Why don't women pay for dates?
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last time I dated, I was 18/19. in college- NO MONEY!! the guy I was dating was 27 (my husband now) and an engineer with a good job. and no college loans (his parents footed the bill)
He paid for everything. A chick can only pay if she has money.
But, if I was 30, had a job, then yes, I'd pay. I'd d some of the 'asking/taking out/buying the tickets, etc.
Last time I dated I was in my 20s and in college - but then we both had no money......Walks on the beach are nice (and free)....
Beaches are nice. so are hikes- still some of my favorite dates. (I don't care for the d inner and a movie thing)
what is weird though is when I plan an awesome date weekend with my husband, the hotel, the activities, lining up childcare (back in the day- they are older ow).... getting it all planned and paid for to surprise my husband... but it's his paycheck paying- cuz I am just a stay at home mom. .
so sometimes I'll try to sell a few things on Ebay, or whatever so I can pay for my own surprise dates0 -
Any body going to open the door for me?0
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Do men really still take your coat and open the doors? I mean AFTER first dates??? I have been missing out if so.
uhh, yeah. that's called basic etiquette
Seriiiiiiiously? We have it slammed home at every turn how the sexes are equal then when it comes to romance all of a sudden men are expected to treat a woman like she's totally helpless, broke, dumb, and completely incapable of even the most basic tasks? Let's ditch the ancient garbage and be real. Most of the "basic etiquette" a guy is supposed to have is just fake nonsense we're trained on. Look a little deeper ladies. You'll do better.
this is what most of the ladies are saying i think sir0 -
last time I dated, I was 18/19. in college- NO MONEY!! the guy I was dating was 27 (my husband now) and an engineer with a good job. and no college loans (his parents footed the bill)
He paid for everything. A chick can only pay if she has money.
But, if I was 30, had a job, then yes, I'd pay. I'd d some of the 'asking/taking out/buying the tickets, etc.
Last time I dated I was in my 20s and in college - but then we both had no money......Walks on the beach are nice (and free)....
Beaches are nice. so are hikes- still some of my favorite dates. (I don't care for the d inner and a movie thing)
what is weird though is when I plan an awesome date weekend with my husband, the hotel, the activities, lining up childcare (back in the day- they are older ow).... getting it all planned and paid for to surprise my husband... but it's his paycheck paying- cuz I am just a stay at home mom. .
so sometimes I'll try to sell a few things on Ebay, or whatever so I can pay for my own surprise dates
To me thats kind of different, because you are running the house and his salary is half yours for doing so. This is the way I used to think of it when I was sole breadwinner.0 -
nothing makes a monday morning, like a post from Taunto :happy:0
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I always offer to pay, and if he foots the bill the next date which is normally more chill I like to surprise him with bringing dinner. One of my favorite dates is just ordering a bunch of Chinese and sitting on the couch watching bad tv and talking....no dressing up, no going out, plus its easier should you want to go further
don't have to decide whosw place to go to!
As for the chivalry thing, yes I expect to have doors opened for me, and my arm held when crossing the street when on a date, but I return the favor, I also hold open doors, I'm more than happy to cook for a guy ect.0 -
If the guy pays for the date I'll buy at least half the drinks that night. I'll pay for the next date and he can buy some drinks. Splitting the bill/paying your own way seems kind of weird, taking turns paying seems to feel less weird, for me at least...0
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I always offer to pay, and if he foots the bill the next date which is normally more chill I like to surprise him with bringing dinner. One of my favorite dates is just ordering a bunch of Chinese and sitting on the couch watching bad tv and talking....no dressing up, no going out, plus its easier should you want to go further don't have to decide whosw place to go to!
As for the chivalry thing, yes I expect to have doors opened for me, and my arm held when crossing the street when on a date, but I return the favor, I also hold open doors, I'm more than happy to cook for a guy ect.
^THIS. Or if he pays one date, I'll pay for the next. Or I'll get drinks and the tip. Point is, NOT ALL WOMEN (actually not many women that I know) expect for the man to pay for everything.0 -
I always offer to pay, and if he foots the bill the next date which is normally more chill I like to surprise him with bringing dinner. One of my favorite dates is just ordering a bunch of Chinese and sitting on the couch watching bad tv and talking....no dressing up, no going out, plus its easier should you want to go further don't have to decide whosw place to go to!
As for the chivalry thing, yes I expect to have doors opened for me, and my arm held when crossing the street when on a date, but I return the favor, I also hold open doors, I'm more than happy to cook for a guy ect.
