it's 2013, why are women playing mother to their husbands?

My husband can not cook at all and I can guarantee you that he has no desire to ever learn how! If I don't feel like cooking, he grabs the jar of peanut butter and a spoon. Or a bowl of cereal. Or a microwaveable. Whatever, it doesn't bother me so I'm not sure why it bothers you. :shrug:


ETA: I grew up in a family where my dad was the WAY better cook and my brothers learned to use the stove by age 7. I'm not in the dark ages by any means, I just happen to have a husband who can't even boil an egg without tragic results! :P

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

I'm going to assume you don't have kids and you're not married.

I do all the cooking because I love to cook\!

Last time my dearly beloved tried to boil water, he started a fire. I'd prefer he not try again.

lol! Yep!

my personal opinion is that yes famnily should eat what is madde for them just out of pure respect! however,im very much a shovenist.lol i think the wife should take care of her hubby and chidren by preparing meals.if shes able.

My husband can cook. His mother-not so much. She didn't like cooking, but fed them enough to grow up on. I love to cook. I would rather eat my cooking than his. I cook, he cleans. If I don't cook, he can cook for himself or he can eat something not cooked. At lunch, we each cook our own. He cooks breakfast for himself since I don't eat brreakfast. If we have guests, I cook breakfast and he eats whatever I cook for them.

I guess it's complicate around here, LOL! When my kids were growing up, I cooked one meal for evceryone. Whoever wanted to eat it, fine. If not, they were free to eat elsewhere. Nobody was coddled at my house, except (according to my children) the dogs and the cat. When my Dad was alive and came to visit, I cooked lasagne for him by request. My mother cooked every day for him. He could open a can of Vienna sausages. His second wife purchased his favorite tv dinners. I'm not sure which of them used the microwave to hot up the food.

Lots of ways to work it.

I agree with you from a personal standpoint, about my life and my relationship goals.

I don't agree with starting threads just to judge other people's relationships. I think everyone can make their own choices about who does what in relationships. Judging gender roles for others based on your own preconceived notions is wrong.

Oh, and hes in the military on top of all that!

Thank you for your's and your husband's service.

Who are you even directing this toward?

I think I know a situation that this is directed at. My sister makes food for her and her husband. She also makes something different for her two boys who are 6 and 3 (mostly chicken strips or some variation) and sometimes a different meal for her and her husband.

She is a stay at home mom and pretty much does all of the family cooking and care.

My opinion? Quite accommodating to both kids and spouse. The kids need to be introduced to new foods or they will never find anything that they like. That is under mom's control as she is the one cooking for them. As far as her husband, she needs to tell him what she is planning on making. Sure, be somewhat considerate, but he's a grown man and shouldn't expect her to make whatever he wants whenever he wants it. It is downright sad.

My wife and I mostly cook separate. We have enough differences in what we like to eat that it makes sense. She will tell me though, "I'm making swordfish tomorrow so you are on your own." It works amazingly well.

Who are you even directing this toward?

I think I know a situation that this is directed at. My sister makes food for her and her husband. She also makes something different for her two boys who are 6 and 3 (mostly chicken strips or some variation) and sometimes a different meal for her and her husband.

She is a stay at home mom and pretty much does all of the family cooking and care.

My opinion? Quite accommodating to both kids and spouse. The kids need to be introduced to new foods or they will never find anything that they like. That is under mom's control as she is the one cooking for them. As far as her husband, she needs to tell him what she is planning on making. Sure, be somewhat considerate, but he's a grown man and shouldn't expect her to make whatever he wants whenever he wants it. It is downright sad.

My wife and I mostly cook separate. We have enough differences in what we like to eat that it makes sense. She will tell me though, "I'm making swordfish tomorrow so you are on your own." It works amazingly well.

I agree. If children are not exposed to different foods, then they won't ever learn to like them. We do not have a clean plate policy, but everyone is required to try a bite of something they don't think they will like. It works, in our case...my 7 and 10 year old boys would eat anything that you put in front of them (they LOVE broccoli, brussels sprouts and even asparagus!!).

Still working on my daughter and fish, but to her, it is a texture thing. LOL. She isn't big on meat.

Both of my (grown) sons cook to some extent. The oldest likes to experiment. The youngest, who lives at home, doesn't care for the hassle of cooking, yet he cooks a great crockpot roast and a simple, yet yummy, enchilada soup, along with the basic barbecued meats.

My (now ex) husband never cooked. I stayed home with the kids and he went to work to provide a paycheck. I did laundry. He mowed the lawn and washed the cars. I cooked the meals and he put the toilet seat down.

I never really saw my cooking things he liked as "coddling", even when I cooked him something that I wouldn't eat (anything fishy). Instead, I saw it as a way of showing him that I loved him. In the same way, he took care of household repairs and little honey-dos like hanging shelves and moving furniture when I had a whim for a change.

In other words, going the extra mile to make him happy was something that made me happy. It was part of the give and take relationship that makes a marriage. It is a sign of respect. The problems started when we stopped respecting one another and caring how each other felt.

After a dozen years of marriage our relationship started to deteriorate. And just before our divorce, I noticed a trend. I did not keep up with the housework and did not always have dinner on the table at 5 p.m. For his part, he grumbled every time I asked him to do something around the house.

I get pleasure from seeing my family enjoy a meal that I prepare for them. They don't all eat the same, so I generally try to make sure there is at least 2 things on their plates that they love, then have them taste the rest. Just because you like something doesn't mean they have to. It's not living in the dark ages, it's simply enjoying individuality. My main job is to make sure the house runs smoothly, while my husband plays real life GI Joe.. all's good here.

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

Every day there is at least a couple threads of women saying their husbands can't cook....

Oh god. The horror.

I'm a traditional American.. that doesn't go for all of us lol