How young is too young?
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Aaah, I hate to do this and I genarally disapprove of negative comments but.... I checked out this guy's profile, and judging by his reason's for being on MFP, I'm not surprised he considers this a dilema. His attitude is just a little off. He's completely okay with offending you, per his profile, but another poster commented......below......and he's whining. He asked for feedback and it was given. This was her opinion, and it really wasn't that insensitive-a simple opinion. Honestly, I don't know how he keep friends, especially the ones that are in better shape than he is and have awesome personalities!
Whining about your age? 29/30 it's about the same.
And just in case you still have doubts, if you really want to go at this uphill battle, go for it! But it really isn't the decent thing to do.Nope. Creepy.
That was rude. If you don't have anything nice to say why bother commenting!0 -
What in the 1940's bull**** hell?Seventeen is a very mature age. Most girls know what they're doing by that age. Sounds like she clearly has you wrapped around her finger, but be warned: the young ones can be manipulative.
Please be careful with your heart and tread lightly. When the lacrosse captain at her high school decides he likes her again, she's going to dump you. I care about your feelings. I really do. If you think you can handle the inevitable rejection that is likely to follow, then I say go for it. If you think it's going to leave you crying in your ale, then maybe let this one go.0 -
So you can join the military at 17/18 and die in a war but you can't date someone older ???
THIS.0 -
you're taking that one very personally. how telling.
now you just sound like you posted because you wanted everyone to pat you on the head, assure you you're a good guy and tell you to go for it.Just do it. Don't listen to the haters on here. They're just being BITTER.
Thanks man!
It's nice to meet someone that isn't so close minded.
i had an open mind about it when this thread started but it's narrowing rapidly!
lol you had a narrow mind from the begining. Even before you came to this thread. Anyone talking about low and high class is a narrow minded ignorant person. Shame on you
i apologise for my total failure to feel any shame in causing you to feel insulted xx0 -
I find it telling that you think at the age of 29, you have anything in common with a teenager, let alone the ability to hold a conversation with one. Nuff said.No. She is not mature enough no matter how she acts. I don't know how you would even think that this is okay. I am 33 and when I see kids in their teens they look sooo young to me. Almost like kids in high school look like they are in middle school.
I truly believe after 25 years old age stops mattering. If she were 21 Id still be skeptical but more accepting. She cant drink for 4 years. You are at very different stages in your life. You are in the stage of your life when you start settling down, she should be focused on college and finding herself. You'd be doing a disadvantage to her by dating her. The last thing she needs is someone holding her back. Stay away because this is creepy
Again with the creepy . . .
But she doesn't even look young! I never would've approached her if I thought she was 17!
I thought she was 22 or 21.
It was a school day for Pete's sake!!
I agree. He should at least wait until his mid-30s to start dating teenagers. It's a much better age to be a daddy.0 -
If she can cut her own food she's fair game!0
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I would say no,
and here's why.
I have worked with young women for a good amount of my life volunteering in group homes and working in High schools. I know how they act and how their minds work. I know that while there may seem to be some fairly mature 17 year olds, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM have a childish side. They are not done growing up. Hell, I know women my age (26) who still are not finished growing up.
I know this isn't going to change your mind since it seems to already be made up, but I want you to go into this knowing that there is a HUGE chance this is going to be a crash and burn situation.
Good luck.0 -
Personally, age is just a number BUT other people will not think so. You will probably be judged more than she will.
I'd say leave it, less hassle x0 -
I'm from Asia. We have a strict policy of old enough to bleed, old enough to breed
You realize that here in North America in some cases that means 8 years old?
That's like promoting pedophielia.0 -
Nope. Creepy.
That was rude. If you don't have anything nice to say why bother commenting!
Not really...you did ask for opions. It's may not be illegal there, but she is technically still a child. And you are almost 30. It is a little creepy. And if it were my daughter...look out man!0 -
The "age is nothing but a number" camp consists of young people sleeping with guys that are too old, and guys that are too old who wants to sleep with girls that are too young.
Seriously, I would have to say that in order for a 29-year old to WANT to date a 17-year old, he'd have to be functioning at a very low level, considering no 17-yearolds would function at a very high level and want to date a 29-year old...0 -
I'm from Asia. We have a strict policy of old enough to bleed, old enough to breed
You realize that here in North America in some cases that means 8 years old?
That's like promoting pedophielia.
Nope. Try again. Not North America.0 -
Let's see.. people who are against this:
-older women
-married women
-women who don't get any play
Who's for it.
-Every decent man who has a pulse!
Every "decent" man probably wouldn't have to resort to misogynistic comments to make a point, though. lol0 -
its fine as long as you tell her your 18.0
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Personally, age is just a number BUT other people will not think so. You will probably be judged more than she will.