Agreed^^^^
If I'm asked out, yea I expect him to pay or I'll pay for myself. You asked me out. I'll offer to pay for my own or cover the tip but to be honest, it's just to be polite; I don't really want to.
However, I don't go out much b/c it's not really in my budget. So if I'm asked out on a date, that I probably can't afford anyways....yea I'm not gonna want to pay
Have I paid for a man's dinner before? Yea I have; no big deal.
Find it offensive that some men actually have the nerve to compare paying for a date to prostitution....bet you make your mothers proud :huh:
Trolling or not, posts like this make me thankful I'm single and rarely date0 -
*gets and pays for her own popcorn
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threads like this...make me glad im gay lmao0
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The same reason they dont open the car door for a guy...0
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I must admit I agree in that lots of women go halves in the UK and many men expect women to pay their share.
My other half does like to pay for a lot of things sometimes and on occasion I have to tell him no. We do also take turns picking up the food bill for both of us and his 11 year old son if he's joining us.0 -
because if he pays i'll have sex with him. it's not easy to pretend i'm enjoying it, fake some noises, but if i have a free dinner and dessert in my belly? i can manage the effort of a fake "OH" face. but i won't snuggle without promise of a free breakfast.
(being funny here folks! i fake all the time, not just when i am fed a free dinner)0 -
That's my kind of country. Share all the house and man duties with the other wives.
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lol very "Borat-esque" i think i'll hazard an answer.... it comes from the gentlemanly chaps of old england who would open a door for the lady, escort her (because she needs to be? :S) then pay for her meal, it became traditional from there i guess.
there's also the fact most men will ask a woman out for a date with "can i take you out to dinner?" or similar which implies he's buying her dinner, would seem a bit odd to say "i quite like you can you buy me dinner please?" lol
^^ I like this answer.
But If i were to ask a man on a date, i would pick up the chq, if he asked me, then it would be the other way around.0 -
The question: "Why don't women pay for dates?" My answer: A real man will not allow it! I still try, after 18 years of marriage, to never allow my wife to even open a door. A woman is precious to a man (I Peter 3:7). A moral woman is more precious than fine jewelry (Proverbs 31:10). Thus, a man treats her delicately and with respect.0
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Because most men in America know how to be a gentleman and treat a lady, unlike in your country where you use women for your own personal satisfaction. Thankfully for you and me, we do not live in the same country and can appreciate the way it is where we are.0
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This makes me proud to be an American.
God bless you and your family Brianyeager. My husband is the same way. 0 -
The question: "Why don't women pay for dates?" My answer: A real man will not allow it! I still try, after 18 years of marriage, to never allow my wife to even open a door. A woman is precious to a man (I Peter 3:7). A moral woman is more precious than fine jewelry (Proverbs 31:10). Thus, a man treats her delicately and with respect.
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I don't know.
I always just thought women were poor and lazy . . . .
Don't forget needy and entitled!
Oh yeah, and we might cry if you don't. :laugh:0 -
The question: "Why don't women pay for dates?" My answer: A real man will not allow it! I still try, after 18 years of marriage, to never allow my wife to even open a door. A woman is precious to a man (I Peter 3:7). A moral woman is more precious than fine jewelry (Proverbs 31:10). Thus, a man treats her delicately and with respect.
Someday I hope to find a guy like this!0 -
If I had insterest in a woman, I always made sure she understaood that with common curteousy and pampering.0
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My husband and I both paid, whoever grabbed the check first. Anyway, who cares who pays for dates? If you both have good jobs and both can afford it, it should not be an issue. It's just money. If you can't afford it, maybe you should be more focused on your career instead of dating. No. You should DEFINITELY be more focused on your career instead of dating.0
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The question: "Why don't women pay for dates?" My answer: A real man will not allow it! I still try, after 18 years of marriage, to never allow my wife to even open a door. A woman is precious to a man (I Peter 3:7). A moral woman is more precious than fine jewelry (Proverbs 31:10). Thus, a man treats her delicately and with respect.
i don't know if i would compare a woman to an ornament, like jewelry.
maybe that's just me, though.0 -
Thank God I live in the USA......0
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The answer to your question starts with P and ends in y. They have it, we want it.0
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When my boyfriend and I go out, I pay. That is because I make a lot more money than him and I want to go out. When my husband and I go out, he pays for the same reason.... :smokin:
Best answer so far!0 -
btw, do people not realize this was a joke post or people just chose to ignore that? I didn't thought I laid it out THAT thick...0
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