after we are friends, if they are complainers or don't log in consistently, or never support ME in return, I delete.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Most people don't walk up to strangers on the street, point at them and say "WE'RE FRIENDS NOW!" and I find it reasonable that someone would prefer some sort of polite contact before hand.

    What? I do that all the time. You mean it's not normal? Shoot!
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    This is the result we get from giving out participation trophies and instilling that sense of entitlement in kids. "I don't have to do anything to earn your friendship. You are obligated to like me!"

    By the way...
    this is a support website!
    Who told you that? It's a fitness website, not a support group. It's great if people want to support each other but it's not a requirement.
  • pmaxson
    pmaxson Posts: 137
    I simply like to know what makes the person want to be my friend - what do we have in common? How do we connect? I definitely have information overload between home and work (where I easily get over 300 emails a day), and I like to have friendships that are meaningful.

    I have never turned down a request from someone if I know why they want to be friends. I like friends - but I find it strange to get random friend requests.
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    Most people don't walk up to strangers on the street, point at them and say "WE'RE FRIENDS NOW!" and I find it reasonable that someone would prefer some sort of polite contact before hand.

    This made me laugh, because that's essentially how I met my best friend from college. After hearing our names called alphabetically in a row with another girl who we both had 4 classes with freshman year she walked up to me with the other girl and said, "I'm Lisa, this is Missy, we're going to be friends now." I was too stunned to protest. LOL. Ten years later we're still friends.
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    Have they ever had signatures enabled? That would help a lot--it would be out there instantly what your friend preferences are.

    I accept all requests and don't delete unless there is a good reason to. There are some friends that never comment to me and some that often do. These are the people I feel more connected to and try to make a point to comment back to.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I'm very up front and honest about my friend requests....leave a message or be scrutinized by my existing friends....it's really more of a game I call mystery friend roulette....because this is not real life, this is a website....I would hope that you'd at least take a minute and read my profile to understand what it is you're getting into by being my friend here.....and if you don't like it, I honestly don't care. I have great friends here. I know that when I send a friend request, I will put a message on there as to why....because it's the right thing to do, and more importantly you understand that I'm not some woman collecting net fappin' creeper \m/
  • love2cycle
    love2cycle Posts: 448 Member
    I only want a few to keep up with and support. I'm pretty busy and don't spend a lot of time on here. I try to log in my own stuff every day, but sometimes that's all I have time for. I like to read of others successes, and generally try to post on those.
  • almostfortysix
    almostfortysix Posts: 69
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.

    What's a hipster?
  • cheryl5115
    cheryl5115 Posts: 154 Member
    I will accept friends.
  • cheryl5115
    cheryl5115 Posts: 154 Member
    I'm shy and private. I have a small, but excellent group of friends here, and that makes me happy. Do you want me to be unhappy or something?

    Depends...

    Please fill out this questionnaire:

    A. Political Affiliation
    B. Blood Type
    C. Am I Nerd?
    D. Cats or Dogs
    E. How many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie roll tootsie pop?
    F. Do you eat your exercise calories?
    G. Will lifting make women bulky?

    After you fill out that very informative survey I can properly answer your question.

    ;-)

    A Liberal
    B Whatever the most common type is. B+ maybe?
    C Kind of
    D Both. Either. Giraffes.
    E 3
    F Usually
    G No

    I eagerly await your response.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.

    What's a hipster?
    You've probably never heard of them.
  • badgerbadger1
    badgerbadger1 Posts: 954 Member
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.

    What's a hipster?

    It really sucks when google is broken :(
  • mes1119
    mes1119 Posts: 1,082 Member
    I don't want to be friends with someone that I don't at least know a little something about.

    Someone friends you, leaves no message, has nothing on their profile. Sorry, I'm not in the habit of collecting friends.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    I accept all. no friend left behind.

    But is there mandatory testing to make sure they stay on track? :P
  • BFlowers2
    BFlowers2 Posts: 50
    I add anyone...I need the support! I get it from my boyfriend now that we live together...because he is a health nut, and I have been MIA for a couple weeks because of my move and new job. But I am back at it and would welcome anyone who wants to add me at anytime! I need people to kick my butt! LOL
  • Loves418
    Loves418 Posts: 330 Member
    For me I want people who are on the same journey as I am or have been where I am. I find it hard to relate to someone who is 120 pounds and wants to lose 5 pounds. My struggle is being 5ft tall so I love when someone is close to my height and my weight friends me. As far as personal comments to everyone, some mornings I post one nice general one to all my friends with encouragement just so they know I am thinking of them.
  • Aperture_Science
    Aperture_Science Posts: 840 Member
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.

    What's a hipster?
    You've probably never heard of them.

    I used to not accept hipsters, then everyone else started not accepting hipsters and than kind of ruined it for us who were there first. :cry:
  • cardiokitten
    cardiokitten Posts: 401 Member
    I accept everyone but I'm a little leery to add people who don't include a message with their request- I clearly have it on my profile to just write SOMETHING in, and if they don't, I feel like they didn't even look over my profile at all and are adding me just to be another number on their friend's list.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    I don't add hipsters. That's my first rule.

    What's a hipster?
    You've probably never heard of them.

    That was pretty much the best answer to that question, ever.



    No but seriously, I don't add people as friends if we have nothing in common, if they don't get my inappropriate sense of humor, or if a person is easily offended. It's not that I don't support everyone's goals, it's just that my FRIENDS on this site are just that: my friends. You wouldn't randomly be friends with people you have nothing in common with or a person whose personality completely clashes with yours. Plus I don't like how impersonal it can be when you've got like 250 people on a friends list...I want my friends to each know that I'm personally rooting for them and giving advice, and I want to know that my friends are personally supporting me too, not just creeping my pics and winning the MFP popularity contest.

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