Online Cheating

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  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    Yeah, I want to get physical with all the women on my friends list. However, due to fact that most are married, I will treat them with the respect that they deserve...and their husbands deserve...and stay friends. You see - I'd rather have them as friends than not at all.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I have some male friends here and they don't flirt or act inappropriately with me. They are good support and I try to be good support to them, too. I have had a couple of males friend me that did hit on me and I dropped them when they did that. I also have great female friends here, none of them get out of line or act all flirty with the males.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I love my man-friends as much as I do my lady-friends, but I'm not going to fruck any of them. (sorry, everyone)
    Well that's disappointing.
  • OKmac3
    OKmac3 Posts: 192 Member
    So are you asking if Offline Cheating and Online Cheating are the same? Either way you have to be awake.

    Let me answer it this way, if your dreaming and having a wild wet erotic dream about another person than your S/O is that cheating? Even if it is more erotic than what you have had or ever dreamed with your S/O.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    What?

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  • kiminikimkim
    kiminikimkim Posts: 746 Member
    I think men are generalized because of statistics. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/t/many-cheat-thrill-more-stay-true-love/#.UBFQFmFfG4o

    1 in 5 adults will have cheated on their partner.

    and

    HALF OF MARRIED MEN have reported on CHEATING on their wife. (Love the honesty though)


    Therefore, half of the married men on MFP are faithful and the other half, I try to avoid. But since I don't know who is which, I befriend no male MFP members at all.
  • PBsMommy
    PBsMommy Posts: 1,166 Member
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    Ummm, please read my comment again. I said "'Out of respect for my husband' is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site." I have seen many females make this statement and I think the STATEMENT is BS. I DID NOT say you having respect for you SO is BS, There is a hugh difference. I have total respect for my wife however I do not feel that having female friends here on MFP or FB or in real life is disrespectful. Before you blast my comments please read completely and in context.
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    Key words you used "how you feel". That doesn't mean everyone feels that way. Everyone has different "feels" and opinions on life. It doesn't give anyone the right to bash another's and say that what they feel and believe is BS.

    Evidently that is a common misconception for people on MFP. To many my way or the highway type people on here.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    If some words and pictures on a screen were enough to make either one of us cheat, our relationship would have been in trouble long before any friendship entered the picture.
  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    Get a hold of yourself..........or over yourself. Whatever.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I think men are generalized because of statistics. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/t/many-cheat-thrill-more-stay-true-love/#.UBFQFmFfG4o

    1 in 5 adults will have cheated on their partner.

    and

    HALF OF MARRIED MEN have reported on CHEATING on their wife. (Love the honesty though)


    Therefore, half of the married men on MFP are faithful and the other half, I try to avoid. But since I don't know who is which, I befriend no male MFP members at all.
    But... if you have a man on your friends list, and he is willing to cheat on his wife... that doesn't mean YOU are willing to cheat. Or does this mean you just can't control yourself?
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    The problem is not MFP..or FB..or people having friends of the opposite sex.

    It's the individual who does not have boundaries or certain respect for their spouses set who have the problem and until they get their minds straight on what they want and how they want to live in the world, the rest is blah..
    agree

    This
  • randy0987
    randy0987 Posts: 30 Member
    There is no issue with having friend on MFP if you understand the difference between friend and more. If your in a relationship then you must respect that relationship no one can make you do that its internal
  • randy0987
    randy0987 Posts: 30 Member
    i disagree to that post respect is everything if you know your bondaries and respect them
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
    I think it's a very fine line between cheating and not cheating, and a lot of it does have to do with how you and your SO view cheating.

    I think with the start of social media networking, IMing, smart phones, etc it has made it much easier and tempting to fall into something like cheating, whether it was originally meant to be that way or not.

    I think people need to step back and think: "If my partner was doing this, would I be happy with them?"

    Sometimes stops things in its track.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Having friends of the opposite sex on MFP isn't online cheating..

    Exactly, what nonsense!!!
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
    Women only rule for me.
  • kasslass2
    kasslass2 Posts: 337 Member
    Have friends of both sex on here, FB and in real life. Love to play around and flirt, but that is exactly what it is......nothing more. I would never cheat on my husband. I took a vow, said the words and meant every one of them. Love him more than life. Married more than 20 years to my best friend.
  • mynameiscarrie
    mynameiscarrie Posts: 963 Member
    Yes because men ONLY talk to me because they want me...

    WHAT THE WHAT?!

    I have male friends on MFP. If they get weird they get deleted. That's it. If your SO has a problem with a male (or female) on your friends list on an online weight loss site without a reason, you've got another problem...
  • Jipples
    Jipples Posts: 650 Member
    I think men are generalized because of statistics. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/t/many-cheat-thrill-more-stay-true-love/#.UBFQFmFfG4o

    1 in 5 adults will have cheated on their partner.

    and

    HALF OF MARRIED MEN have reported on CHEATING on their wife. (Love the honesty though)


    Therefore, half of the married men on MFP are faithful and the other half, I try to avoid. But since I don't know who is which, I befriend no male MFP members at all.

