Online Cheating

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  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    Some of your comments are just too funny!!

    I can be friends with either sex online, because at the end of the day I'm really only interacting with my keyboard and monitor :tongue:
    exactly. Are you cheating if you watch porn? What about a steamy romance novel? Online isn't real life.
  • rocksyraeis
    rocksyraeis Posts: 194
    Some of your comments are just too funny!!

    I can be friends with either sex online, because at the end of the day I'm really only interacting with my keyboard and monitor :tongue:
    exactly. Are you cheating if you watch porn? What about a steamy romance novel? Online isn't real life.

    Ahhahaha ok waaait aaaa secooond its different in porn those are people you will NEVER meet, a romance novel is strictly a fantasy the people on here are real people with real lives and arent doing "sexting" for a paycheck (pornstar does it for money) to say "oh its not real its ok!" is kinda like saying hey since its online and ill never see this person unless i make an effort and get closer its ok! I dont knooow thats AWFUL close to cheating.
  • Ralphrabbit
    Ralphrabbit Posts: 351 Member
    If people want to cheat they will cheat! I have some great supportive friends of the opposite sex, on here and in life. I respect them by not flirting with them married or not (I am not but have been married!) I someone is sleazy & makes me feel uncomfortable they get deleted whether or not they are male or female!! If I made silly rules I would lose the support of some great guys!
  • Missklara
    Missklara Posts: 282 Member
    I agree! I would be nuts if my boyfriend had female friends on internet and flerted with them!
    It's not cheating but i don't accept flirting of any kind
  • rocksyraeis
    rocksyraeis Posts: 194
    I agree! I would be nuts if my boyfriend had female friends on internet and flerted with them!
    It's not cheating but i don't accept flirting of any kind

    What is considered flirting to you?
  • ❤B☩❤
    ❤B☩❤ Posts: 634
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    Then, unfortunately, you have DEFINITELY come across the wrong guys. Do you really think that guys don't have weight problems, or low self-esteem? Better yet, do you think that guys don't have some great (NON-SEXUAL) ideas? I should direct you to my Guy Friends here on MFP. I, too, am very happily married, and the friends I have have all been very helpful and supportive of me.... A HAPPY WIFE = A HAPPY LIFE!
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    I chose two men to be my online friends for one reason only, so I can compare my food intake and exercise to a man that is losing weight/lost weight. I am not seeking attention from any man.
  • bsuid72
    bsuid72 Posts: 33

    Then, unfortunately, you have DEFINITELY come across the wrong guys. Do you really think that guys don't have weight problems, or low self-esteem? Better yet, do you think that guys don't have some great (NON-SEXUAL) ideas? I should direct you to my Guy Friends here on MFP. I, too, am very happily married, and the friends I have have all been very helpful and supportive of me.... A HAPPY WIFE = A HAPPY LIFE!


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  • Vince_1964
    Vince_1964 Posts: 359 Member
    - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    I disagree totally. They do not with me and nor do they with most of the people I know. I think you must have run into more than your fair share of sleaze bags. We're not all "only interested in one thing".

    ^^^ I agree with this. I have a number of female friends (both "virtual" on MFP and "real") in my life - and it has nothing to do with sex or having ulterior motives. Sorry, but it seems your experience with men has been tainted by meeting and dealing with some real slime-balls. I don't count myself among them!
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I agree! I would be nuts if my boyfriend had female friends on internet and flerted with them!
    It's not cheating but i don't accept flirting of any kind

    How YOU doin?
    :wink:
  • Vince_1964
    Vince_1964 Posts: 359 Member
    - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    I disagree totally. They do not with me and nor do they with most of the people I know. I think you must have run into more than your fair share of sleaze bags. We're not all "only interested in one thing".

    ^^^ I agree with this. I have a number of female friends (both "virtual" on MFP and "real") in my life - and it has nothing to do with sex or having ulterior motives. Sorry, but it seems your experience with men has been tainted by meeting and dealing with some real slime-balls. I don't count myself among them!

    Oh ... and I've been happily married for 25 years while maintaining friendships with both women and men ...
  • wolfpack77
    wolfpack77 Posts: 655
    The approach I take is that if a person is naturally a social butterfly, its going to be that way in all areas of their life - not just online. These kinds of people are going to attract the opposite sex no matter what because of their outgoing nature... It doesn't necessarily mean that they're a cheater or prone to infidelity. They are who they are.

    If you choose to date or be with a person like that, its just something you accept about their personality. If you're insecure then this personality type isnt a match for you. You'll just end up stressing yourself out and making their lives miserable. A waste of time for the both of you!

