Online Cheating
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For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
MEN AND WOMEN CAN NOT BE FRIENDS??? WTF? ARE YOU SERIOUS?????0 -
I'm a huge flirt. Both here and in person. My husband is used to me flirting. I'm sure he gets aggravated sometimes. But with the right girl he can be a flirt too. The difference is that I flirt with most people (guys and girls). He would only flirt with someone he'd probably actually wanna sleep with.
Now, I do OVERLY flirt sometimes...and I probably embarrass people sometimes. I really am just having fun. It puts a smile on my face, makes the day go by faster, and yeah...it can be an ego-boost.
Sometimes my flirting gets taken the wrong way and when it does I am quick to tell the person that I am a flirt but I am harmless. I have no plans to have an affair. And while I flirt and post innuendo that's as far as I go.
Some of the people that I flirt with daily though have become some of my best friends. I really care about them and hope that everything is going well in their lives. And when they hurt I hurt for them. So yeah...you do get close to those people. And I guess it would be easy to cross a line. But I don't.
Haha... you took a lot of words to say "guilty as charged"
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If your constitution is so flaccid that you can't take a compliment or friendship with someone on the internet without going off the rails, then maybe commitment isn't your bag.
If your relationship is so unstable that you can't interact with attractive people, then (I hate to break it to you) it's probably too fragile to handle much strain. You have to go to work. The grocery store. The doctor. Eventually, someone hot is going to happen to you or your partner.
I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because I know that people cheat online. Most of the people I know who've cheated would've done it with or without the internet.0 -
For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
My policy is to avoid adding people like this as MFP friends.
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were all human. whether you are in a relationship or not its not wrong to see a member of the opposite sex ( or same, w/e your taste) and think "hey they look good/attractive". now thinking that to yourself and expressing that over mfp are two different things.
but thats just my opinion0 -
I have same sex and opposite sex friends. I'm married with kids so I have no intention at all of cheating but I like the variety of support I have. I've tended to get friends and then drop them if they are not social but if they are I stick with them. I'm getting to know people here and we can have a laugh. I'm not quite sure how chat with ulterior motives could develop anyway as most people I know are thousands of miles away and the closest is a hundred. I certainly wouldn't leave my telephone number of personal e-mail knocking about here either.0
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Hey Taso... we've been friends a long time. Has sex or innuendoes or even a single PM ever come into play??
No innuendos at all. It's all been very explicit :bigsmile:
See? Just the way I like it :blushing: You know me well.
I never get innuendos from Taso. ::kicksrocks::
But I like yours odus.
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I do not agree with this. I do have male friends, both single and men in relationships and married men and I have never had problem with this even though I´m single myself, maybe i´m just so ugly or I may be so lucky to have gotten to know respectful men.men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
I respect peoples relationship and would never under any circumstances go after a married man.
Your theary may be true for some but not everybody0 -
were all human. whether you are in a relationship or not its not wrong to see a member of the opposite sex ( or same, w/e your taste) and think "hey they look good/attractive". now thinking that to yourself and expressing that over mfp are two different things.
but thats just my opinion
my opinion too :-) We are biologically wired to find people attractive - we've also been given brains so we can control the biology.0 -
were all human. whether you are in a relationship or not its not wrong to see a member of the opposite sex ( or same, w/e your taste) and think "hey they look good/attractive". now thinking that to yourself and expressing that over mfp are two different things.
but thats just my opinion
my opinion too :-) We are biologically wired to find people attractive - we've also been given brains so we can control the biology.
All have been given brains but some do not use them independently.0 -
All i know is some husbands would not like my inbox *looks around and whistles*0
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^This. THIS. Very much this. So spot on.If your constitution is so flaccid that you can't take a compliment or friendship with someone on the internet without going off the rails, then maybe commitment isn't your bag.
If your relationship is so unstable that you can't interact with attractive people, then (I hate to break it to you) it's probably too fragile to handle much strain. You have to go to work. The grocery store. The doctor. Eventually, someone hot is going to happen to you or your partner.
I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because I know that people cheat online. Most of the people I know who've cheated would've done it with or without the internet.
Also, I think there are pills for a flaccid constitution.0 -
^This. THIS. Very much this. So spot on.If your constitution is so flaccid that you can't take a compliment or friendship with someone on the internet without going off the rails, then maybe commitment isn't your bag.
