WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2014

Sandy – Wow, I have never shattered a tooth, sounds painful – take care:sick:

Vicki – I am with you on a weeknight gig – now I own my own business and can adjust my hours, but before I would not have gone more than probably a 30 min drive each way on a work day – especially if I had to go home then back out.. Often once I was home; I was out of my car until morning. :happy:

Barbie – What a busy time! I hate it when the internet (and host company) decide to leave my world! We are so dependent on it ! best wishes to Jake.

DeeDee – glad the day was better – and how great that in addition to a remodel you are getting tons of extra steps!

Alison – it sounds like a really busy day planned, that must mean (I hope) you are feeling better.

YaannieJannie – So when you have been to the concert you will have to give a full report! The price of tickets is why his concert is still on my bucket list.

JB --- wonders of Wednesday – I am starting to scan for your posts everyday for a new poem! Love them.

Heather – I want to come to your house for dinner- that sounds so yummy!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Brenda – congrats on bye, bye, 1 more pound:drinker:

Katla – I have also lost my glasses like that; but I can’t drive without them so I wander around feeling everything – hoping to feel them and not step on them.

Stow62 - enjoy! :drinker:

Jane – did your DGD do locks of love with her hair? I did it a couple of times – it is a great thing; and so nice to start when you are young!

Another beautiful day, Levi and I did our morning walk and have to get working!

So tonight I will be going to my Mom's house - I love her, but don't like her, it is a long and difficult subject, but she has invited me to cocktails at her house with some of her friends and then for me to take her out to dinner (yes you read that right she invited me to pay for her dinner; she can easily afford it ) She dreams these things up periodically and I only agree occasionally. So it will be tough calorie wise. She is not very supportive - she tells me I am fat and ugly, but will serve drinks and fattening appetizers and then want to eat out at her favorite greasy spoon. So I did tell her I would pay for dinner; but I was picking the place - I'll pick somewhere she likes, but that has a choice or two that will work for me. not quite sure how I'll handle the drinks - as drinking a lot makes the evening easier to get through without being prickly, and over sensitive. So if around 4pm PST anyone has any extra patience and will power please send it my way! :bigsmile:

Kim in Sunny and warm (80's) N. Cal

Happy Thursday everyone:happy: , I'm loving reading all these posts, I'm at work and the bosses are all out and trying to catch up with what everyone is up to.

Kim, hope all went well last night, its 10.22am in London on Thursday 10th April, so missed your post yesterday. Just wanted to say that I can totally sympathise with your situation with your mum, I have a similar problem with my aunty, (my mum's sister in law). Its too complicated and long drawn out to write down. Families can't do with them or without them!!:flowerforyou: Keep your chin up, take your left hand and put it on your right shoulder and take your right hand and put it on your left shoulder, give yourself a massive hug while looking in the mirror and tell yourself YOU ARE GORGEOUS AND BEAUTIFUL, after a while of doing this you will believe in yourself. I work for a psychotherapist and read a lot of self help books, they do work, you need to believe in you as you are an important person. :bigsmile:

Sandy hope your feeling better, my DD (does that mean darling daughter?) and I ran 1 mile last night then did a 60 min circuit training class, boy did that take it out of us!!

I am so pleased to report that when jumped on the scales this morning I'm finally under 10 stone, 9.13lbs this weights finally shifting in the right direction. :bigsmile:

Ops bosses are coming back, better get on with some work will check in later
Have a wonderful day everyone keep smiling:happy:
Val in London UK

Good morning to All, I've gone back a few pages but have no more time to go any farther back. I hope all is well with everyone. I missed work yesterday as I seemd to have caught some type of bug and spent Tuesday night hugging the toilet. Yesterday I could not stay awake and dozed on and off all dya, thought I'd be up all night but slept with the help of Tylenol PM. I ate nothing yesterday but part of a piece of toast and some chicken noodle soup so wasn't suprised to be down two more lbs. I feel a lot better today but still have no desire to eat anything.
Next Saturday my daughter has a pinning ceromony, she is graduating from college and will be taking her state test to be an RN. I'm very proud of her. She did all this while raising twin daughters (age 12 now) taking care of a house and her boyfriend and his son live there as well, and she works full time.
I am having my two daughters and their families to my house for Easter this year, for brunch. I pray the weather will be good and we can have an outdoor Easter Egg hunt. Now I have to think of a menu, unclutter and get my Spring cleaning done and get out and get eggs to hide. I am going to have a very busy week-end.