    I am not and never have been the jealous type, and I believe people should be allowed to be who they are without others trying to change them because they're judgemental, insurece or controlling. In the end a person is going to do what they want to do anyways and you're not going to stop them. If they want to be with you, they will be. If they want to cheat on you and leave you, they dont need the Internet to do it.

    Basically in the end its about knowing yourself and who you're a good match for. Choose wisely and these types of issue wont even be a problem.
  • scruffykaz
    scruffykaz Posts: 317 Member
    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    I ask them to form an orderly queue then shag my way to increased calories...it's all good exercise!
  • DeenaSteelerGirl
    DeenaSteelerGirl Posts: 421 Member
    I am innocent.. That is my story and I am sticking to it !!!! :tongue: And really .. people flirt here ? Noooooooo news to me... :indifferent:
  • sofakingawesome69
    sofakingawesome69 Posts: 149
    I keep my wife locked in the basement so she can't be tempted by other men. I mean, who knows just what she might do..
  • marthathebear
    marthathebear Posts: 498
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    That's probably true somewhat but I do have male friends. I only have friends and conversations I wouldn't mind my husband reading.
  • jcjsjones
    jcjsjones Posts: 571 Member
    I have male MFP friends but we encourage each other, not flirt. I have a wonderful husband and would never do anything to hurt my marriage.
  • HeinzPrincess
    HeinzPrincess Posts: 92
    I just joined MFP and here's what I do:

    1. If you make a flirtatious comment on my wall, it stays there because it's public
    2. If you make a flirtatious comment on a private message, I will tell you I have a boyfriend. I'm not offended (I mean, seriously, they are compliments) but I want to make sure we are on the same page.

    My boyfriend is on here as well but only to track calories right now so he doesn't have friends other than me. I told him some people made some comments about me and that I told them I have a boyfriend. Both of us have ex's that cheated online, so I am very sensitive! If he were to log on MFP and see my messages, nothing would be a surprise to him and nothing would paint me in a bad light. He doesn't check up on me, but I live my online life as clean as my real life.

    I love to joke/tease and would feel very comfortable doing it in a public forum on here but not privately. Secrets breed trouble. If I don't feel comfortable relaying the story to my boyfriend, I shouldn't do it.
  • TaylorsGranddad
    TaylorsGranddad Posts: 453 Member
    My Mrs has messaged other woman in my FL saying I've seen you supporting MY HUSBAND, which was a polite back off I think. However, I do flirt on here but I think on here it's a self esteem thing, well it is for me anyway.
  • Celestialfairie
    Celestialfairie Posts: 134
    I'm actually the type that has historically always gotten along better with males than I have females. This is something that my SO knows full well. He knows that I've started posting in the forums and making friends on MFP. As long as I'm not obsessively speaking about any of them, he doesn't have any reason to suspect anything: male or female friends.

    It actually says a lot about trust. My ex husband and I met online (as friends, not on a dating site, so it carries a big impact with things). I've actually cut my online usage way back due to the ex and seem almost shy to my approach. My current beau has told me time and time again not to worry about it. That until I give him reason to doubt, he's not going doubt.

    That being said, I'm also not going to go around leading people on or sending questionable pics or whatever and so forth.
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    I kind of sort of see the OP's point...my husband and I were just platonic friends before we started dating. And I have rarely had a strange man approach me just to be my 'friend'. It's usually to hit on me, and some have been very pushy about it even after I tell them I am married. Creepers! That said, I do have male friends, like guys I know from high school, college, work, hobby groups, etc. and my husband has female friends also. But neither of us has a very very close friend of the opposite sex like we were to each other before we became romantically involved...

    BUT

    I trust my husband, and he trusts me. It would never occur to us to assume the other was cheating or planned to cheat on a fitness site. Really?? How do you go from discussing calories and exercise to having sex and/or some sordid emotional entanglement?? Some of you women seem so afraid that's going to happen, why is that? Some guy flirts with you and your panties come off? Seriously, I'm not understanding this viewpoint at all. If you have strong morals and values no one make you cheat on your spouse, no one can tempt you.

    It's all about establishing boundaries and blocking creepers off at the pass. Just like in real (offline) life when some man hits on you, you say I'm married and walk away. Some guy hits on you online, you say I'm married and walk away. Defriend and block him, it's as simple as that.
  • Missklara
    Missklara Posts: 282 Member
    I agree! I would be nuts if my boyfriend had female friends on internet and flerted with them!
    It's not cheating but i don't accept flirting of any kind

    What is considered flirting to you?

    i'm usually bad in giving examples but... It's the same like flirting in real life. Some intimate jokes, saying to other that he/she is cute blabla, see? I'm bad in giving examples :) but.. everyone knows what flirting is right?

