Online Cheating

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  • delta90017
    delta90017 Posts: 63 Member
    I have no problem with my husband having female friends on MFP, or him having a problem with me having male friends on MFP. If there is a problem with that, how do you let your husband/wife go to work with the thought of them possibly cheating then? or have a facebook account or mobile phone?

    Trust is everything.

    I predict a long, happy, intimate relationship for you. This is the source of ultimate happiness in a relationship. And you figured it out so young.
  • splashangel
    splashangel Posts: 494 Member
    I have male people on my friends list. If they say something funny I show my husband a pic or remind him who it is then read it to him. Male or female. I don't want to have an on line nothing but fitness relationship with them. They have given me no reason to think they are secretly "after" me.:sad: :laugh:
  • beauty2323
    beauty2323 Posts: 70 Member
    I consider a kiss, an emotional relationship cheating! (Of course sexual intercourse too)
    If my husband can talk to a female friend more than me than we don't need to be married. I should be the only one who can comfort him and vice versa.
    We only have each other as friends on MFP... & its probably going to stay that way. On FB he does have a selective few Female FB friends but yes he's NOT ALLOWED to add any ex girlfriends or girls he had a sexual relationship with!! Same goes with me!

    I had close friends of mine try to hit on my man so I have a reason to be the way I am. I trust him but that's pretty much it. I do not trust females at all! :laugh:
    Many women seem to get jealous & want your relationship..... I have yet to find a friend I can trust. I watch everyone:glasses: but of course I don't make it obvious. You can't put anything pass anyone these days.

    My husband is my best friend & that's the way it should be. His friends are my friends.

    Everyone is different, everyone relationship is different.
  • katielauren2001
    katielauren2001 Posts: 171 Member
    Monogamy must be boring.
  • michelleindeed
    michelleindeed Posts: 117 Member
    "You're online, whats the worst that can happen? Sprain a wrist?" - My wife

    Smart lady.
  • SPBROOKS68
    SPBROOKS68 Posts: 561 Member
    Friends are not a problem, but if you are on here or any other site looking to hook up with someone then it is wrong...Lots of cheating is happening on facebook #1 cause of divorce right now so I say just don't do it.
  • samra2012
    samra2012 Posts: 715
    I love to flirt and I love to dance. This doesn't mean I want to get in your pants!
    I may say your cute or looking hot, but my commitment to my spouse is what I've got!

    poetry?? :laugh:
    that was good haha!
  • CarleyLovesPets
    CarleyLovesPets Posts: 410 Member
    I'm not in a relationship right now...

    But if I was - I'd still have males on my friend list - there would be absolutely no flirting going on or even saying they're looking hot.
    I wouldn't mind if my imaginary guy was on here either with females on his friend list but I would want the same respect (No flirting or commenting on appearance).

    If I am in a relationship with someone, I am extremely loyal and would be really hurt if there was an emotional online relationship my partner was taking part of - and yes I would consider it very much cheating and his butt would be on the curb if it was serious or got sexual.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    It's only cheating if there is penetration...

    Kissing isnt cheating? Or touching? Rubbing? Licking? Squeezing?

    Isn't that a Journey song?
  • Oops I thought I was on my fitness pal not my f@$c pal. Lol
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    "You're online, whats the worst that can happen? Sprain a wrist?" - My wife
    exactly. Is watching porn cheating? Steamy scenes in movies? Self gratification? You can't tell me some of these self righteousness women posting ITT haven't fantisized(sp?) about Pitt or Clooney when they were with their spouse. Lighten up and have some fun.
  • MissSusieQ
    MissSusieQ Posts: 533 Member
    if i was going to cheat online, i'd probably look somewhere sexier than my diet site.
  • SurfinBird1981
    SurfinBird1981 Posts: 517 Member
    if i was going to cheat online, i'd probably look somewhere sexier than my diet site.

    :laugh:
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    if i was going to cheat online, i'd probably look somewhere sexier than my diet site.
    but that round head and blue body is pretty hot...
  • kylejh
    kylejh Posts: 221 Member
    I'm single, and although I know I'll be judged for this, I was involved with someone who was cheating for 3 1/2 years, and it started as what seemed to be a harmless friendship on facebook (someone from my childhood who I hadn't seen in almost 20 years). I certainly didn't expect it to become what it did, but in hindsight, I think it is what she wanted from the very beginning, and she manipulated things to push it in that direction.

    It's easy for things to develop that way online. If someone is not happy at home, and they come across someone they are interested in, I suspect they let things get out of hand online because it seems innocent and not risky at first. From experience, however, it can quickly get out of hand. I say be careful if that is what you are doing.
  • delta90017
    delta90017 Posts: 63 Member
    "You're online, whats the worst that can happen? Sprain a wrist?" - My wife
    exactly. Is watching porn cheating? Steamy scenes in movies? Self gratification? You can't tell me some of these self righteousness women posting ITT haven't fantisized(sp?) about Pitt or Clooney when they were with their spouse. Lighten up and have some fun.

