I want him, He doesnt want me :(.. Vent/Rant

zCarsAndCaloriesz

Lol.

You are a little too clingy and he isnt ready to grow up.

I agree with this.

sizzle74

I DO WANT CONSTANT ATTENTION.


That is not going to help you find love. Maybe look into getting a dog? They give you attention alllll the time. No man will want to be responsible for that.

Warchortle

I think OP gets the idea... dang you guys are reaming hardcore.

eillamarie

First thing I thought was you must be 18.....oops. Then the comment about having 20 phone calls & 10 ppl stop by his house @ 1am & him saying he has a "bad" side....the dude's either into drug dealing or he's a huge player masquarading as a nice guy. Move the eff on....& then figure out what's going on in your head that you feel the need to attach yourself to a guy so quickly? Most girls have been there @ some point, so no judgement, just advice.

Go watch the movie "He's Just Not That Into You". I'm sorry but the truth often hurts.

pinkraynedropjacki

You want commitment after 2 weeks??? You're lucky he's not run away as fast as he can, that's just nuts imo.

What's wrong with 2 weeks? I was married to my husband a month after meeting him, married 17 years this year. What has a time frame got to do with anything IMO

ChaseAlder

Sloooow doooooown.

BrendaLee

If he was into it, too, there would be nothing wrong with falling after two weeks. Heck, if you're seeing someone every day for two weeks and haven't fallen, you should probably move on.

WickedZoey

..... O K.

AllTehBeers

I thought only lesbians moved this fast.

I'm supposed to move this fast?? I've been doing it all wrong :laugh:

LOL I never moved that fast either, but I've had friends who got engaged after two weeks so OP isn't far off.

HannahsBestLife

I feel like i can fall deeply in love with this guy, we met not even two weeks ago... and we see each other almost everyday, last week alone we were together every day except Friday, today's not over and im telling myself I wont see him today, because we have plans tomorrow.. but honestly if he wants to hang out later I feel like its a maybe and thats what worries me...in the past if i didnt want to hang out with a guy it was a firm no in my head no teetering... seriously i love the way he bear hugs me i could hug him all night, he makes me feel so comfortable, he has the same beliefs as me, hes a christian which is huge and usually im the only one saying grace amongst my friends, but with him he'll stop me if i forget for a second and take a bite and he'll say grace.. i feel like we are so compatible and could fall so deeply in love...BUT HE Doesnt want to make COMMITMENT, I couldn't figure out why.. we've discussed it over and over he says he wants to take it slow its only been a week but two days after we met initially he Said that he wanted more he really like me and didnt care and wanted more and now its a different story, which is fine because I didnt really pay much attention to that I thought it was weird.. but now i want it and he wont give it to me.

Basically he's said in so many words, i know him the best part of him, but not the other part. He likes to drink and smoke and hang out with his friend constantly, basically he likes his freedom.. when the boys roll through he wants to go... I dont drink or smoke so it would be weird he thinks for me to hang out with him and his friends and he says he doenst want to corrupt me.., which is fine lol, because i wasnt going to, i can be around it, smh.. He opened up a little to me last night and said he has to grow up that its not all about hanging with your friends and he has to make time for a woman in his life.. and that he'll be a horrible boyfriend because he might not call or text for a week, I said a week??? he said he was exaggerating and he just means a while and a girlfriends wants constant attention and its true I DO WANT CONSTANT ATTENTION.

I told him i understood, but it basically didnt apply because we see each other about everyday... he shrug and said ye he understood and in the last 10 mins, literally he got 20 phone calls 10+ people showing up at his house and it was 1 am I was like wtf.. WOW i see what hes talking about a lot of people do want his attention and they all want to hang out with him.. but they ALL have girlfriends, but of coarse their girlfriends smoke and drink.. just geeze.. i want him to make a commitment already. im not even sure why i want him to its only been a couple of weeks but it feels like way longer when you ee each other daily.

Thanks for letting me vent/rant.

Be Mean, Keep him Keen...

IamSheaMc

hahahaha

IamSheaMc

You should propose to him tomorrow.

lmao I bet he'd love that

IWantToo

Someone here said, "Break up," but... there's nothing to break up because they aren't in a relationship. *shrug* He doesn't want to commit so he doesn't owe you anything... he doesn't want to lie to you, that's a plus, but it kind of ends there.

If you're fine with him just having you around at his convenience, well then fine, but you shouldn't push something if he isn't interested in. You should want him to commit when he's ready and willing to commit.

I think you should be less available for him and focus on yourself and other things. When he starts to realize you aren't there every time he wants you, well then he'll be forced to make a decision... and that's when you'll know how serious he is about you.

