'No, I don't date BIG girls'
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I've actually been in situations where the girl I was interested in told me I wasn't tall enough (I'm 5' 7") to be attractive to her. Should I have been outraged at her heightism (especially compared to folks not liking "big girls,"since height is generally much less under our control than body weight/composition), or should I have shrugged my shoulders, considered it her loss, and moved on?0
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I feel personally attacked by this thread. I have a strict dating policy. I don't date girls that are over 153 lbs. based on hight. If she is under 4'5" well your just out of luck with this roller coaster. Over 5'9" Sorry charlie tuna. I have a scale set up in my entrance way to help me. with a coat rack placed by the side I'm able to determine this pretty easily and without her ever knowing.
I simply make an excuse and ask her to leave.
I don't see why my personal preferences should be attacked or looked down upon. I am simply being honest and strait forward. If a girl asks me about it. Yes I say, I don't date big girls. I usually then ask to see their mothers, because that's pretty much what they are going to end up looking like.
I don't look a thing like my mother when she was my age...don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but I definitely take better care of myself than she did and look and feel better than she did at my age.0 -
I think everybody has preferences and deal breakers, period.
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Would you rather he dated for years and years and years and then tell you "I wouldn't marry a big girl"?
It drives me batty when people are upfront and honest from the get-go and the other person still can't appreciate that.
When I was in my first year of my Army career, I dated a girl for almost a year before I found out her Lieutenant husband was going to be coming home from Korea. I met her friends AND her family in that year and ALL of them went along with her little ruse. Then she had the nerve to get pissed at me when I walked away without even blinking an eye.
Be happy that this guy put his cards on the table. The next one might string you along for years before you find out that he's on parole for murder or rape...0 -
yah. although there are cases to the contrary:
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if you are a million/billionaire.
My top weight was 350. My wife's a buck fifty. I'm not super rich.
I guess I'm just lucky I'm good in the sack.
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Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.
YES!
yah. although there are cases to the contrary:
also age is no barrier
if you are a million/billionaire.
Yea, now we just need that one guy who always complains about women to start a thread wondering why hot, young beauties refuse to date poor, fat guys . . . ya know, 'cause we need more butt hurt about non-issues0 -
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Who really says that nowadays?
It really bothers me when some, and I repeat, some guys think 'big girls' are nasty, stinky, lazy, and whatever other degrading adjective comes to mind. Seriously, those kind of guys need to get over that thought because it makes them look like a cocky, dumb, *kitten*.
What are your feelings about that?
My feeling is that I very, very rarely see a thin girl with a big fat guy.
I guess the main difference is that girls have enough tact not to say they don't date fat guys. But... they pretty much don't date fat guys.
YES!
yah. although there are cases to the contrary:
also age is no barrier
if you are a million/billionaire.
Yea, now we just need that one guy who always complains about women to start a thread wondering why hot, young beauties refuse to date poor, fat guys . . . ya know, 'cause we need more butt hurt about non-issues
high 5! best butthurt thread for ages!0 -
I.........like big butts and i can not lie - Sir Mix-A-Lot0
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I.........like big butts and i can not lie - Sir Mix-A-Lot
I.......like big butts and I can not lie-ME0 -
I'm glad to see this is still going strong
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Meh, big girls aren't an issue provided that they have the personality that I prefer.
And while my options are limited as a big guy, there ARE women who can look past that.0 -
When I was dating (and very fit), I immediately rejected any guy who indicated he didn't date "fat chicks." Even if an online profile said, "HWP," I would write that guy off. I figured if a guy wouldn't take the time to know me when I was fat, I certainly didn't want to know him when I was fit.
When you were fit did you give fat guys the same amount of time or consideration as fit guys?
I'm fit and the last guy I dated is 300+ pounds.
I dated a fit girl (fitness model) who wanted me to GAIN weight she thought it was sexy...0 -
Hmm, my boyfriend said he wouldn't have dated me if I was 'big'. It's a preference.0
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A friend of mine "jokingly" told me once that I wasn't pretty enough for him to date... I was offended, but let it go... I wasn't interested in him anyway. Then over the next 3 years I lost 60 lbs and all of a sudden he's butt hurt that I won't consider him as a prospective boyfriend...
People like that aren't worth your time. He's still my friend, but I don't want to date him any more now than I did then... It's a preference, but they don't have to flat out say something like that... You don't have to come right out and say "you're not pretty enough," you can leave it at you're not interested.0 -
It's a matter of opinion.
I wouldn't date a big, fat guy.0 -
The primary issue is in them SAYING that. A simple "not interested" should suffice.
Your mama raised you right! ;-)0 -
I.........like big butts and i can not lie - Sir Mix-A-Lot
I.......like big butts and I can not lie-ME
Lol..yup thats my motto..don't come to me looking like KATE MOSS! I wanna round juicy butt like a question mark (see j-Lo or Kim Kardashian PRE-pregnancy). Big but not too big!0 -
Anyone can say they're not shallow or superficial and that looks don't matter, but the bottom line is- they can have a great personality, but if there's no physical attraction the relationship isn't going to work.
