Friends List envy?

I know how you feel! LOL I mostly FR people whose comments I like but YES I have looked at my friends' friends and wished that I knew them better. I just don't request them because I haven't interacted with them on the forums or otherwise and I need a reason to reach out. I know SOME on here don't feel that way, but I do.

this thread has apparently led to a bunch of friends requests being sent and received. i guess the moral really is... "don't be a wuss, send the friend request".

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If I get rejected I'm blaming you.

this thread has apparently led to a bunch of friends requests being sent and received all across my friends list. i guess the moral really is... "don't be a wuss, send the friend request".

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Sympathy FRs.

I add people if I like them in general or if they're funny or even if they just interact with me. I don't really care too much if I'm declined, but that's probably because I forget the requests I've sent immediately after sending them.

um...no. It would never occur to me to look at friends' friends. Sorry....

Because with as many friends as I have, I feel like a goofball sending out FR's.

I was shocked when I saw your FR. He wants to be friends with little old me?! People take it as a compliment, not that you're a goofball.

+1!

this thread has apparently led to a bunch of friends requests being sent and received all across my friends list. i guess the moral really is... "don't be a wuss, send the friend request".

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Sympathy FRs.

everybody's different. what works for me, might not work for you. etc.

Sorry hun, but you are not a special snowflake.

i see some that comment on my friends' posts, whom i would love to add...but i think they wouldn't accept. Mostly because they state on their profile that they aren't accepting new friends etc etc...and their friend list is quite intimidating already:blushing:

Also, i go all Fluttershy and tongue-tied at their awesomeness and wit on the forums. and my mind goes blank when i have to type out a friend request message.

i have a whole list of people i would love to add...but if they reject my request i shall DIE :laugh: :brokenheart:

Here's something I have to say about deleting people and then not responding to their PMs for an explanation:

Some times it's hard to say, "I wasn't feeling what you said/did/etc." without getting in to the down and dirty of your own psyche. Usually when I delete someone it's because of my own craziness and not necessarily something they've done. BUT, then, later, I some times second guess my decision to have deleted someone, but I feel like it's too late to go back and make things right, so I just sit around wondering if I'm ever going to get the balls to just talk it out and see what happens. I was on the weird *kitten* end of a friend deletion "thing" and it felt ... well... weird. And it made me not want to add or delete anyone ever again.


Fact is - even people who are cool have insecurities and their own mental crap... so hopefully there aren't a ton of hard feelings out there, because we're all battling our own demons.

Here's something I have to say about deleting people and then not responding to their PMs for an explanation:

Some times it's hard to say, "I wasn't feeling what you said/did/etc." without getting in to the down and dirty of your own psyche. Usually when I delete someone it's because of my own craziness and not necessarily something they've done. BUT, then, later, I some times second guess my decision to have deleted someone, but I feel like it's too late to go back and make things right, so I just sit around wondering if I'm ever going to get the balls to just talk it out and see what happens. I was on the weird *kitten* end of a friend deletion "thing" and it felt ... well... weird. And it made me not want to add or delete anyone ever again.


Fact is - even people who are cool have insecurities and their own mental crap... so hopefully there aren't a ton of hard feelings out there, because we're all battling our own demons.

I would rather someone just delete me and not tell me why. If we haven't been interacting I probably won't even notice and if we had a major disagreement then I probably already know and won't be surprised.

Fact is - even people who are cool have insecurities and their own mental crap... so hopefully there aren't a ton of hard feelings out there, because we're all battling our own demons.

That's right. We're battling our own demons. Truth is, most people don't know us and have no idea what we've been through or why we do or say or think certain things. Walk a mile in someone's shoes and all that. Especially on sites like this, people only see a smidgeon, a tiny glimpse, of another person, and it's often colored by their own filters anyway. For example, I've been going through a certain phase, I guess, where I've been perhaps a bit over-the-top silly and goofy. There's a reason for that, a need to balance out a previous period of hardship and seriousness. But people don't know that and I hadn't told anyone until just recently. So some may see all my goofy threads that I make and form judgments that I'm attention seeking, whatever. Good for them, judgmental people judge. People love to judge. Frankly, I don't need those kinds of people as friends. More important things in life. But yeah, I can't deny that it does still suck to encounter that kind of attitude.

I recently noticed someone FR'd a ton of my friends...She is on my FL...I find this a bit annoying.
I wish I had the courage to ask her what her deal is..I feel like Im being copy catted.
Im way cooler and funnier than said girl, so Im not in fear of losing my Ppl..Im just aggravated that she doesnt have any thing better to do, than follow me round.

I recently noticed someone FR'd a ton of my friends...She is on my FL...I find this a bit annoying.
I wish I had the courage to ask her what her deal is..I feel like Im being copy catted.
Im way cooler and funnier than said girl, so Im not in fear of losing my Ppl..Im just aggravated that she doesnt have any thing better to do, than follow me round.

Wow, that's really insensitive.

Just shows how people can carry on living their lives with no regard for how another might feel about all their decisions... :grumble:

I'm shy and have a fear of rejection. :sad: