Online Cheating

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  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
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    Online cheating is everywhere. It's on dating sites ( was messaged by a married man yesterday). Its on porn sites and video sites. It's on FB ( cannot count the number of guys who have wanted to reconnect and relieve some glory days). And it's on MFP. I've had to put my foot down w two guys so far.

    It's viewed as harmless because well " it's just online. They live so far away. Nothing will come of it.". And maybe nothing physical does ever come of it, but that doesn't stop the emotional affair from taking place!!! Those can end relationships just as much as a physical affair.........

    You don't have to cut off the opposite sex. You do need to be aware and strong. If someone is distancing themselves from their spouse or partner and coming to YOU w their issues, stories, dreams, fantasies, progress pics, etc. you need to be willing to put your foot down and say NO.
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
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    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    Its pure evil. Its the devil's work. DON'T DOOOO EETTTTTTTTTT, EVER! Men and Women cannot be trusted to interact with ending up naked and tied togehter like pretzels. We just can't do it....if we have friends of the opposite sex....we MUST abuse the priviledge and copulate.....so just avoid the temptation altogether. WE CAN"T BE TRUSTED. Thats why I go to a gym with no gurlsssss allowed.

    I'm still waiting for my pretzel-style copulation....don't make promises you can't keep! *stomps out*

    But to the OP - Having online and real life friends of the opposite sex does not equate to flirting/temptation/outright naughtiness...don't forget, it takes two to tango, so if you behave, chances are, the others of the opposite sex will as well.
  • 1holegrouper
    1holegrouper Posts: 323 Member
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    I think it is all relative to the amount of trust and respect you have with and for your mate.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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    Hearing all the stories about people cheating on their spouses, what is your take on having friends of the opposite sex at MyFitnessPal?

    As any good creeper knows. You add the same sex friends as cover.
    Then you can sneak and peek on the opposite sex friends pages.
    Creeper rule # 17
  • FitLink
    FitLink Posts: 1,317 Member
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    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
    Sorry but I totally disagree with you. So according to your statement, guys souldn't be on MFP? Wow, I came on here to lose weight and get in shape and this is a tool to help me accomplish my goals.

    "Out of respect for my husband" is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site. I am happily married to a beautiful woman and we have 3 kids. I have females on my friends list who are very supportive of me and my efforts and I try to be supportive to them as well and there are no innuendoes involved. My wife is also on MFP and she has male friends on her list and I am 100% ok with it because I trust her. I have female friends in real life and talk to them frequently without any sexual thoughts or desires and some of my female friends are dang good looking.

    I am selective of who I ask to be my friend on here and who I accept as a friend and I DO NOT ask a female to be my friend just because she is sexy, cute or whatever, I have better morals and values than that. I friend people who have same interest and goals that I do and people I can relate to.


    @ wing man you cannot come out with a statement that me having respect for my husband being BS! I'm actually sorry I posted my comment, me and my other half had a laugh about the replies regarding this post at lunchtime - all I know is I'm happy and don't give a toss what any of the rest of you do or who you choose to add as friends, we all have our own ideas etc. I might well be touchy on the subject as I am fed up with getting the attention of sleazeballs, they came looking for me not the other way around. Ok so perhaps the majority of men are not like this (my SO certainly isn't!), I've just been very unlucky and had a rant LOL its what us women do at times!

    The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
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    My female friends are dirtier and flirt more than my male friends on here.

    Therefore your argument about not having friends of the opposite sex is invalid.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,690 Member
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    Having friends of the opposite sex, and cheating (i.e. going outside the established rules of your relationship, whatever those may be) are not the same thing (well, unless you've agreed not to have friends of the opposite sex ever). Basically, I think this question is kinda silly.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,690 Member
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    My female friends are dirtier and flirt more than my male friends on here.

    Therefore your argument about not having friends of the opposite sex is invalid.

    ^^ This too. I have individual female friends who I flirt with more than *all* of my male friends combined.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
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    I am bisexual so I guess I'm not allowed to have any friends for fear that I might cheat.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
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    We're all adults, so why is this even a question? In my opinion, it's really juvenile for a spouse to tell you that you can't be friends with the opposite sex. If there are trust issues you're working on due to past indiscretions than I could understand a bit better.

