Why don't women pay for dates?

taunto
taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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In my country, when a man takes a woman out on a date, the woman pays for everything. The womens family usually does if she can't afford it. I like my culture. Why don't we have that in the west? I thought women have more means of making money there. Why have the man pay for your food?

I mean men here have multiple wives so its hard on our pocket. The least you can do is pick up a check...
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  • turtlefitnessdad
    turtlefitnessdad Posts: 585 Member
    (pulls up a chair)
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    *gets and pays for her own popcorn
  • stitchtastic
    stitchtastic Posts: 182
    Waits for the fireworks to start ;)
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    *gets and pays for her own popcorn
    :glasses:
  • chooriyah
    chooriyah Posts: 469 Member
    curious: which country is this?
  • Hbazzell
    Hbazzell Posts: 899 Member
    I feel like I should "lol" here.
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    In for fireworks :bigsmile:
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,342 Member
    That's my kind of country. Share all the house and man duties with the other wives.
  • chooriyah
    chooriyah Posts: 469 Member
    i'm kinda sad this thread isn't about escort services. thought it was going to be more interesting than just picking up the check...
  • sweetchildomine
    sweetchildomine Posts: 872 Member
    Because that is the minimal fee men have to pay to be graced with my presence. DUH.

    But in all seriousness...

    Even though you're a troll I'm going to humor you only because we just talked about this in my sociology class and I feel like sharing haha.

    To put it simply, it's the same reason male peacocks try to attract females by showing off their feathers. On top of that, in our culture, whether we like it or not, Men are seen as the "providers". When they take women on a date they are showing their ability to provide.

    Perhaps it's not fair but it's also not fair that a man will make more money than a woman in the same position. So stop complaining about paying for my chicken pot pie!!
  • twelfty
    twelfty Posts: 576 Member
    lol very "Borat-esque" i think i'll hazard an answer.... it comes from the gentlemanly chaps of old england who would open a door for the lady, escort her (because she needs to be? :S) then pay for her meal, it became traditional from there i guess.

    there's also the fact most men will ask a woman out for a date with "can i take you out to dinner?" or similar which implies he's buying her dinner, would seem a bit odd to say "i quite like you can you buy me dinner please?" lol
  • turtlefitnessdad
    turtlefitnessdad Posts: 585 Member
    because they don't get paid as well so guys have to.
  • melindanew
    melindanew Posts: 150 Member
    Hmm...wonder what else the Meeposians have to teach us?
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    because, why else would we take away from our busy schedules of being awesome to have to deal with some misogynist idiot?
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    because they don't get paid as well so guys have to.

    Calling BS on this one, friend.
  • britneyy32
    britneyy32 Posts: 97 Member
    Because that's how it is in our culture. But men still have more opportunity in the US than women, we still aren't completely equal so I think that men should at least still be the ones who pay for dates. They shouldn't have everything in their favor in my opinion. But people often split the bill for dates and in relationships equally pay for dates. I would be willing to pay for dates if I was in a long term relationship but if a guy asks you out on a date for the first time I think they should be a gentleman and pay.
  • shaunap3
    shaunap3 Posts: 206 Member
    If a guy can't go Dutch, I know it wont work out. I like to see that they are WILLING to pay the bill, but I want to split it.
  • twelfty
    twelfty Posts: 576 Member
    because, why else would we take away from our busy schedules of being awesome to have to deal with some misogynist idiot?

    so it's mysogynistic to say a woman is EQUAL to pay as much a man? ... wow
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    My fiancé rarely lets me pay for anything, it gets on my nerves sometimes but hey, he's a generous person.
  • turtlefitnessdad
    turtlefitnessdad Posts: 585 Member
    My fiancé rarely lets me pay for anything, it gets on my nerves sometimes but hey, he's a generous person.


    he does not ALLOW you to pay.........?
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I don't know.

    I always just thought women were poor and lazy . . . .
  • turtlefitnessdad
    turtlefitnessdad Posts: 585 Member
    I don't know.

    I always just thought women were poor and lazy . . . .


    i can't believe he said that! (steps back.....slowly)
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,342 Member
    I don't know.

    I always just thought women were poor and lazy . . . .

    Don't forget needy and entitled!
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
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    My husband likes to pay, which is funny because we have a joint bank account. When we were dating we took turns because we were both pretty broke.
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    My fiancé rarely lets me pay for anything, it gets on my nerves sometimes but hey, he's a generous person.


    he does not ALLOW you to pay.........?

    He usually pays when I go to the bar or toilet :laugh: he's sneaky...
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,342 Member
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    My husband likes to pay, which is funny because we have a joint bank account. When we were dating we took turns because we were both pretty broke.

    Haahaa my other half likes to make me pay for everything, because we have joint accounts and it amuses him to make it look like he bums off me.
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    I don't know.

    I always just thought women were poor and lazy . . . .
    They might be in London, mate...
  • LadyPakal
    LadyPakal Posts: 256 Member
    If someone asks ME out, I assume they will pay. If I ask THEM out, I would pay. Simples.
  • turtlefitnessdad
    turtlefitnessdad Posts: 585 Member
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  • stephdeeable
    stephdeeable Posts: 1,407 Member
    I have no problem paying if they put out.

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