    It's not like i'm against friends of opposite sex, don't get me wrong! But we're talking about the next level here
  • Missklara
    Missklara Posts: 282 Member
    I agree! I would be nuts if my boyfriend had female friends on internet and flerted with them!
    It's not cheating but i don't accept flirting of any kind

    How YOU doin?
    :wink:

    haha =)
    nice try
  • Killing_Perfection
    Killing_Perfection Posts: 79 Member
    I don't see what's the big deal with friends of the opposite sex. I'm quite a flirt sometimes without even intending to and I spend lots of time with guys, simply because my interests are fairly different from those of most women. It's also a matter of behaviour. I don't want someone to reprimand me about my manners when I'm in a small round of friends, drink beer, and burp or run into objects and swear like a sailor. I think there are times for manners and there are times to laugh at the insults you throw at each other - many women my age don't see it that way.

    If there's anything problematic, it's the behaviour of the person trying to cheat, and that has little to do with whether that person has plenty of opposite sex friends or same sex friends (or the other way around if applicable). That, and overly jealous partners.

    People should just draw their lines, explain it to their partner, be done with it. They will either respect it or they won't and you'll have to accept that you were wrong in your picture about that someone and should consider changes if it's getting too troublesome, be it leaving the relationship, making compromises, getting some therapy, sharpening your collection of knive--.... you get it.

    If your partner wants to cheat, there's nothing you can do to prevent it. The best security systems have weak points and all it'll do is making your partner feel trapped - and some react badly to that.
  • msmith2020
    msmith2020 Posts: 365 Member
    Let's see.. I start MFP for weight loss reasons. I don't friend guys for their looks. If your my friend its bc you have succeed in your goals and you motivated me to succeed in mine.

    I have occasionally flirted a little, I think, but it wasn't intentional. I truly believe that FB (being purely a social sight with no common interest or goals) is susceptible to strangers flirting and teetering on the edge of it being more wrong than right.. (befriending random ppl, personal messages, etc) however when I get on MFP (though I see it happening on here) when I friend someone, asking or accepting a request It is only b/c that person has similar goals, or has achieved a goal I am currently working on and they can help me succeed as well.. MFP is slowly becoming match.com to some ppl.. that's the truth too..

    I think online cheating happens all the time and they can turn around and go home to their spouses b/c their is no physical woman or man to feel guilty about.. its their call... wrong as it ,may be..
  • misslady72
    misslady72 Posts: 37 Member
    Interesting thread. I am here for support for weight loss. I have friends male and female. Nothing has been said or even implied. I actually want more male friends on my list because I need to gain some insight about weights..have to start incorporating that into my routine. Other than that, its a online fitness support website! Nuff said
  • FuneralDiner
    FuneralDiner Posts: 438 Member
    My Mrs has messaged other woman in my FL saying I've seen you supporting MY HUSBAND, which was a polite back off I think.
    That's ridiculous.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    You definitely shouldn't do it. All of the boob/butt shots on here it's pretty much cheating just by looking at them.
  • rocksyraeis
    rocksyraeis Posts: 194
    The approach I take is that if a person is naturally a social butterfly, its going to be that way in all areas of their life - not just online. These kinds of people are going to attract the opposite sex no matter what because of their outgoing nature... It doesn't necessarily mean that they're a cheater or prone to infidelity. They are who they are.

    If you choose to date or be with a person like that, its just something you accept about their personality. If you're insecure then this personality type isnt a match for you. You'll just end up stressing yourself out and making their lives miserable. A waste of time for the both of you!

    I am not and never have been the jealous type, and I believe people should be allowed to be who they are without others trying to change them because they're judgemental, insurece or controlling. In the end a person is going to do what they want to do anyways and you're not going to stop them. If they want to be with you, they will be. If they want to cheat on you and leave you, they dont need the Internet to do it.

    Basically in the end its about knowing yourself and who you're a good match for. Choose wisely and these types of issue wont even be a problem.

    :flowerforyou:
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    You either are the cheating type or you don’t. And if you are, you gonna cheat even with the greeter at the supermarket, you don’t have to be online.

    As far as online cheating, it depends on what you think cheating is. There is nothing wrong with talking to people. Even flirting to a degree is natural for human being and its not cheating.

    My husband knows that I am on this site, he knows I talk to people and he is not worried about it. He knows Im not gonna go F*** anybody. And my husband goes on the sites that interest him and talks to people. I know he is not going to run away with any of them.

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