Heather UK, Hope your lunch goes well, it sounds yummy!
Jane, Glad no tears, I have arthritis too and it is painful. The cortisone worked wonders for me, I hope it does for you too.
Grandmallie, How is the water drinking going? 78 oz cup must be huge. I have a 20 oz and try to drink two of them at work every day and then two more in the evenings.
Tigress GA, A massage sounds wonderful, glad you enjoyed yours.
PinkyPan1, Welcome! I’m from Ohio too. I live outside of Cincinnati. Wow, what a wake- up call. It sounds like you are doing all the right things now, some people still would not have listened. Hats off to you.
Kim N CAL, Glad your dinner with your Mom worked out. My Mom was a difficult woman as well, she has been gone now for eight years. Most of us are in our 50’s so most of our mothers were all from the same generation as well. Maybe that has something to do with it. I remember one of my grandmothers was very blunt and not one to show affection at all. My parents did not show affection either. But once my DD was born, (their first grandchild) things changed. My daughter would just climb up and kiss on them, hug em, tell them she loved them and slowly they started to respond.
Joyce IN, Congrats! Size 12 jeans and they are loose.

I guess I better get to work, after missing yesterday I have a ton of e-mails and missed phone messages.

Have a healthy and happy day,
Patty Cincinnati OH

:flowerforyou: Gloria, I looked to see if your diary was open to see if I could make any suggestions about changing the food in your 1200 calories…..sometimes what you eat makes a difference….I’m sorry you’re feeling so discouraged

Barbie from beautiful NW Washington

Thanks Barbie. My diary should not be open. I decided in the beginning that, while I have nothing to hide, it was for my use so I'm pretty sure I left it that way.

I am very aware of what you mentioned and spent months with my doctor making adjustments, even though I had tried pretty much everything before seeing my doctor a couple years back. Also, what I've been logging in the past few to several months is not what I've done for the past 4 years. My recent eating habits have been a little lax. I've been blaming the stress of my mother's illness and death. Regardless, I'm reigning myself in a bit more each week to get back to how I "normally" eat.

It's just a shame to work this hard and never have a crumb tossed in my direction.

With that said, off to T25:ohwell:

Hope everyone has a great day and success (whether it shows on the scale or not).

xo- Gloria in Metro Detroit

Have a great Thurs everyone.
Gonna spend the day with hubby on his day off.
HUGS
jane

Sandy - feel better fast. lol daughter! That's the way kids are. I had some jeans that I was going to get rid of. One time when we were in Paris I wore Jessica's jeans so I let her try them on first. Only one pair fit her!

Tigress - I fimsly believe that animals, cats or dogs, know when we don't feel good. They "act" a certain way around us...more gentle. Yet, when we're better, even if we don't know it, they do and they go right back to their old ways.

Mary - welcome and congrats on quitting smoking..even if that was the impetus. Yes for you doing those tapes.

barbie - that's so terrible about the gal you're subbing for! Great that that's one less thing they havae to worry about getting done as I know you'll do it. Good luck with tomorrow's class

Ronnie in PA - sounds like you DO have a busy week ahead of you.

Carol in NC - one time when Bryan was very young we went to FL to see MIL and FIL. They'd bought him this broken toy gun. We told him not to bring it home, but he put it into his duffle bag. Well, the airline (of course) confiscated it. For a broken toy guy (and it looked like a toy), they shipped it to us, only it went to Atlanta and then to PA (where we lived at the time). Then they had FedEx bring it to the house. All for a broken toy gun! I couldn't have cared less if they'd thrown it away.

katla - sure hope that fireplace company can help you

Kim - I'm so sorry your mom said something like that to you! I can't believe she didn't give you a heads up about her friend. And the lunch! Can you suggest a place to go to eat where you can also get something?

Joyce - one of our vehicles is a Saturn Outlook (I know that others make similar models). It has 3 seats, so 3 people can sit in the back, 2 in the middle (because of the door) and 2 in the front. You can fold down the second and third seats if you need to (which is what we usually do when we take the cats somewhere or need to transport a whole lot of things.). We do have a luggage rack on it, but honestly we've never used it. Just haven't had the need.

