Absence Before Marriage

You can do and be anything you want...do not have sex before marriage but really explore why you feel this way..sex is so healthy amazing a gift from God I have it regularly and it is great for my fitness goals as well....!

I don't understand abstinence at all, your virginity isn't a gift to give someone, it was treasured before because back then there was no DNA tests and wealthy men wanted to insure that the son that will inherit his wealth is ACTUALLY his.
Sex isn't a gift to give to man either, since both parties should be able to enjoy it equally if it is done right.
To all the men and women saying that they would date someone with "too many miles on them", shame on you. How does respecting someone correlates with how many ****s you had in you?!
Also abstinence is the most ridiculous form of contraception, use condoms
Educate yourselves and stop slut-shaming.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCw2MzKjpoo

Firstt hat's your opinion. Second don't you ever try and say that I'm uneducated because I don't want to give up my virginity to just anyone. I want it to be special and I'm really sorry if your first time wasn't special but that doesn't mean that it can't be special. What you're doing is bacisically shaming anyone whose a virgin on this thread by telling us we're uneducated and essentially rude. I don't give a **** who sleeps with who, I don't care if you really ARE the biggest slut in the world, I'm never going to assume that of someone else because you dont' know what has gone on in there life to make them do what they do.


Also to the person that is running around saying that rape victims are no longer virgins, I don't see it that way. I know what virginity is 'technically' supposed to mean but I don't see rape as sex. I see sex as two people consenting to complete that kind of act together. Rape is forced, and you still have that peice of you who WANTS to do it to give away, and I think that is, to ME what my virginity is. The piece of me that wants to give my first time away to someone I care about. If that's wrong to other people fine, but it's what I believe and it's MY body. I really wish people would understand that more. It's great to have your opinions on what YOU would do but to sit here and blantantly tell people they are wrong for either wanting to have sex or for not wanting to have sex is not okay. We all own our own bodies, they are ours to do with what we will. No one has the power to tell us otherwise, not even God IF YOU CHOOSE TO BELIEVE, and if you don't that's great for you but no matter what you should never EVER let someone else make those chooses for you.

I honestly hope that everyone here who is bashing others comes to understand that you shouldn't attack and belittle other people for doing things the way they want with their own body. I came here thinking it would be nice to maybe find some like minds, and of course see other peoples opinions but the amount of shaming and putting down has made me sick. You can state your opinions without bashing other people's. My opinion hasn't changed. I'm holding out for the right guy, the right moment, I'll know when I'm ready, I'll know when it's that moment.

Darling mayday,

Your sex life is yours alone. No-one can or should tell you who to sleep with.

Using phrases like "the biggest slut in the world" means that you think you have the right to say who someone else should sleep with.

If you want someone to respect your sex life then you should extend the same consideration to others, n'est pas?

Did you even read the whole thing? I said I don't care if you are, as in I don't care if everyone else is running aruond saying that about you and that is your reputation, but I'm not going to say that. I don't care who sleeps with who ever because it's not my business and honestly I really don't care for the details of anyone's private life. If you want to sleep with tons of people, I don't care, if you want to sleep with a few people, don't give a ****, if you just want to sleep with one person, good for you have fun, and if you don't ever want to have sex, that's your choose. Why would I care what goes on with people in their bedrooms, behind closed doors (or however else/wherever else they care to do it)

Yes, I read the whole thing. You said that you don't care if I have a slutty reputation.

That assumes there is such a thing as a slutty reputation for you to disregard.

My contention is that there is no such thing as a slut or a bad reputation. The idea that women should be classified according to their sexual activity is repugnant.

Uhhh...your contention is stupid. It aims to change the voiced opinion of much of the world. Good luck with that.

Not that I disagree with what you're saying...but all the same, good luck with that. As long as you're at it, you should campaign for men not being called slutty for being, you know, slutty. Just to keep things totally equal and non-offensive.

Yes, I read the whole thing. You said that you don't care if I have a slutty reputation.

That assumes there is such a thing as a slutty reputation for you to disregard.

My contention is that there is no such thing as a slut or a bad reputation. The idea that women should be classified according to their sexual activity is repugnant.

Uhhh...your contention is stupid. It aims to change the voiced opinion of much of the world. Good luck with that.

Not that I disagree with what you're saying...but all the same, good luck with that. As long as you're at it, you should campaign for men not being called slutty for being, you know, slutty. Just to keep things totally equal and non-offensive.

The idea that men should be classified according to their sexual activity is equally repugnant. Women suffer such classification disproportionally, I reckon. No data to offer, though.

However, to say that "God wants the very best for people and knows that more intimacy and trust is lost with each partner" is, in my opinion, a silly way to think. I also think this statement could only come from someone who does not have the experience of intimacy and trust with many people.

You know nothing about me

What if you got married and then realized you are not sexually compatible???
I would not want to put myself in that position! I am not going to tell anyone else what to do though.

God, mustang, what are you saying?

The only person who has any say regarding a woman's sex life is the lady herself.

Anyone who says differently is a sexist sob.

What century are we in, again?

Its up to you! if you think that is what your heart is leading you to do then do it, say pure.. but stick to it... don't do none of this in the middle bs... either you keep the oven off or turn it on.

What if you got married and then realized you are not sexually compatible???
I would not want to put myself in that position! I am not going to tell anyone else what to do though.

Not to pick you out personally, but to use your point as it has been echoed many times in this thread.

Are married couples incapable of growth and change?
If they're not so hot the first night, week, month then their fate is set in stone?
They can't learn what their spouse enjoys and work to change and please them?
I believe you can be with someone for years and think you know all about them only to discover new, deeper facets of their personality.
And we change as we grow older and (hopefully) more mature.
What if someone is great in bed while you're dating/ engaged and then becomes a dud after you're married?