How to tell her she's gaining weight...
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Darkskinned88
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Won't go into the backstory...but i'll spark the discussion. Ladies, would you get upset at a husband/boyfriend/boo if he told you maybe you put on some lbs. Fellas have you ever said the dreaded words? would you?
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She knows she is gaining weight.0
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Trust me, she already knows. Telling her that *you* know isn't helping anyone.0
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Why would you tell her? She already knows.0
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If you tell a woman "Baby, you need to lose some weight." It wouldn't matter what you said to me afterwards, no matter if you were concerned for my health.... if you were going to reward me with a million dollars for my weight loss. You wouldn't be able to speak because i'd have broken your jaw by then.
NOW. That being typed.... there's a way to go about it. And the best way is to offer to do it with her. Offering support is the best thing ever.0 -
Obviously,she knows.
Don't tell her. There is such thing as justifiable homicide, you know.0 -
I am sure she knows. Telling her will ultimately piss her off and you will get a major attitude. Maybe try encouraging her to do activities with you or go for walks.0
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Nope. I have toldy husband to tell me if he thinks I am getting chunky and he did. Sometimes people need a wake up call and if you are going to get upset because the person you married is telling you you are not the same person they fell in love with because you've put on some pounds then you have issues. There is no need to get upset when honesty is involved. My husband did. It marry a fat woman therefore I would expect him to be upset and tell me when I am putting on weight.
Whether or not she "already knows it" if she is not doing anything about it and it clearly bothers her SO why should t something be said?0 -
oh lol. This is going to be good. It's all about the approach. I never get on my husband about his weight. I started working out myself, and he began making comments about my losing weight and he should start working out again like I was. I told him that I love him the way he is and if he wanted to join me, we could work out together. So far he has not done it, but I am feeling better about myself and my weight now, which is a big plus, and he is getting more motivated the better I look because he keeps saying one day he will have to protect his territory better from other guys. Lol.
In my experience, weight is a very touchy subject and leads to fights.0 -
I am sure she knows. Telling her will ultimately piss her off and you will get a major attitude. Maybe try encouraging her to do activities with you or go for walks.
This is the best way to approach it...she probably already knows and is probably already unhappy about it. Encourage the physical activities like this and then see if she starts conversation about things during/after these walks and go from there.0 -
Yeah.....you don't need to tell her.0
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She knows she is gaining weight.0
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You could tell her how much you like MFP and suggest that she join you by getting her own account. I wouldn't go much further than that unless you know she is the kind of person to take it well.0
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never. never. Never. Utter those words. It won't end well.0
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If I got obese I would want him to whip me into shape... But if its a couple pounds (like what happened in the winter.. almost 30lbs+) He kept his mouth shut lol...0
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My husband and I are very open about our thoughts on each others' bodies. There is nothing wrong with saying, "I've noticed you've gained a little weight.. is there something I can do to help with your fitness? I want us both to live long, happy lives together." ... it's true, it's thoughtful, and it shows a team effort.
If you say, "Baby, put down the oreos. I know your muffin top is getting Costco-big." you are likely to get served.0 -
This came up on another weight loss board I am on.
I personally didn't notice I was gaining weight until I had gained *a lot* of weight. I do believe there is a small percentage of people who are like me. I was actually annoyed that no one told me when I started to gain weight, everyone mentioned it when I had gained a lot and then it was hard to do anything about.
My husband has now gained a lot of weight. From my experience with that I find that the easiest thing to do is to actually help with meals, activity choices, etc., rather than focusing on the weight issue or discussing it.
Talking about health is good too, like going and getting your blood pressure, cholesterol checked and encouraging her to do that too. Not sure if there are kids in the picture, but talking about having a health house for kids, having activity and good food choices can also be helpful for everyone in the household.
You can also ask her for help with your weight loss or training if that is possible (i.e. ask her to go to the gym with you to help motivate you/keep you from being bored).
I have found people respond much better to that sort of thing than they do to a weight loss conversation.0 -
^^It's true.0 -
Only if you would like to completely give up sex and never see her naked again.0
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Definitely tell her. Be supportive, not critical. The response "she already knows" really isn't helping because you're worried about her health, and with me, I really didn't know.0
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