my hubby paying me to lose weight

Take a chill pill, folks! I am a stay at home mother and don't contribute financially to our marriage, but we still consider the money my hubby makes ours. We make all financial decisions together and decide how to spend what he brings in. If my husband wanted to give me x amount of cash for the amount of weight I'd lost that I could spend any way I wanted, I'd say "Thanks, baby!", and I'd go buy some new, smaller clothes. I don't normally spend much on myself, so it would be great. Maybe that's the situation with the OP. Nobody asked her before they started talking about how creepy they thought it was. Good luck with your weight loss, OP!

Take a chill pill, folks! I am a stay at home mother and don't contribute financially to our marriage, but we still consider the money my hubby makes ours. We make all financial decisions together and decide how to spend what he brings in.

You totally contribute! Your time is worth money. How much would you have to pay for child care? Or a cleaning person? And would taking a job (after taxes) cover those expenses? How much family time would you have and how much is that worth?

My boyfriend offered to open a bank account for me and put money into my "weight loss fund" but I said no thanks. It isn't a good incentive for me. I have found that if I am not doing it JUST for me, I feel guilty about stuff. And then I don't want to do anything!

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Take a chill pill, folks! I am a stay at home mother and don't contribute financially to our marriage, but we still consider the money my hubby makes ours. We make all financial decisions together and decide how to spend what he brings in. If my husband wanted to give me x amount of cash for the amount of weight I'd lost that I could spend any way I wanted, I'd say "Thanks, baby!", and I'd go buy some new, smaller clothes. I don't normally spend much on myself, so it would be great. Maybe that's the situation with the OP. Nobody asked her before they started talking about how creepy they thought it was. Good luck with your weight loss, OP!

1) The idea that you don't contribute financially is crazy.

2) The idea that the money he makes is "ours" but that he has the power to hand you some of it as cash as payment for services is nuts.

"Crazy" and "nuts" interesting. So she's crazy?

I think the fact that you are so offended by this when you know what she meant by "financially" (she definitely contributes), and cannot understand that you are taking this way too seriously, speaks volumes.

Take a chill pill, folks! I am a stay at home mother and don't contribute financially to our marriage, but we still consider the money my hubby makes ours. We make all financial decisions together and decide how to spend what he brings in. If my husband wanted to give me x amount of cash for the amount of weight I'd lost that I could spend any way I wanted, I'd say "Thanks, baby!", and I'd go buy some new, smaller clothes. I don't normally spend much on myself, so it would be great. Maybe that's the situation with the OP. Nobody asked her before they started talking about how creepy they thought it was. Good luck with your weight loss, OP!

1) The idea that you don't contribute financially is crazy.

2) The idea that the money he makes is "ours" but that he has the power to hand you some of it as cash as payment for services is nuts.

"Crazy" and "nuts" interesting. So she's crazy?

I think the fact that you are so offended by this when you know what she meant by "financially" (she definitely contributes), and cannot understand that you are taking this way too seriously, speaks volumes.

I never said anyone was crazy, I am not offended by anything, and you don't get to determine what I'm taking too seriously. Nice try though.

Take a chill pill, folks! I am a stay at home mother and don't contribute financially to our marriage, but we still consider the money my hubby makes ours. We make all financial decisions together and decide how to spend what he brings in. If my husband wanted to give me x amount of cash for the amount of weight I'd lost that I could spend any way I wanted, I'd say "Thanks, baby!", and I'd go buy some new, smaller clothes. I don't normally spend much on myself, so it would be great. Maybe that's the situation with the OP. Nobody asked her before they started talking about how creepy they thought it was. Good luck with your weight loss, OP!

1) The idea that you don't contribute financially is crazy.

2) The idea that the money he makes is "ours" but that he has the power to hand you some of it as cash as payment for services is nuts.

"Crazy" and "nuts" interesting. So she's crazy?

I think the fact that you are so offended by this when you know what she meant by "financially" (she definitely contributes), and cannot understand that you are taking this way too seriously, speaks volumes.

I never said anyone was crazy, I am not offended by anything, and you don't get to determine what I'm taking too seriously. Nice try though.

I just quoted your words.* You seem awfully happy to judge other people's little arrangements in their marriages and rage about it for hours. But sure, you tell yourself whatever you need to tell yourself when you're judging others.

* Which you deleted with an edit. That's a nice touch.

Pretty sure I'm reading "crazy" and "nuts" in the quoted part.

Very judgmental. Also a little misguided to think that a parent who stays at home with children isn't contributing. Plenty of stay at home moms and dads on this website who I'm sure just love to read that they're not contributing.

Not all contributions are financial. It's petty to think they are.

I just quoted your words.* You seem awfully happy to judge other people's little arrangements in their marriages and rage about it for hours. But sure, you tell yourself whatever you need to tell yourself when you're judging others.

* Which you deleted with an edit. That's a nice touch.

I deleted before anyone responded. You must have been typing your post when I deleted.

And yeah I've been "raging for hours." Look at me fuming, all over the place. I'm out of control.

You did get yourself in quite the knot earlier :flowerforyou:

I just quoted your words.* You seem awfully happy to judge other people's little arrangements in their marriages and rage about it for hours. But sure, you tell yourself whatever you need to tell yourself when you're judging others.

* Which you deleted with an edit. That's a nice touch.

I deleted before anyone responded. You must have been typing your post when I deleted.

And yeah I've been "raging for hours." Look at me fuming, all over the place. I'm out of control.

You did get yourself in quite the knot earlier :flowerforyou:

I got mildly annoyed that someone on my friend list was straight-up mocking my opinion on a subject. The error has been corrected.

I just quoted your words.* You seem awfully happy to judge other people's little arrangements in their marriages and rage about it for hours. But sure, you tell yourself whatever you need to tell yourself when you're judging others.

* Which you deleted with an edit. That's a nice touch.

I deleted before anyone responded. You must have been typing your post when I deleted.

And yeah I've been "raging for hours." Look at me fuming, all over the place. I'm out of control.

You did get yourself in quite the knot earlier :flowerforyou:

I got mildly annoyed that someone on my friend list was straight-up mocking my opinion on a subject. The error has been corrected.

It did remove a good bit of unnecessary and unwanted drama on that other person's wall. :flowerforyou: