Fit For Future Families - January 2011

Jenny, Well now I feel like a dolt. I, unlike everyone else, saw it but got caught up in a bunch of other stuff at the time (at work) and forgot to come back and say something. When I logged in from home, I just started from the ones I hadn't read. I'm so sorry, no excuses - I remember what it was like to get that call from the clinic. I'm glad you're getting support from somewhere, even if we're a little insensitive. I hope you rethink your decision to leave the thread - you will be missed.

I think the nature of TTC makes us all pretty self-centered. It's hard to focus on what's going on with everyone else when you're all wrapped up in your own little world. I'm sure a lot of us feel ignored (I know I do) and I'm 100% sure that not one of us means to do it.
We're here for you, even if we don't type it out in a message. I know I read all of the messages and I think, "Oh wow, that's great!" or "Oh man, that sucks" but I often don't actually say that. So I'm very sorry for not voicing my comments.


So giant hugs to everyone who isn't feeling support right now. :flowerforyou:

Yes, I'm 11 dpoish (I'm half-heartedly temping and got a temp rise two days after my +opk, though without my faux temps, FF calls me 12 dpo). AF should be here Sunday or Monday. I'll probably wait until Tuesday to test. My temp was still high this morning, but I'm sick so that might be why.

Alisa, that temp spike looks good for O! I think I shared an article on here, but if not, they do say that while temping can show the shift, it's not always accurate within a specific time frame. You could have Od after your +opk and your temps might just now be reflecting it, or it could be spot on. There was a lag of Oing up to 6 days before the shift or 3 days after (as tested by blood work and sonograms.) I imagine as long as you finally see that shift and your temps stay up, then you can feel good that you did indeed O.

Yes, Kcurtis, did you ever get your tenant to pay up??

Oh, Jenny, Heather and everyone else I am SO sorry! I think Erica did say it best and I am completely guilty of being self-centered! I am very sorry that you had the feeling of being ignored. I too am one that checks in at work and doesn't have, or take the time I should, to really read through the posts and share everyone's news. So.. my new goal.... go back to taking notes while catching up on everyone's posts so I can comment on everyone! I too am very sorry it has taken someone leaving for me to realize what I haven't been doing. I hope you all the best and support you in every way! BIG HUGS!

Hi ladies,

I haven't used this site for a long time but am stuck on a plateau and thought I would give this a try again. I am hoping to start to TTC around April and this group seemed like the perfect fit for me!

Jenny sorry about not posting but I went back and read it because I thought to myself, what did I miss. When I read it again I was like that was awesome. I know sometimes when there are a lot of postings going on, I just skim through and usually miss something. Sorry about all of that but I know that has to be exciting getting that letter!

AFM: I tested this morning and it was a BFN. Somehow this month, I was not as disappointed as I have been in the past. I think it is because I figured that there was no chance because there was no medical intervention. I am still having cramps and my temp is still somewhat elevated. If I am not pregnant, I think that I might jump for joy if AF shows up. AF has only showed up 1 time in my life without medicine and that was my very first at 14. When she never showed up again, my mom had me put of BC. So when I was on BC, she came and when I wasn't she was on an extended vacation. For the past 2 years, she has shown up with the help of Clomid and Provera.

Date night last night was fun except for the movie. We saw The Dilemma and it was really bad. I did okay with the calories because we ate a light dinner and so I hardly wanted any popcorn. Today, DH is on day 5 of some kind of stomach issue. Yesterday he was feeling a little better but then he ate somethings he propbably shouldn't. Today he is working from home and I won't let him eat anything but toast, yogurt and bananas. Good news for him is that he has lost like 5lbs.

KT- boo! That sucks! But at least your Dr is aware and ready to take the next step!

So today has been boo! Forgot to eat breakfast, so I grabbed Starbucks, then realized when I got to work that I left my leftovers that I had planned on eating for lunch in the fridge! I'm starving and getting ready to venture out to find food!

Welcome teacher!

Hey guys, I feel like I'm intruding here. Is this a group I can join? Or is it too late?

I've been married since October (pretty newly-wed) but we have officially been not preventing pregnancy for only a month now. I'm just wondering if there's anyone in my boat.

HMKAN! absolutely you can join! Welcome! As Erica said, we are a very diverse group of women at various stages of ttc!

So, I ended up choosing something close, fast and terribly unhealthy! There is a little shack about a quarter mile from my office so I decided to try it...I had the most delicious hotdog I have EVER had...mustard, relish, chili, cheese and onions...OMG, it was like melt in your mouth yummy.. the combo I got came with two hotdogs and fries for $4.50....I ate both hotdogs and half the fries...I need a nap...

Welcome teacherkd9 and HMKan!!!!

Kt – I’m sorry it didn’t work out this month for you.

Alisa – I did that other day. I slept through the alarm and run out of the house without breakfast, lunch or snacks. I ended up at Dunkin Donuts for breakfast and Quizzno’s for lunch.

We were supposed to go to dinner at my cousins tonight but we rescheduled because of the weather. I’m still at work and DH called to tell me he’s picking up Chinese and of course I said yes…there goes my healthy day. :ohwell:

My jaw is quite a bit better, Pam, thank you for asking. The cold has now moved entirely into my head instead. :grumble:

I'm sorry the nasty after taste is back. I hope it goes away quickly!