Did 50 minutes of the Biggest Loser Power Sculpt DVD today. Then I'm going to the soup kitchen to take a donation. See, Tuesday I went to play Rummikub. The gal who hosted it needs gluten free foods. Someone brought this dip that while gluten free also contains sour cream and she's lactose intolerant. I made this rice and chicken stir fry but instead of the rice I used quinoa. I'm going to give them the rest. Someone left the dip and since she can't eat it, she asked if I'd like it. While I really didn't, I took it and will donate it.

Tomorrow I'm planning to go to the deep water class. I'm going to try my new bathingsuit. Did I tell you that I ordered a new one like the one that the suitspinner ate? This way I can leave that one down at the condo and use the good one (which I wear more) up here. If we're down at the condo in the summertime, I many times do a water workout the day we leave. Of course, I don't have time to wash out the bathingsuit. But being chlorine resistantant, if I wear this one, even after a while it'll still hold its shape. I wore another one last time we were down there, I wonder if the cholrine ate it? So I'm going to try the new bathingsuit. I think it'll fit since it's the same style and size as my previous one, only a different color.

yanniejannie - how's your finger today?

After going to the soup kitchen today, I'm supposed to volunteer at the Green Room, then I'll probably go to Aldi and stop at PetSmart. Come home and make that cake. See, we're invited to a friend's house. They just moved and I know that the lady likes to entertain. Her hubby's birthday is Tuesday so I'll take a cake that I know he likes with me.

Viv - so sorry you didn't get the interview.

I think I'm STARTING to make some headway with Lance (remember, that's Jessica's cat that is diabetic? He doesn't like getting his insulin) Well, last night I went in there to sleep with them and he came up to me and let me hug him and brush him. This morning he went into the bathroom where the food and litter box are to eat. He saw me coming up with the syringe. I thought for sure he'd run away. He did hiss at me, but he let me give it to him. OK, after that he did run away. But he let me give it to him, which is a step. Albeit, a small step...but a step just the same.

Val - loved your advice to Kim about hugging herself. Wonderful! Yes, dd stands for darling daughter. Good job on the loss

Patty - congrats to your dd, you have a lot to be proud of. I don't think I've ever seen a 72oz cup. I do have a Bubba mug that is 54oz, but that's the largest I've ever seen

DeeDee - one of my problems with decorating the ouside of the house is that I don't know the different plants, what bloooms when, which are the kinds that bloom yearly without having to be replanted (are those annuals or perennials?). I know what I'd like, I just don't know what plants would do what I want. Good luck on your next interview

Gloria - I'm so impressed with your dedication to the T25

jane - have a great day

Beth - love your saying

Michele in NC

Good morning Lovely Ladies,

It is a beautiful day in Oklahoma. I think I need to step up my exercise. That half pound gained back is sticking. My Hubby eats the same thing I do and he has lost more weight than he wants to, but he works out harder.

Kim, your Mom reminds me a lot of my Mom. She wanted such control of me and said a lot of mean things to me. When Hubby and I married I think she was a bit jealous of my happiness. I was fortunate in that I loved my job, My Hubby, and was getting to travel a lot on vacations and business. I think we have to understand that hurting people hurt people, I have to remind myself of that often. It took a long to to learn that and forgive her. It took oceans of tears to get there. Hang in there and do give yourself a hug!

Dee, good luck with the landscape architect interviews.

I have read the posts and wish everyone well and a wonderful day.

Hugs,

Cindy in OK

Well, I am feeling better about life in general. Must be because the snow is gone and I can get some some now! I raked my yard last weekend and found a flowerbed with a siberian lily blooming! That cheered me up, seeing flowers coming out. I have come to terms with worrying about my mom and DS. They created their own problems so must work out their own solutions. No use in me going crazy worrying about them when I can't do anything for them. But I still worry, just not as 'in my face' as it was. My dogs have been adopted by the neighborhood kids, well one of them anyway. They come over and ask if Wicket can come out and play! LOL! That is my black and white crazy shi-tzu. The kids in TN loved to play with her too. This dog loves kids and water (not in any particular order). I have to keep her away from puddles as she will prance right through them and splash everyone on purpose with her head! She sticks her face in the water and shakes her head under the water. Weird dog! The adopted Chiauha (SP?) has settled in just fine and befriended Wicket. Well, she had no choice as crazy Wicket would not leave her alone. My oldest Shi-Tzu Chewbaca just ignores the other two. Walking them is always an adventure!

