Online Cheating
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I also think less of people who purposly don't have friends of the opposite sex with a claim like it is out of respect for their spouse. To me, that means you don't have enough belief/trust or confindence in yourself to make proper decisions.
That is entirely incorrect, for me at least.
I choose not to have male friends out of respect for my husband and myself. I only need, want, and desire one man and he is the one I come home to. Just because I chose to eliminate other males from my life as much as possible does not mean I question the fact I may or may not cheat on him. That's completely ridiculous. It just means he is the only man I care to have in my life. That being said, I don't think any differently for people who chose to have same sex friends in any area of their life.
Different strokes for different folks.0 -
@PBsMOMMY - yayyyy someone who thinks like me
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men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
This is a joke. If you can't have friends of the opposite sex without sexual innuendoes or flirting then it sounds to me like you're the problem and not the men.
I get equal amounts of support and motivation from both the men and the women on my list. Sometimes you just need a different perspective on something. There are men (and women) on my list that provide a wealth of knowledge and information and are always more than willing to help me and answer my questions about exercise and nutrition. Only adding friends of your sex, the same height, shape, weight or have the same goals as you just doesn't make sense. You're limiting your resources and hindering your own progress. If you're going to do that you may as well empty your FL and go it alone.0 -
Online and off line both my husband and I have friends of the opposite sex. I have had one male friend for 10 years. There is no sexual attract there and no he isn't gay. Honestly I have no sexual attraction towards any of my male friends. They have never made any advances or suggestions. I would not want my husband to dictate who I can be friends with so I wouldn't dictate to him. But we,my husband and I are constantly communicating so if he ever came to me and said I am uncomfortable with X, and could give me a reason. Chances are I would back off. Thus far that has yet to happen.0
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I only flirt with the hot b!tche$ on my FR0
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@dreadpirate - thank you..! you are restoring my faith in men lol
I was seriously thinking that I would never post a comment again, I do find people can be negative and rude even.
Nah! Dont trust me! I'm a rascally pirate! I'm just lulling you into a false sense of security!
The forums can be a bit brutal at times. Just try not to take it personal. Easier said than done I know. Its not "you" they are having a go at, just their perception of what they think you said and we're all different, its what makes this world so... dangerous! 0 -
@dreadpirate - rascal eh! you've deffo made it clear that you're a little bit fond of anything piratey (if thats a word!) LOL
I hear ya, we are all very different and its easy to be offended, I'll try and adopt a stiff upper lip from now on LOL0 -
Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?
Its pure evil. Its the devil's work. DON'T DOOOO EETTTTTTTTTT, EVER! Men and Women cannot be trusted to interact with ending up naked and tied togehter like pretzels. We just can't do it....if we have friends of the opposite sex....we MUST abuse the priviledge and copulate.....so just avoid the temptation altogether. WE CAN"T BE TRUSTED. Thats why I go to a gym with no gurlsssss allowed.0 -
Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?
Cheating requires physical contact. Online friends are VIRTUAL. Glad I could clear that up for you.0 -
Online cheating is everywhere. It's on dating sites ( was messaged by a married man yesterday). Its on porn sites and video sites. It's on FB ( cannot count the number of guys who have wanted to reconnect and relieve some glory days). And it's on MFP. I've had to put my foot down w two guys so far.
It's viewed as harmless because well " it's just online. They live so far away. Nothing will come of it.". And maybe nothing physical does ever come of it, but that doesn't stop the emotional affair from taking place!!! Those can end relationships just as much as a physical affair.........
You don't have to cut off the opposite sex. You do need to be aware and strong. If someone is distancing themselves from their spouse or partner and coming to YOU w their issues, stories, dreams, fantasies, progress pics, etc. you need to be willing to put your foot down and say NO.0 -
Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?
Its pure evil. Its the devil's work. DON'T DOOOO EETTTTTTTTTT, EVER! Men and Women cannot be trusted to interact with ending up naked and tied togehter like pretzels. We just can't do it....if we have friends of the opposite sex....we MUST abuse the priviledge and copulate.....so just avoid the temptation altogether. WE CAN"T BE TRUSTED. Thats why I go to a gym with no gurlsssss allowed.
I'm still waiting for my pretzel-style copulation....don't make promises you can't keep! *stomps out*
But to the OP - Having online and real life friends of the opposite sex does not equate to flirting/temptation/outright naughtiness...don't forget, it takes two to tango, so if you behave, chances are, the others of the opposite sex will as well.0 -
I think it is all relative to the amount of trust and respect you have with and for your mate.0
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Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?
As any good creeper knows. You add the same sex friends as cover.
Then you can sneak and peek on the opposite sex friends pages.
Creeper rule # 170 -
Sorry but I totally disagree with you. So according to your statement, guys souldn't be on MFP? Wow, I came on here to lose weight and get in shape and this is a tool to help me accomplish my goals.For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
"Out of respect for my husband" is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site. I am happily married to a beautiful woman and we have 3 kids. I have females on my friends list who are very supportive of me and my efforts and I try to be supportive to them as well and there are no innuendoes involved. My wife is also on MFP and she has male friends on her list and I am 100% ok with it because I trust her. I have female friends in real life and talk to them frequently without any sexual thoughts or desires and some of my female friends are dang good looking.
I am selective of who I ask to be my friend on here and who I accept as a friend and I DO NOT ask a female to be my friend just because she is sexy, cute or whatever, I have better morals and values than that. I friend people who have same interest and goals that I do and people I can relate to.