Good morning ladies. Erica I think you hit the nail right on the head...weight loss and ttc are very self centered affairs in our lives and we do tend to want to talk about our own issues while not necessarily taking the extra step to comment on others comments/questions/situations at the time. I guess sometimes it is easier and sometimes it is harder to do...some days I just feel like I'm totally alone in this journey when everyone around me is either beautifully at their goal weight, or happily not with a baby inside of them. Tends to make a girl need some support...even if it is from people she's never met on the internet (my DH calls me "netnerd" when he sees me on Facebook or MFP. lol!). I'm sorry to see Jenny go...especially when we all have good intentions....

ron-sorry you aren't feeling good...drink lots and lots of water and take it easy. keeping my fingers crossed for you!

erica-glad you are feeling better. nothing like being sick when it is already miserable with frigid temps and snow all around us!

pam- you are more than welcome to look at my log for ideas. I do that with others sometimes too. (just don't look at yesterdays cause it was my "free meal" and I don't think ben and jerry's is low glycemic at all! lol!) and cinnamon bark in your mouth sounds awful! gotta love the side effects from meds that are supposed to be making our lives better!

kt- I always say it isn't over until the fat lady sings (AF shows her ugly face!). in december when I m/c for the 2nd time I was having a hard time with a blatant positive test (one would be pos then next neg) and my mother reminded me that she didn't test pos with me at all (even blood tests) until she was 4 months pregnant...stranger things have happened. But sorry things are unknown right now, that is always the worst part for me. I just want to know! So...I shouldn't even waste my time with "The Dilemma"? It looked like a really good movie! That stinks.

alisa- I always hate when you take the extra time to be prepared and something happens and you find yourself starving and totally unprepared in a world of delicious food! I try and always have a plan B (like an apple, almonds, cheese stick) but sometimes even plan B fails. Oh and my husband flies Apache helicopters. He is an instructor pilot actually. That is why he is gone all the time at courses. They always have to be the first to be up on new info. He thinks he is invincible when he flies though and has done very dangerous things while he was deployed last time that should have in all rights killed him...that is why is scares me for him to go back. But it usually are the guys that ride on the outside of their helicopters to save another soldiers life that live until they are 100! lol! (or at least I hope that's the case). And when you said goose I immediately thought of ER. We are big ER fans (the early years) and would still call his character "goose" in that show! lol. But yeah I would see how you'd hate to use that comparison. Well I'm a military wife who totally understands it all...so if you ever need an ear on that note, I'm here! Btw....any news on you with testing? I'd be going nuts if I were you right now! What CD are you on anyways?!?!

Welcome newbies! Looking forward to hearing all about you!

Well the scale didn't move an inch again this week. I did try on my "skinny jeans" and they fit good (which was not the case 3 weeks ago for sure). So I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing and maybe it will catch up on the scale. I'm resting tomorrow and going to do strength training with my friend and then my husband and I are going up to the gym to do an hour of cardio. I'd rather be doing something outside...but with all the snow (and we are going to be getting more tomorrow) and the frigid temps, I just want to hibernate the rest of the winter and have someone wake me come Spring!
So I'm officially in the 2ww. CD18 for me. DH and I talked last night and he is excited for the possibility of it happening this month. I told him I'd be bummed if it doesn't happen but we'd resume our plan to do Clomid next month. I also made him and my closest friend promise to not allow me to test until Feb 4th. The last thing I need is to go crazy pants again like December...peeing on every stick in a 50 mile radius! lol!

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

What a shame that heather has left, but I totally agree that you can be quite self-centred when concentrating on your own journey.

Jenny left...I'm right here!

Congrats, Aunt Charliewigan! I have never heard of Agnus Catus. Do you know what's in it?

Hooray for skinny jeans, Heather! More muscles and less fat may not make the scale move, but it sure can make you feel better about yourself.

Ron, AFM means "as for me." That one took me awhile to figure out. I hope you feel better. If it is a prego symptom, you should test positive. However, I get nauseated every two week wait. Progesterone is a horrible, nasty hormone.

Kcurtis, I'm so glad your renter finally paid! I'm really sorry that AF showed, though.

My cousin's wife had her baby last night. One pregnant cousin down, two to go. Yesterday also happened to be our one-year anniversary of starting this adventure. Just waiting to test... or for AF to show. I don't feel my typical PMS symptoms. Yesterday, I got all my typical pre-migraine symptoms: nausea, dizziness, tingly boobs but no headache... but maybe that's because I downed a Dr. Pepper. I am super congested today, but I can finally close my mouth completely without screaming, so that's progress. Probably won't be working out for a few days though, judging by the fact that my husband who got this stuff on Monday still sounds and looks awful.

Yes, Vitex works well unless you have regular periods or PCOS. I hope it works for you.

I'm due Monday. I probably won't test until Tuesday unless I can convince my husband not to be pissed if I test early. He thinks it's wasteful and/or it jinxes the pregnancy. And we've been disappointed before. I had one cycle that went three days past my usual luteal phase and the morning I was going to test AF showed. I hate seeing only one line, so I'm on board with waiting until I'm late.