    Jealousy is such an ugly trait. :sick:
  • Nailrep
    Nailrep Posts: 966 Member
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    I have always had guy friend, mostly because I worked in a male dominated industry for alot of years. But I don't and won't engage in online flirting, etc. It's just disrespectful to my spouse - who is also my best friend!
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
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    I just don't add men, but not because I'm afraid I'll internet cheat or whatever.

    I just respect that since my husband doesn't personally know them, he doesn't trust them.

    Sounds to me like he does not trust YOU! Just sayin.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
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    I just don't add men, but not because I'm afraid I'll internet cheat or whatever.

    I just respect that since my husband doesn't personally know them, he doesn't trust them.

    Sounds to me like he does not trust YOU! Just sayin.

    yup!
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
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    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!
    Sorry but I disagree. That is solely depends on both of you but not everyone is like that. I have a boyfriend & were in a serious relationship but I still have some guy friends here. However I make sure that they know how to draw the line. People nowadays are getting immoral while some doesn't even know how to pick the right person so which is why they end up like that.
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
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    The problem is not MFP..or FB..or people having friends of the opposite sex.

    It's the individual who does not have boundaries or certain respect for their spouses set who have the problem and until they get their minds straight on what they want and how they want to live in the world, the rest is blah..
  • WingMan380
    WingMan380 Posts: 2,139 Member
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    "Out of respect for my husband" is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site. I am happily married to a beautiful woman and we have 3 kids. I have females on my friends list who are very supportive of me and my efforts and I try to be supportive to them as well and there are no innuendoes involved. My wife is also on MFP and she has male friends on her list and I am 100% ok with it because I trust her. I have female friends in real life and talk to them frequently without any sexual thoughts or desires and some of my female friends are dang good looking.


    @ wing man you cannot come out with a statement that me having respect for my husband being BS! I'm actually sorry I posted my comment, me and my other half had a laugh about the replies regarding this post at lunchtime - all I know is I'm happy and don't give a toss what any of the rest of you do or who you choose to add as friends, we all have our own ideas etc. I might well be touchy on the subject as I am fed up with getting the attention of sleazeballs, they came looking for me not the other way around. Ok so perhaps the majority of men are not like this (my SO certainly isn't!), I've just been very unlucky and had a rant LOL its what us women do at times!
    Ummm, please read my comment again. I said "'Out of respect for my husband' is one of the biggest BS statements I have seen on this site." I have seen many females make this statement and I think the STATEMENT is BS. I DID NOT say you having respect for you SO is BS, There is a hugh difference. I have total respect for my wife however I do not feel that having female friends here on MFP or FB or in real life is disrespectful. Before you blast my comments please read completely and in context.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
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    Friends of the opposite sex =/= online cheating. I don't know if that's been covered already...


    If someone wants to cheat, they're going to do it whether they have friends of the opposite sex (or the same sex, if you're in to it) on their FB, MFP, Twitter, Instagram.... I mean, if we operate under the logic that having people you're potentially attracted to around you can cause you to cheat, then what about the workplace? Target? What if you're volunteering at the soup kitchen??

    I love my man-friends as much as I do my lady-friends, but I'm not going to fruck any of them. (sorry, everyone)
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
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    I'm happily married to the most gorgeous man on earth but I partake in a bit of harmless flirting with both my male and female friends here. Its silly and fun. But it means nothing!
    exactly!
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
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    The problem is not MFP..or FB..or people having friends of the opposite sex.

    It's the individual who does not have boundaries or certain respect for their spouses set who have the problem and until they get their minds straight on what they want and how they want to live in the world, the rest is blah..
    agree
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
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    I make some flirty comments, but I see it as pretty harmless. I let my husband look at my MFP account all the time. I would never exchange photos with a guy on MFP or make plans to meet up with one (even as a workout buddy), but some light flirting and encouragement I think is fine. Now, my husband's sister (an evil troll *****) had her husband cheat on her with someone online. I hate his sister, but I still wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. Sad part is, she is obsessive about appearances and will stick with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with her rather than admit that the marriage is not working.

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