I'd say leave it, less hassle x
I'm seeing some of that now.
Thank you.
I just wish people weren't so close minded.
People have been dating "teenagers" since time began. It's no more unnatural than homosexuality.0 -
29 and 16!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU REALLY HAVE TO ASK????????0
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I'm from Asia. We have a strict policy of old enough to bleed, old enough to breed
You realize that here in North America in some cases that means 8 years old?
That's like promoting pedophielia.
What in God's heaven are you feeding those kids?0 -
29 and 16!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU REALLY HAVE TO ASK????????
Judging by the mixed responses I'm getting I'd say it's a very valid question.0 -
Personally, age is just a number BUT other people will not think so. You will probably be judged more than she will.
I'd say leave it, less hassle x
I'm seeing some of that now.
Thank you.
I just wish people weren't so close minded.
People have been dating "teenagers" since time began. It's no more unnatural than homosexuality.
Neither is running around naked all the time with your **** in your hands, but it's still frowned upon.0 -
I'm from Asia. We have a strict policy of old enough to bleed, old enough to breed
You realize that here in North America in some cases that means 8 years old?
That's like promoting pedophielia.
Well, we don't drink and eat food filled with artificial hormones. Girls here typically have their periods around 13+ years.0 -
I read the first few pages of this thread.
My step-daughter is 17. There is no WAY in h3ll her father, mother, or even her open-minded step-mom would let her go out with a 29 year old.
Of course, I'm not in the UK, and I think the statutory rape stoppage age is 16 in my state, but dang...
That said, let's assume for a second that she is a very mature 17. Even mature, she is not done growing up. I can tell you I sure wasn't the same person at 25 that I was at 17-18, and at 18 I was living on my own, paying bills, keeping up a household, etc.
But that's just my opinion and I'm just some interwebz person. You're going to do what you want to do regardless.0 -
If the girl in question was my daughter, the conversation between me and you would last as long as it took for you to land on the kerbside. Based on my culture in my country and me.0
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The "age is nothing but a number" camp consists of young people sleeping with guys that are too old, and guys that are too old who wants to sleep with girls that are too young.
Seriously, I would have to say that in order for a 29-year old to WANT to date a 17-year old, he'd have to be functioning at a very low level, considering no 17-yearolds would function at a very high level and want to date a 29-year old...
What about older women and young guys?0 -
Repeat - your country believes 17/18 year olds have the maturity to join the military and make the ultimate sacrafice, to lay down their lives, and yet many believe they are not mature enough to date and older guy ?????0
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Repeat - your country believes 17/18 year olds have the maturity to join the military and make the ultimate sacrafice, to lay down their lives, and yet many believe they are not mature enough to date and older guy ????? WTF America ????
Repeat, the OP is in England.0 -
I read the first few pages of this thread.
My step-daughter is 17. There is no WAY in h3ll her father, mother, or even her open-minded step-mom would let her go out with a 29 year old.
Of course, I'm not in the UK, and I think the statutory rape stoppage age is 16 in my state, but dang...
That said, let's assume for a second that she is a very mature 17. Even mature, she is not done growing up. I can tell you I sure wasn't the same person at 25 that I was at 17-18, and at 18 I was living on my own, paying bills, keeping up a household, etc.
But that's just my opinion and I'm just some interwebz person. You're going to do what you want to do regardless.
So let me get this right. At the age of 18 she will magically be all grown up? Also, and I'm saying his without any knowledge abotu your kid, but many kids lose their virginity far before 18. Whats the difference?0 -
My mother was 18 when she met my father, 19 when she married him. He was 40. BUT, my mother graduated from highschool at 16 years old (she's one of those smart types), graduated from college, and had already been married and divorced with a child (book smart, not people smart- her first husband was an abusive alcoholic) when she met my father. So she wasn't quite like today's 18 year old maturity wise. My dad passed away two weeks after their 33rd anniversary.0
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If the girl in question was my daughter, the conversation between me and you would last as long as it took for you to land on the kerbside. Based on my culture in my country and me.
'MERICA0 -
The "age is nothing but a number" camp consists of young people sleeping with guys that are too old, and guys that are too old who wants to sleep with girls that are too young.
Seriously, I would have to say that in order for a 29-year old to WANT to date a 17-year old, he'd have to be functioning at a very low level, considering no 17-yearolds would function at a very high level and want to date a 29-year old...
What about older women and young guys?
Only an idiot would make a distinction. How come you saw a need to ask for clarification?0 -
Repeat - your country believes 17/18 year olds have the maturity to join the military and make the ultimate sacrafice, to lay down their lives, and yet many believe they are not mature enough to date and older guy ????? WTF America ????
Again, the OP is in England.
Thanks Sun - the heat of the discussion
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