If your relationship is so unstable that you can't interact with attractive people, then (I hate to break it to you) it's probably too fragile to handle much strain. You have to go to work. The grocery store. The doctor. Eventually, someone hot is going to happen to you or your partner.
I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because I know that people cheat online. Most of the people I know who've cheated would've done it with or without the internet.
Also, I think there are pills for a flaccid constitution.
But sometimes it stays hard too long. I like mine to waver on occasion.0 -
You should see a doctor if your constitution is unwavering for more than four days.
^This. THIS. Very much this. So spot on.If your constitution is so flaccid that you can't take a compliment or friendship with someone on the internet without going off the rails, then maybe commitment isn't your bag.
If your relationship is so unstable that you can't interact with attractive people, then (I hate to break it to you) it's probably too fragile to handle much strain. You have to go to work. The grocery store. The doctor. Eventually, someone hot is going to happen to you or your partner.
I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because I know that people cheat online. Most of the people I know who've cheated would've done it with or without the internet.
Also, I think there are pills for a flaccid constitution.
But sometimes it stays hard too long. I like mine to waver on occasion.0 -
Conversely, if it's flaccid you could go see a constitution fluffer. I like a holistic approach.
You should see a doctor if your constitution is unwavering for more than four days.
^This. THIS. Very much this. So spot on.If your constitution is so flaccid that you can't take a compliment or friendship with someone on the internet without going off the rails, then maybe commitment isn't your bag.
If your relationship is so unstable that you can't interact with attractive people, then (I hate to break it to you) it's probably too fragile to handle much strain. You have to go to work. The grocery store. The doctor. Eventually, someone hot is going to happen to you or your partner.
I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because I know that people cheat online. Most of the people I know who've cheated would've done it with or without the internet.
Also, I think there are pills for a flaccid constitution.
But sometimes it stays hard too long. I like mine to waver on occasion.0 -
If a person really wants to cheat, they're going to cheat whether meeting someone online or in person somewhere. When a person is committed and will not cheat no matter what, they can have friends of the opposite sex with no problem simply because there are no ulterior motives there.0
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I'm here for one thing only, sex with strangers. For the last year I have lulled my female friends on MFP from across the nation into a false sense of security by giving praise and encouragement, jokes, and the occasional flirtation so that one day I could potentially fly around the country to bang all of them.
Adrian_indy burned 16,778 calories doing cardio, including "flying around the country to bang all of his MFP pals after lulling them into a false sense of security with praise and encouragement"
Great burn!!!0 -
anyone who likes to flirt may friend me, so I expect no requests :sad:0
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For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
Bull****!0 -
well just for the record... I am a huge flirt, so is my wife we are very comfortable in our marriage, she has a few gyuys that try and hug her at work, mostly customers. I joke around with my Soccer mom's ( I coach my daughters team) anyway, it really depends on if you are comfortable with your marriage and who you are.
My friend jokes around that he is dying for a lap dance from my wife, I tell him to bring big bills because he can't afford her.
we can joke around and be open, I guess we are different then most, I really ahve no problem with her being a huge flirt as long as she lands in our bed at night..lol
This is pretty much how my marragie goes. We have complete trust in one another. I've flirted with his friends in front of him and he doesnt care. He TRUSTS me, and i TRUST him. He tells his friends if they think they can handle me go for it LOL.
Your not that different. I have a wonderful marraige, not interested in anyone else like that, but we both dont try and change each other's personalities. It comes with maturity, love, and a deep realization that the grass isnt always greener, so once you find the soul that was ment for you, you have no desire to loose that for anyone.0 -
For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
Wow.... just wow. Your husband has zero female friends??? :noway:
I don't get all that paranoia. IRL I have male friends as well as female friends, and he has male friends as well as female friends. We all do stuff together. He is friends with my male friends, I am friends with his female friends. They're all OUR friends, regardless of gender.
On MFP I have male friends as well as female friends. I really don't see the problem.
If you think it's "disrespectful" to be in any contact with other men, or him in any contact with other women... How does this work at work? I work in a mixed gender environment as most people do. I have a male colleague who I spent 8 hours of the day with. Would be bloody awkward if we could never share a joke or whatever.
