Does anyone else NOT want kids?

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  • amylou1977
    amylou1977 Posts: 41 Member
    I have 2 kids I had my son at 16 he is 18 now and my daughter who is 5 1//2 is a bc baby, but I an say I don't want anymore
  • AmericanCowboy76
    AmericanCowboy76 Posts: 99 Member
    I have twp beautiful kids. My wife died giving birth to our second one. I wouldn't trade them for the WORLD! They are my everything. If I ever meet the right woman I want at least one more child.
  • lookingforsomething
    lookingforsomething Posts: 86
    I'm 38 and don't want kids - never have - never will!

    I have been told by EVERYONE that it's wrong, I'll change my mind, I'll get over it, I'll do the right thing - you name it.
    I was once told by an ED nurse that I was wrong for not wanting kids and got lectured for an hour on why I was wrong.
    My husband has know since day one that I don't want kids and if it's a problem then it's his problem - not mine.

    It's rude of people to tell you that you are wrong - I don't tell people their religion is wrong if believe something else.
  • perdie7
    perdie7 Posts: 266 Member
    people will never stop bugging you....you because you don't have kids...me because I do.

    When I was pregnant with number 3, I started getting rude comments, "do you know what causes that", "do you know how overpopulated the world is, you shouldn't be bringing more into this world".."you can't possibly take proper care of that many kids" .on and on, and when It was number #5 (#1 was only 6 years old at the time), the comments were more and worse, people never butt out,

    now my kids are all teens/young adults, and I get told often, how wonderful they are and how blessed I am...yup I guess they were wrong about how I couldn't take care of them.

    anyhow, you need to do what is right for you...and just learn to ignore all the snippy comments
  • Raimi1990
    Raimi1990 Posts: 59
    It's not that I DON'T want kids once (and if) I get married, but I'm worried that, if I do, they'll have Asperger's syndrome and/or bipolar disorder like I do. I would be brokenhearted if my child had to go through what I went through as a child.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    I always wanted kids but I was not ready for my second and I did not want another child at that time. So, I really would not advise you to have a child on other peoples terms because once you are pregnant... you can't really go back. Or atleast I can't. I can relate to not wanting kids on a certain level but ya know, not really.

    If you aren't ready or don't want to have them DO NOT do it. Yes, I love my second with all of me but I don't know. Its just harder when you know you didn't want/aren't mentally ready for it.

    As for you MIL, have your husband explain it to her. T
  • MarisaLWood
    MarisaLWood Posts: 44 Member
    I'd rather be a bad influence on other people's children :laugh:

    I'm 43 and went from "not sure I ever want kids" as a teenager to "absolutely certain I don't want kids" in my mid-twenties. And yes, people did tell me I'd change, it would be different when they were my own, etc. etc.

    At 26 I was diagnosed with a chronic health condition that needed meds to control it, that I would have had to stop taking if I became pregnant. I'd been debating for two or three years whether I should get my tubes tied--and since my illness was inherited, that clinched it.

    I had my tubes tied at 27 with (still) no regrets. I know I would have been a terrible mother, for a lot of reasons.

    My mother second-guessed my decision at the time, but now that she's seen friends of hers raising their grandchildren because their kids were unable/unwilling to do it themselves, she is firmly in my corner and has fun spoiling other people's grandkids.

    Occasionally I still get people telling me "there are a lot of women your age having babies," but since I'm perimenopausal, on hormone replacement, and (for several years now) no longer ovulating, my chances of doing so--even if I wanted to--are somewhere between Snowball in H3ll and Pigs in Flight.
  • MichelleLaree13
    MichelleLaree13 Posts: 865 Member
    I dont
  • TakinSexyBack
    TakinSexyBack Posts: 300 Member
    It is your decision whether or not you want children. I have some friends that are totally the same way and they are very happy with their lives! Don't let anyone make you feel that you are "not complete" without them or make you feel like you are "letting THEM down" if they don't have grandkids!! lol You know how you feel about it and I think the best way to handle it is just be honest with them and let them know the plan! Let them know you need your decision to be respected also and don't let them hassle you over it!!
  • Substances
    Substances Posts: 120 Member
    I don't want children, unless I were to adopt a troubled teenager or something similar.
    Something about having babies and toddlers around my house just does not appeal to me.
    Probably because I like everything neat and tidy, and I know that that will not happen with small children.
  • munchlaxx
    munchlaxx Posts: 102 Member
    I love (most) kids. I have one. We are done.

    So I constantly get the "when are you having another?" "You can't just have one, that's not fair to him!"

    How is it not fair? He has friends he's grown up with since birth, cousins that he loves, classmates at daycare.. a large church family with tons of kids to interact with.. but at the end of the day, I don't lose my mind running after 2 or more children!

    We're young too. I'm 28, husband is 31. So people just assume we're going to continue to spit out kids.. nope, doesn't always work that way!

    I have the same issue! My dude and I are so stressed out by one child that I don't think we could handle 2. She's school age now, so the other school moms are always bugging me about having more kids. My kid's very much a social butterfly, so I think she will do fine as an only child.
  • mrsRhughes
    mrsRhughes Posts: 122
    My two kids (ages 7 and 2) and my husband are my WORLD. We are hoping to have at least two more kids in the VERY near future!! I love love LOVE being a mom and have not found gratification like it in ANYTHING else. However, I TOTALLY respect people who say they don't want kids or "know" that it's not right for them. There are WAY too many children born whose parents didn't want them, or were born by "mistake", etc. and I respect those couples who agree not to have kids because it best fits their lifestyle. My best friend and her husband both agreed before getting married that they were not going to have kids, and I totally respect them for their decision. Their family members (mostly their moms) are CONSTANTLY bugging them, though, on when they are going to have grandchildren ... it drives my best friend nuts!
  • krissagray
    krissagray Posts: 105 Member
    Nope.
    I'm allergic
    haha! Funny!
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    i just dont want YOUR kids....mine are fine:laugh:
  • Laurelaas
    Laurelaas Posts: 31 Member
    I'm with ya, i'm 22, and already decided a long time ago I never want kids :) So you are not alone!
  • Tracepa98
    Tracepa98 Posts: 219
    At one time I thought I wanted kids. This was back when I had first met my boyfriend. He was the only one of his siblings that wasn't married and the fact that we were together well over 5 years kind of made sense. We spoke of family and marriage and i assumed that he would one day step up to the plate and take that next step. He didn't. His sister in 2008 had identical twin boys and he didn't want anything to do with them. We still weren't even married! So I was pissed and angry that he strung me along with a dream. If he couldn't be an uncle, he sure as hell couldn't be a dad.

    I ended up leaving him later that year. Since then, his sister has had another little girl and just recently a set of fraternal twins. So her count now is 5! I'm a very big part of their lives as Auntie but I'm already 31 going on 32, been single for close to 4 years now. I don't see it happening and as the years pass....I'm getting the feeling I don't want any of my own. I had a terrible childhood and missed out on so much. I want to live for myself. May seem selfish to some but message me and i can give you some details.

    I'm also very against people having kids very late in life. Its just not fair to the children and I don't want to be a burden when they are barely hitting their 20's etc. Not to mention that I cannot financially support them.

    So for the TLDR crowd:

    Do I love kids? Yes
    Am I good with kids? Yes
    Do I want my own? No
  • tbodega
    tbodega Posts: 186
    I decided a long time ago that I don't want kids. I find that the best children are the refundable kind that can go back to their parents once they get irritating.

    For some reason people find that they must try to convince me to join the kid-borg collective to the point where I have to make them feel like crap for disrespecting my personal choice.
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