But of course, if you don't like "fat chicks" then you can simply not date them and keep your ****e-y, rude, flat-out-mean comments to yourselves. Your preference is no reason to encourage self-deprecation, dead self-esteem, depression, and the development of eating disorders.
In some Asian and African societies, the bigger a woman is the more attractive she's considered, so it truly is a cultural thing.
Biologically, men are wired to be attracted to women with some fat on her and some hips, because those women are better suited to carry a healthy baby, keeping healthy herself, and have the capacity to adequately nourish said baby.
This is biologically a fact. It encourages the continuation of the species. Therefore, it's proof that a man's 'hatred' and detest-ment of bigger women is completely caused by cultural influence. Men are biologically supposed to be attracted to women that have the body and hips to carry a healthy baby, not be attracted to women who fall down in 5mph wind.
It's unfortunate, blame the media. They're the villains telling us that to appear perfect and beautiful, you have to have a body resembling that of a 12 year-old Justin Bieber.0 -
Not even going to bother reading through this, but why would you ever presume to tell someone they can't have a preference, especially when it comes to physical attraction? I am attracted to who I am attracted to, and political correctness has nothing to do with it.
Or was the whole point of this that you got upset at being referred to as "big"?0 -
I think that people definitely have personal preferences, some more conscious than others. You can't fake attraction especially in the long term. It's probably harder to stomach when it comes to traits such as being "big" as opposed to not being attracted to a "blond".
In the end, you can't control what people like and don't like. I do believe, however, that if that person is directly telling you why they're not interested in you, than they should at least have the decency to be polite.0 -
I.........like big butts and i can not lie - Sir Mix-A-Lot
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My two cents:
I don't know that stating you think big girls are lazy is a statement on preference. Just saying, looks like everyone jumped on the "you like what you like" band wagon but I'm pretty sure its not about liking fit girls. What's wrong with just turning someone down generally? To me only a douche would say you're lazy and funky and it shows because your big. That's not non-PC. That's douche speak. I equate that with the "you're black so *insert stupid stereotype*". I certainly have a preference but it doesn't define everything. I mean to me its kind of idiotic to say all of your other qualities are negated because of your big head, eyes set to wide apart or some mess like that. But that's me, if you generally don't date big women that's just preference. If you happen to see a woman you are not attracted to wink at you and you assume all kinds of things based on how she looks and decide to tell her so...that's ignorance.0 -
In the end, you can't control what people like and don't like. I do believe, however, that if that person is directly telling you why they're not interested in you, than they should at least have the decency to be polite.
jesus, on here you cant even respond to a thread "no i dont date big girls" and be honest without all sorts of negativity !!!!
In the real world you take your life in your own hands even when you reject a woman politely as it stirs incredable anger and negativity towards you..0 -
I have and will continue to date all different types of women. I love them big, small, tall, short,etc.0
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You don't like it - smile, nod and move on. Thats what I do.0
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I could think of something to do with her. Dated plenty of crazy girls and they are very good at one thingI have rarely been attracted to a woman based solely on her looks. I don't want to date carnival side show fat lady, but I'm a lot more interested in a woman that is comfortable with her own appearance. That is sexy. And, by the way, it is rarer than one would think.
There are a lot of people that project a confident air without feeling it. That's unfortunate.
I want a self suffiient, confident person. One that doesn't need me to bolster her, but wants me by her side.
Already found her 25 years ago. She can operate just fine without me in her life, but chose me to be with her. I am sure I could live my life without her, as well, but I couldn't imagine doing so.
Ya, that's why the date, marry, etc threads ARE TRULY BAFFLING!
I only think "what you people have never dated or married someone crazy?!"
If Kate Upton wanted to date me, but liked to argue over senseless nonsense I would have nothing to do with her.
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You know what I love in a man? A nice big nose. I love big noses and I cannot lie. I really dislike small noses. I also hate nose hair. If a guy looks like a party favor when he sneezes, I just really am not attracted to that. I have been rejected for reasons just as superficial. I think people only get offended if they are on the receiving end of such preference.0
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I don't date skinny guys. Am I now a bad person for not doing that?0
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we all have our preferences I go for personalities more than people my bf is 310 and 6'3 dont get me wrong I want him to be leaner he does have alot of muscle though.Hes black after my divorce because my kids are all caucasian people were shocked and all I could think is how small minded. Oh well people do what they wanna do. There are great men who wouldnt date a really thin woman. You just have to wait for yours love. 0
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Everyone has a preference...there are guys that date big girls...that particular person just wasn't one...I don't think it's rude...its honest...if you don't like big girls don't date them. Im a big girl trying to become a fit girl,but have never been offended nor would I be offended by a man who would not want to date me based on my size (his loss) ...if you don't like corn chips don't eat it.0
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