    I love how when cheating is mentioned, it's automatically directed at men cheating. Women are as bad, if not worse, when it comes to cheating. I also find it interesting that when these topics are posted, most are all "I would never blah blah blah, if someone feels they need to cheat they just leave blah blah blah, if he/she loved his/her spouse they wouldn't be cheating blah blah blah.......". It's really just that simple isn't it? You 'psycho'analysts have it all figured out.
  • Terree83
    Terree83 Posts: 93
    I'm rather amazed this topic is even posted. I'm on here to support people that have a common goal--to lose weight, be more fit and have a better lifestyle.

    Are people on here really looking for hook-ups? Pretty sad and ridiculous if you are...
  • picassoadagio
    picassoadagio Posts: 407 Member
    It's about trust and weeding out the creeps.
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    Cheating requires physical contact. Online friends are VIRTUAL. Glad I could clear that up for you.

    You would probably change your mind if you been been cheated on with on online affair. Trust me, it hurts just as much as the real thing.

    Also, in defense of men, I have never had a single man on my FL be anything but gentlemanly. Maybe I just have good taste though.
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    I have only a few male friends on MFP and none have been inappropriate. If it ever gets that way, they will be deleted out of respect for my husband. I am very much in love with my husband and wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our relationship. If he told me he was uncomfortable with anything (since I leave MFP logged in 24/7 on the computer and my phone), I would fix the situation. End of story. He means more to me than any friend I've made.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Male or female. If you're going to cheat, you're going to cheat. Being online makes it easier, sure, but it doesn't mean everyone is going to do it.
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
    The guy friends I have on here are a great support and don't have any ulterior motives. I have met guys on different sites in the past that did, but that doesn't mean I have to submit to it. My husband knows both that I am a flirt and that a lot of my friends are guys and he also knows that I will always be 100% faithful. We trust each other unconditionally, which is good because he is in the Air Force and we have had 4 days together in the last 9 weeks and have 13 weeks to go before we can live together again. If a guy friend ever made a move towards me, I would tell him it made me uncomfortable, and if he continued regardless, I wouldn't hang out with him anymore.

    It really could be as simple as that if people could just learn to be faithful =/
  • amillerwvu
    amillerwvu Posts: 54 Member
    This is definitely an "to each his/her own" opinion. I really don't care whom I'm friends with--as long as he/she is not degrading and mean. Some men may have the same goals, struggles, interests as I do, and that's what matters to me. Heck, how can you really judge by gender? You may be friends with a female who is gay--does that mean that woman is going to hit on you?...doubt it. Like I said earlier...to each his/her own. That being said, I definitely have more female friends....I don't think any guy is going to look at me, and say "Oooh, I'll friend request her; she's hot."

    AND...if someone did become suggestive, I'd just tell the person to knock it off...or delete....that's a FABulous button:) I, too, love and respect my husband:)
  • AncyNancy561
    AncyNancy561 Posts: 11
    Dr. Drew did a very interesting show on this the other night. He demonstrated that online flirting means alot more when men do so then when woman do so psychologically.

    He explained that men only do things with intent. If they are trolling the web they are doing so to meet and cheat.

    While woman whom are more social can flirt and turn it off and go back to their kids and husbands redirecting the online feelings into their current relationships, kinda like a romance novel.


    While, I believe there is a certain point that it is cheating for both sexes don't get me wrong. I just found his theory on this subject interesting and thought I would share since you brought it up ^.^



    I honestly SO FREAKING BELIEVE THAT! 98% of men have an agenda!!!! I dont add guys out of respect for my S/O. I had a facebook and added anyone and everyone, guys and all and my boyfriend went on and saw some dude i aint know as a "new friend" and thought i was being sneaky and asked me for an explanation..... So no intent on adding or talking to men.... He doesnt have any internet/social networks and i woulda been a lil uncomfortable if he did, so i understand and out of respect and knowing i wouldnt be comfortable no networks except MFP.--- I didnt even know MFP was like facebook till a few days ago!
  • KickassAugust
    KickassAugust Posts: 1,430 Member
    Having friends of the opposite sex is fine (I've lots of them). i would never cheat. If I wanted to I would leave my partner beforehand. I have however removed people from my FL who got overly flirtatious in the past. I think its the Pirate brings out the worst in people ;)

    Really depends on you. If you know you can resist temptation / are not interested and you know your SO is not the insanely jealous type then its all good.

    Damn, and I was going to add you too!
  • ShaunMc1968
    ShaunMc1968 Posts: 204
    I have both M & F friends on here as well as some family. I am not looking for anyone or anything except support and motivation. I hope my comments on discussions and friends pages are not taken any other way. Some guys and girls will be looking - it's a good way to meet like minded people but we should all make our own adult decisions. I have just deleted a "friend" who is a real hottie to look at but has never given me any reciprocal support, For me it's not yyfitnessFAN but myfitnesspal.
    Regards,
    S,
  • Dave_MFP
    Dave_MFP Posts: 32
    Cheating is about not being open and honest with your SO. If you know your woman flirts with a guy a work and she knows that her boyfriend/husband flirts with a girl, it ISN'T cheating. Someone has to be cheated for cheating to occur.

    To state an extreme example:

    If a girl has guy friends on MFP and her husband or boyfriend doesn't approve, that is cheating because the husband or boyfriend doesn't approve or more likely, doesn't know about the interaction.

    If the same girl has guy friends in real life who she sleeps with from time to time and her husband or boyfriend knows about it and approves, that isn't cheating because everyone is on the same page about what is going on.

    Just my $.02!
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