Well, back to work!

Rita from sunny CT

<---- Pic for Throwback Thursday, my band in 2001. Me in big, black, blousy things trying to cover everything up lol. Weight probably 225, currently160 :bigsmile:

You look great, but I'll bet you look even better now and feel better, too.

Good morning! It's a super fantastic morning here. Beautiful weather!!!!!! This morning I got around early and FINALLY made it to the Y. It felt so good! I can't imagine why I was finding excuses not to go. But I intended to swim and once I got there I discovered that I forgot my swim bag, so I did weights and cardio instead.

The big soccer experiment last night didn't go too well. Hubby took off work early and picked up the grandson, took him to the soccer field, he got his new T-Shirt (he's on the green team and Ian is adamant that he hates the color green-he wanted blue) and the coach gave them 10 minutes or so of instruction and then they were supposed to play soccer. Hubby said poor little Ian didn't understand why the other kids took the ball away from him, and that he was supposed to try to get the ball away from them, and none of them understood which goal they were supposed to kick it toward. Ian got frustrated because he didn't get to kick the ball, and threw a crying fit. He's really good at those. Anyway, one of hubby's co-workers was there with his own granddaughter, so hubby was a little embarrassed. They left early. He's not sure Ian will want to go back next week. Poor little guy thinks he's the center of the world and doesn't understand why the other kids don't see it. We have to work on teaching him cooperation and consideration for others. He just turned 5, so he is the picture of selfcentered. I thought that hubby did pretty well, considering that he has not been around kids very much, and never alone on an outing with one. These are actually his step-grandchildren, so I'm sure he never thought he would be in a situation like this.

I have enjoyed reading about all your dogs. Rita, Wicket sounds wonderful! Bonnie, I'm so sorry to hear about P.D. It's hard to lose a best friend. Tell us more about the puppy! My puppy Bruno seems to be growing up. I've noticed he's spending less time on my lap, which is good because he's over 30 pounds now. And he's chewing up less stuff. Now that I've said that I'll probably find evidence to the contrary when I get home. He will be a year old next month. It will be sort of sad that he's not a puppy anymore, but he's turning into a nice little dog.

Gotta get to work! I hope you all have a great day!

Sylvia

Hi everyone,
The meal was a blast!:bigsmile: The teenagers arrived all grumpy and stuck to their phones, then warmed up when they saw all the nibbles and dips! The spicy salmon surprised them, but my niece finished it in about 2 seconds! Then the chocolate fondue was a huge success. What a great way to get kids to eat fruit! Everything disappeared, but I have some Epoisses left to tempt me. I think DB was too full to make much of an attempt on it.
I calculated I had consumed 720 calories, including 2 glasses of pink sparkling wine. Not too bad as I was too full to eat a snack this afternoon. So something left for this evening.
It was very gratifying to see sullen teenagers melt and enjoy themselves.:drinker:

Now got to get my head around a trip to London tomorrow to see the delicious grandchildren. I will be taking up their Easter presents. For DGD a rattle and for DGS a set of tiny chocolate piglets. All are saddlebacks apart from one pink one. Delightful. I bought the set because it is the least chocolate for the most fun and you don't have to eat it all at once. Last year I gave him a non edible present, but now he is nearly 3 he is very clued up. His mum is very health conscious.

Spent the afternoon downloading some albums on to my tablet for the train. I am so relieved to have my phone working properly now, but wish I had bought one with more phone memory. It keeps telling me I'm running out of memory so I have to uninstall stuff or move it to internal storage. I was just too mean to get a more expensive one. The phone was free on a cheapish plan. Now I feel I would like an all singing all dancing one!:laugh:

Love to all. I couldn't sleep in the night so read my Kindle -" When Things Fall Apart". I find it very calming and reassuring and I did go back to sleep and slept well.

