I need a girl's advice regarding a man's problem.
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A little off topic......BUT.......here is what a famous funny man once said about stretch marks:
"Ladies - there's two ways you get stretch marks: ya either lost a lot of weight, or you gained a lot of weight.
Either way, we're f*ckin ya!"0 -
I would definately not bring it up. Why do you want to anyway? If she wants to talk to you about it, she will. If you talk to her about your weight loss goals she may share her story with you, but if she doesnt, that's her choice.0
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Why do you need to confront her about it? There is NO polite way to bring something like that up. Nor is it the least bit necessary. You will crush her feelings. Don't say anything.0
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..but it really does look bad...it looks like she just has too much skin for her body.
I'd appreciate any advice you can give me.
No one wants to hear that they "look bad" no matter how you approach the topic. She'll tell you when she's ready to trust that you won't judge her......hmmmm?0 -
Wow. Do NOT, I repeat DO NOT bring this up to her- for both her sake and yours! It probably took her a lot of courage to get in that bikini and to have anyone mention her "imperfections" to her will just hurt her and make you look like an @ss- not saying you are one but that's probably how it would be interpreted. I'm not sure how this is even "a man's problem"- it's not hurting you and if you find it unattractive then I guess she's not a girl you should date.0
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Don't bring it up. It's none of your business.0
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Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.0 -
remember the old saying "curiousity killed the cat"?
there's a reason for that saying...0 -
If you decide to 'go there', approach it by admiring her confidence. Trust us females, we know exactly how we look and what we are wearing. Maybe compliment her swim suit and say she looks great in it ! If she's like anyone I know, she will immediately begin critiquing herself!!!!!!!!!!!!! That would probably be your only way to talk about it .. because SHE brought it up!0
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I agree with most other comments, don't bring it up. this is an extended part of who she is, You either feel the same about her or you don't. If you don't, she really has lost nothing...0
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Just hit it and move on...
Spoken like a MAN!!
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Leave the lights off and insert pickle.0
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And that's why Cliff is the man.Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.
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this is not funny in the least .. :bigsmile:0
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What's so bad about loose skin?
Extend forward, reach out both hands, fill each one full of skin. You now have leverage.0 -
bahahahahaha. You must be kidding because you can't seriously think it would even be a remotely good idea to bring it up. Don't talk about it unless she brings it up. If you bring it up, you're 1)prying, 2)an idiot, and 3)ruining a friendship.
:flowerforyou:
srsly OP wtf?
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I'm so glad you thought to ask for advice before talking to your friend. There are questions in life we sometimes want answers to, but we must always consider the cost. I understand your reason for wanting to ask and I don't find them to be malicious, but it may still hurt her feelings. I know that isn't your intentions, because you came asking us first, but even with the slightest chance of hurting your friend, don't ask. If she never mentions it, don't mention it either.0
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I agree with the majority of people on here. Don't bring it up. As a person who has lost a significant amount of weight in a relatively short amount of time... the skin issues suck. I am even more self conscious about the extra skin then I ever was about my weight. The courage it must have taken her to wear a bikini in the first place, please don't bring it up. I think it would mortify me if someone mentioned it to me. You can hide it under clothes, but a bathing suit is an entirely different story. As long as you aren't concerned for her health (loose skin alone is not a cause to worry) than I would just leave it.
If you are starting a new gym program, maybe ask her if she could join you as a workout buddy. The exercise can only help the loose skin as the muscle growth gives the skin something to "hold onto".0 -
Just don't. She knows its there, and you're gonna kill her emotionally if you do. Yes, that's what happens when you lose a lot of weight, really fast, especially w/o exercise. You don't have to ask her.
^^AMEN - i have a little loose skin - and i'm very very very aware of it - This is why i dont wear bathing suits in public!!! If someone ever said anything - i would be very crushed :sad:0 -
If she is THAT self conscious, why would she be in a bikini? If it were me, I would be in a one piece!
Maybe she doesn't care what people think about her.0 -
People are being somewhat harsh with their responses to your question.
I understand that you are curious, but if I were you, I wouldn't say anything about it. Leave it alone and maybe (MAYBE) in the future sometime casually bring up a conversation about weight loss and maybe mention how extreme weight loss can leave loose skin. And perhaps she will bring it up.
But most likely, she is already self concious about it. Leave it alone, don't stare and ignore it.0 -
Oh my, arent you a curious cat lol
yea... i wouldnt say anything either, unless you have like an honest/close/hold-nothing-back kind of friendship (and it seems like you dont?)
sorry, no help here0 -
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Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Yes, this, too. ^^ Bacon always distracts!0 -
Holy replies in 5 minutes.
Well I guess I got my answer.
To answer a few replies.
I know she does no exercise because she told me she doesnt, and for the year that I have known her, she has never said she has done anything active.
Another question was, why do I wish to know: I want to be able to talk with her about it and let her know there are ways to fix it. She may not know that toning can happen from rapid weight loss when loose skin appears. If she is living with this and is unaware of a way to fix it..I figured I could help. I'm seeing by the replies that this was a bad thought process.
Anyways, Thank you everyone for the replies...I guess I'll just keep it to myself.0 -
If she wanted you to know she had an extreme weight loss, she would have already told you.
Curiosity kills.0 -
I would definitely not say anything as, as others have said, she is obviously well aware of it herself. How nice though that she felt comfortable enough to display it in front of you- good for her.0
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LOLEmail the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.0 -
You're 32 years old and asking this?
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Pleeeease don't ask. That's nosey, not considerate.0
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