Why don't women pay for dates?

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  • Saaaam42
    Saaaam42 Posts: 154 Member
    Because he makes A LOT more than me and "rewarded" in other ways. :smooched:
  • dblaacker
    dblaacker Posts: 153 Member
    See the comment below:
  • dblaacker
    dblaacker Posts: 153 Member
    Because this is AMERICA, and if you want to reproduce with a fine lady, you've got to give her something in return. That's capitalism.
  • mireyap21
    mireyap21 Posts: 72
    if he would like me to pay them ill pay it doesnt matter..but he aint getting any BOOTY if wants to freeload up in here!!
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    Uhh.... I can't even answer this one.
    Figured it was because the girl has to be convinced he wants something out of the date ?:
    But hey, I'm sure there's gonna be action if she said yes.
    Plus, I agree with one of the posts here before: it sounds weird to ask, "I like you. Buy me dinner?"

    Hahaa!!
  • HannahsBestLife
    HannahsBestLife Posts: 209 Member
    I thought it was just because it was normal for who ever asked the other out on the date paid and men are more likely to ask a girl out on a date than be asked out..
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Because this is AMERICA, and if you want to reproduce with a fine lady, you've got to give her something in return. That's capitalism.

    I thought that was hookin'
  • lilmissbamaqueen
    lilmissbamaqueen Posts: 184
    Here in the South, it's bad form for a lady to pay on a date, at least at first. It's a man's way of showing her a) that it is worth paying for dinner (movie, etc.) in order to be in her company, and b) that he can be a good husband and provide for her and take care of her. If a Southern woman goes on a first date and is expected to even go dutch, the chances that she will go out with that particular guy again are very slim. Now, as the relationship progresses, those rules change. For instance, with my ex, once we had been together for a while and were living together, sometimes I paid for things and sometimes he did, because it didn't matter at that point. Southern women expect to be treated like the prize that they are. It's just true... however archaic it might sound, that's the way we are taught.
  • RobinV_Seattle
    RobinV_Seattle Posts: 191 Member
    I love my woman. Sometimes I go to Jared's. Sometimes she goes to Jared's. That's just how we role.

    (I mean, "roll." Wait... I mean "role." whatever.)

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  • lovelyMYlovely
    lovelyMYlovely Posts: 1,066 Member
    i would never pay for a date unless

    * i have been with the person for a long time
    * i live with my SO and he pays all the bills
    * if he is broke and i have money and want to go out

    those are the ONLY reasons why i would pay for something like that... i would NEVER EVER pay to have a guy take me out.. unless the options above apply... I am old fashioned.. and honestly if a guy cant even have the manors or respect to pay for me than why would i waste my time... I just feel worth it.. if a guy doesnt pay for me than it makes me think were " just friends" ( i have never had a problem with a first date though ) so.. idk... i guess i just go for gentlemen.... I wont settle for anything less..

    come on its just the way it should be... women these days sometimes pay for everything and are the breadmakers in the family while the guy sits at home.. I personally want a life of luxury... so... i choose not to do that.. im not currently wealthy but if i were to move out i wouldnt settle for anything less than a well earned man.... :)
  • eatcleanNtraindirty
    eatcleanNtraindirty Posts: 444 Member
    Suppose us girls like to be wined and dined and treated good!
    I still offer to pay for things though if im out on dates! Its polite to!

    Wine and dine? I'll do it. :)
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    i would never pay for a date unless

    * i have been with the person for a long time
    * i live with my SO and he pays all the bills
    * if he is broke and i have money and want to go out

    those are the ONLY reasons why i would pay for something like that... i would NEVER EVER pay to have a guy take me out..
    You make a lot of sense. If I ever date again I'm not going to pay either unless all those conditions are met.
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    you get what you pay for and honey if you ain't payin' for it then you ain't gettin' it!!
    That's illegal in most places in the U.S.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    i would never pay for a date unless

    * i have been with the person for a long time
    * i live with my SO and he pays all the bills
    * if he is broke and i have money and want to go out

    those are the ONLY reasons why i would pay for something like that... i would NEVER EVER pay to have a guy take me out.. unless the options above apply... I am old fashioned.. and honestly if a guy cant even have the manors or respect to pay for me than why would i waste my time... I just feel worth it.. if a guy doesnt pay for me than it makes me think were " just friends" ( i have never had a problem with a first date though ) so.. idk... i guess i just go for gentlemen.... I wont settle for anything less..

    come on its just the way it should be... women these days sometimes pay for everything and are the breadmakers in the family while the guy sits at home.. I personally want a life of luxury... so... i choose not to do that.. im not currently wealthy but if i were to move out i wouldnt settle for anything less than a well earned man.... :)

    So you say "move out"? I'm going to assume that you live with your parents then. You are going to live with your parents until you find a rich man to pay for everything you need? What if you can't find a rich man who is also a good "match" for you? Someone you can love, respect, hang out with? Funny, smart, passionate, etc? "Well earned" is your number one qualifier?
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    I pay for dates all the time. Especially if the activity is my idea. I don't consider myself to be so precious that I can't pitch in a proper share. I bought my own house dammit, I can pay for a dinner!

    Besides, I usually base my choice in men on different qualities than the size of their bank account.
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
    For the same reason that it is usually assumed that a woman will take on her husband's last name when they get married. You can pick your reason--tradition, sexism, display of power, chivalry, etc.

    My husband and I always split the bill dating and now have a joint bank account. We don't really follow gender roles, we just divide up chores and responsibilities based on who hates what the most.

    and BAM! A grown up!!

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