Bye for now. Remember - Self Compassion. We are all in this together.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Heather UK

Kim in NCal: I had an uncomfortable relationship with my mom for years and we made great progress in her last few months. Now I have an uncomfortable relationship with my daughter at times. It is definitely a work in progress.:ohwell: I understand her stress as a working mom, but don’t understand her choice of husbands. On the good side, he’s a loving and attentive daddy and loves my daughter and granddaughter to distraction. On the bad side, he’s a loose cannon and can’t seem to hold a job. :grumble:

Joyce: Congrats on the weight loss. (Perhaps this is a second congratulations message from me, but it is a thing to celebrate.:bigsmile: :bigsmile: )

Yanniejannie: Sorry about the horse bite. I hope the feeling has returned to your finger.:flowerforyou:

Amanda: I used to work long days and had a long commute on top of that. I have sympathy. At least I didn’t have to work 6 days a week. I don’t know how you manage without falling into total exhaustion or getting sick. Hugs.:flowerforyou:

Val in London UK: Thanks for the reminder that affirmations do help in combating negative self-talk.:flowerforyou:

Michele: It sounds like you’re making progress with Lance the kitty. Thanks for your good wishes regarding he fireplace.:flowerforyou:

JB: I love the new poem! :flowerforyou:

Cindy in OK: You have great insight that people who are hurting inside tend to hurt others.:flowerforyou:

Rita: Glad to hear you’re doing better. Spring is a wonderful season.:flowerforyou:

Heather: Congratulations on a great party with the teens. I understand your desire for a phone with more memory. When can you upgrade? Self compassion is such a timely and needed reminder. Thank you!:flowerforyou:


We have a gorgeous day today, and nothing pressing on the calendar. I hope to put some fun into it. I’ve been to yoga and still need breakfast. Have a great day, everyone!

Katla in overcast NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison


April Goals:

1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Move more: cardio at least 3 days a week and strength training when able.
3. Find a way to have fun at least once every day.
4. Water: Pay attention to water intake and drink frequently during the day.

Just popping in for a second...

Bonnie - I grew up in Marion, NC, also close to Asheville. In fact, was up there last weekend while you were at the coast.

Amanda (?) - You make me feel whiny when I complain about my 10 hour workdays. But, I can certainly empathize with the fatigue and the, how shall I say it, feeling that all the joy is sucked out of your life because you have no life because of work.

Be back later...

Carol in NC

Thanks all for the thoughts, hugs and caring... I have done years of counseling so have limits around her nonsense. And vent it off and move on... But I do know that she is 85 and when she's gone I do not want to look back and feel like I did not give it my best - so it is all a balancing act.


Levi and I went to a nice park and took an hour walk on a trail along one side of a creek and across a bridge and back the other side, it was really nice, we'll do that again. We saw a bunch of other dogs - Not Levi's favorite thing he either wants off the leash to play or off the lease to show the other dog who is boss.... we have been working really hard and good behavior and it is beginning to pay off the pulling and barking are less and the growling is all gone.

I enjoyed all the posts but got so busy reading I forgot to take notes.... but a few things I remember! A belt- what a fun concept – not something I have bought in a very very long time! Enjoy!!! Loved the thursday poem for all having a trying time getting the scale to move, maybe the tape measure is a better judge at certain times... Someone has a new puppy, enjoy! Levi is a little over 2 years and about 60lbs and he still climbs in my lap!

Well off to work!

smiles Kim in N. Cal (sunny and mid 70s)

Happy Thursday! Hope you all are getting some of this beautiful Spring weather. Yesterday it got up to 82 and today is to get to almost 70. Yesterday DH and I took his motorcycle over to Kearney and had new tire put on and all tuned up so it is ready for riding. Then last evening we went riding and it was nice. I got a new helmt and they fitted it for me and I ended up with a size small. That was a surprised. I find it interesting how much my feet and head have changed in size.
I brought myself a new bra yesterday and I got another size smaller. :happy:
Barbie--Sorry to hear about Jakes fall. Hope he is feeling better.
Gloria--Hugs.:flowerforyou:
Heather--you are such a caring person and I so enjoy reading about your meals. Glad everyone had fun and the teens enjoied the food.
Kim--Hugs Glad that all went well for the most part with your mom.
Tigress--I agree. When DH and I got married we told our kids the only steps in this house are the ones to the door. We treat all the grand babies the same. Now that the kids are adutls we can not make them get together but we plan family things much as we can and who ever shows up.
Well I am going to make it one of my goals for this month to read and keep up atleast everyother day if not everydayl I do so much better when I stay connected. Well have a great rest of the day. Know Spring is on the way. As warm as it got here yesterday I was concerned we would go right to summer and the heat. Today is 60's I love it.
Blessed! Vicki GI NE