This sort of paranoia is just stupid.0 -
I'm here for one thing only, sex with strangers. For the last year I have lulled my female friends on MFP from across the nation into a false sense of security by giving praise and encouragement, jokes, and the occasional flirtation so that one day I could potentially fly around the country to bang all of them.
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I think it's the "whatever" that worries her. Maybe she's not getting any "attention", and is just a tad green around the gills. I have a male colleague who I spent 8 hours of the day with. Would be bloody awkward if we could never share a joke or whatever.0 -
I'm here for one thing only, sex with strangers. For the last year I have lulled my female friends on MFP from across the nation into a false sense of security by giving praise and encouragement, jokes, and the occasional flirtation so that one day I could potentially fly around the country to bang all of them.
well done you, love it.0 -
Men and women can't be friends? How old are you people, 6?0
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If you can't control your own urges, don't do it.
And don't assume you're safe with friends of only your same sex.0 -
Being English, I thrive on smut, innuendo and double entrendre. If that meant I was cheating then... 99% of my friendships would amount to cheating, regardless of the gender of my friends.
There's a huge difference between flirting gently, smutty jokes and actually cheating. If someone can't see that, then they're clearly not someone that I'm going to be in a relationship with for long.0 -
My friend is on MFP as himself and also has a login as a gorgeous female, he seems to have many friends on both "profiles".
For some reason, both his profiles have more man friends!
Does that mean the guys he's friend's with want to "cheat" with him too (on both profiles)?
is it possible to get a couple as friends and arrange an MMF? no...hold on...waiting a minute, this is the wrong website! Isn't this a website where people friend each other because they have similar goals and convictions? (unlike facebook where you save up enough friends to drop them for a Burger King Offer)....
Flirting's fun, just don't upset anyone, online cheating is like writing love letters to someone, just a little quick with less words and no perfumed paper
Good luck out there all you sexy folks!
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Having read a number of the replies here. I came on here to lose weight and received 5 friend requests from my introduction message, 4 Ladies and 1 Man, I now have 36 friends of which 3 are male and I know 2 personally, 3 of my female friends I also know personally. Their ages range from 18 to their 50's, and most are Married/In Relationships, but they all get the same amount of my time to help if they need the support/motivation. I will message them if I sense something is wrong and offer any extra support one to one, also will help research something for them (eating disorders/weight loss/medical issues/exercises).
I support and motivate with a message to diary posts, even a WTG on their posts shows that someone is noticing what they are doing and getting done. If I notice a trend happening that might cause them problems I will point it out and offer a solution/something that has worked for me. I get various posts on each 5 days my counter goes up about how glad they are that I am here everyday, I have also had messages saying that they were worried about adding a guy as a friend but glad they added me, which makes me happy that I am helping them.
As far as Men helping Women or Women helping Men, there is always a different angle to look at a problem. Don't ask a guy about TOM problems but you probably wouldn't ask Hubby/SO those questions either but we can add a different perspective on problems. But Ladies you do ask the hardest questions with no right answers, "do I look big in this?" how do we answer this we say no and you hear a catty comment when you wear it we are in trouble, we answer yes and it's move over Rover there's 2 of us in the doghouse now.
Ladies you are to nice to each other, seeing Friends of Friends comments on dairies cracks me up sometimes, someone is over calories for the 3rd day in a row and the same comment comes out "tomorrow is another day". Yes tomorrow is another day but surely you should start asking questions or pointing out things that will help.
As far a flirting goes, I will flirt occasionally but only with those 1, I have been MFP friends with for a while 2, that will know it's innocent fun 3, if I pick up that they seem to have had a bad day. Even joking with friends, you need to work out who you are joking with, as an English man our sense of humour (and spelling) is different from an American one, Canadian one or a European one, so as with everything know your audience.
Yes there are sleazy guys around and there are women that act in a similar way, but don't tar us all with the same brush.
Andy
A first name and equal opportunity Supporter/Motivator0 -
yes we will flirt with anyone online why just the other day i thought i was having cyber sex with a cute girl named mary but it turned out just to be herlamb screwing with me it was easy to spot since lambs have no fingers the texts looked like this khgj vdr oi rtdv nui
but the thing that really pissed me off is when we did the video chat and all the strange sexual fanasys i suggested the lamb kept shooting me down just saying naaaa naaaa naaa all the time it was a turn off , thats why i stick to this place0
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