Being hit on/flirted with?

This does happen but not in abundance like you're making it out to be. Not trying to make things worst for you but honestly, I found that most of that type of flirting is cause and effect on here. People rarely come out of nowhere asking for this. Usually it's because they were led to believe that was not on their "off limit" list. I mean don't get me wrong, there are definitely a few here and there that ask and they were never given the impression that it was ok. But, it's not common everyday thing to go from stranger to asking for nudes right off the bat. Usually some heavy flirting and lack of boundaries occurs prior to that. I'm married and I make that obvious to everyone, it's on my "about me" section and I don't pm hardly at all, and I've had only the occasional creeps very rare. In fact, I don't even think I've ever been asked to kik and/or send nudes. Idk maybe all that means is I'm a troll and no one would want to see all that anyways.

I don't really consider myself attractive - I'm not overtly sexual on here, and my profile states that I'm happily married. I've gotten four awkward/sexual messages and I've only been active here for 30 days. One went so far as to ask how tight my vagina was?

I dunno, maybe I put out a vibe or something I'm unaware of because I always get gross messages on twitter, too.

Back to the original topic: I'm a super awkward, nerdy, flirty, friendly person IRL. I can't remember the last time someone actually hit on me.

If you hate it the solution is easy. Take down your pic.

I have lots of posts and lots of FL friends and I dont' get flirted with hardly.

It's not really a problem for me b/c I change avatars enough people know none of them are me.

IRL I dont get flirted with that much anymore b/c all the places I frequent are flirt free zones. On the off chance I go pick up take out or something sometimes a man will flirt but I don't feel bad about it, it's short lived and they have no way of knowing right away that I'm not available so it's not like they are being a jerk about it. It's still always flattering b/c nobody does it in a harsh way just friendly obvious checking out and chit chat so no worries. It's not like they are expecting to throw down in the Coldstone parking lot just b/c we both happen to be there.

But, yeah if you "hate it" my advice is take down your pic and put whatever motivates you or makes YOU feel happy when you see it.

Sorry going through the whole thread I missed last night. I'm not going to take down my picture just because people can't handle themselves in a respectful manner.

Good for you. Leave it up. As a side not if it makes you feel better, based on the picture you have up now I would neither flirt with or hit on you. :drinker:

That's a lie lol

I have very high self esteem and confidence, I still don't get hit on/flirted.

Then SMILE more bro! XD The bigger the grin the better the gal!

If you hate it the solution is easy. Take down your pic.

I have lots of posts and lots of FL friends and I dont' get flirted with hardly.

It's not really a problem for me b/c I change avatars enough people know none of them are me.

IRL I dont get flirted with that much anymore b/c all the places I frequent are flirt free zones. On the off chance I go pick up take out or something sometimes a man will flirt but I don't feel bad about it, it's short lived and they have no way of knowing right away that I'm not available so it's not like they are being a jerk about it. It's still always flattering b/c nobody does it in a harsh way just friendly obvious checking out and chit chat so no worries. It's not like they are expecting to throw down in the Coldstone parking lot just b/c we both happen to be there.

But, yeah if you "hate it" my advice is take down your pic and put whatever motivates you or makes YOU feel happy when you see it.

Sorry going through the whole thread I missed last night. I'm not going to take down my picture just because people can't handle themselves in a respectful manner.

And I don't think you should. Taking down your pic is just silly. I can obviously see why guys would be flirting with you, but still some of my brethren need to stop acting like children.

I never know how to respond because I'm never really quite sure that they're actually flirting or just being a good human being. :ohwell:

LMAO @ Cousin_Eddie

I'm very rarely flirted with and when/if I am I can't tell.
It might be nice though as I have no self confidence whatsoever.

lolz Cousin_Eddie got some problems. I would've had a roommate trying their best to remove my boot from their azz, and been lookin for a new girl.

I've had my fair share of inappropriate messages on MFP - but that's sort of what goes along with being a girl and being active on a social networking site. When you're behind a computer screen, it makes you brave - it's easy to send a creepy message or encourage someone to dump their boyfriend/girlfriend for a chance at "true happiness." So my perspective is - Either take it as it is, change your picture and see if that helps, or leave MFP where the same *kitten* is bound to happen.

While you have no control over the way some other person treats you, you do have control over how you choose to respond to it. If your choice is: "Well, this is so immature. I shouldn't have to change my picture, because a bunch of horny a**holes can't control themselves," and then choose not to change your photo because of that mindset... well then, dear, you also shouldn't complain about it when the same shi*t continues to happen, right? As that was your choice to not make any changes.

Just throwing in my two cents.

Carry on.

I'm very rarely flirted with and when/if I am I can't tell.
It might be nice though as I have no self confidence whatsoever.

Hi There!

I('m not a cougar but the only guys without tact are the 20-30 somethings.. this 33 y.o. guy , who works in my building, asked me to go to a strip club with him after work Friday...I doubt I'd ever go anywhere with him. . Besides.. I'm a chick magnet

oh my

I'm a bartender so it can get OBNOXIOUS. I actually have gained weight over the years on purpose, consciously or unconsciously so I don't have to deal with it. I actually prefer being fat at work. I like being healthy and normal in the regular world but when I'm bartending, life is a lot easier when you're not constantly sexually harassed.

gotta admit you are attractive

I'm a bartender so it can get OBNOXIOUS. I actually have gained weight over the years on purpose, consciously or unconsciously so I don't have to deal with it. I actually prefer being fat at work. I like being healthy and normal in the regular world but when I'm bartending, life is a lot easier when you're not constantly sexually harassed.

gotta admit you are attractive

Thanks. I usually wear clothes at work (dress modestly). This is just my first 2 piece pic in two years so that's the only reason I am flaunting it this week. I don't have too many problems with MFP'ers. This is a great community.