Not interested in my husband anymore

That's all I got

If only you could've shown your husband the respect of discussing this with him privately rather than telling everyone on the Internet how you still get turned on, just not for him, and that you have to resort to fantasizing about other men in order to have sex with him ... I would've said maybe a good old-fashioned adult conversation could help. But you clearly don't respect your husband and are very clearly not in love with him anymore, so yeah, I've got nothing.

Don't assume I don't have respect for my husband because i am not going about a problem the same way you would, please. It's not fair. You yourself are not married, so how would you know you wouldn't respond the same way? Mile in someone else's shoes, you know?

Also, my OP clearly states I am still in love with him emotionally. Learn to read good-er.

But are you really? Besides sex, do you look forward to spending time with him? Do you laugh with him, flirt with him, have date-nights? You really do have to work to keep romance and passion in a marriage, especially after you have children. Maybe if you work on bringing the romance back the passion will follow. You can even incorporate fitness and health into dates, go hiking, biking, cook together, etc. And I agree that you should have sex anyway, even if you have to fantasize, but NOT because he'll find it elsewhere (WTF?) but because hopefully, it'll build interest in him. Watch sexy movies together, use toys, lingerie, etc.

You MUST discuss this with him if you want your marriage to work!

^ This!!

It is okay, a lot of people nowadays don't mean "till death do us part". Why did you marry him? or were you young and just settled cause that was the next logical step?

I would say just divorce but that would kinda suck for the kid.

Depending on what type of guy he might be open to other things. I know this lady who gets railed by other guys while her man watches, they seem very happy. Or open the relationship up and let him get it else where.

Did this start once you got in fitness? also is there someone else you are emotionally are invested in (talk a lot too about your personal life), your body could be telling you they want that person now because they are stimulating you in better ways.

OP, how often do you and your husband touch in a non sexual manner? Hold hands? Rub each other as you pass by? Lean in and kiss each other "just because"? All of those are intimate acts, but not necessarily sexual. They are ways to stay connected to each other emotionally and physically, which in turn builds the desire to be together.

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I would 100% like to remind you .. You MADE a vowel to love this man through thick and thin...

When I buy a vowel I make sure it's 100% worth it too.

Blah blah vow.. Sue m e.. On another note..

Your Eyes...... They scare the **** out of me

I'll sue you for grammatical travesty.

BTW - ellipses have three periods, not two.

If only you could've shown your husband the respect of discussing this with him privately rather than telling everyone on the Internet how you still get turned on, just not for him, and that you have to resort to fantasizing about other men in order to have sex with him ... I would've said maybe a good old-fashioned adult conversation could help. But you clearly don't respect your husband and are very clearly not in love with him anymore, so yeah, I've got nothing.

That's so far off base and judgmental, I don't even know what to do with it. What a rotten thing to say, and horrible assumptions to make. She very clearly DOES love the guy...loves him enough to not cheat on him, to not crush him emotionally, to WANT to fix the problem without making him feel like crap about himself in the process. Which shows she has nothing but love and respect for him. Disrespect would be screwing around on him, or talking about this with her friends and family behind his back. Asking, anonymously, for help with personal issues, is not disrespectful.

OP, have you done any soul searching to see if maybe your lack of drive with him is a reflection of something internal, related to you? I know that when I have desire issues, it's usually some deep-seeded issue of my own, not something anyone else caused or could resolve. Sometimes inner reflection is the best road to recovery :flowerforyou:

You wouldn't happen to have just started a birth control or something along those lines per chance?

When I was on birth control I didn't want anyone to touch me. It was awful and I felt bad for my husband. After a little research in how it can screw with your emotions and hormones I went off of it, and eventually over about 2 months of recovery, I wanted my husband again.

The only difference between you and I is that I didn't want sex at all. BC affects people differently so if you are on it, and there are no other emotional issues like other commenters have stated then it is worth looking into.

Your not switch hitting in the bottom of the 9th inning, are you? Just kidding

It honestly sounds like you are just bored and need some excitement. Try doing some things you two wouldn't normally do, both between the sheets and activities together.

OP, you said you're young.... how young?

I'm quite an active member. "Has one post and no picture"

haha enjoy your dry spell troll.

You're an idiot. They made up a profile to ask the question.

why the long face horseman

I'm wondering if something like erotic massage may be a spark to get things going again. Intimate but the focus is on the journey rather than the destination. Music, candles, scents, oils. You close your eyes, relax and let his touches speak without your eyes to silence him.