Online Cheating

I have plenty of male RL friends and my boyfriend doesn't mind. I'm not about to jump them all as soon as his back is turned...

I've seen some women with interesting or well-formulated post which have led me to think, hey, that is someone I want to read -- and gone to friend them only to discover - the no guys rule - which is fine. Why would I want to interact with someone that is mentally that closed up? Half-sour grapes sometimes, half shakes head and wonders, "WTF"?

I'm here to take care of myself - the community thing helps tremendously, and telling someone that they look great or fantastic on MFP (usually in a thread about progress) isn't a pick-up line in a bar. Sheeez.

Welllll...my husband and I have very open minds when it comes to flirting...and sex really. I have a friend who sends me dirty texts a few times a week and hubby is cool with it. sometimes we chat online but not too often. Life is too short. We like to have fun.

Trust me. Your husband is not "cool with it". Either he has some side action going on as well that you do not know of, or he is very insecure in confronting you about it.

What man that loves a woman would be cool with some douche sending dirty text messages to his wife? Sounds like your "friend" has no respect for your husband. I would of knocked his *kitten* out the first time.

I have co-workers that are male, friends on facebook that are male, friends here on MFP that are male and friends at the bank, grocery store, and my child's school that are male. Everywhere I look there is a man! LOL The fact is: I cannot avoid men and quite frankly many of them have great advice and are great human beings. I chose to love my husband with all my heart and that means that I will love only him in a romantic way. I don't know? I am pretty friendly so it is possible that a few men may have misinterpreted my humor or kindness as flirting and I wouldn't even know but I have never had an issue having male friends.

Having friends of the opposite sex online and online cheating is two different things!

Obviously online cheating is wrong...very wrong!

In 'real life', I get on with guys 110% more than with women. But for some reason, on myfitnesspal I get on with women better! Or at least, I have more female friends than male - Probably because it's easier to get motivated with people who have boobies too :P

I've always been more comfortable with guys than girls, but sometimes I'm told I'm way too naive and when I think it's an innocent friendship, apparently the opposites don't see it that way. Some friendships have ended because of it, frustrating! But hey, I think as long as you know and can trust yourself, I don't see the problem. Although I know I would get slightly unnerved if my partner had a lot of girl friends, that's my insecurities, though.

This is me exactly!! Well said....

big difference between having friends of the opposite sex and cheating. However, with that said, my husband has full access to MFP and my FB accounts as I have to his. If he didn't like someone or was uncomfortable with the way someone was speaking to me then I would defriend that person. He is the most important person in my life.

- men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

I disagree totally. They do not with me and nor do they with most of the people I know. I think you must have run into more than your fair share of sleaze bags. We're not all "only interested in one thing".

I agree with the pirate... No offense, just always wanted to say that. But, I have many friends and most of them are female. I am supportive of all of them, doesn't mean I want to sleep with all of them. They are people on the same road I am on.

I have male friends in real life and on Facebook. However, I don't accept friend requests from males on here. I feel much more comfortable speaking about certain issues on my page if there are no men to see it.

My SO trusts me completely; it has nothing to do with him.

For me its a women only rule as any of the guys I've come across so far usually have ulterior motives even being on a site like MFP!

Also out of respect for my husband as well as I wouldn't be happy about him having women friends - men and women cannot be friends without sex or innuendoes coming into the equation!

this for me too

Men and women can't be just friends and that's is a fact... My wife had a profile on here and was getting to close to some of the people on here IM, pictures, staying up till 4 in the morn talking and doing god knows what else...and it almost cost her her REAL LIFE... I've read the post and my hat is off to those that use it as a tool to get fit or to stay in shape and not as a dating or sexting sit.

Sorry that's happened to you, but that says more about your relationship than about other people's ability to maintain platonic friendships with the opposite sex.

Your experience doesn't make anything a fact.

Fact!

I think men and women Can be just friends, I've done it. However, most men AND women are just attention *kitten*, we flirt only for the attention because it makes us feel good to be noticed, that's it.

*slowly backs out of thread*

It makes me so sad when people believe that men and women can't be friends. They must value themselves so little to think that they couldn't possibly have anything to offer someone of the opposite sex other than sex, that half the population couldn't possibly be interested in them for any other reason. Yes, some people just see all opposite-sex relationships as sexual ones. But a lot of us just see people as people. If someone shares my unusual interests, then I want to be friends with that person regardless of their chromosomal makeup. If someone is fun to be around, then I want to be around them, even if they have the "wrong" genitalia.

I'll hold my hands up and say I've only read the first page, but GOOD GRIEF, I am perfectly capable of speaking to a male without turning it into a flirt-fest, my husband is capable of the same with females, and we both have friends of the opposite sex on Facebook and *gasps* IN REAL LIFE!! Even WORSE, occasionally we both 'flirt' with other people AND have done it in front of each other without it ending in any shenanigans (though he'd completely deny it and say he's just being friendly, lol).

Of course there are people on MFP, FB and in all other walks of life who enjoy flirting whether it be with any intention of ever acting on it or not, but you can't and shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush. I've managed to flirt with quite a few males over the last 19 years I've been with MrWW and have never once been unfaithful, not even kissed another man, and I'd like to think he's been faithful too.

Simply quite ridiculous to say that you can't be friends. Ridiculous. Maybe you and yours should go live in a convent or monastery so you don't succumb to the temptation that you have so obviously built up in your imagination. :grumble:

I work in an all male environment, but I'm not a flirt so no one flirts back, it takes two people to flirt! I am friendly and chatty and enjoy talking to people and finding out about them.
My business partner is male and he'll flirt with any female regardless of age or appearance, but the funniest thing was when one of our customers asked him out for a drink- he almost ran a mile! It was so funny!