In love with a guy who is engaged!

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

He is a complete loser for doing this to his poor fiancee and this... girl is completely wrong for encouraging an engaged man. I'll rephrase that. PEOPLE like that make me sick.

If someone else's business riles you up this strongly you really need to check yourself. That's not healthy at all.

She's free to have feelings. He's free to have feelings. We're all human. Sometimes things happen and life doesn't go the way we were expecting it to.

But I would agree that this guy does sound like bad news. If he had broken off the engagement already it would be one thing. I would be cautious.

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

WOW. Calling this rude would be an understatement.

Exactly. Don't be mad at her. She is single. Be mad at him. He is the one to blame if in fact he is acting towards this lady in ways he wouldn't around his woman. People always do this.

Move along, trollop.

Really? Come on, this is just uncalled for. There's no need for name calling.

2 things:

Think about down the road. Let's say he breaks it off with his fiance and starts dating you. Let's say you have been dating for several years, the newness has warn off and at some point he could meet another girl and maybe he will start to confide in her the way he confides in you now. Whether he will or not, because of the way he is behaving with his current fiance, it is likely he will again. If you think you could handle that than it may be worth telling him how you feel. I definetly wouldn't suggest anything but you could at least let him know how you feel.

When I met my current fiance, he was dating someone else. We became friends and I developed a major crush on him but never did anything about it. We were friends for two years and fortunetly for me, they broke up, for their own reasons, none of which had anything to do with me. Several months after they broke up he told me that he liked me. Knowing he had just come out of a relationship I told him I wanted to take it slow. Those first 6 months when we started dating, drove me crazy!! I was worried out of my mind that I was a rebound, or that he'd realize he still loved his ex, or that whatever this was for him would sizzle out. So far it hasn't, we've been dating for over 3 years now, we live together and he asked me to marry him this summer. He is the most amazing person I have ever met and I am still madly in love with him. I trust him. Do you think you could trust this guy after what he's done to his current fiance? I trust him because when he was with her, everyone knew it and there were no questions. We were friends and that was clear. His ex did try a few things once we started dating and he made it clear to her that he was with me and happy. I don't question things anymore, but those first few months were nerve wracking. It is up to you as to whether or not you can accept these kind of challenges.

Also, watch the movie Drinking Buddies, I saw it on Netflix. It's about this exact situation.

+1 for move on. What's he doing getting engaged with someone when she doesn't "get him".

I suspect he just wants some new booty and is telling you what you want to hear.

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

WOW. Calling this rude would be an understatement.

Exactly. Don't be mad at her. She is single. Be mad at him. He is the one to blame if in fact he is acting towards this lady in ways he wouldn't around his woman. People always do this.

The other post was rude. I blame both parties though...both adults...both know right from wrong. OP make the right decisions.

This is giving me a major case of vicarious embarrassment. Who falls for the "but my finance(e)/bf/gf/wife/huz just doesn't understand me like you do line?

I say that to all the women online. Works like a charm.

Ben and Jerry try to pull this one on me all the time

But in all honesty, you sounds completely smitten and if he didn't leave his fiance and run to you he probably doesn't feel the same. Sorry Charlie

Forget it. Honestly this guys sounds like he wants a side relationship.. In my Opinion if he is even trying to go to the movies with another woman while his girl is working late... He is not ready for marriage. In my opinion married couple should go out with other couples that they were already friends with from the start. (to avoid swingers and cheaters )