Good luck!

TY I really enjoyed this post. I feel the same way which is why I wont hang out with him tonight if he calls, ive only said GM today thus far and haven't replied to his text.

He's super respectable literally the night before we just hugged all night and talked and last night we just hugged didnt really have a deep talk and he sang to me, hes a different race from me so he sang and tried to teach me some of his "native" language lol it was so cute.. just for hours.. part of me loves thats hes a christian and not a pervert.. hes constantly holding my hand and hugging me very truly affectionate without being pervy and slimy and hoping it will lead to something.

I'm not comfortable being around simply for his convenience, or mine, which i kind of feel it is right now more on my part.

KenosFeoh

I don't think I've met anyone in my entire 59 years who wants to make a commitment after two weeks. I mean this in the nicest possible way, but you sound a little desperate. Cool your jets.

beckieboomoo

Sometimes quick works for people. I started going out with my fella a day after we met, crazy i know but we have nearly been together 3 years now..... Not amazingly longer i know. But this guy doesn't seem to want to have a relationship ... Sounds harsh but you should wait till his ready or get over him and move on

IWantToo

Awww TY :glasses: :smooched: :flowerforyou:

You want commitment after 2 weeks??? You're lucky he's not run away as fast as he can, that's just nuts imo.

What's wrong with 2 weeks? I was married to my husband a month after meeting him, married 17 years this year. What has a time frame got to do with anything IMO

IWantToo

Awwwww :glasses:

Sometimes quick works for people. I started going out with my fella a day after we met, crazy i know but we have nearly been together 3 years now..... Not amazingly longer i know. But this guy doesn't seem to want to have a relationship ... Sounds harsh but you should wait till his ready or get over him and move on

bearwith

Don't let him affect your eating habits that is a dangerous slippery slope. I am talking about emotional eating and fed-up eating etc.

dmpizza

Your profile says 31, but your attitude says 15. Relax and grow up a bit.

babydiego87

wjewell

I honestly couldn't even read the rest of this. It's like you were getting so excited or anxious that you couldn't properly say what you wanted.

2 weeks is a bit fast to want him to fully commit.. Give it time, and don't cling so much. Enjoy life. If he wants you- he will let you know. If not, you will know... but don't go crazy and start clinging so quickly.

IWantToo

I don't think I've met anyone in my entire 59 years who wants to make a commitment after two weeks. I mean this in the nicest possible way, but you sound a little desperate. Cool your jets.

Desperate for what? I could see if i was chasing him or was making something out of nothing. We are basically in a relationship, just without the tittle... which is more of a manly thing imo, why act and obviously have feelings for someone, but dont want them to basically say you cant hang out when you want to. you dont want to be committed so you dont have to be officially "tied down". Thats bullsht. but because its only been 2 weeks i'll let it slide for a while lol

IHAVEPMS247

Two weeks is a bit fast to be asking for a commitment. If he is drinking and spoke (pot I assume), why in the world would you want a relationship with someone can't possibly be good for you? If he is getting all those phone calls, have you considered the thought he may be dealing?

Crankstr

I TOLD YOU TO CALL ME NEXT TIME YOU WENT SHOPPING IN NARNIA!!!!

quirkytizzy

I can't believe you're 31, I thought this was an under 20 year old writing this.

You want commitment after 2 weeks??? You're lucky he's not run away as fast as he can, that's just nuts imo.

I literally just said out loud "How old are you?" The BF looked at me quizzically and said "Uhm, 32. Same age as you?"

Yeah OP - 2 weeks, let it go, you'll look psycho otherwise.

IWantToo

:flowerforyou: :glasses: Aww I wont let him.. hes actually been motivating me, sending me little quotes daily to inspire me to exercise.. super sweet.

Don't let him affect your eating habits that is a dangerous slippery slope. I am talking about emotional eating and fed-up eating etc.

leomom72

bump

SoViLicious

Yeah just walk away...

Jersey_Devil

:flowerforyou: :glasses: Aww I wont let him.. hes actually been motivating me, sending me little quotes daily to inspire me to exercise.. super sweet.

Don't let him affect your eating habits that is a dangerous slippery slope. I am talking about emotional eating and fed-up eating etc.

super sweet= maybe, but not marriage material

babydiego87

:flowerforyou: :glasses: Aww I wont let him.. hes actually been motivating me, sending me little quotes daily to inspire me to exercise.. super sweet.

Don't let him affect your eating habits that is a dangerous slippery slope. I am talking about emotional eating and fed-up eating etc.

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