    In serious cases, it might be carpal tunnel syndorme . . . from repetitive circular motions of the wrist I guess.
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    If you must Frak around online, always remember to block your IP and re-route through a multihoned proxy, or at least spoof your IP and piggyback off a enighbors wifi.. its like giving the girl you meet in a bar, a fake name and number.

    If I was going to go online to get some action, it wouldn't be on MFP, great people and friends but not the right sight, head on over to FetLife, a lot more action over threre. The mods there encourage that behavior.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    If you must Frak around online, always remember to block your IP and re-route through a multihoned proxy, or at least spoof your IP and piggyback off a enighbors wifi.. its like giving the girl you meet in a bar, a fake name and number.

    If I was going to go online to get some action, it wouldn't be on MFP, great people and friends but not the right sight, head on over to FetLife, a lot more action over threre. The mods there encourage that behavior.

    Does that mean I don't have any chance with you? :(
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    Friends are not a problem, but if you are on here or any other site looking to hook up with someone then it is wrong...Lots of cheating is happening on facebook #1 cause of divorce right now so I say just don't do it.

    I would LOVE to see a reliable source to back up the assertion that the number one cause of divorce right now is cheating on FaceBook.
  • Z_I_L_L_A
    Z_I_L_L_A Posts: 2,399 Member
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

    I have plenty of women friends without the sexual innuendos. I may be the minority here and women and men cheat its not a gender thing.
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    If you must Frak around online, always remember to block your IP and re-route through a multihoned proxy, or at least spoof your IP and piggyback off a enighbors wifi.. its like giving the girl you meet in a bar, a fake name and number.

    If I was going to go online to get some action, it wouldn't be on MFP, great people and friends but not the right sight, head on over to FetLife, a lot more action over threre. The mods there encourage that behavior.

    Does that mean I don't have any chance with you? :(
    Who... I never said you didn't have a chance. I just said it will be hard for yout o find me.. haha...

    Caveat; it is never cheating if the women in question is a pole dancer or partakes in other erotic activities. It is like placing a cookie in front of a fat kid, you know were gonna eat her.. I mean it.
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    Friends are not a problem, but if you are on here or any other site looking to hook up with someone then it is wrong...Lots of cheating is happening on facebook #1 cause of divorce right now so I say just don't do it.

    I would LOVE to see a reliable source to back up the assertion that the number one cause of divorce right now is cheating on FaceBook.
    The # 1 cause of divorce is marriage. After that, I beelive money issues is the leading cause of divorce.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I have a few male friends on here and they've been polite and not gross. It depends on the person, probably.
  • KravMark
    KravMark Posts: 308 Member
    Having friends of the opposite sex is fine (I've lots of them). i would never cheat. If I wanted to I would leave my partner beforehand. I have however removed people from my FL who got overly flirtatious in the past. I think its the Pirate brings out the worst in people ;)

    Really depends on you. If you know you can resist temptation / are not interested and you know your SO is not the insanely jealous type then its all good.

    This. I work in a very male dominated industry so it is very silly not to make friends with them. Most of my friends are male. There are some men who are pigs and are way too flirty with me but I put a stop to it immediately and tell them very firmly no. I also know many men who are awesome and are very respectful.

    Plus being friends with people of the opposite sex does NOT mean you are going to cheat. I don't think it's a respect thing. It's up to the person to not cheat and avoiding the opposite sex doesn't really stop that. If being friends with the opposite sex compels people to want to cheat, then they have other issues. Same goes with the other direction. If you think your SO is going to cheat on you because they have a lot of friends of the opposite sex then you have some self esteem issues of your own.

    I totally agree with this
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

    WOW, just wow. Men and women can't be friends without sex coming into it? Maybe you can't have males friends without wanting to jump them, but not everyone is like that.

    Can't speak for OP but I will say that MOST (not all, but definitely most) of the guys who have friended me on MFP had an ulterior motive that came out not long after he friended me. Then, when I didn't play along, he moved on.

    But it doesn’t upset me. I think that's just normal- in life most of the help I've received has come from guys who were interested or, at the very least, found me attracted. Why do I say that? Because they either make a move, write me a letter (I have quite a few love to pull out during dry spells) or make comments about how it’s no problem doing something for such a pretty lady. I never got so much make attention and assistance before I started glamming it up ;-)

    This is why, when I was married, I avoided having very close male friendships.
  • FluffyToFab
    FluffyToFab Posts: 99 Member
    I'm an equal opportunity friend acceptor!

    Male or Female doesn't matter to me. I motivate and support either sex with the same gusto and the same amount of !!!!
  • The more friends the merrier. What happens online stays online. As long as it's harmless and you have no intent of taking it further then no harm done.
  • maremare312
    maremare312 Posts: 1,143 Member
    I don't really care if my MFP friends are male or female. I'm glad that my boyfriend has joined and is logging!
  • if i was going to cheat online, i'd probably look somewhere sexier than my diet site.

    Have you looked around? The site is oozing with sexy!
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    Is it really cheating??
    Unless you started to get all into detail and steamy... and such. Yummm...

    Hahahaa!!
    But come on. Really??