@ wing man you cannot come out with a statement that me having respect for my husband being BS! I'm actually sorry I posted my comment, me and my other half had a laugh about the replies regarding this post at lunchtime - all I know is I'm happy and don't give a toss what any of the rest of you do or who you choose to add as friends, we all have our own ideas etc. I might well be touchy on the subject as I am fed up with getting the attention of sleazeballs, they came looking for me not the other way around. Ok so perhaps the majority of men are not like this (my SO certainly isn't!), I've just been very unlucky and had a rant LOL its what us women do at times!
The lady doth protest too much, methinks.0 -
My female friends are dirtier and flirt more than my male friends on here.
Therefore your argument about not having friends of the opposite sex is invalid.0 -
Having friends of the opposite sex, and cheating (i.e. going outside the established rules of your relationship, whatever those may be) are not the same thing (well, unless you've agreed not to have friends of the opposite sex ever). Basically, I think this question is kinda silly.0
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My female friends are dirtier and flirt more than my male friends on here.
Therefore your argument about not having friends of the opposite sex is invalid.
^^ This too. I have individual female friends who I flirt with more than *all* of my male friends combined.0 -
I am bisexual so I guess I'm not allowed to have any friends for fear that I might cheat.0
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We're all adults, so why is this even a question? In my opinion, it's really juvenile for a spouse to tell you that you can't be friends with the opposite sex. If there are trust issues you're working on due to past indiscretions than I could understand a bit better.
Jealousy is such an ugly trait. :sick:0 -
I have always had guy friend, mostly because I worked in a male dominated industry for alot of years. But I don't and won't engage in online flirting, etc. It's just disrespectful to my spouse - who is also my best friend!0
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I just don't add men, but not because I'm afraid I'll internet cheat or whatever.
I just respect that since my husband doesn't personally know them, he doesn't trust them.
Sounds to me like he does not trust YOU! Just sayin.0 -
I just don't add men, but not because I'm afraid I'll internet cheat or whatever.
I just respect that since my husband doesn't personally know them, he doesn't trust them.
Sounds to me like he does not trust YOU! Just sayin.
yup!0 -
Sorry but I disagree. That is solely depends on both of you but not everyone is like that. I have a boyfriend & were in a serious relationship but I still have some guy friends here. However I make sure that they know how to draw the line. People nowadays are getting immoral while some doesn't even know how to pick the right person so which is why they end up like that.For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!
Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!0 -
The problem is not MFP..or FB..or people having friends of the opposite sex.
It's the individual who does not have boundaries or certain respect for their spouses set who have the problem and until they get their minds straight on what they want and how they want to live in the world, the rest is blah..0 -
Ummm, please read my comment again. I said "'Out of respect for my husband' is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site." I have seen many females make this statement and I think the STATEMENT is BS. I DID NOT say you having respect for you SO is BS, There is a hugh difference. I have total respect for my wife however I do not feel that having female friends here on MFP or FB or in real life is disrespectful. Before you blast my comments please read completely and in context."Out of respect for my husband" is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site. I am happily married to a beautiful woman and we have 3 kids. I have females on my friends list who are very supportive of me and my efforts and I try to be supportive to them as well and there are no innuendoes involved. My wife is also on MFP and she has male friends on her list and I am 100% ok with it because I trust her. I have female friends in real life and talk to them frequently without any sexual thoughts or desires and some of my female friends are dang good looking.
@ wing man you cannot come out with a statement that me having respect for my husband being BS! I'm actually sorry I posted my comment, me and my other half had a laugh about the replies regarding this post at lunchtime - all I know is I'm happy and don't give a toss what any of the rest of you do or who you choose to add as friends, we all have our own ideas etc. I might well be touchy on the subject as I am fed up with getting the attention of sleazeballs, they came looking for me not the other way around. Ok so perhaps the majority of men are not like this (my SO certainly isn't!), I've just been very unlucky and had a rant LOL its what us women do at times!0 -
Friends of the opposite sex =/= online cheating. I don't know if that's been covered already...
If someone wants to cheat, they're going to do it whether they have friends of the opposite sex (or the same sex, if you're in to it) on their FB, MFP, Twitter, Instagram.... I mean, if we operate under the logic that having people you're potentially attracted to around you can cause you to cheat, then what about the workplace? Target? What if you're volunteering at the soup kitchen??
I love my man-friends as much as I do my lady-friends, but I'm not going to fruck any of them. (sorry, everyone)0 -
exactly!I'm happily married to the most gorgeous man on earth but I partake in a bit of harmless flirting with both my male and female friends here. Its silly and fun. But it means nothing!0 -
agreeThe problem is not MFP..or FB..or people having friends of the opposite sex.
It's the individual who does not have boundaries or certain respect for their spouses set who have the problem and until they get their minds straight on what they want and how they want to live in the world, the rest is blah..0 -
I make some flirty comments, but I see it as pretty harmless. I let my husband look at my MFP account all the time. I would never exchange photos with a guy on MFP or make plans to meet up with one (even as a workout buddy), but some light flirting and encouragement I think is fine. Now, my husband's sister (an evil troll *****) had her husband cheat on her with someone online. I hate his sister, but I still wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. Sad part is, she is obsessive about appearances and will stick with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with her rather than admit that the marriage is not working.0
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